Ok folks ur thoughts needed: should relationships/marriage be about give and take? In otherwords input= output Or does one person has to sacrifice more in order for the relationship to be stable? The sacrifice can be intentional or not.

This is a dicey one.

I would say it should be give and take. Both of u should be willing to sacrifice 100% ( talking within d confines of marriage now ). But if I want to be realistic, women tend to sacrifice more.

I believe a woman should be willing to do all within her power to keep her home together even if it's just because of her kids.

That's my humble submission.

what is it called?
a relationship
not a dictatorship
hence its a mutual thing between two people
therefore both parties must be willing to make sacrifices
irrespective of whether such a relationship is altar bound or not
however, in a marriage, the sacrifice should be everything possible without the loss of the individual
hence a woman should be willing to sacrifice everything except the things that make her who she is like her relationship with her God,
her family, her sense of pride in being a woman, e.t.c
same also goes for the man

relationships are a thing of sacrifice

thnks ladies thats all i needed to hear

Most of you are right, but most relationship are not yet in the give and take mode. For women, be wise and keep your house (this requires sacrifices that women alone can offer).
For men, do everything possible to provide for the family (love, protection, provisions, procreation, partnership, and whatever there is that only men can offer).

Application:
If your man is weaker than you, then be the true help mate.
If the woman is weaker, then the man should live with her with an understanding heart.

If both are strong, let the man know his place and the woman her place.

If both are weak, may God help them.

Se Fini!

~Sissy~:

Ok folks ur thoughts needed: should relationships/marriage be about give and take? In otherwords input= output Or does one person has to sacrifice more in order for the relationship to be stable? The sacrifice can be intentional or not.

Women has to sacrifice more as they are the ones more likely to be kicked out like polio.

~Sauron~:

Women has to sacrifice more as they are more likely to be kicked out like polio.

really

~Sissy~:

really

Do the heartbreak ratio and get back to me.

@ Topic.

When it comes to relationship, I think the women should invest more than the guys emotionally. . . .
while the guy should invest more financially and security wise. . .decision making too.

My opinion. . .please.

~Sauron~:

Women has to sacrifice more as they are the ones more likely to be kicked out like polio.

Who told u men cant be dropped like a bad habit too

Taken:

Most of you are right, but most relationship are not yet in the give and take mode. For women, be wise and keep your house (this requires sacrifices that women alone can offer).
For men, do everything possible to provide for the family (love, protection, provisions, procreation, partnership, and whatever there is that only men can offer).

Application:
If your man is weaker than you, then be the true help mate.
If the woman is weaker, then the man should live with her with an understanding heart.

If both are strong, let the man know his place and the woman her place.

If both are weak, may God help them.

Se Fini!

hmmm, and u really think men like to admit they r even weak not to talk of them accepting women take the lead in the relationship

tope2000:

Who told u men cant be[b] dropped like a bad habit too [/b]

xactly girl we can also kick them out like measles since sauron says they can us out like polio

~Sissy~:

xactly girl we can also kick them out like measles since sauron says they can us out like polio

Measles have cure, i cannot say the same about Polio.

tope2000:

Who told u men cant be dropped like a bad habit too

Of course men can be dropped but 70% of heart-break victims are women.

~Sauron~:

Of course men can be dropped but 70% of heart-break victims are women.

And where did u get this statistics from?? who is ur source i want to know??
nobody is immune to heart-break my dear, so leave figures alone

Well a woman can take the lead when appropriate and released it when the big dawg is ready cus only men are enthroned with the long stick.

tope2000:

And where did u get this statistics from?? who is ur source i want to know??
nobody is immune to heart-break my dear, so leave figures alone

no mind sauron, i had this boy that i left and he was so heart broken that he threaten to kill himself, he couldnt do any shit he stayed in bed all day and cry like a baby men always like to play hard but when it hits them it destroys them at once

heart break is universal just like hiv/aids and hits everyone equally

Taken:

Well a woman can take the lead when appropriate and released it when the big dawg is ready cus only men are enthroned with the long stick.

u wished

~Sissy~:

no mind sauron, i had this boy that i left and he was so heart broken that he threaten to kill himself, he couldnt do any shit he stayed in bed all day and cry like a baby men always like to play hard but when it hits them it destroys them at once

I can't believe you. Sisi is a heartbreaker??
U almost drove a man to his death??
Tsssk tsssk.

heart break is universal just like hiv/aids and hits everyone equally

I agree but it claims more victims from the womenfolk than the men.

tope2000:

And where did u get this statistics from?? who is ur source i want to know??
nobody is immune to heart-break my dear, so leave figures alone

Keep deceiving yourself.

~Sissy~:

no mind sauron, i had this boy that i left and he was so heart broken that he threaten to kill himself, he couldnt do any shit he stayed in bed all day and cry like a baby men always like to play hard but when it hits them it destroys them at once

heart break is universal just like hiv/aids and hits everyone equally

I am actually the kind of person that doesnt dwell too much on heart-break, Yes i am feeling hurt n sad but i tend to get over heartbreak very quickly. maybe its because i have always been the dumper not the dumpee .


@sauron
u are the one deceiving urself ojare

tope2000:

I am actually the kind of person that doesnt dwell too much on heart-break, Yes i am feeling hurt n sad but i tend to get over heartbreak very quickly. maybe its because i have always been the dumper not the dumpee .

All of a sudden, every babe on NL is the dumper.
This is hilarious.

@sauron
u are the one deceiving urself ojare

Hmmmmmmm.

~Sauron~:

All of a sudden, every babe on NL is the dumper.
This is hilarious.

Are u surprised??
Bet u thot we are all shite n desperate huh?

tope2000:

Are u surprised??
Bet u thot we are all shite n desperate huh?

Forgive me manners. I underestimated y'all.

~Sauron~:

Forgive me manners. I underestimated y'all.

pat on the head - good boy

~Sauron~:

I can't believe you. Sisi is a heartbreaker??
U almost drove a man to his death??
Tsssk tsssk.


I agree but it claims more victims from the womenfolk than the men.

yes i do break ppl heart especially those who think they r smarter, player, and more wiser

yea u think it claims more women cox men are the worst pretenders they deceive themselves into believing they r strong and can handle it but when the wind blows it carrys them away unlike us women

~Sissy~:

yes i do break ppl heart especially those who think they r smarter, player, and more wiser

yea u think it claims more women cox men are the worst pretenders they deceive themselves into believing they r strong and can handle it but when the wind blows it carrys them away unlike us women

OMG. . . . .U know them tooooooooo well
3 gbosa 4 u!

~Sissy~:

yes i do break ppl heart especially those who think they r smarter, player, and more wiser

Now i know where the "Kill" came from in Sisikill.

yea u think it claims more women cox men are the worst pretenders they deceive themselves into believing they r strong and can handle it but when the wind blows it carrys them away unlike us women

Are u sure of this??

More often than not, one person has to sacrifice for it to work and most times that person appears to be the woman.

~Sauron~:

Are u sure of this??

i'm one hundered and ten percent sure all from pure personally experince

men are way more complicated than us women

DaPhoenix:

More often than not, one person has to sacrifice for it to work and most times that person appears to be the woman.

True but what baffles me is why?? in marriages, yeah i accept its the woman but in relationship must it be just the woman too?

tope2000:

True but what baffles me is why?? in marriages, yeah i accept its the woman but in relationship must it be just the woman too?

cox men think we r nothing without them so it is either we do or we do it no escape

tope2000:

True but what baffles me is why?? in marriages, yeah i accept its the woman but in relationship must it be just the woman too?

Tope darl, key word appears. In reality, many women end up making the men do what they (the women) want them to do. Men just don't know it.