My previous relationships haven't really been fair to me.I've had 2 girlfriends in the past who would have gone to hell,back and forth for me but it all ended before it started.

I'm a very picky guy when it comes to who I'm dating and have been very fortunate to have two girls in the past who loved me a such.
But my problem is,I always think I love them till the unexpected happens(or expected depending on your preference)
My position on pre-marital relationship; is no-sex before marriage,of which I've strayed far away from in my relationship.
My first girlfriend was lisa, she was Asian, we were friends for a couple of months and then decided to kick start a relationship.
I liked her very much as a friend and at some point I even tought I'll marry her(I was a youngin then) I always planned to marry my first girlfriend.
Well everything was beautiful until we strayed and decided to partake of the forbidden fruit.Almost immediately after the deed,I realised how not really in love I was with her (meanwhile I'd always had little doubts about my love for her). We had been friends for a couple of months and she wanted to take it further and I accepted as she always helped me with my assignment and and showed me loads of care.
Well after the deed I noticed my love for her started to decline.I kinda didn't take her seriously as I'd previously done and within couple of months it was over between us.

I had a subsequent relationship with Stella (name changed for privacy reasons) whom was a former high school mate of mine; she came on board after my chapter with lisa was over.
We started as friends again and ended up as lovers.She was in Nigeria while I was away in the other continent studying;We dated for couple of months until I returned.The deed was done again and I began to see less-of-her.The esteem in which I held for her, dropped.And in less than 3 months it was over again.

Since then I've been worried could my lack of non-abstinence have affected my relationship.
What if I fall in love again and It mistakenly happens.Will that be the end??
Or maybe I've never truly been in Love: Sex was just the eye opener

story is as fake as the op!

Say no 2 premarital sex it kills faster than u think

Can somebody please tell me what the OP is talking about? Because in all form of sincerity, I just don't understand what he's taking about...

pretydiva:
Say no 2 premarital sex it kills faster than u think

says who

EroticAngelina:
story is as fake as the op!

What the hell....you don't even know me
Why do people freaking think everyone is a lier here.
Just because you lie doesn't mean everyone takes pleasure in it.
Please grow up

pretydiva:
Say no 2 premarital sex it kills faster than u think

I don't think what you said applies in this context because had he married lisa or stella and had sex with her after the marriage same thing might happen.

Op this your case is hard.
You don't need to be afraid. Had you married one do you think it won't happen?

AndreRose:
Op this your case is hard.
You don't need to be afraid. Had you married one do you think it won't happen?

This is exactly one of my fears.....
What if I abstain then marry.
Would the same thing happen.
The painful part is, this too girls loved me.
I wish I loved them as much maybe it wouldn't have happend.

Actually you're right.
But I don't know if it's the sex or its me.
Or maybe it's lack of love.

pretydiva:
Say no 2 premarital sex it kills faster than u think

BoiledPlantain:

This is exactly one of my fears.....
What if I abstain then marry.
Would the same thing happen.
The painful part is, this too girls loved me.
I wish I loved them as much maybe it wouldn't have happend.

If I may ask, did you actually love them or just lust since after sekks you will loose interest?

Op

Go for a sexuality check

You are gay

you're lucky you never married em. That would have been the worst decision cos same thing would happen.


Its a two way thing, either

You have not yet found your true love yet or
You need to check yourself

sorry sir

pretydiva:
Say no 2 premarital sex it kills faster than u think

kills? Can yhu please expatiate ma'am?

BoiledPlantain:

This is exactly one of my fears.....
What if I abstain then marry.
Would the same thing happen.
The painful part is, this too girls loved me.
I wish I loved them as much maybe it wouldn't have happend.

mental illness...smh go 4 check up ooo

Other words, sex depreciates the value of a woman in the eyes of a man?

Interesting.

loswhite:
mental illness...smh go 4 check up ooo

Bros na u dey sick
Honesty some nairalanders need to grow up

barackodam:
you're lucky you never married em. That would have been the worst decision cos same thing would happen.


Its a two way thing, either

You have not yet found your true love yet or
You need to check yourself

You're correct bro, part of the checking myslef: is to see if anyone has had similar experience with mine and how they solved it.
And also I have a feeling it's more inclined to me not having found someone that I love morethan she loves me.

Maybe!!

MzNelly:
Other words, sex depreciates the value of a woman in the eyes of a man?

Interesting.

I really don't ve ba3 2 start explaining. Buh d bottom line is its a sin n it has grave consequences

BoiledPlantain:


You're correct bro, part of the checking myslef: is to see if anyone has had similar experience with mine and how they solved it.
And also I have a feeling it's more inclined to me not having found someone that I love morethan she loves me.

yes, I mentioned that earlier

OP, u love them, and they do too. But the love u guys have for each other, is not agape love. True love has a foundation and that foundation shld b laid on agape love. This is the only love that can prevent both the lady nd d guy frm having sex, and will also go a long to ensuring that when u are married, both of u will grow old together without divorce. For me, I think u guys love each other the wrong way.

ooooh... wait...





boiledplantain is different from boiledcorn.....






guysss guysss calm down

In ur case.. sex complicates issues..

Fairgodwin:
Can somebody please tell me what the OP is talking about? Because in all form of sincerity, I just don't understand what he's taking about...

his headline is confusing. After the whole straffing he's now telling us history.
Who cares?

pretydiva:
I really don't ve ba3 2 start explaining. Buh d bottom line is its a sin n it has grave consequences

tell me u haven't tasted the forbidden fruit.

EroticAngelina:
story is as fake as the op!

Bae - If someone comments this way when u make a post would u take it lightly?

ronald4lif:


How and who has it killed?

what type of death did u think he was talking about?
Every act of disobedience or sin kills something in you. There are many living dead on planet earth