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Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:32pm On Apr 01, 2015
[size=13pt]Reasons why Girls/Ladies Date Older Men.

So there was a thread created earlier today about the age gap for a lady or guy to get married. I observed that many girls preferred to date older guys from their comments. I don't really see this as a bad thing but what I find ridiculous is a girl dating a guy way older than her. How can an 18 year old girl who is still struggling with JAMB or probably still in the University be dating a guy of 29-32 and be comfortable.

To me that's cradle robbery. When the guy started having sex you were probably still in kindergarten or wearing diapers and yet you find nothing bad in dating him.

However that is not what I want to dwell on. I discussed with some of my female friends as to why they prefer dating older men and here are some of the reasons I could garner.

1. Financial stability.
One of the Major reasons is Financial stability. The girls believe dating somebody older than them will help them escape some of their financial hurdles. They don't want to associate with young guys of their age who are still hustling to make paper. Some of them will not date you once you still depend on your parents. That's why some of them can date a married man. You find majority of these types in the Universities and other tertiary institutions.

2. Experience
One of the reasons I got from a girl is Experience. In her words she said "Older guys are more experienced in the matters of Love". Hmmm. I don't know how true this is. Is it that the older you are the more girls you would have dated and therefore you'll have experience? The Ladies should help us with explanations please.

3. Reliability/Trust
Another point Noted out is that they can easily trust these guys. One girl told me that she can easily trust an older guy and he has less tendencies to cheat. She says younger guys are still immature and adventurous so they cannot be fully trusted. Hmmm

4. Freedom
Another point noted is freedom. Some girls like the fact that an older guy will be too busy with his work to be insecure about her activities. You see cases of a girl who is in the university dating a working class guy far away and so she has the freedom to do whatever she wants with other young guys and her real boyfriend may not bother to interrogate her. This is not always the case though. As men are generally jealous.

5.Maturity
This is one of the major points that almost every girl who supports this cause raised. In their opinion,,older guys are way mature than guys of their age bracket. One girl on Nairaland said and I quote "sometimes they act their age and you are tempted to ask,,How old are you again?"
Lol,,as much as we know that maturity is not by age it could still be true that young guys may act their age sometimes but you cannot blame them as it is a phase of life everyone must pass.

But my question to the ladies is if you date an older guy because he may be mature are you also going to be mature in the relationship? You can't be acting like a kid and expect the other guy to keep tolerating you.

Please add yours. wink

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by mirexxx(f): 11:33pm On Apr 01, 2015
cheesy
I don't date older men smiley cheesy
the so called older men that act like kids
they expect you to reason the way they do automatically!
I prefer a guy at most 5yrs older than me and we'll start from there and learn from each other.
not one experienced old guy who will treat you as a kid!
probably cheat on you,abuse sef
most of them are abusive because of the wide gap in the age!

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Nobody: 11:36pm On Apr 01, 2015
HIS EXPERIENCE COUNTS
When it comes to sex, an older male is perceived as knowing his way around the bedroom. He's had to time to perfect his technique, and he can show his younger lover a good sexual time.With an older man, women don't expect any awkward moments in the dark. They expect the guy to know exactly what he is doing and to take the time to meet their needs.

READY FOR COMMITMENT

ady had time to experiment and play the field. Now, they are looking to settle down and commit to a long-term relationship or even to marriage. At this point in his life, he knows that he doesn't want to be alone, and he knows the type of woman who will make him happy. If they have not already had children with previous spouses, older men may wish to immediately marry and start a new family.

BETTER AT COMMUNICATING


ladies are drawn to older men because they are better communicators. Men with an age advantage of 15 years or more have already been through previous relationships. They have learned from their mistakes. They will try not to repeat these actions as they work on a new relationship. Older guys may dwell less on jealousy issues and instead focus on communicating clearly with you so that there will be no misunderstandings. He will be ready to work at makingthis relationship succeed.




#YOLO

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by LogoDWhiz(m): 11:37pm On Apr 01, 2015
I agree with every point.
Maturity, financial stability, experienced a lot of things, and they are secured.


Well, I won't generalise this. Not all girls like older men. And not all older men have all this characteristics

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by NairalandPolice1(m): 11:38pm On Apr 01, 2015
What older men and younger women have in common is they are both suffering from different insecurities. She is looking for someone to make her feel safe, and he is looking for someone who doesn't answer back.. and that's a trophy. cheesy

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Dygeasy(m): 11:38pm On Apr 01, 2015
QED!


There is nothing more to discuss.

I often tell people, if I don't get married to my current girlfriend (with whom the age difference is almost non-existent), then my wife is either sucking _breasts or in kindergarten right now as you inferred.

It's not rocket science really.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:39pm On Apr 01, 2015
mirexxx:
cheesy
I don't date older men smiley
i get scared at the mention of the word men! cheesy
You want to keep dating boys? tongue

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by AbuMikey(m): 11:39pm On Apr 01, 2015
mirexxx:
cheesy
I don't date older men smiley
i get scared at the mention of the word men! cheesy


14 Years in High School, no Holiday! grin

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by emmysoftyou: 11:40pm On Apr 01, 2015
so that they can settled down on time with a guy who is serious with them cos of their old age, and
not the young guys who are young in age and ready to hit nd run,
i mean play ball and score goals..
cos no time.
that matter to them.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Nobody: 11:41pm On Apr 01, 2015
First of all, let's bare in mind that humans develop emotionally and cognitively with age.
The older a guy is, the more experienced he becomes in many areas such as decision making, finance, handling stress, taking care of his partner and running a relationship

He is able to make better decisions due to the knowledge garnered all through the years.
He also becomes more mature in perception and judgment.

We ladies believe that an older partner must have engaged in a relationship or two before ours so he would be shrewd in handling our own.
We believe an older guy to be more emotionally stable than someone younger.

Women naturally feel more relaxed being under a protective figure and we have a default perception to seeing older guys as such.

Op, we shouldn't also eliminate the critical concept of love making
Most ladies believe an older partner must definitely be more competent in satisfying their sexual needs.

But I will always say this,
~ Whenever two people genuinely love each other, "Age" becomes but mere figures.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Nobody: 11:41pm On Apr 01, 2015
naijaboiy:

You want to keep dating boys? tongue

dude, for that to stick, you may need to change your moniker to "naijaman", to let the ladies know that a boy becomes a man grin

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by falconey(m): 11:42pm On Apr 01, 2015
finally naijaboiy opens a thread.

I disagree with number3 older guys cheat more.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Enegod(m): 11:43pm On Apr 01, 2015
I can't wait to get old undecided

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:43pm On Apr 01, 2015
emmysoftyou:
so that they can settled down on time with a guy who is serious with them cos of their old age, and
not the young guys who are young in age and ready to hit nd run,
i mean play ball and score goals..
cos no time.
that matter to them.
But is it really all about marriage though?

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by kinglekan: 11:44pm On Apr 01, 2015
mirexxx:
cheesy
I don't date older men smiley
i get scared at the mention of the word men! cheesy

U prefa boys denn. U wld play d suga mummy role perfectly well.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by mirexxx(f): 11:45pm On Apr 01, 2015
naijaboiy:

You want to keep dating boys? tongue
i never said i date boys na
lol i dont like older men! tongue
not older than me with above 5yrscheesy

most of em behave like little boys smiley
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by mirexxx(f): 11:46pm On Apr 01, 2015
kinglekan:


U prefa boys denn. U wld play d suga mummy role perfectly well.
I call u tell you that one? undecided
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by mirexxx(f): 11:47pm On Apr 01, 2015
AbuMikey:



14 Years in High School, no Holiday! grin
whatchu saying?
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Nobody: 11:47pm On Apr 01, 2015
Date/marry an older guy then end up being a widow by 40 undecided

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:48pm On Apr 01, 2015
GhostProtocol:


dude, for that to stick, you may need to change your moniker to "naijaman", to let the ladies know that a boy becomes a man grin
Lol...the boy is still in the transformation process.
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by nanauju(f): 11:49pm On Apr 01, 2015
All I can say is that the thread has potentials.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by marieolae(f): 11:50pm On Apr 01, 2015
Nice thread sha


Well it depends on the stage that you're in.
I agree that an 18 year old lady has no business with a 28 year old man..
That falls back to the stage she's presently in
A 28 year old woman dating a 40 year old man..
I don't see anything wrong with that.
What do you think naijaboiy?

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by emmysoftyou: 11:50pm On Apr 01, 2015
naijaboiy:

But is it really all about marriage though?
exactly bro
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Dygeasy(m): 11:51pm On Apr 01, 2015
naijaboiy:

But is it really all about marriage though?
Yes it is.

Our parents hustled together in their time. Hardly will you see a large percentage of girls nowadays interested in "starting from scratch" and that's where the age factor comes in.

The only sensible one among the girls you interviewed is the one that mentioned (Financial) Security/Stability. That's all there is to it and the end point is marriage. At least for Nigerian girls.
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by kinglekan: 11:52pm On Apr 01, 2015
mirexxx:
I call u tell you that one? undecided

No vex naaa swtii. I just did 1+1= 2.

Hehehe
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by daveP(m): 11:52pm On Apr 01, 2015
Dygeasy:
QED !


There is nothing more to discuss.

I often tell people, if I don't get married to my current girlfriend (with whom the age difference is almost non-existent), then my wife is either sucking _breasts or in kindergarten right now as you inferred.

It's not rocket science really.
lol

well@ bolded that babarinsa(lect) that loves calculus would write and solve and solve on the board then write@ bolded at the end.

@topic- i concur. Yet to see a lady that denied almost all of the above reasons. Even though the older guy is ALWAYS CHEATING. Seen a case and these ladies(prolly use girls rather), know and yet live under such all cos the guy dey work. Theyre not even sure if he'l obey Gustavo's law of Rag Utility by his next actions. Hmm
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by TheSonOfMark(m): 11:53pm On Apr 01, 2015
mirexxx:
cheesy
I don't date older men smiley
i get scared at the mention of the word men! cheesy
.
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Isn't it ironic that that D!LDO you love so much is a replica of MASCULINE penile appendage? Keep living in the grandeur of self-delusion.

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Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Nobody: 11:53pm On Apr 01, 2015
naijaboiy:

Lol...the boy is still in the transformation process.

Ahh, I see...

Just like the caterpillar morphs into a butterfly, your wings are on their way.
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:53pm On Apr 01, 2015
falconey:
finally naijaboiy open a thread.

I disagree with number3 older guys cheat more.
Lol,,i always drop a thread with care.

And it's always a hit grin

As for the disagreement,,the ladies will have to explain to us I guess. cheesy
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by naijaboiy: 11:53pm On Apr 01, 2015
TheSonOfMark:
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Isn't it ironic that that Love Machine you love so much is a replica of MASCULINE penile appendage?
lipsrsealedgrin
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by Dygeasy(m): 11:55pm On Apr 01, 2015
daveP:
lol

well@ bolded that babarinsa(lect) that loves calculus would write and solve and solve on the board then write@ bolded at the end.

@topic- i concur. Yet to see a lady that denied almost all of the above reasons. Even though the older guy is ALWAYS CHEATING. Seen a case and these ladies(prolly use girls rather), know and yet live under such all cos the guy dey work. Theyre not even sure if he'l obey Gustavo's law of Rag Utility by his next actions. Hmm
And what the _fuck in hell would Gustavo's law of Rag Utility be?
Re: Reasons Why Girls/ladies Date Older Guys. by mirexxx(f): 11:56pm On Apr 01, 2015
kinglekan:


No vex naaa swtii. I just did 1+1= 2.

Hehehe
oya no p cheesy

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