elantraceey:


Honestly you need a brain reconstruction because you seem to have been brainwashed outside



Nor be the same kitten she and other girls get? If you don't enjoy it with her have you tired teaching her to do it in a way she'll enjoy it?



Abeg i leave this matter for the iyas of this section.

Dis new nairalander sef
Girl, what is affecting him is psychological. It doesn't matter whether its same punny she has other girls have

Dyt:


Love making is not abt size of joystick
Its from within
*hammer*

Story!!!... Dyt, I catch you today... Why u dey talk like this na?, so size doesn't matter again?

passionate88:
Story!!!... Dyt, I catch you today... Why u dey talk like this na?, so size doesn't matter again?

When did size become issue? Even the man with a thumb size won't go in if not lubricated.

Feelings goes a long way

Dyt:


When did size become issue? Even the man with a thumb size won't go in if not lubricated.

Feelings goes a long way

It's not about going in... Does sixe matters?

passionate88:
It's not about going in... Does sixe matters?

Noooooo

Doesn't mean u shldd have that of a horse n call it normal

Dyt:



Noooooo

Doesn't mean u shldd have that of a horse n call it normal

Ok o... Happy val sha..

carefreewannabe:

1. I consider the wedding ceremony stressful and a waste of money.

Who has ever stressed an expensive or celebratory wedding ceremony as fundamental or even essential for marriage? Reject marriage if you choose, but please spare us the abject mewling.

carefreewannabe:

2. I can't promise anyone to love them till the day I die and nobody can promise me to love me till the day they die. Feelings change over time.

He'll probably die before you as is often the case , but jokes aside, if you don't know that it's the commitment to love, not a dewy-eyed feeling of being in love, that sustains a marriage. Anyway sha, you are probably saving 2 people a lot of grief by not marrying.

carefreewannabe:

3. I believe that having a marriage certificate makes people take their spouses for granted, they stop trying and giving their best.

You are funny-sad in how you look for reasons against. The commitment to serve, love and care for someone makes you take them for granted, but "commitment-free fornication"doesn't. Let me guess; "marriage is just a piece of paper?" Funnily-sad, hilariously-tragic

carefreewannabe:

4. Once you have kids, you are a family and you better stay together until the kids are grown unless you have very serious issues that make you depressed or threaten your life, again no marriage certificate necessary to do this.

Because the stats showing that less than 1 in 10 married couples are likely to split up (I think by the time the kids reach 5), as opposed to 4 in 10 non-married and 6 in 10 non-cohabiting, clearly show otherwise and don't please you, you'd rather go with what you like too think?

You censoriously, almost religiously/legally say "you better stay together", but those who formally take this on themselves of their own volition via marriage, you deride? You are carrying something woman. Let it go, deal with it, then give utterance. This is just carping

carefreewannabe:

5. Many marriages are unhappy.

So? Many are deliriously happy - many people probably failed to graduate in your field, did that deter you at all? Or did it make you run around dissuading people from studying it?

carefreewannabe:

6. The divorce rate is rising.

So? As above. All the reasons for this are clear. Simply avoid them. Or with your freedom, choice, education and social justice is that too much of an ask . People with non of those advantages have happy marriages.

carefreewannabe:

7. I am a free human being, I am not going to sign a contract that will compel me to live with someone forever even if it is no longer for our good.

You really don't get it do you? No one "compels" anyone - it's a mutual desire. And when backed by the willingness to commit wholeheartedly. You simply don;t believe you are worthy or will find anyomne that will have that for you so defensively reject it

And you certainly don't sound free - you sound bound by fear, hesitancy, and the inability to give or commit yourself fully. And most of all incapable of putting anyone else needs - including childrens - above your own. At best you sound like you don;t have the wherewithal to get the kind of man you really want - hence your predilection with soft porn . You'll make a great spinster aunt !

carefreewannabe:

8. Marriage offers nothing I would want to have and nothing I can't have without marriage.

Actually you have nothing to give a man who understands, is worthy and desirous of marriage.

carefreewannabe:

I hope, I have not discouraged you, TV01 will be angry with me.

Discouraging the faint-hearted or incapable is not necessarily a bad thing. If he is up for it he'll get there with or without your drivel.

Angry? No Carefreewannabe, as a marriage advocate and testifier, I'm just plain sad at your utter lack of understanding and your insistence on traducing what you do not know and sound like you can't comprehend in principle or in practice.


TV

carefreewannabe:




I also hope, it will work and I am quite optimistic it will but you have to work on it and put some effort into it.

Also, educate yourself and find out what women like. Each woman is different but there is a lot you can try to work it out.
Google for more tips.

madam, E never do?

Ok incompatible for sex again? Never heard of that, OP tell me something biko make I dey learn.

Grendel:

let me be plain
i nor dey enjoy having sex with her but when i do outside ... omo na sweet ooo

Imagine, that means say you don dey cheat on her tay-tay. Imaging her telling you that if she dey do am for outside na enjoyment beyound doubt as well. What would do or say as well? I just wish say she is here to read/reading your post and comments now.

Seemyfather:


Imagine, that means say you don dey cheat on her tay-tay. Imaging her telling you that if she dey do am for outside na enjoyment beyound doubt as well. What would do or say as well? I just wish say she is here to read/reading your post and comments now.

Thanks bro. I'm sure you did not read the part where I stated she denied me of having sex with her after four good months. She forced me to play away match.

carefreewannabe:


If there is no medical condition attached to her pain, then the reason is possibly that she wasn't hot enough and therefore not wet enough before you started. Make sure that she is relaxed before you penetrate her and take your time for the pre-intimacy. You can create a nice atmosphere when your child is sleeping by dimming the light or lighting some candles, have a nice romantic dinner before, then kiss her and stroke her body, be gentle and show her that her comfort is important to you.

I am quite sure that your problem can be solved.

carefreewannabe..you badt

These three questions are fundamental in dealing with your case:

1. Did she have any CS issue before meeting you or during delivery of your kid?
2. Has this problem been from the onset or started half way circumstantially?
3. Do you know the difference between love-making and having sex?

Let's diagnose before prescribing

TV01:

Who has ever stressed an expensive or celebratory wedding ceremony as fundamental or even essential for marriage? Reject marriage if you choose, but please spare us the abject mewling.

TV, the amount spent on the ceremony does not even matter. It's a waste of money to me whether it's cheap or expensive and it is stressful.

He'll probably die before you as is often the case , but jokes aside, if you don't know that it's the commitment to love, not a dewy-eyed feeling of being in love, that sustains a marriage. Anyway sha, you are probably saving 2 people a lot of grief by not marrying.

I am not a little girl TV, I know the difference between love and infatuation but I still don't get why I need a marriage certificate to consciously choose to love someone and why I should not leave if I cannot live up to this expectation.

And yes, you are right, TV, I am possibly saving people from grief by not marrying instead of making promises that I am not sure I can keep in 10, 20 or 30 years. I never make promises I am not sure I can keep.

You are funny-sad in how you look for reasons against. The commitment to serve, love and care for someone makes you take them for granted, but "commitment-free fornication"doesn't. Let me guess; "marriage is just a piece of paper?" Funnily-sad, hilariously-tragic

It is not just a piece of paper. It is meaningful to people like you and I respect it. And it also has some advantages. Married people enjoy some privileges when it comes to taxes, for example. There are more advantages but there are also ways to profit from them without a marriage certificate. De-facto or informal marriages are also recognized in more and more countries.

Because the stats showing that less than 1 in 10 married couples are likely to split up (I think by the time the kids reach 5), as opposed to 4 in 10 non-married and 6 in 10 non-cohabiting, clearly show otherwise and don't please you, you'd rather go with what you like too think?

I find this interesting, it would be nice if you provided the source for the numbers.
For me, the argument you put forward here that married people are less likely to split up is not an advantage per se. It also means that marriage and the cost of divorce makes people stay in unhealthy marriages, not always but often. This is one of the reasons why I don't like that idea.

You censoriously, almost religiously/legally say "you better stay together", but those who formally take this on themselves of their own volition via marriage, you deride? You are carrying something woman. Let it go, deal with it, then give utterance. This is just carping

They take it on themselves to stay together forever, not until their kids are able to live their own lives, that's a big difference.
They also take it on themselves to do stay together no matter what, which can be unhealthy.

So? Many are deliriously happy - many people probably failed to graduate in your field, did that deter you at all? Or did it make you run around dissuading people from studying it?

I don't dissuade nobody from marrying. I encourage different life-styles that suit different people and their individual personalities.
I am pro-choice, not pro-force. I embrace pluralistic societies.

So? As above. All the reasons for this are clear. Simply avoid them. Or with your freedom, choice, education and social justice is that too much of an ask . People with non of those advantages have happy marriages.

The rising number of divorces shows me that promises can be broken.
The high number of unhappy marriages, there are many, shows me that too many people are unable to live up to the vows they took. I can't take such promises seriously.

You really don't get it do you? No one "compels" anyone - it's a mutual desire. And when backed by the willingness to commit wholeheartedly. You simply don;t believe you are worthy or will find anyomne that will have that for you so defensively reject it

They desire it today and reject it tomorrow. Yeah, right.

And you certainly don't sound free - you sound bound by fear, hesitancy, and the inability to give or commit yourself fully. And most of all incapable of putting anyone else needs - including childrens - above your own. At best you sound like you don;t have the wherewithal to get the kind of man you really want - hence your predilection with soft porn . You'll make a great spinster aunt !

No, I am the only person I will ever FULLY commit to. I love myself too much to put anyone's needs above my own. That's the secret to my happiness. Even my children's needs will only be put above mine for a limited period of time.

Yeah, TV, I am fat, ugly and old and men are not interested in me, that's why I talk the way I do. I am an old, desperate cargo. Moreover, I have a bad personality, I don't take corrections and I nag.

Oh, and I don't know how to cook.

Soft-porn is the only way I can enjoy men.

Funny though, how the "soft-porn pictures" make you guys sweat and give each other advice on how to keep fit.

Actually you have nothing to give a man who understands, is worthy and desirous of marriage.

Exactly.

Discouraging the faint-hearted or incapable is not necessarily a bad thing. If he is up for it he'll get there with or without your drivel.

Ok.

Angry? No Carefreewannabe, as a marriage advocate and testifier, I'm just plain sad at your utter lack of understanding and your insistence on traducing what you do not know and sound like you can't comprehend in principle or in practice.


TV

I have a lot of understanding for those who choose marriage and I respect their choice, just that it is not mine and I want people to choose for themselves, and not be forced to go for something people tell them to even though it too often turns out to be a living hell.

Adult Only please.... Not all girls are sex freak, since u have such kinda woman, here is what u do, during sex, make sure she gets really wet by sucking and licking all her weak points, like breast, kitten, ears, before u insert your d!ck, den wen u insert your d!ck, make sure u go slow and steady concentrate so u don't come immediately, take your time, don't hit her hard, make sure she come, when she wanna come she will be d one asking u to hit her hard, den u know what to do, ..... Trust me, she will wanna have more of u over n over again...... Don't ever make d mistake to leave or cheat on her, ...... Thanks

Grendel:
i need matured advice pls,

I've being with my partner for five years, i love her and i've invested lots of time, trust and energy on her.

she is a good girl, well manna but we are not sexually compatible.
i don't know what to do about it because we have a two years kid and i can't endure what i cannot change
I'm still young beside i don't want to cheat on her.


please what should i do?

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Dyt:



U are sick right in the head
Anuofia

lol , why insult him like dat na.......i think he's trying 2 say his wife is boring on bed and dsnt like sex.....which rili cud put a guy off.....especially the pains she complains about during sex........its neither his fault nor d wifes, its just an unfortunate situation.

If she do feels pain, den, she nids treatmnt, she is infectd.

carefreewannabe:

TV, the amount spent on the ceremony does not even matter. It's a waste of money to me whether it's cheap or expensive and it is stressful.

This remains a non-point. Couples are free to have a registry only wedding - or even solemnize it traditionally with scarce all fuss and at minimal cost if they so choose.

carefreewannabe:

I am not a little girl TV, I know the difference between love and infatuation but I still don't get why I need a marriage certificate to consciously choose to love someone and why I should not leave if I cannot live up to this expectation.

I demur Carefree - it's not the difference between love and infatuation, it's the difference between love and a selfless commitment

carefreewannabe:

And yes, you are right, TV, I am possibly saving people from grief by not marrying instead of making promises that I am not sure I can keep in 10, 20 or 30 years. I never make promises I am not sure I can keep.

If you think you can, you probably can, and if you believe you can't you probably won't - as we say in the world of coaching. How wonderful to be able to avail oneself of His grace ! Liberals using the pretext of social justice to hide their personal and moral weaknesses !

carefreewannabe:

It is not just a piece of paper. It is meaningful to people like you and I respect it. And it also has some advantages. Married people enjoy some privileges when it comes to taxes, for example. There are more advantages but there are also ways to profit from them without a marriage certificate. De-facto or informal marriages are also recognized in more and more countries.

That's just it, you don't really respect it, you insidiously deride it - "meaningful to people like me", how haughty.

Nope, most Western countries have removed taxed breaks/allowances for married couples. And you still don't get it if you feel that tax breaks really sway those who truly understand marriage - if they levy a tax against it sef, those with understanding will still marry !

carefreewannabe:

I find this interesting, it would be nice if you provided the source for the numbers.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2004878/Unmarried-parents-6-times-likely-split-time-child-5.html
http://www.melaniephillips.com/this-is-another-blow-to-marriage
http://dailysignal.com/2015/02/13/5-facts-cohabitation-may-not-know/ - barely a day old!

carefreewannabe:

For me, the argument you put forward here that married people are less likely to split up is not an advantage per se. It also means that marriage and the cost of divorce makes people stay in unhealthy marriages, not always but often. This is one of the reasons why I don't like that idea.

Supposition. Co-habbing is unhealthier by all indications & more pathological in all ramifications; they tend to be more violent, poorer, and even more drugged. The truth is you simply trash marriage because you don't have the wherewithal to face it's responsibilities.

I've noticed - and not always commented - on your sly digs. There was a post recently where you claimed the current number of divorces is probably equally to what would have been unhappy marriages in the past. That is outrageous - yet you ask for sources when others make axiomatic claims

carefreewannabe:

They take it on themselves to stay together forever, not until their kids are able to live their own lives, that's a big difference.
They also take it on themselves to do stay together no matter what, which can be unhealthy.

Utter nonsense - all the studies show that traditional marriage remains by far and away the healthiest relationship type for both women and children - dig out any factual/scientific study to the contrary. Divorce affects adult children as well. Even those long since flown the nest !

And the the commitment to stay together means they are less likely to split-up for frivolous reasons. Childbirth actually prompts splitting up amongst many co-habbing couples!

carefreewannabe:

I don't dissuade nobody from marrying. I encourage different life-styles that suit different people and their individual personalities.
I am pro-choice, not pro-force. I embrace pluralistic societies.

More falsehood - I've asked you numerous times to expound on the benefits of your "relationship type". And feel free to do so for the "different lifestyles" you harp on about. Your focus is always on your perceived failings of marriage and why you reject it. Don't justify your relationship by deceitfully trashing marriage - sell it on it'sown merits.

carefreewannabe:

The rising number of divorces shows me that promises can be broken.

What has that to do with your commitment to keep any vows you make? Or the rising tide of obesity means it's inevitable you turn into a lard-ass ?

carefreewannabe:

The high number of unhappy marriages, there are many, shows me that too many people are unable to live up to the vows they took. I can't take such promises seriously.

Your promises, your commitment Carefree. With all your freedom, emancipation, education and choice, you are still not self-determinant? O strong woman who does not bend to societies dictates or live for anyone else - can't marry because other people sometimes fail at it? Pathetic!

carefreewannabe:
No, I am the only person I will ever FULLY commit to. I love myself too much to put anyone's needs above my own. That's the secret to my happiness. Even my children's needs will only be put above mine for a limited period of time.

Infatuation - Feeling love - commitment to love. I think I missed out solipsism & narcissism !

carefreewannabe:

Yeah, TV, I am fat, ugly and old and men are not interested in me, that's why I talk the way I do. I am an old, desperate cargo. Moreover, I have a bad personality, I don't take corrections and I nag.

Oh, and I don't know how to cook.

Yet you'd marry Emmanuel Neuer at the drop of a hat - what anyone is, is relative, but it seems relative to what you desire, you are truly lacking - find your level !

carefreewannabe:

Soft-porn is the only way I can enjoy men.

Don't feel too bad - you are in good company amongst NL' assorted divorcees, burger-married, willfull single mums, pre-menopausal harridans, damaged goods, serial abuse victims, old cargoes, beta-tied slatterns and past their sell by date singles. Just thought you could do better !

carefreewannabe:

Funny though, how the "soft-porn pictures" make you guys sweat and give each other advice on how to keep fit.

Hardly - I am superbly fit - evidenced here - and we've talked exercise repeatedly prior to those pics. Keep obsessing over photoshopped gay iconography !

carefreewannabe:

I have a lot of understanding for those who choose marriage and I respect their choice, just that it is not mine and I want people to choose for themselves, and not be forced to go for something people tell them to even though it too often turns out to be a living hell.

Not true - you are always slyly rubbishing marriage - self-evident by your refusal to acknowledge it is simply the best and most profitable male/female union. To society, the couple, their lineages and any offspring. You don't have to buy into it yourself, and nobody is forced to marry so why the campaign against it ?


TV

TV01:

This remains a non-point. Couples are free to have a registry only wedding - or even solemnize it traditionally with scarce all fuss and at minimal cost if they so choose.

And couples are free to live without a marriage certificate whether you like it or not.

I demur Carefree - it's not the difference between love and infatuation, it's the difference between love and a selfless commitment
If you think you can, you probably can, and if you believe you can't you probably won't - as we say in the world of coaching. How wonderful to be able to avail oneself of His grace ! Liberals using the pretext of social justice to hide their personal and moral weaknesses !

I can but I don't want to. And you are not in the position to judge me.

That's just it, you don't really respect it, you insidiously deride it - "meaningful to people like me", how haughty.

Sorry if you have this impression.

Nope, most Western countries have removed taxed breaks/allowances for married couples. And you still don't get it if you feel that tax breaks really sway those who truly understand marriage - if they levy a tax against it sef, those with understanding will still marry !

Which countries?

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2004878/Unmarried-parents-6-times-likely-split-time-child-5.html
http://www.melaniephillips.com/this-is-another-blow-to-marriage
http://dailysignal.com/2015/02/13/5-facts-cohabitation-may-not-know/ - barely a day old!
Supposition. Co-habbing is unhealthier by all indications & more pathological in all ramifications; they tend to be more violent, poorer, and even more drugged. The truth is you simply trash marriage because you don't have the wherewithal to face it's responsibilities.

I am sure these unhealthy, poor, violent couples would have found remedy in marriage. What kind of logic is that?

I've noticed - and not always commented - on your sly digs. There was a post recently where you claimed the current number of divorces is probably equally to what would have been unhappy marriages in the past. That is outrageous - yet you ask for sources when others make axiomatic claims

This is what I believe.

Utter nonsense - all the studies show that traditional marriage remains by far and away the healthiest relationship type for both women and children - dig out any factual/scientific study to the contrary. Divorce affects adult children as well. Even those long since flown the nest !

So do unhealthy marriages.

And the the commitment to stay together means they are less likely to split-up for frivolous reasons. Childbirth actually prompts splitting up amongst many co-habbing couples!

It also prompts divorce.

More falsehood - I've asked you numerous times to expound on the benefits of your "relationship type". And feel free to do so for the "different lifestyles" you harp on about. Your focus is always on your perceived failings of marriage and why you reject it. Don't justify your relationship by deceitfully trashing marriage - sell it on it'sown merits.

Not going to happen as long as people are made to believe fairytales about marriage.

What has that to do with your commitment to keep any vows you make? Or the rising tide of obesity means it's inevitable you turn into a lard-ass ?

Millions of people were naive enough to take vows they couldn't keep. Who am I to believe that it's realistic to live up to a promise for 20,30,40, 50 years?

Your promises, your commitment Carefree. With all your freedom, emancipation, education and choice, you are still not self-determinant? O strong woman who does not bend to societies dictates or live for anyone else - can't marry because other people sometimes fail at it? Pathetic!

Were you not the one screaming ad hominem not long ago?

Let me tell you something, now that we are at it, for people who had difficulties finding a spouse marriage is an achievement. For people who have a lot of choices, it isn't.

Infatuation - Feeling love - commitment to love. I think I missed out solipsism & narcissism !

I am committed to loving myself. As a Christian you should know that this is necessary to love your neighbor.
Maybe if you understood that loving oneself first is necessary to love others, you would be able to meet the expectations your faith requires of you, you are far from it in my opinion.

Yet you'd marry Emmanuel Neuer at the drop of a hat - what anyone is, is relative, but it seems relative to what you desire, you are truly lacking - find your level !

Are you jealous?

Don't feel too bad - you are in good company amongst NL' assorted divorcees, burger-married, willfull single mums, pre-menopausal harridans, damaged goods, serial abuse victims, old cargoes, beta-tied slatterns and past their sell by date singles. Just thought you could do better !

Christians throwing stones since 1 AD.

Hardly - I am superbly fit - evidenced here - and we've talked exercise repeatedly prior to those pics. Keep obsessing over photoshopped gay iconography !

It must have really hurt you guys. Sorry.

Not true - you are always slyly rubbishing marriage - self-evident by your refusal to acknowledge it is simply the best and most profitable male/female union. To society, the couple, their lineages and any offspring. You don't have to buy into it yourself, and nobody is forced to marry so why the campaign against it ?

I will campaign against it as long as you will feed people fairy-tales. Fair enough.

dasparrow:


I have much respect for you just reading your posts. Well done and keep doing you no matter what people say.

until her eyes clear well,well!
every1 is entitled to a road!

Carefreewannabe,

you are all at sea, no facts or figures, no cogent arguments, no principled positions, no real insights - just a pathological dislike of marriage dressed up as emancipation and enlightened thinking. I respond because you are dangerous not because your posts actually merit it.

carefreewannabe:

And couples are free to live without a marriage certificate whether you like it or not.

No one asserted to the contrary or disputed this . All I've done is champion marriage "the superior model" !

Further, this arose do to your rejecting marriage due to the cost - to which I clearly showed, that administrative costs aside, marriage costs only as much as you want it too.

carefreewannabe:

I can but I don't want to. And you are not in the position to judge me.

And you are in no position to denigrate marriage - or even speak of it with any real authority !

carefreewannabe:

Not going to happen as long as people are made to believe fairytales about marriage.

No one is made to believe anything. Marriage does exactly what it says on the labeling. What individual couples make of their unions rests with them.

carefreewannabe:

Millions of people were naive enough to take vows they couldn't keep. Who am I to believe that it's realistic to live up to a promise for 20,30,40, 50 years?

Believe what you please, countless numbers have done it and are doing it. Your lack of belief, conviction or faith in yourself or the calibre of man you can attract is your problem, not a failing of marriage.

carefreewannabe:

Let me tell you something, now that we are at it, for people who had difficulties finding a spouse marriage is an achievement. For people who have a lot of choices, it isn't.

You are in no position to do any kind of telling. You suffice merely to back-bite and gainsay.
And the usual poor logic - does lots of choice necessarily mean easy? Or speak to the quality of those choices vis-a-vis what one desires?

carefreewannabe:

I am committed to loving myself. As a Christian you should know that this is necessary to love your neighbor.
Maybe if you understood that loving oneself first is necessary to love others, you would be able to meet the expectations your faith requires of you, you are far from it in my opinion.

Risible. Trying to be spiritual and pious at the same time - and failing at both. With the best reading, it speaks to your rejection of marriage as due to your personal failings - which I've maintained all along !

carefreewannabe:
I will campaign against it as long as you will feed people fairy-tales. Fair enough.

Why not campaign for "Relationships" as they are far better - especially for the emancipated and enlightened


TV

Teefee I admire your slideshows ... Thanks for shiarin

TV01:
Carefreewannabe,

you are all at sea, no facts or figures, no cogent arguments, no principled positions, no real insights - just a pathological dislike of marriage dressed up as emancipation and enlightened thinking. I respond because you are dangerous not because your posts actually merit it.


No one asserted to the contrary or disputed this . All I've done is champion marriage "the superior model" !

Further, this arose do to your rejecting marriage due to the cost - to which I clearly showed, that administrative costs aside, marriage costs only as much as you want it too.


And you are in no position to denigrate marriage - or even speak of it with any real authority !


No one is made to believe anything. Marriage does exactly what it says on the labeling. What individual couples make of their unions rests with them.


Believe what you please, countless numbers have done it and are doing it. Your lack of belief, conviction or faith in yourself or the calibre of man you can attract is your problem, not a failing of marriage.


You are in no position to do any kind of telling. You suffice merely to back-bite and gainsay.
And the usual poor logic - does lots of choice necessarily mean easy? Or speak to the quality of those choices vis-a-vis what one desires?


Risible. Trying to be spiritual and pious at the same time - and failing at both. With the best reading, it speaks to your rejection of marriage as due to your personal failings - which I've maintained all along !


Why not campaign for "Relationships" as they are far better - especially for the emancipated and enlightened


TV

Whatever you say, I will remind people of the fact that the choice is theirs, that there are pros and cons when it comes to marriage and MOST IMPORTANTLY that their value does not depend on marriage just because TeeFee says so.

And just because you had a hard time finding a spouse, does not mean everyone does. I have no such problems and therefore getting married would be a very easy thing to do for me, no achievement at all.

carefreewannabe:
Whatever you say, I will remind people of the fact that the choice is theirs,

And no one has asserted otherwise !

carefreewannabe:
that there are pros and cons when it comes to marriage

No one would guess there are any pro's from your posts. All you do is denigrate it, slur it and misrepresent it. Even as you utterly fail to grasp it's essence, workings or value. You have never said anything positive about it's absolute or relative - to other forms - good.

If you - or anyone else wants to discuss marriage, I'm right here, but don't try and sell us this bogus "pros and cons" nonsense,when you never have a good word to say about it and are always harping on about the benefits of so called "de-facto" relationships.

carefreewannabe:
and MOST IMPORTANTLY that their value does not depend on marriage just because TeeFee says so.

I make no judgements as to the value of individuals or their unions. I advocate for marriage as the best model for male/female relationships, their children and wider societal flourishing. What people want and choose is totally down to them - as is responsibility for the outcomes.

If you have a better model, please expound on it. Or at least be fair and contrast marriage to other forms, instead of oscillating between making spurious assertions about it and being dismissive of it.

carefreewannabe:
And just because you had a hard time finding a spouse, does not mean everyone does. I have no such problems and therefore getting married would be a very easy thing to do for me, no achievement at all.

Keep petting yourself ! As ever you demonstrate the shallowness of your thought process and understanding. Hard time finding a spouse? No CFW, I took a long time to search the matter out. I was diligent and arduous in approach - hence it took time to unearth a diamond.

Not hard time finding a spouse, a long time to find one worthy of being called my spouse. Although I'm sure the difference may well be lost on you !

And having lots of people interested in "relationships" is not quite the same dear


TV

I understand the OP even when alot of people think he is sick. Many guys here experience same and never say it or will never admit it.
The truth is that
1. Stolen bread is sweeter: making love to a strange woman will definitely be sweeter for you.
2. You knew from the beginning she was frigid: you only went ahead to marry her coz yiu think she will not cheat on you and that she will make a good mother.
3. You are very concerned with your cheating now coz ur conscience is pricking you.

You are not alone. Many guys are in the same boat.
The only way out is to keep looking unto Jesus.

Grendel:



it driving me crazy because we don't stays together and whenever i travel over there to claim my right .... na another thing go happen

how do u cope?
i dnt relly like d idea of couples staying apart.

its tempting except the couple are self disciplined.

the lord is ur strength

ephee:



how do u cope?
i dnt relly like d idea of couples staying apart.

its tempting except the couple are self disciplined.

the lord is ur strength

My dear, I practically hate staying apart as a couple but she is not helping my condition. Taking care of her, always there for her but to give me what I want is always a problem. Don't let me lie you, it's not going to work.

Grendel:

My dear, I practically hate staying apart as a couple but she is not helping my condition. Taking care of her, always there for her but to give me what I want is always a problem. Don't let me lie you, it's not going to work.

i replyed ur pm.

ephee:

i replyed ur pm.

Haven't see your reply

Grendel:

Haven't see your reply

chek again.