If Nigeria allowed polygamy and polyandry, would people end up monogamous because men would be jealous of their cohusbands and women of their cowives?

No. But did Nigeria disallow them in the first place?

Infomizer:
No. But did Nigeria disallow them in the first place?

Nigeria's civil laws do not currently recognize polyandry or polygamy as legal.

Nigerian Laws recognize polygamy as legal.

What is against the law is to have a civil marriage and then go ahead to have a customary one. But that law is a dead law. also Sharia law allows for polygamy.

At the same time the constitution makes all children legitimate. So even if a man goes ahead to have a customary marriage after a civil one the children or the customary marriage are legitimate.

Polygamy is a part of our culture and As much as no woman wants to share her husband sometimes sharing can be better than being abandoned.

LordReed:


Nigeria's civil laws do not currently recognize polyandry or polygamy as legal.

Really? That's the first time I'm hearing that. Not a law aficionado anyway, but imma try and confirm.

mutter:
Nigerian Laws recognize polygamy as legal.

What is against the law is to have a civil marriage and then go ahead to have a customary one. But that law is a dead law. also Sharia law allows for polygamy.

At the same time the constitution makes all children legitimate. So even if a man goes ahead to have a customary marriage after a civil one the children or the customary marriage are legitimate.

Polygamy is a part of our culture and As much as no woman wants to share her husband sometimes sharing can be better than being abandoned.

As I wrote under civil law, the recognition is under customary law which is different. Same with Sharia law which recognizes it and is different as well.

Sorry no mention of the civil law above. Besides civil law is not necessarily superior to customary and sharia law.

mutter:
Sorry no mention of the civil law above. Besides civil law is not necessarily superior to customary and sharia law.

It is not but most of the marriages contracted today are done under civil law. Most people will not contemplate marrying under customary law because it is not as well understood as civil law and civil law seems to cater to our modern society better than customary laws.

mutter: As much as no woman wants to share her husband sometimes sharing can be better than being abandoned.

Oh really?

Probably for women with zero self-esteem and no independent source of personal income.

EfemenaXY:


Oh really?

Probably for women with zero self-esteem and no independent source of personal income.

person go run for that WOMAN for this nairaland

cococandy:
person go run for that WOMAN for this nairaland

mutter:
Nigerian Laws recognize polygamy as legal.

What is against the law is to have a civil marriage and then go ahead to have a customary one. But that law is a dead law. also Sharia law allows for polygamy.

At the same time the constitution makes all children legitimate. So even if a man goes ahead to have a customary marriage after a civil one the children or the customary marriage are legitimate.

Polygamy is a part of our culture and As much as no woman wants to share her husband sometimes sharing can be better than being abandoned.

I doubt it

Again, it depends on the woman in question. Not All women are totally dependent and cannot survive outside their husbands.

Some women decide to abandon the polygamous man instead.

Not All women are helpless as nollywood potrays

bukatyne:

I doubt it
Again, it depends on the woman in question. Not All women are totally dependent and cannot survive outside their husbands.
Some women decide to abandon the polygamous man instead.
Not All women are helpless as nollywood potrays

So in other words the predominant view of the young ladies here is that a woman that is financially independent can afford to leave her husband.

In order words the main substance of a marriage is financial and once you are financially independent marriage no longer has much meaning?

Have you ever considered that a woman may just love her husband so much that she would be prepared to tolerate a second wife just so that she can still be with the man she loves.
I know so many women women who remain in the marriage because the love their husbands and would feel empty without him.

mutter:


So in other words the predominant view of the young ladies here is that a woman that is financially independent can afford to leave her husband.

In order words the main substance of a marriage is financial and once you are financially independent marriage no longer has much meaning?

Have you ever considered that a woman may just love her husband so much that she would be prepared to tolerate a second wife just so that she can still be with the man she loves.
I know so many women women who remain in the marriage because the love their husbands and would feel empty without him.

One man's food is another man's....(complete for me)
Btw, happt Sunday, ma'am.

mutter:


So in other words the predominant view of the young ladies here is that a woman that is financially independent can afford to leave her husband.

In order words the main substance of a marriage is financial and once you are financially independent marriage no longer has much meaning?

Have you ever considered that a woman may just love her husband so much that she would be prepared to tolerate a second wife just so that she can still be with the man she loves.
I know so many women women who remain in the marriage because the love their husbands and would feel empty without him.

Nobody has said the substance or meaning of a marriage is money else many financially balanced women would not get married

Been financially empowered however gives a woman a choice to walk out when necessary.

I love my husband so much much BUT I will give him the space he desires if he ever decides to marry a second wife.

If other women can compromise that, I cannot.

Thanks

bukatyne:


Nobody has said the substance or meaning of a marriage is money else many financially balanced women would not get married

Been financially empowered however gives a woman a choice to walk out when necessary.

I love my husband so much much BUT I will give him the space he desires if he ever decides to marry a second wife.

If other women can compromise that, I cannot.

Thanks

Would you consider Polyandry for any reason?

mutter:


So in other words the predominant view of the young ladies here is that a woman that is financially independent can afford to leave her husband.

In order words the main substance of a marriage is financial and once you are financially independent marriage no longer has much meaning?

Have you ever considered that a woman may just love her husband so much that she would be prepared to tolerate a second wife just so that she can still be with the man she loves.
I know so many women women who remain in the marriage because the love their husbands and would feel empty without him.

You make sense.

Your third sentence: do that also apply to the male gender??

LordReed:


Would you consider Polyandry for any reason?

Marry more than 1 husband?

bukatyne:


Marry more than 1 husband?

Yes.

HFOG:

One man's food is another man's....(complete for me)
Btw, happy Sunday, ma'am.

Happy sunday and a blessed second advent!

This is one of the biggest nightmares any woman dreads. When you are young and rebellious you feel that way but as one gets older and the responsibilities increase, you learn to see things differently and sometimes react differently, you learn how to adjust yourself and have also some other priorities.
I don`t support it but I just have seem too many friends and people I know go that way. Many of the young guess from then now have two three wives and the young girls that where spitting fire then are accommodating it now.

By the way this thread got me thinking again and I asked my Schatz if he would contemplate it since quite a few of his friends have more than one wife now.
He told me he had enough stress with me! And that most of his friends are in hell no because it does not really work out these days.

LordReed:


Yes.

LOL!

This should win the award of 'question of the century'

Polyandry ke?

You did not ask if I could have extramarital affairs, it is marriage you are asking me about!

Hahaha!

On a second thought, do you want to be my second husband?

mutter:


Happy sunday and a blessed second advent!

This is one of the biggest nightmares any woman dreads. When you are young and rebellious you feel that way but as one gets older and the responsibilities increase, you learn to see things differently and sometimes react differently, you learn how to adjust yourself and have also some other priorities.
I don`t support it but I just have seem to many friends and people I know go that way. Many of the young gus from then now have two three wives and the young girls that where spitting fire then are accomodating it now.

By the way this thread got me thinking again and I asked my Schatz if he would contemplate it since quite a ffew of his friends have more than one wife now.
He told me he had enough stress with me! And that most of his frineds are in hell no because it does not really work out these days.

Hmm. You're worded oh. See the looong essay you use reply my short statement. No bi small thing o. Me is suspecting you're a lawyer abi how do I explain your lengthy write-ups

LordReed:


Would you consider Polyandry for any reason?

See JAMB question

bukatyne:

On a second thought, do you want to be my second husband?

Come again? That's my big brother you're talking to oh. Pls we're not polygamous where we come from

bukatyne:


LOL!

This should win the award of 'question of the century'

Polyandry ke?

You did not ask if I could have extramarital affairs, it is marriage you are asking me about!

Hahaha!

On a second thought, do you want to be my second husband?

Well if it was legal then you at least have no constraints in considering it.

If it was legal...you never know....

HFOG:

See JAMB question

O ya, answer. If Government approves of polyandry you go gree for more husband?

bukatyne:


Nobody has said the substance or meaning of a marriage is money else many financially balanced women would not get married

Been financially empowered however gives a woman a choice to walk out when necessary.

I love my husband so much much BUT I will give him the space he desires if he ever decides to marry a second wife.

If other women can compromise that, I cannot.

Thanks

Hmm. Me share same views with you ma'am. Just that life and the experiences of others makes us a little sober and less emphatic when we discuss these issues. We only pray for His grace and mercy to keep us from evil and keep evil away from us.

LordReed:


Well if it was legal then you at least have no constraints in considering it.

If it was legal...you never know....

Whether legal or not,

I am satisfied with my baby

HFOG:

Come again? That's my big brother you're talking to oh. Pls we're not polygamous where we come from

Sis,

Your brother was asking me leading kwestions o!

HFOG:

Hmm. Me share same views with you ma'am. Just that life and the experiences of others makes us a little sober and less emphatic when we discuss these issues. We only pray for His grace and mercy to keep us from evil and keep evil away from us.

Amen

bukatyne:


Sis,

Your brother was asking me leading kwestions o!

My dear, the question fear me sef.

LordReed:


O ya, answer. If Government approves of polyandry you go gree for more husband?

Na government laws we dey live by?