Hi mates, I have been dating her for more than a year now. Each time my GF sees her male friend she would leave me and start gisting with him. She would not stop gisting with them until I tell her I would like to leave or draw her attention and this get her angry. I usually intrude or interrupt her discussion with her male friends after 10-15 mins. Plus she does not bother introducing me to the male friend. She says that she does not see anything wrong with what she is doing and that am just been childish. She said I should grow up because of this issue. Please nairalanders, what are your opinion to this issue?

Jic

Get female friends and start gisting with them

bro.. i am so sorry.

i think its high time u up ur own game.

u r boring. i would suggest u befriend her male friends, learn what they say that keeps her glued.

you've been dating her for more than a year and u just complaining. did u just notice. u suppose to have adapted to her behaviour. I smell lies

kilokeys:
bro.. i am so sorry.

i think its high time u up ur own game.

u r boring. i would suggest u befriend her male friends, learn what they say that keeps her glued.

Am not boring. She enjoyed my company a lot when we were friends and when the relationship was new. Plus other girls also enjoy my company

Benwems:
She says that she does not see anything wrong with what she is doing and that am just been childish. She said I should grow up because of this

That's your typical Nigerian girl. Never sees anything wrong in their unwise actions and hence doesn't feel there's a need to change.

So far as she sees nothing wrong in her attitude, there's nothing you can do.

I believe if you must leave the company of someone to another for a discussion which won't be brief, you should tell the person you're with to excuse you and give a hint that the discussion would be long so that he/she knows whether to watch you rant back and forth or do something better with their time.

If she doesn't do these, and still not see anything wrong in what she does, she needs psychiatric care. Her judgement is impaired.

wilsondave:
you've been dating her for more than a year and u just complaining. did u just notice. u suppose to have adapted to her behaviour. I smell lies

She has been doing it. And I do complain and she doesnt listen. Just tired of the whole stuff

Benwems:


Am not boring. She enjoyed my company a lot when we were friends and when the relationship was new. Plus other girls also enjoy my company

If this is true then please take my advice
And please change that Opion to Opinion

wilsondave:
you've been dating her for more than a year and u just complaining. did u just notice. u suppose to have adapted to her behaviour. I smell lies

Adapt to flirty behaviour?
@Op. Who is "Opion"? Na her name?

Don't u have female friends u gist with
If u don't hv den I hook u up with many nairaland babes here

xynerise:

Adapt to flirty behaviour?
@Op. Who is "Opion"? Na her name?

then the op should go get a lady and gist with her whenever his GF is around and watch his gf's reaction. if she reacted then bounce her out of your life and get a new fish.

wilsondave:
then the op should go get a lady and gist with her whenever his GF is around and watch his gf's reaction. if she reacted then bounce her out of your life and get a new fish.

Finito!

You too sud invite female frnds and ya gf ... make you con leave ya gf ...

Make you con dey chat with the female frnds ... if she get jealous ...

Tel her dah she sud stp acting like a kid

wilsondave:
then the op should go get a lady and gist with her whenever his GF is around and watch his gf's reaction. if she reacted then bounce her out of your life and get a new fish.

Something like that has happened before. We were going to church and I saw one of my female friend. So the female friend started gisting with me, in less than a minute my gf told me she was leaving. So I told my friend "we talk later, take care". And I learnt my leasons from then. Its so funny how she would be doing things she cannot tolerate from me.

Benwems:
Hi mates, I have been dating her for more than a year now. Each time my GF sees her male friend she would leave me and start gisting with him. She would not stop gisting with them until I tell her I would like to leave or draw her attention and this get her angry. I usually intrude or interrupt her discussion with her male friends after 10-15 mins. Plus she does not bother introducing me to the male friend. She says that she does not see anything wrong with what she is doing and that am just been childish. She said I should grow up because of this issue. Please nairalanders, what are your opinion to this issue?

brah pls change the 'my girlfriend' in the title to 'our girlfriend' una plenty get am.

My dear, I'm not going to take sides with your lady, rather I'll be factual here and very real.

I don't know what's really wrong with some ladies with the way they tend to treat their men anyhow even when it hurts. After you'll hear stories like "he doesn't love me anymore". Nansense!

Op, you too, be bold enough and do the same thing to her. When you are with her and you meet your female friends, ignore her too, totally. Fiiirtt with them in her presence if you have to and do not introduce them to her or she to them.

But if you must introduce, say she's your friend (after all she is your friend and a girl too...thus girlfriend ).

If she complains, ask her to grow up and get matured. But if she doesn't, know that she is not the one for you afterall.

Words won't be enough for her to realize that her way of life hurts and what she does is wrong. So putting her in your shoes should convey the message.

Gehs too like that thing. Me too na victim but we need to be corrected.

KingTom:
Get female friends and start gisting with them

i would have suggest this too but i tink the op is not honnest.....dating for a year and still dont knw how to get along wit his gurl.....haba

Sheenor:


i would have suggest this too but i tink the op is not honnest.....dating for a year and still dont knw how to get along wit his gurl.....haba

Some people sha. Who knows?

Pay her back in her own coin bro

LegatusGlaber:
Pay her back in her own coin bro

KingTom:
Get female friends and start gisting with them

Here is your solution.

Any lady who cannot give what she wants to get in exchange is.not yet mature for a relationship..

Make female friends too so she can know how it feels..

Benwems:
Hi mates, I have been dating her for more than a year now. Each time my GF sees her male friend she would leave me and start gisting with him. She would not stop gisting with them until I tell her I would like to leave or draw her attention and this get her angry. I usually intrude or interrupt her discussion with her male friends after 10-15 mins. Plus she does not bother introducing me to the male friend. She says that she does not see anything wrong with what she is doing and that am just been childish. She said I should grow up because of this issue. Please nairalanders, what are your opinion to this issue?

You have been single all along dude

lomaxx:


That's your typical Nigerian girl. Never sees anything wrong in their unwise actions and hence doesn't feel there's a need to change.

So far as she sees nothing wrong in her attitude, there's nothing you can do.

I believe if you must leave the company of someone to another for a discussion which won't be brief, you should tell the person you're with to excuse you and give a hint that the discussion would be long so that he/she knows whether to watch you rant back and forth or do something better with their time.

If she doesn't do these, and still not see anything wrong in what she does, she needs psychiatric care. Her judgement is impaired.

Exactly. I guess most just lack courtesy or respect.

Just inform the person you would be away for long, not needlessly chatting away while he/she is sitting there. And these type of people are the ones that would cry blue murder if same is replicated or done to them.

Talk to other girl too for extended periods of time.
Be sure to do so when her male friends are not around so she isn't distracted and gets to fully witness the activity and feel what you feel.

If this doesn't get her thinking, then you both ain't compatible.

Agybabe:
My dear, I'm not going to take sides with your lady, rather I'll be factual here and very real.

I don't know what's really wrong with some ladies with the way they tend to treat their men anyhow even when it hurts. After you'll hear stories like "he doesn't love me anymore". Nansense!

Op, you too, be bold enough and do the same thing to her. When you are with her and you meet your female friends, ignore her too, totally. Fiiirtt with them in her presence if you have to and do not introduce them to her or she to them.

But if you must introduce, say she's your friend (after all she is your friend and a girl too...thus girlfriend ).

If she complains, ask her to grow up and get matured. But if she doesn't, know that she is not the one for you afterall.

Words won't be enough for her to realize that her way of life hurts and what she does is wrong. So putting her in your shoes should convey the message.

Gehs too like that thing. Me too na victim but we need to be corrected.

When I read stuffs as this from a lady, I'm always tempted to click on "Send E-Mail Message To ....." button on that person's profile.

jnrbayano:


When I read stuffs as this from a lady, I'm always tempted to click on "Send E-Mail Message To ....." button on that person's profile.

that kind thing

Benwems:
Hi mates, I have been dating her for more than a year now. Each time my GF sees her male friend she would leave me and start gisting with him. She would not stop gisting with them until I tell her I would like to leave or draw her attention and this get her angry. I usually intrude or interrupt her discussion with her male friends after 10-15 mins. Plus she does not bother introducing me to the male friend. She says that she does not see anything wrong with what she is doing and that am just been childish. She said I should grow up because of this issue. Please nairalanders, what are your opinion to this issue?

she treats u like that and u haven't find the ante-dote to her behavior

guy man u need to be cane

She's a born cheat! Use your head

there are different types of people in the world. If she is a saggitarius, forget it, she will keep intereacting/flirting with her male friends, and if you try too hard to stop or clio her, she will leave. There ar people who like to feel free and not prisoned. If need be this is the only tin that may break your relatiinship wit this girl. Learn to be kool and calm, and shake some tins off. I knw its nit easy.

Op it seems ur girlfriend is Loquacious, too bad .