Let's face it here you either find a man who is already married, has a girlfriend, gay or is a natural born player.  Therefore you either have to share with whose there or you fight to keep one if you had one.

Is there a man shortage? Just asking

I think there is.

The ratio is like 5:1 in favour of men, so I think.

There is a good man shortage.  But if a woman is worth her weight in gold the men will be fighting each other to keep you and therefore no fighting necessary for the woman.

Have you read Sista Solljah's book "No Disrespect"  Very very very good book, it addresses this issue.

I'm not searching, so I don't know.

Therefore you either have to share with whose there

Not a good reason.

you fight to keep one if you had one.

I can't fight to keep someone that's not my husband. He as an adult ought to know better.

Cayon:

Let's face it here you either find a man who is already married, has a girlfriend, gay or is a natural born player. Therefore you either have to share with whose there or you fight to keep one if you had one.

Is there a man shortage?

Just asking

i dont think dats sharing,no woman has a man dats still single,so there is nothing like sharing there

there's a severe shortage of good men.

stillwater:

I'm not searching, so I don't know.

Are u sure about this. How many dating sites have u joined this year alone??

I can't fight to keep someone that's not my husband. He as an adult ought to know better.

U have to appreciate there's a stiff competition out there.
It's so weird that what u desire in a man is desired by 1000 other women so picking one can sometimes be a HUGE task.
There is a shortage of good men(like me) out there.

mbola:

I think there is.

The ratio is like 5:1 in favour of men, so I think.

is that ratio from your neck of the woods. . . . .errr the UK?

sistawoman:

There is a good man shortage.  But if a woman is worth her weight in gold the men will be fighting each other to keep you and therefore no fighting necessary for the woman.

Have you read Sista Solljah's book "No Disrespect"  Very very very good book, it addresses this issue.

No, never heard of it.  will check it out

stillwater:

I'm not searching, so I don't know.

Not a good reason.

I can't fight to keep someone that's not my husband. He as an adult ought to know better.

yea, maybe I was wrong to say "you have to share" because I don't believe in sharing and will not encourage sharing.  Was just making a "general statement" seeing reality - women share men.  But i am sure you "got my drift"

Peace

The 2006 census clearly told us that the number of men in Nigeria is 1.9 million greater than that of the women. So I don't think there is a shortage.

Shortage of good men or shortage of men in general?

It depends anyway.

crazykid:

The 2006 census clearly told us that the number of men in Nigeria is 1.9 million greater than that of the women. So I don't think there is a shortage.

Naija census is dodgy especially in the North.
Muslim women in the North don't come out to be counted as it is a taboo for anutha man to see them and reh reh reh.
U cannot use Naija stat at all. . . . . .

I think there's a shortage,bt nice guys still exist!

Cayon:

yea, maybe I was wrong to say "you have to share" because I don't believe in sharing and will not encourage sharing.  Was just making a "general statement" seeing reality - women share men.  But i am sure you "got my drift"

Peace

Peace.

~Sauron~:

Are u sure about this. How many dating sites have u joined this year alone??

You and who?

U have to appreciate there's a stiff competition out there.
It's so weird that what u desire in a man is desired by 1000 other women so picking one can sometimes be a HUGE task.
There is a shortage of good men(like me) out there.

Like you?  
I hate men that don't know what they want. And cannot turn down groupies when he encounters them.
What's the use of such a baby?

stillwater:

You and who?

Just pulling ur legs.

Like you?  
I hate men that don't know what they want. And cannot turn down groupies when he encounters them.
What's the use of such a baby?

Picking a life partner can be a big task. . . . . . .U think u have found the best babe and out of nowhere, anutha woman with better qualities arrive.
What do u do? U just have to be sure you are getting hitched to the right woman not just on the issue of first come first served
It's like u on a summer afternoon in a mall. . . . . .How many minutes does it take u to reach a decision on the pair of jeans you are buying.
Of course, u try on blue, green, brown, white and black. . . . . .

stillwater:

. I can't fight to keep someone that's not my husband. He as an adult ought to know better.

sweetheart fighting is allowed,but not d street fightings or exchange of words with women because of ur hubby

d fighting i meant here,is more like fighting maturedly to keep a man,how do i explain this?ok let me try,like trying to make yourself d best woman hes ever seen,try to be interesting and not boring,try to be  good in kitchen,bedroom and outside d bedroom , be the sumbissive wife he wants u to be in d inside,but be a tigress outside

u know men love their women to be tough outside but cool inside

I get what you saying whatever but really if that is not who you are then the pretences will fall and you will start to be who you really are. And then where will that get you?

I really think that if a woman is worth her weight in gold then then there is no need to fight for him at all. He will see that value that is her and will hold on tight for dear life.

@sauron. Whether the women in the north were counted or not, I still believe there isn't scarcity of men in Nigeria. A girl would find a partner if she's decent. The problem with girls these days is that they love ghosts relationships. Relationships they know would lead to nowhere.

~Sauron~:

Just pulling ur legs.


Picking a life partner can be a big task. . . . . . .U think u have found the best babe and out of nowhere, anutha woman with better qualities arrive.
What do u do? U just have to be sure you are getting hitched to the right woman not just on the issue of first come first served
It's like u on a summer afternoon in a mall. . . . . .How many minutes does it take u to reach a decision on the pair of jeans you are buying.
Of course, u try on blue, green, brown, white and black. . . . . .

Not a good reason to be philandering up and down like a sheep without a shephard.
That's why I said if you 're not good at making decisions, STAY AWAY FROM ME!!!
I can't be bothered with irresponsible people. Shortage of men or not!!!

sistawoman:

I get what you saying whatever but really if that is not who you are then the pretences will fall and you will start to be who you really are.  And then where will that get you?

I really think that if a woman is worth her weight in gold then then there is no need to fight for him at all.  He will see that value that is her and will hold on tight for dear life.

nobody is asking anybody to pretend sista,u just have to adjust to every situation u find yourself in,we all try to learn everyday,u have to,even if u need to go for councelling and other stuffs then go

there is a patient of mine who's more like d log of wood type,her man craved for an interesting wife in that area,he was even ready to teach her,but she just did not want to learn,until her hubby started cheating on her,immediately she caught wind of d affair,she almost ran mad and was now willing to learn,it took months to get her hubby off d other woman(that is if he has stopped seeing her)

u don't have to pretend,just try to learn,pretence will surely fade away,but if a hubby wants a wife whos good in d kitchen or in d bed,she just has to learn

crazykid:

@sauron.  Whether the women in the north were counted or not, I still believe there isn't scarcity of men in Nigeria. A girl would find a partner if she's decent. The problem with girls these days is that they love ghosts relationships. Relationships they know would lead to nowhere.

Just because a man carries a 3rd leg does not make him a man.
Man in this context means a responsible man who is ready to settle down and start a family.
Is there a shortage of that in Nigeria?? A resounding YES!!!!!
Would a top executive female banker date a carpentar??

stillwater:

Not a good reason to be philandering up and down like a sheep without a shephard.
That's why I said if you 're not good at making decisions, STAY AWAY FROM ME!!!
I can't be bothered with irresponsible people. Shortage of men or not!!!

No one is sure of the decisions they are making until the very end. . . . .
This is why most folks would tell you long courtship is hazardous. . . .The longer u are with someone without making commitment, the higher likelihood of things to fall apart. U might find a better bloke in Church, he might find a better babe in the Mosque.

sistawoman:

I really think that if a woman is worth her weight in gold then then there is no need to fight for him at all.  He will see that value that is her and will hold on tight for dear life.

Seconded.

As long as he sees that value, no need to worry about shortages. If he doesn't see it, then perhaps you're just not what he is looking for.  .  .don't push it.
You probably don't really want him either

@topic

Depends on where you're looking

.watever90:

sweetheart fighting is allowed,but not d street fightings or exchange of words with women because of ur hubby

d fighting i meant here,is more like fighting maturedly to keep a man,how do i explain this?ok let me try,like trying to make yourself d best woman hes ever seen,try to be interesting and not boring,try to be  good in kitchen,bedroom and outside d bedroom , be the sumbissive wife he wants u to be in d inside,but be a tigress outside

u know men love their women to be tough outside but cool inside

A man that cannot keep himself off other women while dating? Of what use do I have with him in marriage?
I'm the kind of person that won't say anything outside, but inside?  

~Sauron~:


No one is sure of the decisions they are making until the very end. . . . .
This is why most folks would tell you long courtship is hazardous. . . .The longer u are with someone without making commitment, the higher likelihood of things to fall apart. U might find a better bloke in Church, he might find a better babe in the Mosque.

Well true. However, such a statement gives room for guys to do as they please. I won't stand for that.

@sauron. Ahh! I now get your definitation of a man. A man must be academically, financially, economically, socially, and sexually responsible. Now I agree with you, I think they are scarce.

stillwater:

A man that cannot keep himself off other women while dating? Of what use do I have with him in marriage.
I'm the kind of person that won't say anything outside, but inside?  

im not talking about dating,im not talking about cheating,he might not necessarily cheat on u,dont get me wrong,he might be faithful to u,all im saying is fighting to keep him by ur side,wt ur attitude and urself,even when hes not looking outside

Maybe  shortage of good men by some women who some times put  men on a higher standard.  

I went to a concert where some big artistes performed  and at the end of  the show  a lot of female fans besieged traveling RVs/rooms of these male artistes for a back stage close up and probably more. From my observation, about 80% of all the female fans would go in to have a special session with these male artistes if given the opportunity. Then I came to the conclusion that all these women were thinking was that I have got what it takes to be with AKON or Chris Brown and when I enquired about female artistes, men were not all over the place cos  most men believe that likes of Rihana or Michele Williams WILL NOT invite you into their rooms/RVs to have a special session.

crazykid:

@sauron. Ahh! I now get your definitation of a man. A man must be academically, financially, economically, socially, and sexually responsible. Now I agree with you, I think they are scarce.

Thank Ya.

stillwater:

Well true. However, such a statement gives room for guys to do as they please. I won't stand for that.

It's a MAN's world, Stilly. . . . .
Don't hate, appreciate.

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Maybe  shortage of good men by some women who some times put  men on a higher standard.  

It would be more appropriate to say the majority of women dont know what they want.

They want a baby at 17, a bad boy at 19, a player at 23 and a good man at 30 . . . by which time its too late.

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No

If you find yourself struggling to get a man, then you are just unlucky

Keep searching!!!

.watever90:

I'm not talking about dating,I'm not talking about cheating,he might not necessarily cheat on u,don't get me wrong,he might be faithful to u,all I'm saying is fighting to keep him by ur side,wt ur attitude and yourself,even when hes not looking outside

I just believe you have to treat people how you want to be treated. That's enough for me.

~Sauron~:


It's a MAN's world, Stilly. . . . .
Don't hate, appreciate.

Don't flatter yourself. I would never trade my nether regions for the nonsense between your legs. *spits on it and laughs*

stillwater:

Don't flatter yourself. I would never trade my nether regions for the nonsense between your legs. *spits on it and laughs*

Lies Lies Lies!!!
U once asked me if doing a sex change would be okay. . . . .
Who doesn't want to be a man? I would rather be a crippled man than carry 2 big coconuts on ma chest everyday.
It's tacky to carry those around.

.watever90:

I'm not talking about dating,I'm not talking about cheating,he might not necessarily cheat on u,don't get me wrong,he might be faithful to u,all I'm saying is fighting to keep him by ur side,wt ur attitude and yourself,even when hes not looking outside

I agree with u here. . . . .

Don't mind these Bachelorettes who don't know what it takes to keep a man in marriage.
A woman has to fight every day to keep his man on a leash. Good food, adequate care, good sex et al.
Where is Sistawoman to give us some tips.

stillwater:

I just believe you have to treat people how you want to be treated. That's enough for me.

Don't flatter yourself. I would never trade my nether regions for the nonsense between your legs. *spits on it and laughs*

wait until u r married,ur language wil definitely change

Demographically, there are always more women than men from the post-teen period. If you don't like it, move to China where the one-child policy has led to the greater abortion of females.