Writing a letter is cool, sought of escapist though but what I don't get from the op is his resistance to other peoples thoughts/comments on this forum no matter how ridiculous they sound. Its like you wrote the letter expecting an award or something. If you made up your mind before posting your letter, why post? People criticize always, its an open online forum ... and it seriously adds to the fun. I came online to read their comments, not your boring lectures and monologues.
No matter how you plan, be open to change because life serves your words back to you on a different plate...and I want to ask, if someone is at this moment shining your future wife's congo repeatedly as some have said, which is a possibility anyway, will it make you love her less if you knew? She wont tell you anyway when you finally meet so good luck with you dreams.
ans more seriously, if you really want to get the girl of your dreams, stop writing this kind of letters, it scares people away,implies that you may be controlling, very planned and not spontaneous...

edozie04:
Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo

we are always the products of our thoughts, think positive and always expect positive things to happen you.

OnyeEgo1:


brodally me and God don join hand bless you for this one abeg, d guy need this kind words

anyway, that's none of my business because I am on my way to Mozambique

mencade5:
jesus jesus jesus jesus!

Haaaaaaaaa........ohhhhh Lawd!


I don die!.....guy u don talk am finish. Girls wicked no be small....they might even be given their man bilown job at the same time typing and hailing op.

I dey fear ooooooooooooo

mencade, the super-romance comedian

Opytim:


we are always the products of our thoughts, think positive and always expect positive things to happen you.

His statement isn't negative, not in the least. Except she's some stiff, that's what should be happening.

Its also called "She's NORMAL".

[quote author=edozie04 post=27990267]Dy dere dy write letter while another guy is shining her congo

DailyNews:
mencade, the super-romance comedian

dailynews my brother....i will never forget you. Hahahaha....hw far na bro? Happy sunday oooo

avuekwe:


That is not the subject matter on hand. The OP represents the 'few good men' who are an endangered specie. We must protect them from men who think like you so they don't go into extinction.

this got me rolling on d floor but u know what The op is probably, broke or unemployed and as soon as he finds his balance financially, believe me, he won't write this daydreaming letter to his presumed future concubine, so don't rejoice yet

MORNDEW:

are you not the lover to confessions14 ?

Lover ko,lover ni,we are just friends with mutual benefits

Some people are just plain stupid, annoying and pathetic

So, because your girlfriend goes around town, giving bredrins head and allowing every Efe, Kamar and Dozie 'shine her congo', all ladies are sexually promiscuous?

Katikati

don't be a learner e dey happen oo

Toks2008:


When guys say stuffs like "im not looking for a virgin" what they are actually saying is "i don't have any hope of finding a virgin"

Most of us have given up the hope of finding a virgin so lets manage the use and dump we see. Afterall someone else will marry your own use and dump.

I will advice men to just start praying to see a fairly used lady because many ladies have been terribly used.

Abi ooo,my girl,I did not meet her a virgin but we still rocking together

mencade5:
dailynews my brother....i will never forget you. Hahahaha....hw far na bro? Happy sunday oooo

lol, I dey o the honorable mencade, just lying down on my bambo bed @my hut enjoying the comments

Mancity26:

Naija girlz wey believ in cat killin more dan any oda tin? Abegi...dem dey luk 4 pesin wey go brush dia monika well.. Personal opinion though!

lols

kayustones:

True talk. I just wonder if there r still good girls worth marrying out there.

There are but probably not virgins,my opinion though

mencade5:
hahahahahhah.....i don die!

My neighbours here in australia heard me laugh hard

Lol,abeg nvr die oo,ur wife still dy wait 4 u

Opytim:


we are always the products of our thoughts, think positive and always expect positive things to happen you.

Who be this 1?Abeg move 1 side.....next

Some people are just plain stupid, annoying and pathetic

So, because your girlfriend goes around town, giving bredrins head and allowing every Efe, Kamar and Dozie 'shine her congo', all ladies are sexually promiscuous?

Katikati

Funny but u have not known anything about the shit I went through with 9ja ladies,well lemme share 1,the first girl I dated(actually the first girl I fell in love) told me she was a virgin,guess what?8 months into our relationship she got pregnant for another guy,initially when she told me that I was so willing to wait but after I discovered she got pregnant mehn my heart became stone,my advice.....nvr bliv any girl that says she is a virgin unless it is you that disvirgined her

Trust me I now understand you with all your analysis. Yeah sometimes I do feel lik that,knowing fully well wat one has been through in the hands of some of u guys. In as much as I also wanna settle down,I can't afford to waste time arnd the time wasters again jare. I won't term myself desperate but because I knw my mates are married and enjoying marriagehood and motherhood,I also wanna experience it. So that makes the two of us*runs out thread before they hurl missiles at me*

Toks2008:


You may not understand.

You know, at certain age for a man,you dont want to go through the stress of wooing,following up,dating and stuffs like that.

What on earth will a 40year old man be looking for if not a wife and please tell me,how many years courtship does he need. So a lady who is interested in setting down is tagged desperado but not necessarily a frustrated lady.

At a stage in a man or woman's life we need to be desperate for matrimony.


Thats just the way nature has designed it.

edozie04:
Lol,abeg nvr die oo,ur wife still dy wait 4 u

hahahaha....bro. I still dey alive ooo. Australia people say make i greet you because na here i dey school.

mencade5:
hahahaha....bro. I still dey alive ooo. Australia people say make i greet you because na here i dey school.

lol,I throway salute to them too

OP, wonderful article you penned there. You perfectly verbalised my thoughts and position in your write-up. God favour your case and connect you to YOUR help/Soul mate. I thank God, cos I found MINE already......Pls ignore those posting negative comments. The truth is that you attract WHO YOU ARE. Those folks see the world from their eyes only . If they have never inculcated any values and just dive into relationships without ethics, how will they expect the best? There are still ppl of quality around, but they are not available to every Tom, Dick and Harry. I KNOW my marriage is going to be heaven on earth. There's nothing anyone can do or say to convince me otherwise. God bless your hustle and grant you the desires of your heart.

OP, I dedicate 'My Wedding Day' by Frank Edwards to you

my brother don't mind those saying one or two negative things, inasmuch as there r still good men out there,then there r ladies who r actually epitome of what God called a virtuous woman. those that believe every lady is bad n messed up because that's what they do to those ladies,they will still find those like that as wife. n those that believe their wives r out there reversed, believe me there is actually a reversed wife for u n u will definitly find her. as a man thinks, so is he. whatever a man sow, that he will reap, whatever a man deserves, that he will get. ur success strength or achievement in life as a man is not measured by d number of ladies u were able to sleep with but d positive impact u were able to make in life, until u r a blessing to ur generation, u r a failure to life n humanity

Op your countering opinions will be needed in one Mr killjoy's thread.
That states "Seven reasons men are to remain single"

Beautiful

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

LOL YOU WICKED PASS

milkytea:


You are so pretty

Thanks

eleojo23:
Some guy on this thread thinks it's unlike a 'black man' to write something like this. He thinks it shows weakness. Well, that's his philosophy and a warped one at that. I intentionally wrote this to 'upset' people like him. A real man is not afraid of showing and expressing his feelings.

Someone ( Yangki Christine) wrote this somewhere and I wish to repeat them here. Every person is born with qualities of the opposite energy (masculine AND feminine) within him or her— and not simply in the biological sense, but also in the psychosexual sense of attitudes, feelings, dreams and desires.
Men because of their biological make up express more of the masculine energy and women because of their biological make up express more of their feminine energies.

If a man or woman is well adjusted and harmoniously balanced, the feminine traits and the masculine traits are both expressed. To say one is a “real” man or woman would be to say one is a “real” human being with a good balance of both masculine and feminine energies.

When a man has his masculine energy well developed he can afford to express his feminine energy without fear, timidity or feeling a threat to his masculinity — which is already strong and developed.

When a man’s masculinity is not well developed and strong, he’ll tend to suppress his feminine side (i.e. being sensitive, nurturing etc) because he is already insecure about his masculinity. He’ll tend to express a more “macho” image to try to cover up his insecurity about his masculinity.

I agree

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

Is it not strange that you know how all men think or dream?

It is well o

DailyNews:
Lol, the only things I am very certain men dream about is: fancy cars to drive, beautiful mansion to build, and businesses to own not how their future wife will be. The last thing on a man's dream is how his future wife will be; only jobless, broke and lonely guys think about a woman they haven't met! Men even fantasize more about dating super-gorgeous ladies more than they think about marriage or wife.

Like SirShymex rightfully said, women are more inclined to romantic and unrealistic life fantasies than men; men live by reality while women live by emotional fantasies and daydream...

I repeat: the only thing all men fantasize is fancy cars and money, nothing else. Any guy telling u otherwise is a liar or he's broke and unemployed and also lonely!!

No guy that's getting enough money and female attention will have time to start daydreaming about how his future wife will be...he can only come across ladies he admire and feel like taking them home, ladies stop being deceived by imaginary write-ups and go face reality.

And which girl self are u dreaming about- the girlfriend to one bad guy or the ex to one club addict Guy pls wake up from that daydream and go out there and hustle for a better future first!!!

No be only future wife, na future concubines

Meanwhile, some of the females hailing your daydreaming write-up are typing from their boyfriend's bed o...some are even with their 5th, 10th boyfriends and hailing u the real man, kai...women wicked

Lol, naturally, I don't really comment on threads like this one about teenage dreams. I just read it, laugh, and close the link. However, I was bored at work when I saw this particular - and I decided to just throw some banter in there, while indirectly educating the youngin' about the harsh realities of life.

With life, everything happens in phases, and it's always better to let people live and learn. The real world is different, and the harsh realities and odds are disproportionately against men. Hence men can't afford to keep dreaming, and looking for dreams to buy. You just to focus on make yourself whole, and everything else shall be added unto you. Even when it comes to women, you've to let it happen organically - not fantasise.

Anyway, I'm sure the OP still lives with his parents, like majority of these over-grown babies that populate this forum (both male and female posters, even the ones in their 30s) and they don't understand the realities of life. So, the only succour for them is to always bastardise words, to fit into their fantasy world - like I see them bastardise 'maturity', 'modern', 'intelligent','logic' etc. all the time.

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JeffreyJamez:
All this old men shouting "weakness ""black man" and shii, abeg tell me what your "blackity" has achieved.... black men and black brain.



OP I feel you man.

LOL!