Just do what you can.

Yea its ok

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Everything happens for a reason.

I will help a Nigerian in diaspora but from a distance.
Do you belong to any Nigerian organization? Join one and you will find out why Well off Nigerians run away from the pack. Get a few Nigerians together and the stories become issues of adultery, envy, snitching, etc. that tend to ricochet all the way back to Nigeria. It is the Blacks curse. Once bitten, twice shy.

Call me on the phone, I will give you any information needed. But to move you into my house, it ain't gonna happen.
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malton:
A little act of kindness goes a long way. Nigerians are the most accommodating people out there. Forget the religious or tribal intolerance being meted out on each other here on and in the real life. Truth is, when it comes down to it, deep down in our hearts, we are loving, caring, forgiving and willing to embrace long as we are assured the other party also means well. We give without expecting much in return. The first day you got lucky was the day you were born Nigerian!

One day, we will realise truly, the strength in our diversity and that there's power in the collective. My earnest prayer!

Hmmmmm!!!

Amen!

Why hide my comment on 1st page?

Even in Nigeria here they help their brothers. Imagine an Indian bringing his illiterate brother as "Coating Specialist" when it's ordinary paint jobs he does. And to add insult to injury, our mumu police will still blow siren for them.

InvertedHammer:
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Everything happens for a reason.

I will help a Nigerian in diaspora but from a distance.
Do you belong to any Nigerian organization? Join one and you will find out why Well off Nigerians run away from the pack. Get a few Nigerians together and the stories become issues of adultery, envy, snitching, etc. that tend to ricochet all the way back to Nigeria. It is the Blacks curse. Once bitten, twice shy.

Call me on the phone, I will give you any information needed. But to move you into my house, it ain't gonna happen.
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so true..the bad ones has infiltrated the good ones

Great Write up ...

VickyRotex:


Hmmmmm!!!

Amen!

Amen. Thank you!

tpiah01:
The world will be a better place when we all learn to mind our own business instead of other people's.

God bless you for your counter write up although its just one line but trashed everyother paragraph the op just wrote...I am sure he has never travelled out before or helped someone who has backstabbed him/her in the process.

Why leave your country in the first place mttchewww

Dreamcome2ru:
Some comments ehn,@OP,kudos,your write up is simple and straightforward not bossy as being depicted in the comments above,I will say this: The world is such a small place,seek advice from old and young,help as much as you can and never let the ungrateful ones deter you from helping.

Well Said!!!!

Galatians 6:9 And let us not grow weary while doing good, for in due season we shall reap if we do not lose heart

Hebrews 13:1 Let brotherly love continue. 2 Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels

Op nice write up. But you can only write this because you still reside in Nigeria.

It is nice that you wrote that some Nigerians can put you into trouble with the authorities if you try to help them.

That is really the fear among many Nigerians abroad. You can invite a Nigerian over, try to assist him/her settle in and before you know the guy tries the Nigerian mentality of trying to beat the system and you start having trouble with police. No one wants police at his door when abroad.

People still help just that one has to be careful while helping so that you don't put yourself in trouble.
We currently have 2 cases right now. Two Nigerian girls came over to do little jobs based on assistance from other Nigerians. One chose to steal a cellphone and has been repatriated after weeks in detention, the other one chose to come in pregnant even when unmarried and hence failed pre-employment medical tests.

If only we can be more abiding, helping will be less stressful for everyone.

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I did my part

I think it's only fair to say that we should help people as much as we can regardless of their background. I always hear my African colleagues say ''Help your own, ignore the rest''; but how does that make the world a better place?! It's like saying I shouldn't render help to someone simply because he is not from my background.

STOP ENCOURAGING PEOPLE TO MIGRATE, LETS FOCUS ON FIXING OUR COUNTRY

tpiah01:


where you die is inconsequential in view of the fact that everybody will die one way or another.

the dead know nothing.

You are brain-dead already

ok.

Na so I help 2 people wen I Sabi for Naija bifor, di first one begin curse me in front of my Mama, di second one say make I help am becos him wan him wife to born pikin for US then in di process of helping pastor/dr wife di so called "man" say I wan #*#* him 6 month &@&@ wife.

My people wetin I go do next. Nor be to shine my eye bifor trouble wey nor be my own send me 6ft under?

tpiah01:


where you die is inconsequential in view of the fact that everybody will die one way or another.

the dead know nothing.

Something must kill a man...irrespective of age,time,location and status.... But that we may live long!

Nice one! I would just like to quip in that the reason why many Nigerians are not willing to help other Nigerians when in the diaspora is manyly because let me put it this way ....'our eyes too choook'. When you help a fellow Nigerian, the next thing he or she is thinking of is how to 'hammer' or become better than the person helping him or her in the process, causing problems for the good Samaritan.

Just like you rightly mentioned, the Indians, Chinese and other Asians, help one another in the diaspora and go beyond by helping in bringing others on board too. This works for them because they're communal in nature. You will find out that a four bedroom bungalow rented by one Indian or Chinese will end up housing twenty of their compatriots whereas the same house type rented by a Nigerian will gather dust in the remaining rooms ...why because they're scared of bringing on board their compatriots because of reasons aforementioned.

I don't blame them really because we Nigerians are too judgemental without caring to find out why that person being judged is going about his affairs differently. It's either a case of Mr A is shopping at Primark in UK when he has enough money to shutdown Hacketts or Mr A is going on off-peak trains when he could afford to drive the latest benz in town etc. Mr A lives in one UK village when he can afford to live in one of the numerous towers in London. They would go as far as sending this reports back home and the home people will begin to wonder what is wrong with their son or daughter not sending them enough money despite all these austere lifestyle.

Mind you Mr. A is living that way because he's probably paying mortgage to ensure he lives a stress-free life. So my brothers and sisters its not that we don't want to help BUT its your orientation and attitude to life that is making us shy away.

bigtt76:
Nice one! I would just like to quip in that the reason why many Nigerians are not willing to help other Nigerians when in the diaspora is manyly because let me put it this way ....'our eyes too choook'. When you help a fellow Nigerian, the next thing he or she is thinking of is how to 'hammer' or become better than the person helping him or her in the process, causing problems for the good Samaritan.

Just like you rightly mentioned, the Indians, Chinese and other Asians, help one another in the diaspora and go beyond by helping in bringing others on board too. This works for them because they're communal in nature. You will find out that a four bedroom bungalow rented by one Indian or Chinese will end up housing twenty of their compatriots whereas the same house type rented by a Nigerian will gather dust in the remaining rooms ...why because they're scared of bringing on board their compatriots because of reasons aforementioned.

I don't blame them really because we Nigerians are too judgemental without caring to find out why that person being judged is going about his affairs differently. It's either a case of Mr A is shopping at Primark in UK when he has enough money to shutdown Hacketts or Mr A is going on off-peak trains when he could afford to drive the latest benz in town etc. Mr A lives in one UK village when he can afford to live in one of the numerous towers in London. They would go as far as sending this reports back home and the home people will begin to wonder what is wrong with their son or daughter not sending them enough money despite all these austere lifestyle.

Mind you Mr. A is living that way because he's probably paying mortgage to ensure he lives a stress-free life. So my brothers and sisters its not that we don't want to help BUT its your orientation and attitude to life that is making us shy away.

Eerrm... lets start this way. Convince us by deciding to help a brother like me...

Now that I HAVE ASKED FOR HELP. I am waiting o.

Please note the reason to want to travel for some of us is not because we are jobless or dependent. There is nothing compared to International exposure. Here at my workplace I have seen the gap between the take home of a foreign trained and a Nigerian trained just because the dude has got foreign experience. It is actually a priority for me, maybe a help from a sister could actualize it you know.

I hear you not generalizing it though. Some put in their best of the best behavior and end up being adopted by the diaspora but that's like one in a thousand or more but they're rare to find.

So what are you into? What's your career projections like in the next 5 years?

Intrepid01:



Eerrm... lets start this way. Convince us by deciding to help a brother like me...

Now that I HAVE ASKED FOR HELP. I am waiting o.

Please note the reason to want to travel for some of us is not because we are jobless or dependent. There is nothing compared to International exposure. Here at my workplace I have seen the gap between the take home of a foreign trained and a Nigerian trained just because the dude has got foreign experience. It is actually a priority for me, maybe a help from a sister could actualize it you know.

@op, your observations are well thought out let me add that the Chinese are the ones who practise this 'help your kith and kins to the U.S' the most. As a matter of fact, I have noticed that if care is not taken they may overrun the original Yankees. All around UC Davis and San Francisco you find them in droves either studying or working.

However to adopt this style for Nigerians, we must:

1. Improve the level of trust we have in each other because a lot of people have gotten into some deep shit trying to help a brother

2. Nigerians must endeavour to set up businesses rather than taking up paid employment cos that way u might find it easier to employ other Nigerians.

3. We must equally desist from the fast lane cos America is an unforgiving system when it comes to criminals, once you have a a criminal record, your chances of living a good life are slim not to talk of helping someone else.

tpiah01:
The world will be a better place when we all learn to mind our own business instead of other people's.

A rat sensed d presence of a snake in d house. It ran to his friends cow and goat in d court yard to come and help him chase d snake away. But they told d rat that, they dont have any bizness with d snake inside d house, mr rat you can go ahead and solve ur own problem, we live in d court yard nt inside d house.
Well, the snake bit a woman inside d house which led to her death.
During d burial ceremony, there was need for meat; d goat and d cow in d court yard had to be killed.

MORAL: By helping others, you are invariably helping yourself.

4stylz:


I am brain-dead already

I really do not know the solution to you people's miserable mental state.

It seems permanent.

HIPROFILE:


Something must kill a man...irrespective of age,time,location and status.... But that we may live long!

In this life , choosing who you roll with, goes a long way in determining your life quality.

Contrasting your post with the other post I just quoted, imagine two very different responses to the same comment.

One is filled with depression, hate and frustration with life, while the other shows better coping skills.


Just an observation.

I love this write up