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Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 2:44pm On Mar 17, 2015
She she had been in this relationship for one year, he proposed, everything followed to their traditional marriage last months. But his church says they can't live together until the white wedding is done. He is not buoyant or ready for a white wedding now but has carried out all rights both legal and traditional as they both agreed. what should they do?
The question now is, at what point is marriage recognized and honoured?
Is it at the point of...
(A) agreement between both spouse?
(B) Introduction (both families meeting and knowing each other)?
(C) Traditional Marriage?
(D) Court Marriage? Or the mighty
(E) White Wedding?




For me i think these churches complicates issues.
please i need sincere judgments and opinion, no insults or name calling.
We are all here to learn.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by taiocol: 2:50pm On Mar 17, 2015
Traditional Wedding is all that matters, fucck the church and white wedding

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 2:52pm On Mar 17, 2015
Go to a court and register your marriage.

Fvck the church, fvck the pastor.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by daimsy(f): 2:53pm On Mar 17, 2015
hypocrisy is most associated with churches and their leaders.



Some of the churches contributes to the frustration of young men and women who would've settled down with their choice of patner .

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by GboyegaD(m): 3:02pm On Mar 17, 2015
Dowry is paid at the traditional and the families recognizes they are married. If the pastor doesn't, then it is his cross. I would suggest they go to the registry as well to make it official.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Mhizizzy(f): 3:17pm On Mar 17, 2015
Trad wedding holds more grounds

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by ronald4lif(m): 3:29pm On Mar 17, 2015
Traditional marriage first and the court wedding next. I am only going to do church wedding to please her and join the bandwagon. Not that I give a hoot about church weddings.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 3:36pm On Mar 17, 2015
Thanks people, your comments are encouraging. The court marriage has been done. The big deal for him is that he holds a position in his church. They are threatening to suspend him if he goes against their rules.
One alternative is to leave the church and their rules then join another church but he said his hearts and conscience won't let him.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 3:38pm On Mar 17, 2015
i know he loves his wife but what i don't know is if he loves his church more than his wife.
Should the wife stay put until they do the church wedding or quit the marriage?

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by sinaj(f): 3:45pm On Mar 17, 2015
I wnt deny my hubby of *** afta d trad. wedding sad

xo daz d church palava
d choch doesnt matter afta d trad. so far evrione recognises me as a marid person.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by PreshyG(f): 4:07pm On Mar 17, 2015
D tin is, he mustn't do an elaborate wedding, like me; i will even prefer a private church wedding. Just d priest,d two parents, sponsor and few witnesse. Cos i would not want to stay away from communion because of white wedding. Afta going through intro. And trad.marriage.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by ireneidiva(f): 4:56pm On Mar 17, 2015
SmartFaces:
She she had been in this relationship for one year, he proposed, everything followed to their traditional marriage last months. But his church says they can't live together until the white wedding is done. He is not buoyant or ready for a white wedding now but has carried out all rights both legal and traditional as they both agreed. what should they do?
The question now is, at what point is marriage recognized and honoured?
Is it at the point of...
(A) agreement between both spouse?
(B) Introduction (both families meeting and knowing each other)?
(C) Traditional Marriage?
(D) Court Marriage? Or the mighty
(E) White Wedding?




For me i think these churches complicates issues.
please i need sincere judgments and opinion, no insults or name calling.
We are all here to learn.
Emmm...who says you must spend in a church wedding? Do the church ceremony with your family and forget the reception. Simple

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 5:11pm On Mar 17, 2015
Marriage is officially recognised in Heaven after the bride price has been fully paid to the parents (or anyone in the guardian capacity) of the bride. What happens is church is like requesting a preacher to offer a prayer of blessing on your new car. It is as good as what people derogatorily label blessing of marriage.
I think most people are embracing it more for its pageantry and glamour than its spiritual benefits (yes, spiritual benefits). Since he is a worker and he loves to stick around, let him do it moderately if he has the bread. Otherwise, Sunday thanksgiving and prayers will suffice.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by ronald4lif(m): 5:15pm On Mar 17, 2015
SmartFaces:
Thanks people, your comments are encouraging. The court marriage has been done. The big deal for him is that he holds a position in his church. They are threatening to suspend him if he goes against their rules.
One alternative is to leave the church and their rules then join another church but he said his hearts and conscience won't let him.

He should make a decision, quit the church and join another if they suspend him or do the wedding in his church. He should make up his mind already. Move to another provided is not a white garment. wink

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 5:15pm On Mar 17, 2015
SmartFaces:
i know he loves his wife but what i don't know is if he loves his church more than his wife.
Should the wife stay put until they do the church wedding or quit the marriage?

They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 5:51pm On Mar 17, 2015
CounsellorWise:
Marriage is officially recognised in Heaven after the bride price has been fully paid to the parents (or anyone in the guardian capacity) of the bride. What happens is church is like requesting a preacher to offer a prayer of blessing on your new car. It is as good as what people derogatorily label blessing of marriage.
I think most people are embracing it more for its pageantry and glamour than its spiritual benefits (yes, spiritual benefits). Since he is a worker and he loves to stick around, let him do it moderately if he has the bread. Otherwise, Sunday thanksgiving and prayers will suffice.
thanks, you are right.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 5:53pm On Mar 17, 2015
CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.
thnaks, he must look for a way out.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 5:58pm On Mar 17, 2015
CounsellorWise:


They are officially married! But why did it take him this long to know the marriage rules of his local church? He will be a fool to end his marriage for some personal church doctrines. Church thanksgiving and priestly prayers are sufficient in the eyes of GOD when the bride price has been fully paid.

He knew his church rules, but the white wedding thing is something he doesn't much like. but why can't the church respect people's view on issues like this? not minding the fact that they attended his trad and court wedding.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 8:09pm On Mar 17, 2015
SmartFaces:


He knew his church rules, but the white wedding thing is something he doesn't much like. but why can't the church respect people's view on issues like this? not minding the fact that they attended his trad and court wedding.


He might need to seriously mull over the option of leaving his local assembly sooner than later. It's spiritually and mentally unhelpful when you keep worshipping at a local assembly where you are in a disturbing strife with the church authority.
Let him move elsewhere if they won't accept that he is married. People suffer severe consequences for tussling with local assembly leadership. If he must depart for good in peace, then he must do it now. Shalom!

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 11:18am On Mar 18, 2015
CounsellorWise:



He might need to seriously mull over the option of leaving his local assembly sooner than later. It's spiritually and mentally unhelpful when you keep worshipping at a local assembly where you are in a disturbing strife with the church authority.
Let him move elsewhere if they won't accept that he is married. People suffer severe consequences for tussling with local assembly leadership. If he must depart for good in peace, then he must do it now. Shalom!
thanks dear, you make brain die.
thank authority tussle and hustle is what i want him to avoid because whether he likes it or not, God has placed them there.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 11:30am On Mar 18, 2015
People, please giving him all these advice, i want to know if there are any spiritual implications for him leaving his local church?

one of these mummies in his church was saying something like, "if he leaves, he might start facing some challenges"
i questioned her and said, is it that there are more to that local assembly than the ordinary human can comprehend or is it that there is no God in other assembly?

Make una help me oh!!!
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 12:33pm On Mar 18, 2015
SmartFaces:

thanks dear, you make brain die.
thank authority tussle and hustle is what i want him to avoid because whether he likes it or not, God has placed them there.
Yeah, that's correct. Thanks and cheers!
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 1:00pm On Mar 18, 2015
CounsellorWise:

Yeah, that's correct. Thanks and cheers!
You are welcome dearie. You know sometimes, instead of sitting and idling myself away with people who knows only gossip, i prefer coming in here, reading threads, laughing, catching fun and learning as well. With positive contributions like this, one won't make silly mistakes and this world will be a better place to live.
God bless this thread
God bless you all and other contributors
God bless Oluwa Seun
God bless Nairaland and God bless Nigeria now and always.


Say a very big Amen somebody!!!

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 2:39pm On Mar 18, 2015
SmartFaces:

You are welcome dearie. You know sometimes, instead of sitting and idling myself away with people who knows only gossip, i prefer coming in here, reading threads, laughing, catching fun and learning as well. With positive contributions like this, one won't make silly mistakes and this world will be a better place to live.
God bless this thread
God bless you all and other contributors
God bless Oluwa Seun
God bless Nairaland and God bless Nigeria now and always.


Say a very big Amen somebody!!!
Amen. It's my pleasure.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Kingblingz(m): 4:32pm On Mar 18, 2015
OP what's the name of the church,branch nd location? I think the pastor dey eye d bride coz I wonder y he wuld say u shuldnt live 2geda afta ur traditional wedding!

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 4:34pm On Mar 18, 2015
hi @ all, please I seriously need some tips on how to write a letter to notify my Church of my marriage intent. I strongly appreciate your help.

pls quote me for reply

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 5:57pm On Mar 18, 2015
Kingblingz:
OP what's the name of the church,branch nd location? I think the pastor dey eye d bride coz I wonder y he wuld say u shuldnt live 2geda afta ur traditional wedding!

For eye brows not to raised, we rather let the church name be. Abi how you see am?
But i must confess, you are funny. Wetin make you feel that way? you funny shaa!!!
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Tashaamania(f): 6:03pm On Mar 18, 2015
OP, he is not buoyant enough to carry out church wedding?
Please when did the church start charging people for weddings

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by SmartFaces(f): 6:03pm On Mar 18, 2015
excellence44:
hi @ all, please I seriously need some tips on how to write a letter to notify my Church of my marriage intent. I strongly appreciate your help.

pls quote me for reply

Thanks for sharing with us here. first you must know that different churches have different approach to issues like this. What you should do is ask around your church to know what is obtainable there. Am sure there should be a marriage committee, they handle matters that concerns marriage.

You can also meet the senior pastor, who will in turn direct you to the marriage committee. i think you can start from there.
Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Nobody: 6:03pm On Mar 18, 2015
op no need of church wedding#court and traditional wedding are preferable these days.

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by habiolah(m): 6:20pm On Mar 18, 2015
what exactly is 'church wedding?' and how much does the church charge? any example of church wedding for Bible?

let d pastors bless the union in d presence of witnesses. shikena

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Re: Churches And Wedding Wahala. What Is Your Take On This? by Kingblingz(m): 7:18pm On Mar 18, 2015
SmartFaces:


For eye brows not to raised, we rather let the church name be. Abi how you see am?
But i must confess, you are funny. Wetin make you feel that way? you funny shaa!!!
Personally Me I don't intend doing white wedding,make e be say afta my traditional wedding wan YEYE pastor go come dey tell me say ah no fit live 2geda wit my wife till afta church wedding dat day d pastor go tell me weda na church offering I use do my traditional marriage or my money!

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