My friend asked me to post this for her because she does not have a computer. Here are her words below.

Please help me figure him out. i am dating him he is nigerian. He is very good to me, with one exception. He does not buy me gifts. No Birthday, No Valentines day, Nothing. I am reading here that Nigerian men are good providers and that doesnt seem to be the case with mine.

He is very good to me. He always calls and we spend alot of time together indoors.He speaks to me respectfully and compliments me all the time on my beauty and intelligence. Whenever i call him he answers right away, but he never offers to pay for anything that i need, even if he knows that i am stuggling. Instead he jusgt provides supportive words, and makes sure that I take care of it the best way I can. We both work, and I can take care of myself, but shouldnt he offer when times are a little tight for me?

He always sends large sums of money to his people back home each month, and i figure that is why he can't offer me anything. I tried to complain once, but all he says was that he will buy me something soon.

I have loaned him money before and he has repaid me. Christmas is coming. I usually buy him something. Should I buy him a gift this year?

some people are naija in name only

Lmao.

If he was dating a Naija chic he wpouldnt have lasted a week.

*laughs to death*

Your a Greedy thief!

So because he doesnt buy gifts for you, your angry! At least he has your time, talks to you and makes you feel good but it is awoof and gifts your finding in a relationship!

And when i say some women are retards, NLanders will be barking at me like dogs with rabbies!

i am not greedy. i have given more to the relationship than he has. But honestly i am only asking for gifts for the holidays. I just feel embarrased when my friends asked what he he gave me and i have nothing to show for it.

MSMAMASITA:

My friend asked me to post this for her because she does not have a computer. Here are her words below.

Please help me figure him out. i am dating him he is nigerian. He is very good to me, with one exception. He does not buy me gifts. No Birthday, No Valentines day, Nothing. I am reading here that Nigerian men are good providers and that doesnt seem to be the case with mine.

He is very good to me. He always calls and we spend alot of time together indoors.He speaks to me respectfully and compliments me all the time on my beauty and intelligence. Whenever i call him he answers right away, but he never offers to pay for anything that i need, even if he knows that i am stuggling. Instead he jusgt provides supportive words, and makes sure that I take care of it the best way I can. We both work, and I can take care of myself, but shouldnt he offer when times are a little tight for me?

He always sends large sums of money to his people back home each month, and i figure that is why he can't offer me anything. I tried to complain once, but all he says was that he will buy me something soon.

I have loaned him money before and he has repaid me. Christmas is coming. I usually buy him something. Should I buy him a gift this year?

Let's ignore the highlighted portion of your. . . errr. . . friend's posts for a moment and get to the problem at hand. I gotta ask, is this a Business Transaction or a Romantic Relationship?

By all accounts, your. . . . errr. . . friend's boyfriend is a very nice guy, he is respectful and supportive (which coming from a Niaja guy is  . ^{I kid, I Kid. . . Pipe down guys}) but because he is not doling out the cash like Daddy Warbucks, You. . . err. . . I mean she is not happy?

Yep, she's got problems alright and it's got nothing to do with the guy.

Oh Merry Christmas

i am honestly seeking help here not sarcasm.

My advice is to dump him or come to me i'll give you as much gifts as you want as long as you repay me with sex. Geez woman don't know what they want.have you ever thought maybe he's trying to know if you're materialistic or not.plus be independent.never rely on others.that's weakness.

MSMAMASITA:

i am not greedy. i have given more to the relationship than he has. But honestly i am only asking for gifts for the holidays. I just feel embarrased when my friends asked what he he gave me and i have nothing to show for it.

U are not greedy?? I thunk it was your friend that asked u to post for her.

I feel your pain, some of them are Good but some of them are just horrible,I think he is intentionally doing it.But again buy him a gift and if he doesnt buy you one this Christmas simply ask him.

MSMAMASITA:

i am not greedy. i have given more to the relationship than he has. But honestly i am only asking for gifts for the holidays. I just feel embarrased when my friends asked what he he gave me and i have nothing to show for it.

so its all about what your friends think?

Choose one - him or your friends.

MSMAMASITA:

i am not greedy. i have given more to the relationship than he has. But honestly i am only asking for gifts for the holidays. I

hehehe so its not about "your friend" anymore?



Threaten to withdraw sex and see if your account balance wont go up  

~Sauron~:

U are not greedy?? I thunk it was your friend that asked u to post for her.

Jeez you beat me to that!

Kai! E for too sweet if to say na me yab am first, lol

@poster

Your such a lousy liar and you are definately the greediest chick on this planet and horrid liar sha!

Next time plan your stories well unless these NLanders will sux your blood dry with cynism and investigations, lol

MSMAMASITA:

i am not greedy. i have given more to the relationship than he has. But honestly i am only asking for gifts for the holidays. I just feel embarrased when my friends asked what he he gave me and i have nothing to show for it.

Oh Swerri, when you post as your friend, you gotta remain in Character. . . You can't be flip flopping like this coz it kinda takes away from what you are saying. . . just a teensy weensy itty bitty.

Amateurs.

The replies i am posting are in "her words". please see below.

This is not a business transaction. He already has his papers. I have seen them.

I think the problem is most of them do not see anything special in gifts. As for me, I love gifts and surprises so I can understand where you're coming from. I'm guessing he just does not see a big deal in giving you gifts.

Don't listen to Karmamod o! If you withdraw sex, he will get it somewhere else

Storyland Storyland!! another fictitious story and even if its true someone rightly asked and i think you need to ask yourself or your friend that question,Do you have a romantic relationship or a business transaction? once you answer that your problem is half-solved

is she phoning in her replies?  

Gently nudge him to see why he doesnt give gifts. Maybe he's just not used to it, many nigerian men are not raised in a gift-giving culture.

i am on the phone with her reading the replies to her while i type her response - Why is this a big deal anyway. it does not take away from the problem.

davidylan - yes i do feel hurt when my friends ask. Wouldnt you?

KarmaMod:

hehehe so its not about "your friend" anymore?



Threaten to withdraw sex and see if your account balance wont go up  

Rotflmao! ewo na ri be. . . hehehe!

All sorts of Osirisiri on Nairaland!!

MSMAMASITA:

i am honestly seeking help here not sarcasm.

Seeking help on what to do with a Naija guy who is isn't smacking you across the face, saying "Gerin that kisin and make a sammich woman". . . that Naija guy? Okay now!

Moonstone:


Don't listen to Karmamod o! If you withdraw sex, he will get it somewhere else

Na lie!   Naija girls at least are smart. Giving it up for something. hahahaaaa

seriously stop with the "my friend" bullshit. If she doesnt have a computer, let her use your dam computer to make the thread you selfish loon or just quit lying

Pick one.

A-40:

Storyland Storyland!! another fictitious story and even if its true someone rightly asked and i think you need to ask yourself or your friend that question,Do you have a romantic relationship or a business transaction? once you answer that your problem is half-solved

She wants gifts. . . . . .she can't be bovvered about romance.
Mos' def it's a business transaction.

**Reads the thread, moves on to another thread**

**Waste of bandwidth and time**

MSMAMASITA:

i am on the phone with her reading the replies to her while i type her response - Why is this a big deal anyway. it does not take away from the problem.

davidylan - yes i do feel hurt when my friends ask. Wouldnt you?

Oh so i was right . . .  

Depends on how well you know your partner . . . if you know he's not the gift giving type, either you try to make him see why you think he shld start cultivating the habit or just go with the flow. We cant all be like everyone else. Gift giving is not about showing off to your friends . . .

KarmaMod:

Na lie!   Naija girls at least are smart. Giving it up for something. hahahaaaa

seriously stop with the "my friend" bullshit. If she doesnt have a computer, let her use your dam computer to make the thread you selfish loon or just quit lying

Pick one.

She will soon get tired of my friend, my friend.
Karma, don't put this girl in trouble abeg   Her "friend" will listen and before you know it, they will call you a homewreck.

OP, talk to him. They might be stubborn goats but they hear once in a while

A-40, if you like, deny your girl gifts. is it not you giving recharge cards? Yeye! LOL!

MSMAMASITA:

The replies i am posting are in "her words". please see below.

This is not a business transaction. He already has his papers. I have seen them.

I was not asking in the context of him having his papers. The only kind of relationship I know where one party expects money in return is a Business relationship, that's why I asked.

All Jokes aside, Personally, I don't think it's a biggie. As long as he is there for her. . . you. . . her. . . whoever and he treats her right, does not abuse her verbally, emotionally and physically. . . it's all good. However, if you. . . she. . . both of you insist on getting gift, you can ask in a playful way, don't go at him like a janduku going to battle.

Pataki:

**Reads the thread, moves on to another thread**

**Waste of bandwidth and time**

Player Pataki, your wealth of experience is needed here. . . . .
How can u solve this dilemma. . . . . . .Should she cash in or bail out??

Dump him and get a guy who would get you many gifts.and you cud pay with sex. Seriously i don't think you have an issues since he sends back money to his family.it's probably that he sees you as a liability.

Pataki:

**Reads the thread, moves on to another thread**

**Waste of bandwidth and time**

Rotflmao!

**Uses her 800lbs gorilla self to block the thread door**

ask him y, if its because he is borke then understand that if you really love him, jst ask him y first

davidylan i will respond to you.

he has been here a long time. when i asked him if he has brought gifts for women before he said of course. He also said that he used to take women on dates. but we never go anywhere. but he says of all the women he has dated he connects with me the best.

If she had said that she loans him money and he DOES NOT pay back, I'd care enough to seriously respond

But since ive yet to get the problem. Na awada.