Hi guys.am having an issue and I will like some
insight.
I can't seem to trust my bf.we've been dating for 4
years now and I still have to double check everything
he tells me.
About 2 years ago,he confessed to being seduced by
his friend's gf at a bar and he responded though
nothing happened cos they were both at the bar buh
from the way he sounded if they had a
room,something definitely would have happened
Since then,he's been completely honest and open.i
have all his social media passwords,his phone
password and the whole nine and I check him every
chance I get and always feel guilty when I find
nothing. I don't know if he's being careful or am
being paranoid.
I want to be able to trust him again but I just can't.
It's gotten to the point where I dial unknown contacts
on his phone just to see if it's a girl but it's always a
guy.
He hasn't given me any reason to suspect him since
that incident but I still do.
How do I get back the trust I used to have for him.i
mean before his phone would ring a million times
and I wouldn't even bother because even if it's a girl,I
know nothing is going on but now even if it's a
network message,I rush to get the phone first.
It's ruining my rshp and I want to trust him again.pls
fellas and chicks,help a friend here...

Goodmorning@Op

You are just killing urself, if i were the guy, i will always do my dirty job without giving u a clue to suspect me. So chill why make the said guy do wat he wouldnt ordinarily think of

Jeez stop trying to fix what's not broken. Stop being so paranoid

MissYuzedo:
Hi guys.am having an issue and I will like some
insight.
I can't seem to trust my bf.we've been dating for 4
years now and I still have to double check everything
he tells me.
About 2 years ago,he confessed to being seduced by
his friend's gf at a bar and he responded though
nothing happened cos they were both at the bar buh
from the way he sounded if they had a
room,something definitely would have happened
Since then,he's been completely honest and open.i
have all his social media passwords,his phone
password and the whole nine and I check him every
chance I get and always feel guilty when I find
nothing. I don't know if he's being careful or am
being paranoid.
I want to be able to trust him again but I just can't.
It's gotten to the point where I dial unknown contacts
on his phone just to see if it's a girl but it's always a
guy.
He hasn't given me any reason to suspect him since
that incident but I still do.
How do I get back the trust I used to have for him.i
mean before his phone would ring a million times
and I wouldn't even bother because even if it's a girl,I
know nothing is going on but now even if it's a
network message,I rush to get the phone first.
It's ruining my rshp and I want to trust him again.pls
fellas and chicks,help a friend here...

I really can relate with your situation. You are lucky he confessed and has proven himself trustwortHy and truthful for quite a while. Cut him some slack. But once you catch him in the act again, just end the relationshii.

I think you should chill, its not as bad as you think Bitch!

braine:



I really can relate with your situation. You are lucky he confessed and has proven himself trustwortHy and truthful for quite a while. Cut him some slack. But once you catch him in the act again, just end the relationshii.

I pray nothing will jeopardize this relationship of four years. It will be hard to just end it because of a fling that will probably mean nothing. Moreover I think the Op is insecure.

It will be very bad to have HBP at this Ūя̲̅ age!

MissYuzedo:
Hi guys.am having an issue and I will like some
insight.
I can't seem to trust my bf.we've been dating for 4
years now and I still have to double check everything
he tells me.
About 2 years ago,he confessed to being seduced by
his friend's gf at a bar and he responded though
nothing happened cos they were both at the bar buh
from the way he sounded if they had a
room,something definitely would have happened
Since then,he's been completely honest and open.i
have all his social media passwords,his phone
password and the whole nine and I check him every
chance I get and always feel guilty when I find
nothing. I don't know if he's being careful or am
being paranoid.
I want to be able to trust him again but I just can't.
It's gotten to the point where I dial unknown contacts
on his phone just to see if it's a girl but it's always a
guy.
He hasn't given me any reason to suspect him since
that incident but I still do.
How do I get back the trust I used to have for him.i
mean before his phone would ring a million times
and I wouldn't even bother because even if it's a girl,I
know nothing is going on but now even if it's a
network message,I rush to get the phone first.
It's ruining my rshp and I want to trust him again.pls
fellas and chicks,help a friend here...

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Terry G the guy some space pls.

Some girls are so naive. Why troubled yourself with an unfruitful surveillance. Do you know what will happen if he find out, that all this while you don't trust him? I hate it when someone I call my friend still don't trust me

And see how they are seriously advising the OP. So you all believe the story? Even Andyblaze...

deuce7:

I pray nothing will jeopardize this relationship of four years. It will be hard to just end it because of a fling that will probably mean nothing. Moreover I think the Op is insecure.

True tho.. The guy should jes be patient. Besides, starting another relationship would be hectic and you know what they say about the devil you know.

I just can't believe a man can give a woman so much power over him. Imagine giving out all his passwords, including that to his phone or may be bank accounts! Them never born the woman wey go try that kind rubbish with me. It is women like the op that will easily cheat on their partners without looking back because they have them all wrapped around their fingers. God forbid.

4 years is a preety long time to be in a relatioship with someone and not to have an iota of trust in him.I understand ur fears but thr truth is there is no heterosexual male out there that will not be tempted to step out on his lady but the thought of hurting the one for whom our hearts beat keeps us on our leash. There is nothing he probably wants more than for u to trust him implicitly and thats why he gave u those pass words.You just have to let go and believe what ever he tells u since u havent seen any sign that he is stepping out on u.Truth be told no man is perfect but the last thin a man in love wants is to hurt the object of his affection.4 years is not 4 months ; dont lose the beautiful thing u guys got going on because of hidden skeletons that dont exist.Let go and let love lead the way. Peace