I had thought to make my wedding day an extraordinary one.  I had big plans for it because few of my friends that wedded had it in bigger styles but all my plans failed abruptly and life is no longer moving as expected.  I attended friends wedding and mine cannot be different because all my friends are expecting it big from me. 

A project I got myself involved fired back against me and things went wrong, cash drained in the process.  My fiancé is not happy with the decision I have taken and she wants both of us to go ahead with the marriage as planned.   To her, I should forget about competing with my friends. 

I have told her that, I might forget about marriage because I have no interest in any marriage due to condition of things.  Please, I need your opinion because friends expect more from me and I don’t want to put myself in shame.

Then please dont get married. What are you 8? A grown man won't worry about meeting up to standards when it comes to friends. Na wa

Nigerians and unnecessary competition. Wonders shall never end.

There are people in Nigeria who don't have food to eat and u're here wondering on how to compete with your friends for a big wedding. If you can't afford it, you can't.  Like chika98 said, are you 8 ?

na you sabi

Hehehehehe, what ever rocks your boat fella, afterall ur going to be sailing in it alone,

I guess he is 8. because a grown man would understand that marriage aint all about the wedding day. Its about being with the woman/man that you truly love and care about. though the good and bad times. Really poster, you cant be serious.

seeu:

I had thought to make my wedding day an extraordinary one. I had big plans for it because few of my friends that wedded had it in bigger styles but all my plans failed abruptly and life is no longer moving as expected. I attended friends wedding and mine cannot be different because all my friends are expecting it big from me.

A project I got myself involved fired back against me and things went wrong, cash drained in the process. My fiancé is not happy with the decision I have taken and she wants both of us to go ahead with the marriage as planned. To her, I should forget about competing with my friends.

I have told her that, I might forget about marriage because I have no interest in any marriage due to condition of things. Please, I need your opinion because friends expect more from me and I don’t want to put myself in shame.

Bulls**t!!!

My dear marriage is more than just money. Have you thought of how your fiance would feel if you call it off? Do you know the kind of emotional and physical heart beak you're putting her into, I know you need cash, but you must understand that there are some people who don't even have a penney but because of the love they have for each other, they still get married. So do a rethink and come up with a better idea.

You really don't want to get married and you should tell your wife to be just that. All this reasons you are giving are just lame a$$ excuses to avoid getting married. Be mature and embrace honesty.

@Poster
U want wat u want n there's no denying it. It's gud to know u planned well for it but it tumbled over unfortunately but u can not say u won't get married again dat is childish.
Wat u need to do is replan the wedding day maybe wit a smaller budget; wit gud planning u just mite be able to bring out the effect u desire so don't throw ur hands up in despair and think it's over.

I dont think u know what marriage entails, its not all about the wedding day Bro

@poster you are a big fool

@poster
dnt u think tellin ur fiancee dat u wunt marry her because u dnt have money to impress your friends will break her heart?  
walahi i suppose come ya house with bulahlah (horse whip)

you are not competing with anyone.

if they are really your friends they should understand that things just got rough for u and they should rally round u now.

go ahead with your wedding plans, you don't have to be a millionaire to get married.

there is more to the wedding than the party.

u should not have a lavish party and go hungry after that.

just take it easy and get married if not for anything for your wife to be since she understands your predicament from your story

you will be happier if you do

remember that there is a blessing that goes with marriage

for he that findeth a wife findeth a good thing and obtaineth favour from the lord

our brother in the lord
Pastor, elder, speaker, minister, priest, Mr-Crackles have spoken well

[size=13pt]@poster
You are no husband material, so free your fiancé
What your wife to be wants is a Man not a someone acting like a big boy in town [/size]

You actually shouldn't marry because to you it's a competition not the fact that you are being joined with the one you love.

@all,

I thank you all for your contributions but the one that said "I'am a big fool," should ask himself if he is worthy of being here like others. I have a plan for my wedding and after it but situation of things has forced me to give up any idea of getting married now. Though, I feel for my fiance who had already told some of his friends and members of her family that plans were in place to get wedded in 3 to 4 months time. But, she has to endure it, such is life.

make up your mind jare
gud luck

seeu:

@all,

I thank you all for your contributions but the one that said "I'am a big fool," should ask himself if he is worthy of being here like others. I have a plan for my wedding and after it but situation of things has forced me to give up any idea of getting married now. Though, I feel for my fiance who had already told some of his friends and members of her family that plans were in place to get wedded in 3 to 4 months time. But, she has to endure it, such is life.

wait, na guy abi girl u de marry sef?

Hey, the truth is that you "Seeu" don't love ur fiancee (the way I see it), cos if you do you wouldn't think dis way. Are you marrying your friends or your wife (answer me).
MY ADVICE: Please, make do with wat you have and GO AHEAD with your marriage plans. You still have more opportunities to make THINGS BIG , such as:
(1) YOUR CHILD DEDICATION
(2) YOUR WEDDING ANNIVERSARY, etc.

Go ahead with your marriage and God will see you thru. Who knows along the line (a week or 3 days to your wedding), Luck will shine on you. MAKE A MOVE FIRST AND GOD WILL SEE YOU THRU.

Kindest Regards.
Kindy

@seeu when it was time for me to wed my wife,i don;t even have money to buy wedding dresses talk more of to feed even 50 guests but all i did was switch the little i had on me to the traditional wedding,though still came out very small but with the Grace of God 4 years after i think i can afford to re-wed her in any part of the world right now if i so choose to ,so my advise is -it does not matter how you started the most important is the luck and happiness the marriage will bring for you.

the real marriage is what takes place after the ceremony

so if your GF is right for you, i suggest you marry her ang

forget whatever stupid competition u have with your friends

cos at the end, if their Wives aint as good as your, then their

marriage sucks with all the big ceremony. and bear in mind that

you may loose your GF for something this worthless. and please

elaborate weddings are outta of fashion, just make it decent and

nice. and u guys get on to the challenges of the real thing. goodluck.

I suggest you should not get married because you still have a long way in life. Competition? You are right. The girl should be the one worried about the size of wedding and not you.Are you trading place with your wife to be? Grow up please.

I go by the manual;

And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
Gen 2:18 (KJV)

If it's not good for a man to be alone then it is an evil !

It's not money marrying, it is the two of you. I hardly spent any cash when I got married.

Everything was all set by God:

The kingdom of heaven is like unto a certain king, which made a marriage for his son,
Matt 22:2 (KJV)

whao, you really have a long way to go man, if that's your reason for not getting married.

This guy is more of a bridezilla than his fiancee.

Is better to be your self, did you and your friends came to this word same day, {I WILL BUILD MY HOUSE LIKE LAGBAJA} if carefull not taken you will never lay a block, U better Tell the truth U still want enjoy the street small.

marriage aint competition. Go into it when u are ready. However a society wedding like u may be planning is not a guarantee of a successful marriage

its a girl!
the poster is female i find it almost impossible to imagine a guy thinking like this
no offence to the ladies i'm one but this is most common with ladies never heard of a guy like this