macklef:


Well, u might be right, maybe i see NL diffent from way other people see it, but dey some things that will never

Come up to my head to open a thread about it. Like loosing a loved one? Illd be too consumed in grief that this d last thing ild remember, this thread brings nothing but more grieve, all she keeps seeing is sorry sorry sorry sorry.

Like seriously? Is that what she needs, she needs real people beside her, maybe she dosnt have thats y she has resorted to this.

Forgive me sweety, we reason diffrently, i can open a thread of how robers attacked me and stole from me,

I can open a thread of how my house boy almost poisoned me, i can open a thread catching my little daughter kissing a frog. But mehn this thread?
Well, its a faceless forum n i possibly shouldnt judge, but its weird aff!! Lol

LordReed:


It's not weird to announce the passing of someone who is miles apart albeit is a celebrity but is weird for someone close to do same? LoL

Cwaya:


Lol .. My man run comot here naa abeg.

I use God beg U

macklef:


On a faceless forum. Who here apart from the Op knows him body to body or can boast of how he looks like.

Even my unborn children can still mourn einstein cos we know he exists. Thers a diffrence bro.

But lets not argue over this anymore. I dont wanna be tagged as what im far from. Am not just that guy who likes to jump on every moving bus.

LordReed:


Does his relative obscurity mean he is less important to those who love him? Is his passing any less sad especially for his loved ones?

You "brought your leg out", when you post an opinion on a public forum you have to be ready for those who disagree. If you feel strongly enough about it to put it out there then you should be strong enough for any backlash.

macklef:

U brought einstein to the equation, not me, so dont push what i did not mean on my heas oga.

Refering to ur relative obscurity watever. I only replied u objectively not based on any personal watever.
If i was foolish, foolish me.

We good bro. Lets cut d thread any drama. Aiit.

macklef:

On a faceless forum. Who here apart from the Op knows him body to body or can boast of how he looks like.
Even my unborn children can still mourn einstein cos we know he exists. Thers a diffrence bro.
But lets not argue over this anymore. I dont wanna be tagged as what im far from. Am not just that guy who likes to jump on every moving bus.

LordReed:


It's not weird to announce the passing of someone who is miles apart [b]albeit [/b]is a celebrity but is weird for someone close to do same? LoL

macklef:


Did i mis understand u? thought this was a noun. .lol

Wo oga. Make d matter sleep jareh.

macklef:


Well, u might be right, maybe i see NL diffent from way other people see it, but dey some things that will never

Come up to my head to open a thread about it. Like loosing a loved one? Illd be too consumed in grief that this d last thing ild remember, this thread brings nothing but more grieve, all she keeps seeing is sorry sorry sorry sorry.

Like seriously? Is that what she needs, she needs real people beside her, maybe she dosnt have thats y she has resorted to this.

Forgive me sweety, we reason diffrently, i can open a thread of how robers attacked me and stole from me,

I can open a thread of how my house boy almost poisoned me, i can open a thread catching my little daughter kissing a frog. But mehn this thread?
Well, its a faceless forum n i possibly shouldnt judge, but its weird aff!! Lol

mercylicious:
Take heart dear.
let the emotions flow. cry if you want to, but in ur cry, dont cry like there is no hope, cos i know there is hope.
You are not the first to lose her husband. my mum did when she was 34. she had 5kids and her last child was still sucking breast. she just had to wean the child. Being a teacher that was paid peanuts and were owed many months salary did not help. Our relatives abandoned us. We ate all manner of food to survive and we were happy.

Somehow, we got closer to God . We prayed every night with songs and hymns and even our neighbours could see that God is with us. We hardly fell sick. we knew there was no money and studied hard to pass every exam. God miraculously supplied all our needs.

My mum's favorite quote became, " I can do ALL things through christ which strenghtens me. " and " our God will supply ALL our needs"

Today, we are better than all those that abandoned us. We have 4 graduates that are all working and the last one is in his final year. We have achieved what most of them dont have hope of acheiving.

Men will come to you for different reasons. Ppl dt are not supposed to talk to you will talk to you. In all , be wise.

If ur husband has greedy relatives, get ready to do ur letter of administration after burial. consult a lawyer.

I wish you the best and will remember you in my prayers.

LordReed:


LoL albeit =/= albert

albeit Synonyms
although, as, howbeit, much as, notwithstanding, though, when, whereas, while, whilst

chaircover:


This is very unlike you

You should know that people deal with tragedys differently
You dont know what this poor lady is going through by suddenly losing her hubby of 8 years . .a loving one for that matter, we all know that these types of husbands are very hard to find these days.
I am sure you have heard of post traumatic syndrome
For years I didnt cry after my dad died cos I was scared that once I started, I would never stop so I bottled it all inside me, until one day it all came out

She has always spoken very highly of her hubby on this forum, so I am sure its like her heart has been ripped out right now.
She probably hasnt taken a bath or eaten in these 3 days
Would you rather she ran nakedd on the street tearing her hair out or she needed to be admitted to hospital and put under serious sedation before you accept that she is grieiving the "normal" way?
Please let the woman be to greive anyway that she wants to. She has 3 young kids to consider.
No one wants to be in her situaton; so please let her be.

Okijajuju1:



Indeed it is unlike me.. Infact, I had to think over the matter severally before posting and I maintain my stance..

A husband of 8 years passes away at what I am guessing is a young age and his widow is online less than 3 days later announcing his death to a largely unknown group just to get sympathy responses, likes and shares? Or what exactly? And she was even still online monitoring the post to see the responses. .

Madam please forgive me but this strikes me as very odd.. I suffered a loss this year (pregnancy) and that shiit really put me out for weeks.. And here we are talking about someone's husband of 8 years who passed on less than 4 days ago. I would expect her to be so distraught and surrounded by family that her focus would not even be on her phone let alone a forum.

It's either I am over thinking this or I have lost the plot of what it means to grieve the loss of one's spouse.

The time frame is just too short for comfort..

Okijajuju1:



Indeed it is unlike me.. Infact, I had to think over the matter severally before posting and I maintain my stance..

A husband of 8 years passes away at what I am guessing is a young age and his widow is online less than 3 days later announcing his death to a largely unknown group just to get sympathy responses, likes and shares? Or what exactly? And she was even still online monitoring the post to see the responses. .

Madam please forgive me but this strikes me as very odd.. I suffered a loss this year (pregnancy) and that shiit really put me out for weeks.. And here we are talking about someone's husband of 8 years who passed on less than 4 days ago. I would expect her to be so distraught and surrounded by family that her focus would not even be on her phone let alone a forum.

It's either I am over thinking this or I have lost the plot of what it means to grieve the loss of one's spouse.

The time frame is just too short for comfort..

Okijajuju1:



Indeed it is unlike me.. Infact, I had to think over the matter severally before posting and I maintain my stance..

A husband of 8 years passes away at what I am guessing is a young age and his widow is online less than 3 days later announcing his death to a largely unknown group just to get sympathy responses, likes and shares? Or what exactly? And she was even still online monitoring the post to see the responses. .

Madam please forgive me but this strikes me as very odd.. I suffered a loss this year (pregnancy) and that shiit really put me out for weeks.. And here we are talking about someone's husband of 8 years who passed on less than 4 days ago. I would expect her to be so distraught and surrounded by family that her focus would not even be on her phone let alone a forum.

It's either I am over thinking this or I have lost the plot of what it means to grieve the loss of one's spouse.

The time frame is just too short for comfort..

Okijajuju1:



Indeed it is unlike me.. Infact, I had to think over the matter severally before posting and I maintain my stance..

A husband of 8 years passes away at what I am guessing is a young age and his widow is online less than 3 days later announcing his death to a largely unknown group just to get sympathy responses, likes and shares? Or what exactly? And she was even still online monitoring the post to see the responses. .

Madam please forgive me but this strikes me as very odd.. I suffered a loss this year (pregnancy) and that shiit really put me out for weeks.. And here we are talking about someone's husband of 8 years who passed on less than 4 days ago. I would expect her to be so distraught and surrounded by family that her focus would not even be on her phone let alone a forum.

It's either I am over thinking this or I have lost the plot of what it means to grieve the loss of one's spouse.

The time frame is just too short for comfort..

chaircover:


This is very unlike you

You should know that people deal with tragedys differently
You dont know what this poor lady is going through by suddenly losing her hubby of 8 years . .a loving one for that matter, we all know that these types of husbands are very hard to find these days.
I am sure you have heard of post traumatic syndrome
For years I didnt cry after my dad died cos I was scared that once I started, I would never stop so I bottled it all inside me, until one day it all came out

She has always spoken very highly of her hubby on this forum, so I am sure its like her heart has been ripped out right now.
She probably hasnt taken a bath or eaten in these 3 days
Would you rather she ran nakedd on the street tearing her hair out or she needed to be admitted to hospital and put under serious sedation before you accept that she is grieiving the "normal" way?
Please let the woman be to greive anyway that she wants to. She has 3 young kids to consider.
No one wants to be in her situaton; so please let her be.

Okijajuju1:



Indeed it is unlike me.. Infact, I had to think over the matter severally before posting and I maintain my stance..

A husband of 8 years passes away at what I am guessing is a young age and his widow is online less than 3 days later announcing his death to a largely unknown group just to get sympathy responses, likes and shares? Or what exactly? And she was even still online monitoring the post to see the responses. .

Madam please forgive me but this strikes me as very odd.. I suffered a loss this year (pregnancy) and that shiit really put me out for weeks.. And here we are talking about someone's husband of 8 years who passed on less than 4 days ago. I would expect her to be so distraught and surrounded by family that her focus would not even be on her phone let alone a forum.

It's either I am over thinking this or I have lost the plot of what it means to grieve the loss of one's spouse.

The time frame is just too short for comfort..