I saw this question somewhere and felt like discussing it here.....

Parents of intending couples are expected to give their blessings and consent before their son or daughter could get married.

Even some religious institutions insist on having the parents or representatives of the couples on the day of their wedding to affirm that they've given their consent for the marriage to be consummated.

Parents fall out with their children because if the children's choice of man or woman, where they are from or what they do for a living.
There are thousands of reasons depending on family.

Some children still go ahead with the planned marriage at times without the consent or blessings of their parents. Of course, they're always pressured to go back and ask for forgiveness and blessings from them for the marriage to be successful......

My questions: Do you really need your parents' consent before marriage?? What if they refuse to give it? Should you give in and leave your to-be??

These is Africa, the land of values and culture, where values are cherished. In African culture, marriage is between families and not between individuals. You must seek parental consent, and it must be given before marriage can be consummated.

What a parent sees bending down, a child may never see even if he climbes the tallest Iroko tree.

Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

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[quvote author=kristina1 post=28402767]Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.[/quote]

At times the reasons could be quite selfish......
Say, tribal for instance.

Of course its very necessary, because the person you're choosing will also be their son/daughter in-law and a member of the family. So they must also give their consent.

BreezyRita:
[quvote author=kristina1 post=28402767]Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

At times the reasons could be quite selfish......
Say, tribal for instance.

Yeah,tribalism is eating us up,apart from that,parental blessings can go a long way in helpin the couple.

Op, if you really know how it works try going against your parents consent and tell us your experience later..

I think there should be reasonable discussion between the parents and the man or lady on why they will not support the union.
Parents are not always right.

My brother(Igbo) wanted to marry a lady from Crossriver but they did not approve it. He brought another lady from Crossriver, same story. They told him to look for a wife in the southeast. My Mom tried to get an Igbo lady for him but he said that he doesn't like her.
Finally, he brought another lady from Crossriver. My parents approved their marriage to go on.

Consent is necessary but sometimes it depends on the reason.

I will always seek my parents consent and/or blessings and will accept their choices of rejection if the reasons are fair enough, but if they are trivial like race, tribal or religious issues I will stick with my woman. Parents are wiser but not in every issue especially ones regarding the heart. Methink the decision of a life partner should be that of those involve alone, I am to live with her not my parents or any one else for that matter

U wan marry witout parents consent? Na u born ursef?

Parents consents are important n neccessary but we shudnt depend on dem. Except u wan hire parents.

Naija business idea: parents higher enterprise.

kristina1:
Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you, they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

Lie. For EG. Igbo parents always want their first daughters to marry from their home town. Even their LGA. Against the person's choice which could be harmful.

Necessary... Is like the iceing on the cake...

BreezyRita:
[quvote author=kristina1 post=28402767]Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

At times the reasons could be quite selfish......
Say, tribal for instance.

What exactly is wrong with a parent preferring their child not marry from a particular tribe?

MrPresident1:


What a parent sees bending down, a child may never see even if he climbes the tallest Iroko tree.

Rubbish , I have been right on many occasions which they didn't approve of and ended up losing out on a lot of things cos I believed this same shit you wrote. Now they know not to interfer or meddle in my affairs and only pray for my success in whatever I do

tpia5:


What exactly is wrong with a parent preferring their child not marry from a particular tribe?

You think there's nothing wrong? Well, good for you

BreezyRita:


You think there's nothing wrong? Well, good for you

What is wrong there?

tpia5:


What is wrong there?

When you've found someone you're sure you want to spend the rest of your life with, taken him or her home only to find out your parents have other plans for you? They're insisting your partner must be from your tribe and nowhere else??

Pray not to get there please

kristina1:
Parental consent is very important in a marriage..
parents can never mislead you,they must have a reason before rejectin ur partner.

That's not totally correct. Some parents are only after their selfish materialistic gratifications at the expense of the child's good. Just as we have good parents, we also have very terrible parents.

The decision on who to marry, ultimately, should reside with the couples not the parent(s). Parents role in the marriage process is strictly advisory.

We would do well to take very seriously the advise from our parents on our choice of a life partner but this does not imply that we allow them take the decision for us.

striktlymi:
The decision on who to marry, ultimately, should reside with the couples not the parent(s). Parents role in the marriage process is strictly advisory.

We would do well to take very seriously the advise from our parents on our choice of a life partner but this does not imply that we allow them take the decision for us.

True.... All these peeps saying "parents should have the final say in your choice of a partner have not seen how parents can ruin their children for little or no reason.

Thinkr:
Lie. For EG. Igbo parents always want their first daughters to marry from their home town. Even their LGA. Against the person's choice which could be harmful.

I know,some will insist on their daughter marrying a rich man.

tpia5:


What exactly is wrong with a parent preferring their child not marry from a particular tribe?

Maybe such tribe have bad history and they are protecting the interest of their child.

striktlymi:


That's not totally correct. Some parents are only after their selfish materialistic gratifications at the expense of the child's good. Just as we have good parents, we also have very terrible parents.

Some parent wl say unless you marry a rich person,they wl not give their blessing while some are only after their child happiness.