We need more happily married men in the family section. I am calling out married men in happy marriages specifically because the mix in this section seem to have a lot of every other group and very little of them. We have teenage boys and girls, we have single men and women and happily married women but seem to have very little happily married men.

What do you think?

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And am one of the happily married men on this section.........any problem?

datbay:
And am one of the happily married men on this section.........any problem?

The family section needs the happily married men to comment more and maybe teach the younger men.

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datbay:
And am one of the happily married men on this section.........any problem?

Sir, as the head of a happy home we need your advice and mentoring for younger men so we can all learn what it takes to build a happy home from a mans perspective. What you do to keep joy and peace at home, how to manage conflicts etc

2goodbobo:
I must confess that i am enjoying my marriage and i pray that God will keep us and help us to grow stronger.

Family section needs you too. Thank you

babygirlfl:
We need more happily married men in the family section. I am calling out married men in happy marriages specifically because the mix in this section seem to have a lot of every other group and very little of them. We have teenage boys and girls, we have single men and women and happily married women but seem to have very little happily married men.

What do you think?

I must commend you on your thoughtfulness in bringing up such topic on family section. Indeed, a lot of single men and women do not know what it takes to build and maintain peace in a home. Quite a lot of them think marriage is a 'zoom-in-and-zoom-out' thing.

I have been on marital bliss for a reasonable ammount of time and years and its been wonderful for me and my only baby (wifey). With her always wrapping me up, its LG (Life's Good)....lol

@OP:

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RollingFella:


I must commend you on your thoughtfulness in bringing up such topic on family section. Indeed, a lot of single men and women do not know what it takes to build and maintain peace in a home. Quite a lot of them think marriage is a 'zoom-in-and-zoom-out' thing.

I have been on marital bliss for a reasonable ammount of time and years and its been wonderful for me and my only baby (wifey). With her always wrapping me up, its LG (Life's Good)....lol

Thanks. We need your comments on threads. God bless your home.

Amen somebody

cococandy:
Amen somebody

Amen!!!

babygirlfl:


The family section needs the happily married men to comment more and maybe teach the younger men.

That's alright,but hope you know marriage is an institution where one does not graduate,meaning we learn more on a daily basis.But am ready to offer from my little knowledge though.

aisha2:


Sir, as the head of a happy home we need your advice and mentoring for younger men so we can all learn what it takes to build a happy home from a mans perspective. What you do to keep joy and peace at home, how to manage conflicts etc

OK......noted

I am happily married, its being just 2 years plus.

babygirlfl:
We need more happily married men in the family section. I am calling out married men in happy marriages specifically because the mix in this section seem to have a lot of every other group and very little of them. We have teenage boys and girls, we have single men and women and happily married women but seem to have very little happily married men.
What do you think?

Nice one, @op. Loving this thread

Hopefully their contributions should help level the horror stories we have on here, and will dispel the myths about good marriages entailing "suffering".

RollingFella:

I must commend you on your thoughtfulness in bringing up such topic on family section. Indeed, a lot of single men and women do not know what it takes to build and maintain peace in a home. Quite a lot of them think marriage is a 'zoom-in-and-zoom-out' thing.
I have been on marital bliss for a reasonable ammount of time and years and its been wonderful for me and my only baby (wifey). With her always wrapping me up, its LG (Life's Good)....lol

Please can you help with these questions :

1. How is communication in your home? Do you all talk about issues and an agree or do you say what you want and madam has no option but to obey?

2. How do you handle finances? Do you work together or is it one persons sole responsibility?

3. As the head of the home how are conflicts handled? Do you address them as they come or do you ignore her and hope she comes to her senses?

4. As head of home how do you keep the romance fresh? Date nights? Surprise gifts or did all that end after the wedding lol.

5. Whats your policy on extended family? Do they come first or does the immediate family come first?

Yes o!
Im a man and can testify that marriage has been good to me.
Any question,feel free to ask and i try my best to answer honestly.
Thank u.
(Have been happily married 10yrs now)

1. How is communication in your home? Do you all talk about issues and an agree or do you say what you want and madam has no option but to obey?

I'm not much of a talker. My Lady is tho'. But we talk about everything from the colour of our outfits (we colour coordinate everyday) to her issues with my dad. For decisions, we discuss and try to reach a mutually acceptable outcome. Sometimes someone has to give in for the other but hey, who cares. On my part, I follow Ice T's policy of "happy wife, happy life"

2. How do you handle finances? Do you work together or is it one persons sole responsibility?
We run a business together. I pay our salary jointly into my account. We have a joint account we use for savings and major expences like the new car etc. But she has the PIN of my debit card. My Lady knows all she needs to do is point and I get whatever it is for her but I may try to talk her out of some expenditures every now and then. Basically, we discuss before every expenditure or al most immediately after.

3. As the head of the home how are conflicts handled? Do you address them as they come or do you ignore her and hope she comes to her senses?
How are conflicts handled? With lots of common sense! Ephesians 4:6 tells us not to let the sun go down on our anger so we try to settle as quickly as possible. That's not to say I don't lead my home. But I don't need to act loke a drill sergent to know I'm leading my home. I like asking for her opinion on things. We see issues very very differently so her advice gives me alternate insights

4. As head of home how do you keep the romance fresh? Date nights? Surprise gifts or did all that end after the wedding lol.
Wednesday is date night. Not easy to surprise when we do all expenditures together tho but we try.

5. Whats your policy on extended family? Do they come first or does the immediate family come first?
My wife first. My daughter next. Anyone else in order of urgency. Tho we do give preference to our parents and siblings

(sigh)

Bless you LewsTherin. Why can't there be more of your type, eh?

moca:
Yes o!
Im a man and can testify that marriage has been good to me.
Any question,feel free to ask and i try my best to answer honestly.
Thank u.
(Have been happily married 10yrs now)

EfemenaXY:
(sigh)

Bless you LewsTherin. Why can't there be more of your type, eh?

It's actually quite easy Efe. I consider myself to be a very lazy person. But like Bill Gates once said, when he needs a job done urgently, he looks for a lazy person to do it because a lazy person will always look for the easiest way to do anything. I am that kind of lazy person. Acting like a "man" is so much hard work. I can't stress myself to be a "man". So I choose to be a lover, a husband, a nice guy. So much easier.

i asked this question on a thread and i was directed here.... hopefully, i will get answers.... from the happily married men..

Godmystrength:
i asked this question on a thread and i was directed here.... hopefully, i will get answers.... from the men....

what should a woman do if she doesn't want another child just yet and hubby is insistent on it even after so many discussions....don't you think she will need to do what she needs to do?

And what does she need to do?

LewsTherin:


It's actually quite easy Efe. I consider myself to be a very lazy person. Bit like Bill Gates once said, when he needs a job done urgently, he looks for a lazy person to do it because a lazy person will always look for the easiest way to do anything. I am that kind of lazy person. Acting loke a "man" is so much hard work. I can't stress myself to be a "man". So I choose to be a lover, a husband, a nice guy. So much easier.

You say so much easier. I'll say so much better.

Your wife is indeed a lucky lady - and your daughter too.

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LewsTherin:
1. How is communication in your home? Do you all talk about issues and an agree or do you say what you want and madam has no option but to obey?

I'm not much of a talker. My Lady is tho'. But we talk about everything from the colour of our outfits (we colour coordinate everyday) to her issues with my dad. For decisions, we discuss and try to reach a mutually acceptable outcome. Sometimes someone has to give in for the other but hey, who cares. On my part, I follow Ice T's policy of "happy wife, happy life"

2. How do you handle finances? Do you work together or is it one persons sole responsibility?
We run a business together. I pay our salary jointly into my account. We have a joint account we use for savings and major expences like the new car etc. But she has the PIN of my debit card. My Lady knows all she needs to do is point and I get whatever it is for her but I may try to talk her out of some expenditures every now and then. Basically, we discuss before every expenditure or al most immediately after.

3. As the head of the home how are conflicts handled? Do you address them as they come or do you ignore her and hope she comes to her senses?
How are conflicts handled? With lots of common sense! Ephesians 4:6 tells us not to let the sun go down on our anger so we try to settle as quickly as possible. That's not to say I don't lead my home. But I don't need to act loke a drill sergent to know I'm leading my home. I like asking for her opinion on things. We see issues very very differently so her advice gives me alternate insights

4. As head of home how do you keep the romance fresh? Date nights? Surprise gifts or did all that end after the wedding lol.
Wednesday is date night. Not easy to surprise when we do all expenditures together tho but we try.

5. Whats your policy on extended family? Do they come first or does the immediate family come first?
My wife first. My daughter next. Anyone else in order of urgency. Tho we do give preference to our parents and siblings

Wow beautiful and off course your home will be blissful and happy, bless you smart man.
I know some young man is reading this and hugely benefiting. These are men to emulate not those who have created hell in their homes and cant go back instead stay in beer parlors shouting

aisha2:


Wow beautiful and off course your home will be blissful and happy, bless you smart man.
I know some young man is reading this and hugely benefiting. These are men to emulate not those who have created hell in their homes and cant go back instead stay in beer parlors shouting

Lol!

They do? Shouting over what na?

God knows I'm really enjoying my marriage. It was a bit rusty at the beginning, but now the rough edges are no more.

God, I receive more wisdom and humility today.