Lust doesn't lead to love

Neither can love lead to lust

If it's lust, once u get what you want, you're done with the person.

Tayo

ajiboyet:


I'm not one love expert, I've never fallen in love,

@ajiboyet - I'll never believe your opinion no matter what. y? u nailed your self

Can you tell the difference between love and chemistry or love and infatuation?

@Damollar
Seems you dont know the meaning of "chemistry"

Let's not turn this to a Tayo vs. Damola fight. No more deviation please

Tayo

lust na usually the starting process of of luv

that is not totally true .dude

I repeat: they are not the same thing. I like what

ajiboyet:

Lust doesn't lead to love

Neither can love lead to lust

If it's lust, once u get what you want, you're done with the person.

Tayo

I totally like the way you put it, Tayo.

Let me ask you: "Can you stay with your "loved one" if he/she has some disfigurement (God forbid, accident or debilitating sickness)?" That is a real test of commitment and the depth of the heart.

The words "for better or worse" in the marriage vows mean a lot more than we think. If you can't go that far with someone you are still playing around - it's worse if you have started having sex.

I realize that sex is so pleasurable that many would not want to give it up: but I assure you any relationship built on it as the foundation WILL FAIL! We are not built to use it the way the world encourages us to. That's the truth. Only in marriage is the mix of mutual devotion, responsibility and purpose perfect for full freedom in sex. Only in marriage.

The phrase "I love you" is probably the most bastardized in common usage. We say it without realizing the responsibility and the import. Why not when a million times we hear it in music and in movies - short term, self-indulgent "love". Yeah right!

You want to know about love? It exists. True love I mean. And the perfect example remains the love of Jesus - He accepted to be tortured and killed for what we did. Can u beat that? No.

Until you can sacrifice everything for someone, your love is superficial and faint.

You guys this is serious. Your attitude now can seriously help or hamper your happiness in the future. Think about it.

Lots of love, 'Tunde.

Well, we all know Love is better

but its very hard to get

tundefajim:

Let me ask you: "Can you stay with your "loved one" if he/she has some disfigurement (God forbid, accident or debilitating sickness)?" That is a real test of commitment and the depth of the heart.

The words "for better or worse" in the marriage vows mean a lot more than we think. If you can't go that far with someone you are still playing around - it's worse if you have started having sex.

while i agree with the general line of your reasoning, the truth is that some people have a greater capacity to love than others. even at that i could bring in so many possible scenarios which can show a little of the complexities involved

1) taking your disabilities scenario - if my 'loved one' developed serious disabilities that made our relationship very very difficult, would i be showing love if i

a. stayed with her out os a sense of duty appearing to 'love' her while resenting her all the while.

b. realised that i will make her miserable by staying with her and resenting her, therefore i separate from her and get her the best care i can. doesn't my honesty show i love her?

c. what if she insists i get another person because she loves me and wants the best for me?

those are just a couple of scenarios

The english language is truly very limited in describing this thing called 'love'

I don't think the word has been abused, i feel people just describe different kinds of love

eros, philial, and agape

the so called 'true love' that y'all are harping about is a combination of all of these

what is so many times condemned as 'lust' is actually erotic/sexual love which when given its right place helps the rest of the relationship.
being sexually attracted cannot be easily categorised as lust, its when that desire becomes an inordinate/at all costs thing that it becomes lust.

since in my view 'lust' = passion when allowed its place, i will definitely want to have it as part of my love.

for guys! when a friend, collegue or anyother man under the heavens eyes your sister, niece, cousin, daughter or lady friend, it is LUST, until proven otherwise. when you eye some other persons sister, neice, daughter etc it is LOVE, pure, straight from heaven, altruist, etc. na so this world be?

for the ladies,
when a heavily loaded guy approaches you and whets the ground with eye popping gifts, it is love. But when a broke ass brother, approaches you with talk, talk and more plain stupid lyrics, na lust. ''prove your love to me, stop TELLING it, action, too much talk tires the soul''


Finally,

all love and no lust = outside match (away match), infidelity aka body no be firewood

all lust and no love = PhD in bedmatological kinetics

Love is a deep feeling of affection for sm1.That is,a special liking for some1 and you are sexually attracted to that person.I mean the romantic love not the ones we share with family members and friend.While lust is a strong sexual desire,especially where love is not concerned.So, d difference is that love goes deeper,it stirs from the soul,the spirit mind and body are ther,smtimes luv makes sacrifices but lust is only interested in the sexual pleasure it will derive from the body.Lust does not penetrate to the heart,it only in the persons head.The person is obsessed with it.

actually one is bitchin the other is luven

Truth is - real love is hard to find
Most people just want to get down.

ajiboyet:

Truth is - real love is hard to find
Most people just want to get down.

true

if you want to know what is love and what is lust ,then u read the following story and observe very well the words in red :

2 Samuel 13
Amnon and Tamar
1 In the course of time, Amnon son of David fell in love with Tamar, the beautiful sister of Absalom son of David.

2 Amnon became frustrated to the point of illness on account of his sister Tamar, for she was a virgin, and it seemed impossible for him to do anything to her.

3 Now Amnon had a friend named Jonadab son of Shimeah, David's brother. Jonadab was a very shrewd man. 4 He asked Amnon, "Why do you, the king's son, look so haggard morning after morning? Won't you tell me?"
Amnon said to him, "I'm in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister."

5 "Go to bed and pretend to be ill," Jonadab said. "When your father comes to see you, say to him, 'I would like my sister Tamar to come and give me something to eat. Let her prepare the food in my sight so I may watch her and then eat it from her hand.' "

6 So Amnon lay down and pretended to be ill. When the king came to see him, Amnon said to him, "I would like my sister Tamar to come and make some special bread in my sight, so I may eat from her hand."

7 David sent word to Tamar at the palace: "Go to the house of your brother Amnon and prepare some food for him." 8 So Tamar went to the house of her brother Amnon, who was lying down. She took some dough, kneaded it, made the bread in his sight and baked it. 9 Then she took the pan and served him the bread, but he refused to eat.
"Send everyone out of here," Amnon said. So everyone left him. 10 Then Amnon said to Tamar, "Bring the food here into my bedroom so I may eat from your hand." And Tamar took the bread she had prepared and brought it to her brother Amnon in his bedroom. 11 But when she took it to him to eat, he grabbed her and said, "Come to bed with me, my sister."

12 "Don't, my brother!" she said to him. "Don't force me. Such a thing should not be done in Israel! Don't do this wicked thing. 13 What about me? Where could I get rid of my disgrace? And what about you? You would be like one of the wicked fools in Israel. Please speak to the king; he will not keep me from being married to you." 14 But he refused to listen to her, and since he was stronger than she, he raped her.

15 Then Amnon hated her with intense hatred. In fact, he hated her more than he had loved her. Amnon said to her, "Get up and get out!"

@Uche2nna
If you have to ask my brother, then you are not ready.

@ Makeda .ready or not here I come

@Uche2nne
You are crazy!!!

yes, there is a simple difference

lust - you want the booty - ONLY
love - booty is nice - but not the main objective

unfortunately, with all the loose morals in the eastern parts of the world, sometimes, these differences can become confused

Lust & Love difference? . ok, small.

SEXSUALLY lust is a strong sexual-urge that last for an enjoyable moment(sex) , while love is a true and longer lasting feeling even after moment of enjoyment(sex) one have for some body ^{love get after party value} _{sexually ooh}

Hey dawgs where are you

@egoldman: that's not lust, that's sexual assault. I guess you can't tell the difference.

hehehee

@Makeda y are saying that i am crazy.I resemble Clifford Orji for eye

u all don't know wat u r talking bout.

bootae is nice but not the main thing = kinda like dat description

don jazzie:

bootae is nice but not the main thing = kind of like that description

Are You in Love or Lust? How can you tell if you're smitten or just obsessed?

I believe you can't really have one without the other.

na u sabi

There is no different lust leed love

don jazzie:

na u sabi

Find out how seductive you are with this quiz. , When someone tells you you're sexy, you feel:. Like laughing; Proud as a peacock; Pretty damn good ,

none of the above or all of the above depending on my mood