virginboy1:
Eight years ago when I got the news that my mum was pregnant,I was devastated,while everybody were busy expressing the mantra "every child is a blessing".I wasn't happy because another child from a family of 7 will be coming to join this difficult society and as the first Issue of the Family I wasn't comfortable due to the unforseen burden I was going to carry.I pondered over it and got over it with time.
Fast Forward to this year 2015,I just got a news that my mom is pregnant again.
As the 1st child,I am really worried,perplexed and scared.Why?"Finance Responsibilities".

I wonder why many parent create burdens for the first child knownily and unknownily.Moreover,I am still a student.Am disappointed in my dad though.
Also,my mom is in her late 40s,I am afraid of her health,at times I do feel pity and sad for her whenever she walks with weakness and tiredness.

Please all expereinced and knowlegable nairalanders,I need your opinion,discretion,assertions and adviced on this issue please.Thank You.

stinggy:
OP, don't you think your parents have their lives to live? Ok you care about the added financial responsibilities on them, but do you feel they've not thought of it themselves?
You may honestly care for them, but man, it's their lives, their ways!

stinggy:
OP, don't you think your parents have their lives to live? Ok you care about the added financial responsibilities on them, but do you feel they've not thought of it themselves?
You may honestly care for them, but man, it's their lives, their ways!

Nobleval:
excuse me please!,what are you trying to prove? The guy know very well about his family and from the look of things his father isn't financially capable of taking care of 5 kids,talk less of 8! C'mon dude,lets face the fact!,this isn't about their life,it's about family planning. Take a look at Northern Nigeria,you'd see what lack of birth control has done to the region,:apart from poverty and illiteracy it has aided in churning out terrorists. When a mother breeds like rats and let them run around without proper home and formal training,what do you get at the end?...potential gangs,armed robbers,419ers,touts, e.t.c

You have to agree with me that the Op has every right to be concerned,because apart from the economic burden which this kid and others before him/her will bring to the family,which could hinder his education,it is certainly a future burden waiting for him.

In a family like this it's expected that the first issue continues from where his parents stopped which is very tasking and uneccessary. He has his life to live,his future and aims in life,he has to marry and adding these avoidable burdens to them isn't advisable.

And also you have to consider his mum's health,c'mon! What's she doing with eight kids at her age?,that's very risky...she should go on pills after this kid. I'd advise the Op to have a serious discussion with his parents on this issue,so that this mistake will not be repeated.
We've gone past the age when we give birth to scores of kids because we believe that they're from God...this is 21st century.

carefreewannabe:
Virginboy, I can understand your worries. However, your parents can do whatever they like and you can't stop them. Now it is too late anyway.

To help you, I would say that even though you are the first child, it does not mean that you have to take responsibility for all these kids. Your parents have to in the first place and when they grow old, your should share the responsibility among you and your other older siblings.

Rosarie:
depends on d age difference.

carefreewannabe:


Explain.

striktlymi:
I don't appreciate it when children are seen as burdens. No child is a burden, in my opinion, no matter the circumstance.

Rosarie:
if d age difference between him n d younger ones esp d second is much child as soon as his done with skl and starts working due to d long gap mayb dAats wen d younger might b entering college.been d only working child,he wil be expected to join d parents or assist d younger ones but if d gap is not much he n d younger ones will share d responsibilities

virginboy1:
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Nobleval:
excuse me please!,what are you trying to prove? The guy know very well about his family and from the look of things his father isn't financially capable of taking care of 5 kids,talk less of 8! C'mon dude,lets face the fact!,this isn't about their life,it's about family planning. Take a look at Northern Nigeria,you'd see what lack of birth control has done to the region,:apart from poverty and illiteracy it has aided in churning out terrorists. When a mother breeds like rats and let them run around without proper home and formal training,what do you get at the end?...potential gangs,armed robbers,419ers,touts, e.t.c

You have to agree with me that the Op has every right to be concerned,because apart from the economic burden which this kid and others before him/her will bring to the family,which could hinder his education,it is certainly a future burden waiting for him.

In a family like this it's expected that the first issue continues from where his parents stopped which is very tasking and uneccessary. He has his life to live,his future and aims in life,he has to marry and adding these avoidable burdens to them isn't advisable.

And also you have to consider his mum's health,c'mon! What's she doing with eight kids at her age?,that's very risky...she should go on pills after this kid. I'd advise the Op to have a serious discussion with his parents on this issue,so that this mistake will not be repeated.
We've gone past the age when we give birth to scores of kids because we believe that they're from God...this is 21st century.

carefreewannabe:


Virginboy1, how old are you and your siblings?