I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
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Mizmycoli (Nairaland love expert )
Kachisbarbie ( pretty Lady analyst

Brother, you really have to ask your self what's wrong, and make corrections, because from my experience, when it comes to relationship, woman likes to be pampered, after first round of sex, they behavior changes, and you see the persons character and attitude and if you can handle it you stick to it, but if you can not, it's left for you, so am saying baba, don't think they hate you, love your self, accept your person and you will be loved.

What exactly do you want?

chekasforchekas:
Brother, you really have to ask your self what's wrong, and make corrections, because from my experience, when it comes to relationship, woman likes to be pampered, after first round of sex, they behavior changes, and you see the persons character and attitude and if you can handle it you stick to it, but if you can not, it's left for you, so am saying baba, don't think they hate you, love your self, accept your person and you will be loved.

Thanks bro, actually my best company is myself

Coz women are more attracted to the bad guys, they feel more secure around them

youngice:

Thanks bro, actually my best company is myself

Even after the so called first round of hot whatever, show her love, care, treat her nice, stand by her, pet her, I mean when when she is hating, accept her, cuddle, take her out and make sure you have a sweet washing mouth, e go work magic for you.

The reality is Ladies hate Nice guys..

I am not saying you should stop been nice, but if ur Nice level is on 80%, reduce it to 10% and see how it works..

Check out this moniker on Nairaland.. "CharlesNneji1" and get his books or E-books.. Mehn, it will help you alot.. You will be catching all those babes like Fish.. and they will swam around you like flies..

PS: Ladies will always be Ladies..

Bimffo:
The reality is Ladies hate Nice guys..

I am not saying you should stop been nice, but if ur Nice level is on 80%, reduce it to 10% and see how it works..

Check out this moniker on Nairaland.. "CharlesNneji1" and get his books or E-books.. Mehn, it will help you alot.. You will be catching all those babes like Fish.. and they will swam around you like flies..

PS: Ladies will always be Ladies..

I tried being a bad guy, shit doesn't just suit me

Extom:
What exactly do you want?

Just a normal relationship

youngice:

I tried being a bad guy, shit doesn't just suit me

Looll.. Dont be a bad guy.. Be inbetween a Bad guy and a good guy, it works like hell.. Gonna Suit U perfectly.. Just dont be too Nice.. Nigerian girls don worth that shii

Why not try Jigoloism

youngice:
I won't deceive my self I'm a nice guy to the core
I'm the kind of guy that holds the door open for a lady
I call her by 6:45 to be the first to start her day. I don't shout at her , I'm a nice guy but I'm not a pushover
I don't take shiit (what I considered shit might vary from what others considered shit)
But I have perennial bad luck with women ,looks can be deceiving , I have the looks a player and also my startup lines and catch phrases are straight out of the players manual,I tried to be a player but it never worked out for me
Maybe it because I'm the only guy among 3 girls and mom ensured and still ensures that I treat all women like queens ,im yet to meet a lady that hasn't given me her her number and I'm very picky but I've only had 2 successes in all my dating attempts, admittedly I'm quite young (very early 20's) , but in all the ladies I've woed I've observed a pattern it goes like this

week 1 everything perfect, she calls I call , lovey dovey shi, love is in the air

week 2 I really have no idea what always happens

subsequently she hates me,absolutely detest me, she doesn't reply pings, see's me and ignores me I'm beginning to wonder if I have a problem because the pattern is getting very annoying
PS
I'm in an 'all guys uni (FUTO) and I'm in my early 20's with a young fac
please relationship experts advise needed
Only mature comments

...well,dis is becos dey care excessively or more dan normal dats y d als take dem for granted..especially wen she doesnt love him as much as he does

I don't know why they do... Buh I think you shld change the topic from "nice guys" to "nice people" cos nice girls their experiences too... It aint no gender thang.

Youngreinhard:
I don't know why they do... Buh I think you shld change the topic from "nice guys" to "nice people" cos nice girls their experiences too... It aint no gender thang.

Very nice suggestion

What is your definition of niceness?

andromida:
What is your definition of niceness?

I don't intend to take her firva ride, I'm don't bully her and shout at he, I don't devalue her by making her feel inferior and unwanted, I encourage her, tell her how beautiful she is and the likes

youngice:

I don't intend to take her firva ride, I'm don't bully her and shout at he, I don't devalue her by making her feel inferior and unwanted, I encourage her, tell her how beautiful she is and the likes

You sound nice but you know too much of anything can become a bad thing and sometimes the attraction just dies it's not your fault and there is nothing you can do. Its not because you are not a jerk maybe she is not feeling you anymore. If you have to act like a jerk before a woman likes you then she does not really like you she likes the act you are putting on and how long do you plan to keep up the act? See why it's best to be yourself?

If she likes bad boys, you may have to leave her so she can find what she is looking for and you can find someone who appreciates what you have to offer.

andromida:


You sound nice but you know too much of anything can become a bad thing and sometimes the attraction just dies it's not your fault and there is nothing you can do. Its not because you are not a jerk maybe she is not feeling you anymore. If you have to act like a jerk before a woman likes you then she does not really like you she likes the act you are putting on and how long do you plan to keep up the act? See why it's best to be yourself?

If she likes bad boys, you may have to leave her so she can find what she is looking for and you can find someone who appreciates what you have to offer.

well thanks for the advice ,but when affection dies why does it metamorph to hate on her side

youngice:
well thanks for the advice ,but when affection dies if does it metamorph to hate

Your hating her serves no one not even you. Hate is as strong as love only negative and destructive especially to the person carrying it. There is no guarantee that the love you feel for someone will be reciprocated and really any one has the right to do what they want to do. Just free your mind you will find a better match for yourself.

andromida:


Your hating her serves no one not even you. Hate is as strong as love only negative and destructive especially to the person carrying it. There is no guarantee that the love you feel for someone will be reciprocated and really any one has the right to do what they want to do. Just free your mind you will find a better match for yourself.

its the other way round , she begins to hate me,

youngice:
it the other way round , she begins to hates me,

Why do you think she hates you?

andromida:


Why do you think she hates you?

shw seizes an form of relationship and her friends start avoiding me and she ignores my calls etc

Don't act nice

lilmax:
Don't act nice

its not an act

OohMpa:
Here's why:

1) They feel you're a player cos all players start nicely

2) They see you as hypocrites who want sth. After that, hasta la vista

3) You don't live in the real world. Obviously, you can't relate to them

4) You'd always be second to the real guys. At least they don't lie to them

5) Nice gets you a relationship, real sustains a relationship. That's where they wanna be

Keep on with the nice while ooh Mpa gets realer every second. Guys like you really up ooh Mpa's statistics

#Sai

What do u mean by real

You said it yourself it may be your choosiness
Leave your pride, that ugly girl may be your queen

keep deceiving yourselves with the 'ladies love bad guys' notion, don't go and work on your characters, manners and your words.maybe when you stop being picky and give others the chance to receive the love you crave for, you'll also find what you're searching for

Be true to yourself.

uglyogre:
keep deceiving yourselves with the 'ladies love bad guys' notion, don't go and work on your characters, manners and your words.maybe when you stop being picky and give others the chance to receive the love you crave for, you'll also find what you're searching for

My mannerisms are impeccable
Bout character let's just say I'm not your average Joe

You can't force yourself on someone, they either like you or they don't.

If they like you, on that basis shall you build the relationship. If it doesn't work out in the long run, they still like you for who you are

You need spiritual maturity to understand this sha.

Who isn't a nice guy?

Even the worst player believes he's got a heart of gold and is phucking ready to swear to that

@Op, all you need do is, learn to keep your 'care' in check. Don't show forth too many affections, you'll end up divulging your weakness which would be used against you in return.

Moderation is the word.

Girls are like kids. For their safety, you should know when to buy them a candy and when to refuse them a candy.

And just like a good father would do, always have a decent reason for not buying a candy when it was needed.