I happened to be "counselling" a junior colleague at my workplace, relationship wise. She had earlier complained to me how her mates not as "beautiful" as she is were getting married while no one was interested in having anything longterm with her.

We got to the part where she always keeps her face like an "angry bird"- frowning mode.

I was like, " You should smile often"- She quickly replied, " That's how my face is. If he is really my husband, he won't mind that- He will take me as I am". I hurriedly said, OK.

Then, it got me thinking deep.

Of course, I'm going to take "Her" for who she is but... I sincerely asked myself these questions

1. isn't there a room for improvement?

2. Could her maintaining a "too serious" attitude all the time be a reason she's still single?

3. How has the " I won't change for any guy" helped her these years? Instead, she is been seen as a "bleeping tool".



I truly want to know



What's Your Take?

Another thread for the ladies,seriously am beginning to feel pity for them

Very funny... 'Take me as I am'

Do dudes look like Jesus Christ who is your Lord and Personal saviour?

Abi you be non-tested phone for Computer Village, wey person go just buy come go pray for Oluwa say make e work well?

Or do we look like your parents who have a moral duty to shower you with 'unconditonal love'? ( if there is anything like that)

Girls should just stop playing the victim, and morally blackmailing us into buying a totally worthless or even toxic commodity ... WORK ON YOURSELF TO MAKE YOURSELF WORTH THE MAN YOU DESIRE

MEN ARE NEITHER SCRAP DEALERS NOR SCAVENGERS

This is the part where i feel for ugly gurls

hizson:
Another thread for the ladies,seriously am beginning to feel pity for them

It's a simple question: No one needs your pity

wow! am the first to comment. i pray oo make i no twist nd bend them to the shape i want.

OP, if you don't know the meaning of "take me as I am", then you should go back to secondary school.

Qhal:
OP, if you don't know the meaning of "take me as I am", then you should go back to secondary school.

hmm, OK. I will.

Enusmith and partner in crime, tosyne2much are ladies' albatross. What did they do to you guys? Na wa o

Anyway, back to matter. It means you should take her for her personality and not her character. Like if she frowns her face, you should take her for a soldier not as an angry person! Who would want to date a soldier? Enusmith, you?

If only women would take men as they are.... Not minding status and other yardsticks.

Qiewz11:
Enusmith and partner in crime, tosyne2much are ladies' albatross. What did they do to you guys? Na wa o

Anyway, back to matter. It means that if she frowns her face, she's a soldier! Who would want to date a soldier? Enusmith, you?

No Sire!

The first intelligent reply so far.

The thread is coined from the story- walk with it and quit screaming " the op is bashing ladies"... tsk

Its people like the girl that think there problem is spiritual. Its just a simple thing, most guys are already half in love with a girl that smiles at them. its a pity most girls don't think and check themselves. About same reason why I broke up with my gf yesterday, they don't think, and they expect we guys to do that for them. Imagine a gf telling her bf, see there is nothing you can do to me that will surprise me, it can't be more than what all my ex did to me. We should always learn to choose our words when using them.

It means she doesn't want to have to do her hair, nails, and makeup to get laid Just "take her" as she is!

When a woman get Mr Ibu belly, she says take me as I am
When a woman get bwest the size of Orange seed, she says take me as I am
When a woman get nyash the size of Mirey Cylus, she says take me as I am
When a woman get agric fowl leg, she says take me as I am
When a woman get stletch Mark for nyash, she says take me as I am
When a woman spokes worser Engrish than ooh mpa, she says take me as I am



But we men say........

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ayogabriel:
Its people like the girl that think there problem is spiritual. Its just a simple thing, most guys are already half in love with a girl that smiles at them. its a pity most girls don't think and check themselves. About same reason why I broke up with my gf yesterday, they don't think, and they expect we guys to do that for them. Imagine a gf telling her bf, [b]see there is nothing you can do to me that will surprise me, it can't be more than what all my ex did to me. [/b]We should always learn to choose our words when using them.

Thank you Sire.

That's a "strong" word she used there.
She has labelled you already- more like tag you!

Hmm...

booked

Any advocate for women on dis?

OohMpa:
When a woman get Mr Ibu belly, she says take me as I am
When a woman get bwest the size of Orange seed, she says take me as I am
When a woman get nyash the size of Mirey Cylus, she says take me as I am
When a woman get agric fowl leg, she says take me as I am
When a woman get stletch Mark for nyash, she says take me as I am
When a woman spokes worser Engrish than ooh mpa, she says take me as I am



But we men say........

[img]http://emptystress.files./2013/11/god-forbid.gif[/img]

Lolzzzz!

Some one was said on FB:

She can't cook, wash, read, speak nicely, even make effort to learn a trade etc.

She even loves money, fashion and food.

She doesn't work o... And she comes to you and says : TAKE ME AS I AM...Who are you naa?

ronald4lif:
Hmmm

I think any lady that says such is trying to convey a certain message, that she might not be your first choice, but she's a great choice. She doesn't pretend to be someone she is not, because she's good at being her. She might not be proud of some of the things she did in the past, but she's proud of who she is today. She may not be perfect, but she doesn't need to be. That you should take her as she is or watch her walk away. Practically, look beyond her shortcomings and embrace her strengths.

As for a lady taking a broke guy as he is; tough tough one. Every one wants financial security, comfort and a better life. The over 7billion people worldwide are exploring ways to better their lives. So to expect someone, male or female, to consider a man who can't guarantee her at least the basic needs of life is not an easy one, especially when she knows she has the abilities to attract someone better.

The take me as I am phrase hardly comes in play in men's part, it's more about the women. And even if it does, not in the monetary aspect of it. Nobody or to be subtle very few people are ready to put up with hardship and only money keeps hardship at length

Nice post.
I know WE all have shortcomings, obviously. As I stated, we'll still marry her for who she is.

But, from my story: I'm implying when she chooses to nurse it. hmm.

1st to comment!! Any preceeding comment iz a counterfeit!!! #lobatan

emusmith:


Nice post.
I know WE all have shortcomings, obviously. As I stated, we'll still marry her for who she is.

But, from my story: I'm implying when she chooses to nurse it. hmm.

I think two factors are responsible for that; low self esteem and past rejection experience. She may have had failed relationships and which may have stem from her (perceived) shortcomings.

emusmith:


Thank you Sire.

That's a "strong" word she used there.
She has labelled you already- more like tag you!

Hmm...

I don't think you have an idea of what you talking about, do you?

it simply means i am not perfect..will you accept me with my flaws

i don't smile a lot and my face looks like an angry bird..will you accept me like that..
Do not compare me with your ex(es) or celebs or other girls...so i am asking you will you take me as i am...look beyond my imperfection cause when you accept my imperfect life you simply make it perfect

ronald4lif:


I think two factors are responsible for that; low self esteem and past rejection experience. She may have had failed relationships and which may have stem from her (perceived) shortcomings.

Hmm...reasonable points!

I want to really help her in the little way I can (Make your world a better place.)

She looks meek but very hard inside, I don't know if you understand.

The "Take me as I am" phrase is not really good for her.

I see it daily. She just feels she is endowed and pretty, therefore He should take me as I am...( that song sha) (deep sigh)

ayogabriel:


I don't think you have an idea of what you talking about, do you?

Can you put me through?

emusmith:



Hmm...reasonable points!

I want to really help her in the little way I can (Make your world a better place.)

She looks meek but very hard inside, I don't know if you understand.

The "Take me as I am" phrase is not really good for her.

I see it daily. She just feels she is endowed and pretty, therefore He should take me as I am...( that song sha) (deep sigh)

But will she accept her prospectus bf or suitors the way they are? Left to me, I think if we are willing to spend the rest of your life with someone, we should be ready to change what we don't like about each other. That's my take.

emusmith:


Can you put me through?

At all, its above your pay grade, and it doesn't make any difference, you can drown in your own thought dear brother.

pinkhill:
it simply means i am not perfect..will you accept me with my flaws

i don't smile a lot and my face looks like an angry bird..will you accept me like that..
Do not compare me with your ex(es) or celebs or other girls...so i am asking you will you take me as i am...look beyond my imperfection cause when you accept my imperfect life you simply make it perfect

No one one is Perfect. We know that already.

Capitalizing on it... For instance...

1. She lies to you and tell you to take her as she is.

2. She cheats on you and says the same.

3. She has little or no culinary skills and keeps saying that- No o, go and learn abeg. That's a Lazy girl talking.

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