Sometimes we come across people or let them into our lives and we want to help them and then it turns into a full blown project that may never end.

Nobody is perfect we all have our own issues but it is up to us to fix them if they really need to be fixed. The same goes for others in our lives, their issues are up to them to fix if they want to do something about it then they will. Sometimes people are happy the way that they are even if we don't know why beause we are on the outside looking in. This goes for friends, family members, and lovers. What I have learned is that you can't help someone that does not want to be helped and they have to really want it and take the initiative.

Being kind is not a weakness. You have to know when someone is taking advantage of you or using you. you have to know how much to give and how much is just enough for them to pick up the slack for themselves. Most of all you have to know when to stop no matter how they feel towards you about your decision. When you are compassionate for others sometimes we
neglect ourselves and we do so much for others that we sacrifice our own emotional well-being and before you know it you become the person that needs fixing and the only one that can do it is you.

You can hurt yourself trying to fix a broken person. We can convince ourselves that all they need is a friend, a lover, someone that cares. When they don't appreciate it we make excuses for them instead of realizing that no matter what a person has been through, they should not treat you bad. Hurt people tend to hurt other people especially people pleasers who just want to help them.


It's easy to fall into this trap when you feel like you can relate to the person that you want to fix.

Sometimes we are in the same boat and figure we might as well sail together but both of you will surely sink by bringing each other down. Misery loves company. There is usually one that will want out and want better for themselves and the other person will get better and sabatoge your plans because you bonded through pain and they will feel like they lost you instead of getting on board with you to fix themselves as well. If you stay nothing gets better its just something toxic that gets harder and harder to break from.
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Because you are not APC

You are not a school or a rehab home.

If you wanna love a person, love wholeheartedly. If the person wants to change, he/she would change.

MzNelly:
You are not a school or a rehab home.

If you wanna love a person, love wholeheartedly. If the person wants to change, he/she would change.

Well said again...accept people for who they are or leave them alone....MzNelly

Trying to fix people is like a waste of time. If you like talk from now till the end of the year all they do is to tell you that they've heard and they will turn back from their bad and dirty ways which is not true. Just let them be and don't stress or give yourself headache by trying to raise the dead. Bitch aint loyal don't waste your precious time on them.

MzNelly:
You are not a school or a rehab home.

If you wanna love a person, love wholeheartedly. If the person wants to change, he/she would change.

Did I hear u say love? Love my a*as......

Bidex6444:
Trying to fix people is like a waste of time. If you like talk from now till the end of the year all they do is to tell you that they've heard and they will turn back from their bad and dirty ways which is not true. Just let them be and don't stress or give yourself headache by trying to raise the dead. Bitch aint loyal don't waste your precious time on them.

And chances are they may even out-grow it. I know of lady that lived a not so pleasing life growning up, now she has changed so much that people who don't know her before woundn't believe if you try telling 'em her story. The funny thing is people tried endlessly tryna fix back then all to no avail, she changed on her own.