There isn’t really a Gentleman’s code.
There are lots of books on what being a Gentleman is and isn’t. And you
can’t go wrong by carrying around a pocket version of Cecil B. Hartley’s
Book of Etiquette .
But there aren’t many distilled versions of what you should live by.
Nowadays it is mostly just pompous men in $500 suits telling you that
you shouldn’t be wearing a Cravat with that shirt.
And you and I both know being a Gentleman is much more than how you
dress.
So, it’s time to change that.
This list serves as a simple eight rule list to guide the Modern Gentleman
through life. And towards being a better man.
RULE #1: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD ALWAYS BE
HELPFUL
This is obvious, right?
Well, obvious is what a lot of men need to hear. Because when you ask
yourself the question, ‘Am I really that helpful?’ your answer is probably
no.
As a Gentleman you should strive to help anyone, as long as it’s in your
power.
Whether that means:
Holding the door open
Connecting them to someone in your network
Offering to help them move house
Picking up the tab when someone is strapped for cash
Any way that you can help someone, you should.
But there is one element I would keep in mind here: be helpful as long as
it doesn’t negatively affect you.
If by offering someone a ride, it means you’re going to miss a meeting,
then you’re not going to be able to help properly.
If you can be helpful though, do it. Kindness is at the heart of
Gentlemanly culture.
RULE #2: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD UNDERSTAND GOOD
MANNERS
“Manners Maketh Man” was first said by William Horman over 500
years ago. And it’s still as true today as it ever was.
Good manners go unnoticed. Yet they have a big impact on whether or
not you come across as a Gentleman. If you’re neat, tidy and keep your
elbows off the table, you will always be welcomed back anywhere you go.
However if you’re rude, pick your nose and burp in the host’s face,
you’re probably not going to make the Gentleman’s impression you were
going for.
At the least make sure you:
Are clean and tidy
Smell fresh
Cover your mouth when you cough
Keep your elbows off the dinner table
Avoid talk about politics in new company
Bring a bottle of wine whenever you’re invited for dinner
Again, they might seem obvious, but you’ll be surprised how often you let
these slip. And when you do, you’re going to struggle to recover.
RULE #3: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD DEVOTE TIME TO
SELF IMPROVEMENT
Be well-read.
If you take just one rule from this list and apply it right away, let it be
this one.
The more you read, the more you know. The more you know, the more
you’re able to understand the world around you. The more you
understand, the more useful you become.
Education means nothing in the real world. That is, those little pieces of
paper handed out from schools that cost a fortune.
But ignoring self-education is a cardinal sin.
And, if nothing else, it improves your confidence and makes
conversations much easier to hold.
RULE #4: A GENTLEMAN DOES NOT CARE ABOUT
PRICE TAGS
“Never for one moment believe that any human being, who has good sense,
will love or respect you merely on account of a fine or costly coat.”
That quotes comes from William Alcott’s, The Young Man’s Guide , written
in 1835. And it is true on two levels:
1. A Gentleman does not judge someone based on their income
2. A Gentleman should never feel inferior because of the clothes he
wears
Gandhi was, undoubtedly, a Gentleman. And his worldly possessions
came to a huge 16 items, most of them made from wood or cloth.
Yet you would not judge him as inferior because of it. So, neither should
you judge someone who can’t afford an expensive suit or expensive
brogues.
You do not know their struggle. And the cost of a coat means nothing,
unless you want to rub shoulders with the ‘Rodgers’ down at the Yacht
Club.
Secondly, if you can’t afford expensive suits and tailored items – so
what?
If you aspire to do so, you will. If you don’t, it doesn’t matter. As long as
you are well-dressed, clean and proper looking, the price of what you’re
wearing doesn’t matter.
Make the effort; everything else will fall into place.
RULE #5: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD UNDERSTAND HE IS
NOT ABOVE ANYONE
Status isn’t a thing any more.
I don’t care if you’re a Fortune 500 CEO, 10th in line for the English
Throne, or a professional dog walker from Idaho.
You’re not better than anybody else. And a Gentleman never considers
himself to be.
People are granted different opportunities in life, and you should always
respect that.
After all, you aren’t judged on how well you kiss the ass of the person
above you, but on how you treat those people who haven’t been as
fortunate as you.
RULE #6: A GENTLEMAN IS ALWAYS HONEST
Honest is the best policy. Cliché, right?
But it’s true.
If you’re straight up with people about your intentions, your feelings,
and what you’re thinking, you will never go wrong.
People’s feelings may occasionally get hurt. They may not hear what they
want to hear. And you may come across as brash or bold.
But, at the end of the day, nobody will ever argue with your honesty.
And you will gain a lot of Gentlemanly respect because of it.
RULE #7: A GENTLEMAN IS RESPECTFUL OF TIME
Time is precious.
And, as a Gentleman, you should be respectful of that.
The time of others is precious and should never be wasted. Whilst your
own time is valuable and you should treat it as its own currency.
Small talk and chitchat have their time and place – just like playing
Candy Crush Saga on your phone – but if you should be doing something
important, or can save someone else time, then do so.
As the Fight Club narrator says, “This is your life and it’s ending one
minute at a time.”
RULE #8: A GENTLEMAN WOULD SOONER BREAK ANY
OF THESE RULES THAN BECOME A PRETENTIOUS
BORE
Gentlemanly culture comes with some pomp and pretentiousness about it.
Which, when used badly, can make you come across as, well, a bit of a
prick.
Sad but true.
Even though these rules are designed to help and guide the young
gentleman with how they should act, I urge you to cast any of them aside
if they don’t fit the situation.
If, for example, you’re sitting in a McDonald’s and you’re moaning that
your friend has their elbows on the table, you really run the risk of
becoming a ‘Rodger*’.
So break any and all of these rules when you see fit. You’re the
Gentleman and you know the situation better than anybody else.
AT THE END OF THE DAY, DON’T BE A RODGER*!
Have you ever been to a party where there is that one guy, usually
wearing something cashmere, who only knows how to talk about these
topics:
The clothes he’s wearing
How much something cost
Daddy’s success
The features of his new Jaguar
Why you should only drink Dalmore whisky
That’s a Rodger. Because that is normally his name.
And, whilst he considers himself to be a Gentleman – through luxurious
finery and association – he is actually the complete opposite.
A pompous person who cares more about himself than those around him.
So, when you’re going about your daily life, ask yourself the question:
Am I being a Rodger?
If you are, stop it.
CONCLUSION
As time goes on I imagine this list of rules will grow and change. And, for
now, it serves as a simple guide on how to approach life as a Gentleman.
There are rules you think should be on this list. And there will be lessons
you learn along the way about what a Gentleman truly is.
So, if you think of any rules that should be added to the list, don’t
hesitate to comment and let me know…

www.list247..com/8-rules-for-modern-gentleman-to-live-by.html

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Valwezzy:
There isn’t really a Gentleman’s code.
There are lots of books on what being a Gentleman is and isn’t. And you
can’t go wrong by carrying around a pocket version of Cecil B. Hartley’s
Book of Etiquette .
But there aren’t many distilled versions of what you should live by.
Nowadays it is mostly just pompous men in $500 suits telling you that
you shouldn’t be wearing a Cravat with that shirt.
And you and I both know being a Gentleman is much more than how you
dress.
So, it’s time to change that.
This list serves as a simple eight rule list to guide the Modern Gentleman
through life. And towards being a better man.


RULE #1: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD ALWAYS BE
HELPFUL
This is obvious, right?
Well, obvious is what a lot of men need to hear. Because when you ask
yourself the question, ‘Am I really that helpful?’ your answer is probably
no.
As a Gentleman you should strive to help anyone, as long as it’s in your
power.
Whether that means:
Holding the door open
Connecting them to someone in your network
Offering to help them move house
Picking up the tab when someone is strapped for cash
Any way that you can help someone, you should.
But there is one element I would keep in mind here: be helpful as long as
it doesn’t negatively affect you.
If by offering someone a ride, it means you’re going to miss a meeting,
then you’re not going to be able to help properly.
If you can be helpful though, do it. Kindness is at the heart of
Gentlemanly culture.


RULE #2: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD UNDERSTAND GOOD
MANNERS
“Manners Maketh Man” was first said by William Horman over 500
years ago. And it’s still as true today as it ever was.
Good manners go unnoticed. Yet they have a big impact on whether or
not you come across as a Gentleman. If you’re neat, tidy and keep your
elbows off the table, you will always be welcomed back anywhere you go.
However if you’re rude, pick your nose and burp in the host’s face,
you’re probably not going to make the Gentleman’s impression you were
going for.
At the least make sure you:
Are clean and tidy
Smell fresh
Cover your mouth when you cough
Keep your elbows off the dinner table
Avoid talk about politics in new company
Bring a bottle of wine whenever you’re invited for dinner
Again, they might seem obvious, but you’ll be surprised how often you let
these slip. And when you do, you’re going to struggle to recover.


RULE #3: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD DEVOTE TIME TO
SELF IMPROVEMENT
Be well-read.
If you take just one rule from this list and apply it right away, let it be
this one.
The more you read, the more you know. The more you know, the more
you’re able to understand the world around you. The more you
understand, the more useful you become.
Education means nothing in the real world. That is, those little pieces of
paper handed out from schools that cost a fortune.
But ignoring self-education is a cardinal sin.
And, if nothing else, it improves your confidence and makes
conversations much easier to hold.


RULE #4: A GENTLEMAN DOES NOT CARE ABOUT
PRICE TAGS
“Never for one moment believe that any human being, who has good sense,
will love or respect you merely on account of a fine or costly coat.”
That quotes comes from William Alcott’s, The Young Man’s Guide , written
in 1835. And it is true on two levels:

1. A Gentleman does not judge someone based on their income

2. A Gentleman should never feel inferior because of the clothes he
wears
Gandhi was, undoubtedly, a Gentleman. And his worldly possessions
came to a huge 16 items, most of them made from wood or cloth.
Yet you would not judge him as inferior because of it. So, neither should
you judge someone who can’t afford an expensive suit or expensive
brogues.
You do not know their struggle. And the cost of a coat means nothing,
unless you want to rub shoulders with the ‘Rodgers’ down at the Yacht
Club.
Secondly, if you can’t afford expensive suits and tailored items – so
what?
If you aspire to do so, you will. If you don’t, it doesn’t matter. As long as
you are well-dressed, clean and proper looking, the price of what you’re
wearing doesn’t matter.
Make the effort; everything else will fall into place.


RULE #5: A GENTLEMAN SHOULD UNDERSTAND HE IS
NOT ABOVE ANYONE
Status isn’t a thing any more.
I don’t care if you’re a Fortune 500 CEO, 10th in line for the English
Throne, or a professional dog walker from Idaho.
You’re not better than anybody else. And a Gentleman never considers
himself to be.
People are granted different opportunities in life, and you should always
respect that.
After all, you aren’t judged on how well you kiss the ass of the person
above you, but on how you treat those people who haven’t been as
fortunate as you.


RULE #6: A GENTLEMAN IS ALWAYS HONEST
Honest is the best policy. Cliché, right?
But it’s true.
If you’re straight up with people about your intentions, your feelings,
and what you’re thinking, you will never go wrong.
People’s feelings may occasionally get hurt. They may not hear what they
want to hear. And you may come across as brash or bold.
But, at the end of the day, nobody will ever argue with your honesty.
And you will gain a lot of Gentlemanly respect because of it.


RULE #7: A GENTLEMAN IS RESPECTFUL OF TIME
Time is precious.
And, as a Gentleman, you should be respectful of that.
The time of others is precious and should never be wasted. Whilst your
own time is valuable and you should treat it as its own currency.
Small talk and chitchat have their time and place – just like playing
Candy Crush Saga on your phone – but if you should be doing something
important, or can save someone else time, then do so.
As the Fight Club narrator says, “This is your life and it’s ending one
minute at a time.”


RULE #8: A GENTLEMAN WOULD SOONER BREAK ANY
OF THESE RULES THAN BECOME A PRETENTIOUS
BORE
Gentlemanly culture comes with some pomp and pretentiousness about it.
Which, when used badly, can make you come across as, well, a bit of a
prick.
Sad but true.
Even though these rules are designed to help and guide the young
gentleman with how they should act, I urge you to cast any of them aside
if they don’t fit the situation.

If, for example, you’re sitting in a McDonald’s and you’re moaning that
your friend has their elbows on the table, you really run the risk of
becoming a ‘Rodger*’.

So break any and all of these rules when you see fit. You’re the
Gentleman and you know the situation better than anybody else.
AT THE END OF THE DAY, DON’T BE A RODGER*!

Have you ever been to a party where there is that one guy, usually
wearing something cashmere, who only knows how to talk about these
topics:

The clothes he’s wearing
How much something cost
Daddy’s success
The features of his new Jaguar
Why you should only drink Dalmore whisky
That’s a Rodger. Because that is normally his name.
And, whilst he considers himself to be a Gentleman – through luxurious
finery and association – he is actually the complete opposite.
A pompous person who cares more about himself than those around him.
So, when you’re going about your daily life, ask yourself the question:
Am I being a Rodger?
If you are, stop it.

CONCLUSION
As time goes on I imagine this list of rules will grow and change. And, for
now, it serves as a simple guide on how to approach life as a Gentleman.
There are rules you think should be on this list. And there will be lessons
you learn along the way about what a Gentleman truly is.
So, if you think of any rules that should be added to the list, don’t
hesitate to comment and let me know…

www.list247..com/8-rules-for-modern-gentleman-to-live-by.html

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