iwatch:
my guy i logged off since and when I come back I no reason date. No b say I dey defend anybody but the fact b why she dey stress the matter. Even the person she attack been don leave the thread and came back when she was MENTION as in quoted. She comment twice and since never returned.

You sef reason am na.

scooby12:


Bros!
The thing be say.. No put your head for these gals matter. As i see the matter, e be like sey them get personal beef. Probably on top a guy. The gal wey dey attack na mumu, the one wey dem dey attack na also mumu. Just leave them, make we dey watch this movie in 3d.

God bless you!

iwatch:
o boy park for corner. When person over do something learn to correct them. I have no problem with you having allegations against anyone but over stressing it is wrong. Talk and let it end there. When you begin dey talk too much about thing you end up embarrassing yourself. The said herz never leave thread since? But she carry the matter for head.

Na who no come get shame between her and herz? Abeg hold am there.

DBking:
point of correction,i no be bros. herz no get shame too but she call una to come fight for her see as una dey crawl out one by one to come attack her enemy.waitin for the family section gang to come too hahahahahaha becos na una way.women are deep so when dey begin to drag issues like this,just know say there is more to than you know. i no suppport the anty peppy too for raising unnecsary dust but na you and your gang come dey drag the matter. abi herz no be the former drama queen and controversial maria? heheheheh suprised considerin the date of my registration? Nl is a community of different characters.some are here to have fun just like me but dat no mean say we no dey see or hear while some come to collect approval from ghosts and internet frends to live their life offline. dis movie is titled when the truth of the past comes calling kikikikiki let this issue die or die here fighting with b!tches. bak to politics to see my yoloba friends

DBking:
point of correction,i no be bros. herz no get shame too but she call una to come fight for her see as una dey crawl out one by one to come attack her enemy.waitin for the family section gang to come too hahahahahaha becos na una way.women are deep so when dey begin to drag issues like this,just know say there is more to than you know. i no suppport the anty peppy too for raising unnecsary dust but na you and your gang come dey drag the matter. abi herz no be the former drama queen and controversial maria? heheheheh suprised considerin the date of my registration? Nl is a community of different characters.some are here to have fun just like me but dat no mean say we no dey see or hear while some come to collect approval from ghosts and internet frends to live their life offline. dis movie is titled when the truth of the past comes calling kikikikiki let this issue die or die here fighting with b!tches. bak to politics to see my yoloba friends

DBking:
point of correction,i no be bros. herz no get shame too but she call una to come fight for her see as una dey crawl out one by one to come attack her enemy.waitin for the family section gang to come too hahahahahaha becos na una way.women are deep so when dey begin to drag issues like this,just know say there is more to than you know. i no suppport the anty peppy too for raising unnecsary dust but na you and your gang come dey drag the matter. abi herz no be the former drama queen and controversial maria? heheheheh suprised considerin the date of my registration? Nl is a community of different characters.some are here to have fun just like me but dat no mean say we no dey see or hear while some come to collect approval from ghosts and internet frends to live their life offline. dis movie is titled when the truth of the past comes calling kikikikiki let this issue die or die here fighting with b!tches. bak to politics to see my yoloba friends

iwatch:
brotherly i dey feel you. Whatever you know that one no concern me. Nobody holy pass including you.

EfemenaXY:


Shingingmama, sorry I haven't been following up on you.

The more I read your posts about what's going on in your home, the angrier I get. Sweet Jesus! You're even having to plead with him not to disrespect you at home? He shouldn't be disrespecting you at all!

I swear, none of this would be happening to you if you were my daughter!!

I know you don't want to leave your kids but you've swallowed a lot of shyte from this man for over 10 months now. The initial advice I gave you was to help you rebuild your self-esteem. To rediscover yourself and look forward. It was given to help you cope with your situation then. Now, you need to move on from that.

That notwithstanding, the fact remains that you're a young, vibrant, married woman forced to live like a nun in servitude in your own home. Can this man survive a month without sex? And yet he subjects you with worse? This isn't sustainable. You can't live the rest of your married life like this. We're talking the next 40, 50, 60+ years. You're looking at the wrong people again and saying to yourself, if she (his best friend's wife) can manage without sex for 8 years, then what is 10 months in the grand scheme of things?

Shingingmama, throw yourself into your business o! I know you said you've started something small on the side - good on you. But you must really put your head down, girl and make lots of money! Make money, make money, make money, Shiningmama so you can get your independence. And freedom from that bondage of a marriage. You need to set yourself and your kids free from that environment. It isn't healthy. Not for you, and certainly not for your kids who see how their dad treats their mum whilst having his numerous affairs.

You husband's got you well and truly trapped because he knows you won't leave your kids, hence him treating you the way he does. Just like Cococandy suggested, keep your mouth shut and carefully, methodically plan your exit strategy from that bondage. This should give you something to look forward to. To strive and work even harder to gain your financial and emotional freedom.

The sooner you leave, the better for you. And hopefully, someday, you'll meet someone who'll love, and respect you for who you are, and not for what you can "do for him". Someone who will cherish you and treat you right. No one has the right to hold you back and down. You need to move on with your life.

Shiningmama:


Thanks once again , I have gotten a small shop through the help of people but so far the business is not moving. Now that I stopped complaining has caused another wahala, he is always complaining that I don't love him again, that I don't care about him.

EfemenaXY:


Forget him. He sounds childish.

Tell me more about this shop of yours. What do you do? Why isn't business moving?

Good on you for starting something up girl. I'm impressed.

All thanks to God for his grace and to you too for your wonderful advise. God bless you so much, May God be with you and all yours. You really brought light into my life.
I am into fashion designing and on the street where I have the shop, there are more than 20 tailors there. Due to the fact that I am new, no patronage.

stonecoldcafe:


You are a two faced individual! You are also quite good at talking from both sides of your mouth. You accuse someone of being an attention seeker but the only attention seeker I see is you. LOL

You enjoy calling people out and throwing jabs but when they give you, you play nun or end up your porous speech with 'good morning'

For someone who has a lot of negative things to say about this thread and people on it, you sure spend a lot of time here. What an irony! Have you ever asked yourself why you continue to visit such a 'useless self seeking' thread. LOL

cococandy:
Hian.

Stop lying. Nawa.

EfemenaXY:
^^ Okay. Sounds like you'll have to "push the boat out" on this.

What I mean, is that you'll have to go out and get the customers yourself. Make them come to you. You'll also have to device a Marketing Strategy that works well for you.

I know come Christmas, things will definitely pick up, but you can't wait till then. Have you approached the heads / principals of any of the Nursery / Primary / Secondary schools near you, to see if they can give you a contract to sew their pupils/students' uniforms? You may have to go through someone who "knows" them. It doesn't matter if you start off with a low number - say 10. The important thing is that you'll need to be really, really, persistent. Don't stop at just one or two schools. Go for as many as you can. It's kind of like applying for a job. The more CVs you send out to potential employers (or clients in your case), the better your chances of getting something.

Do the same thing for churches in your area. Quite a lot of them have choirs in uniform. Take your kids with you. Carry your baby on your back and go speak to your pastor's wife. Level with her woman-to-woman to see if she can help, or knows anyone who can. Adopt the same approach towards restaurant / business owners who employ cooks, waiters, drivers, or any other kind of staff in uniforms.

Then you've got weddings/naming ceremonies/burials where people dress in similar clothing or uniforms. Try and get in there too.

Now is the time for you to build relationships, but you have to go out there. Are you able to print out a couple of business cards to hand out to people? It doesn't have to be much. Maybe 100 to start off with. Even if you get just a couple of positive responses, it'll be a good start. Just make sure you do your very best with the work given to you, and do it on time. Nothing annoys a client more, if you delay on your deadline. Speed and Quality, Shiningmama.

Let me know what you think of my ideas, and if these are "do-able" for you.

Good Morning.

Chillisauce:




My sister în nairaland
You too much

Shiningmama you can do this. One step at a time

DBking:
wetin be lie?birds of a feather.na una dey see marriage as jackpot after one unfortunate man don marry your scattered punny.no let me open page for you.ugly bean head.thank Allah for makeup.

Cetona:
DBking, it seems you are on a witch-hunt here. You really need to stop 'attacking' people on top herzumpther matter. Shuuu! She thief your money?

sexydivaomalich:

cococandy:
Symptoms of incurable Heartbreak.

maryini:


God Bless you Ujujoan for your posts on this thread!

I have always had this feeling that i will be in ur shoes when God leads me to who he has chosen to be my spouse. I still hope that i will be attracted to and fall crazily in love with him like babyosisi but if i don't, your experience has given me courage to trust more in God's plan than my desires.

EfemenaXY:
^^ Okay. Sounds like you'll have to "push the boat out" on this.

What I mean, is that you'll have to go out and get the customers yourself. Make them come to you. You'll also have to device a Marketing Strategy that works well for you.

I know come Christmas, things will definitely pick up, but you can't wait till then. Have you approached the heads / principals of any of the Nursery / Primary / Secondary schools near you, to see if they can give you a contract to sew their pupils/students' uniforms? You may have to go through someone who "knows" them. It doesn't matter if you start off with a low number - say 10. The important thing is that you'll need to be really, really, persistent. Don't stop at just one or two schools. Go for as many as you can. It's kind of like applying for a job. The more CVs you send out to potential employers (or clients in your case), the better your chances of getting something.

Do the same thing for churches in your area. Quite a lot of them have choirs in uniform. Take your kids with you. Carry your baby on your back and go speak to your pastor's wife. Level with her woman-to-woman to see if she can help, or knows anyone who can. Adopt the same approach towards restaurant / business owners who employ cooks, waiters, drivers, or any other kind of staff in uniforms.

Then you've got weddings/naming ceremonies/burials where people dress in similar clothing or uniforms. Try and get in there too.

Now is the time for you to build relationships, but you have to go out there. Are you able to print out a couple of business cards to hand out to people? It doesn't have to be much. Maybe 100 to start off with. Even if you get just a couple of positive responses, it'll be a good start. Just make sure you do your very best with the work given to you, and do it on time. Nothing annoys a client more, if you delay on your deadline. Speed and Quality, Shiningmama.

Let me know what you think of my ideas, and if these are "do-able" for you.

Good Morning.


Thanks once again, i've informed my church members about my new business.. announcement was even made concerning it..even though we have enough tailors in my church, our women leader is a tailor.
I will visit some school as advised.

Shiningmama:
Thanks once again, i've informed my church members about my new business.. announcement was even made concerning it..even though we have enough tailors in my church, our women leader is a tailor.
I will visit some school as advised.

EfemenaXY:


You could try to sound just that little bit more enthusiastic, you know. No one's going to do this for you so better be a bit more upbeat about this.

Bashing your hubby (which I wouldn't do), is all to easy and wouldn't get you where you need to be. Or is there something else you'd rather be doing??