mimini:
I am a mother of 3 kids.I had not started working when I had my first kids which are twins. I rejected job offers because I didn't have the heart to leave my kids with a HOUSE HELP and don't have any relatives staying with me or leaving in the city where I am that could help me. When they were of school age, I took a job, but stopped working in a few weeks when they fell sick.Giving your boss excuses always because of your sick kid is no fun at all. Especially as they are twins; when one is trying to recuperate, the other twin is falling sick. So it takes a longer time before reporting to work again.
Now I have a baby that is almost a year old and I am thinking of working and building my career. Please working class mothers with little kids and babies, how do you care for your kids and go to work at the same time, especially when they fall ill, without it affecting your job or causing your boss to frown?

mimini:
@bukatyne



I read Geology. Would love to build a career in Education so that I would have time for my kids. My husband is doing well. In his opinion, he wouldn't want me to stress myself in working for now, or have a less stressful job if i am so eager to work so i would have time for the kids too.

Ewuro4:
My paediatrician can't stand these daycares that call parents at work for fever or nausea. It's just plain ridiculous.

Ewuro4:
^^Tell them. I'm tired.

Ralphlauren:
what about dropping the kids off at a very good daycare center?

i do not understand all the noise about women unable to combine career with raising kids or giving up their career because of their kids.

being a 'stay-at-home' mum doesnt mean you will have the most intelligent kids on earth. Heck! I am surrounded by people with 1st class degrees with excellent jobs whose mothers all combined motherhood with their careers and they retired as executive directors, MDs of top companies.

having a very good job/impressive career if anything sets a good example for your kids. it shows you are successful, independent, motivated and hardworking

why would someone with a geology degree aspire for a teaching job under the guise of ''you want to raise your kids''? what happened to oil and gas firms? do you know you can work in the office and not on a rig with your degree? oil and gas jobs are actually the least stressful. by 4pm, the staff bus is waiting to drive everyone home.

why did you study geology in the first place? you must have known you were going to be a mother some day, so why didnt you just get a degree in education rather than putting yourself through the rigours of acquiring a degree in geology?

one day those kids will leave home. dont forget that. by age 12/13, they are off to boarding school. in sane countries, a 16yr old is classed an adult. by age 18, they are off to university. before you know it, they are married. so dont give up on your dreams/career because of them.

women, stop limiting yourselves!!

Ralphlauren:
what about dropping the kids off at a very good daycare center?

i do not understand all the noise about women unable to combine career with raising kids or giving up their career because of their kids.

being a 'stay-at-home' mum doesnt mean you will have the most intelligent kids on earth. Heck! I am surrounded by people with 1st class degrees with excellent jobs whose mothers all combined motherhood with their careers and they retired as executive directors, MDs of top companies.

having a very good job/impressive career if anything sets a good example for your kids. it shows you are successful, independent, motivated and hardworking

why would someone with a geology degree aspire for a teaching job under the guise of ''you want to raise your kids''? what happened to oil and gas firms? do you know you can work in the office and not on a rig with your degree? oil and gas jobs are actually the least stressful. by 4pm, the staff bus is waiting to drive everyone home.

why did you study geology in the first place? you must have known you were going to be a mother some day, so why didnt you just get a degree in education rather than putting yourself through the rigours of acquiring a degree in geology?

one day those kids will leave home. dont forget that. by age 12/13, they are off to boarding school. in sane countries, a 16yr old is classed an adult. by age 18, they are off to university. before you know it, they are married. so dont give up on your dreams/career because of them.

women, stop limiting yourselves!!

damiso:
Ralph Lauren are you going to leave an ill child at the daycare? Lil children between 0 and 5 are building up their immune system and some of them tend to have all this niggly lil illnesses e.g tonsillitis, chicken pox that just cant be helped and crop up at the most awkward and annoying times. In my sons nursery just one small episode of vomiting they call you to come pick up the child and they cant return until 48 hours after that incident because bugs tend to spread very fast around lil children as they are always all up in each other's faces. That's why in the UK most organisations have dependants leave for parents with young children.

OP it gets better as they get older so just stick in there. Like Mutter said you and your hubby( depending on if his job allows) have to work out a way where sometimes he will be the one to pick up or step in when these lil emergencies occur. My hubby was the one who had take more time off during the last school holidays as he had some left over annual leave from last year. If you live close to relatives they can also help out from time to time.

The way forward is flexible working time for parents with very young kids. Unfortunately that's not something accessible to everyone everywhere.

its sooooo annoying but the UK is health and safety cra,zy.

I get a call EVERY single time my daughter has an accident on the playground. And I mean even if she just bumps into another child.

Ralphlauren:




Ewuro you agreed with my post ?

na which soap i use baff today

i was actually expecting daggers from you and a sermon on why a mum should stay with her kids till they are 25yrs old

Oh well, I'm glad you see some sense in my post

Ewuro4:
Damiso,

Once they suck you into their ridiculous call sequence to relieve their workload, they will never stop. That's just uncalled for and unfair for the parents. I mean they won't reduce your monthly charges , or do they?

Have 7 homeopathic medications ( you know how overrated those are too ) per each child's class/room. And they have their health cards details & pedi phone numbers, with parent consent. so they never page except the center is on fire

Ewuro4:


Hehehe morire

If you expect such response from me then you have been reading the wrong Ewuro's posts and personal convictions on this forum.

I can't stand a lazy woman. Everyone knows this .

That post deserves an Oscars and Emmy.

Ralphlauren:


damiso, taking time off from work (one day to a week) to take care of a sick child is different from giving up your career entirely to raise a child.

in as much as you might get the 'stare' from your employer anytime you give 'child care' reasons for not coming to work or coming in late, trust me they understand.

the mothers they have issues with are those not pulling their weight in the workplace. if you know your onions well, the business will actually 'bend' for you.

heck! i know mothers that work few days a week (3days) and attend meetings via skype from the comfort of their homes and trust me, their input to the organisation is immeasurable.

besides, parenting is a joint effort. if the man has a more flexible job, then he has to do the school runs, attend all the PTA meetings, etc. however, some men do not want to get involved. they are happy to push their wives to ''teaching jobs'' under the guise of ''taking care of the kids'' while they flourish in their own careers which is bullocks if you ask me - after all, they had the kids together, so why cant he make sacrifices too?.

regarding UK's HSE, its for every parents' good. i am all for full disclosure especially with kids. if my kid receives a punch from another, i want to know

Ralphlauren:


i have seen some of your 'fights' with the men on this section, so i just labelled you as 'oni wahala'

I thot you were the posterlady for 'sit-at-home-mums'. my bad ! must have gotten you mixed up with some other poster

damiso:



that would be me

Ewuro4 and Dayokanu hate alabodos as they call them with a passion

Ralphlauren:


i have seen some of your 'fights' with the men on this section, so i just labelled you as 'oni wahala'

I thot you were the posterlady for 'sit-at-home-mums'. my bad ! must have gotten you mixed up with some other poster

Ewuro4:


Poster wetin? Ahhhhghhh orimiooooohh

You must think I'm overweight too jesu oko ijo.

Anyway, Have a great day.

Ewuro4:
^^Tell them. I'm tired.

Ralphlauren:


damiso, taking time off from work (one day to a week) to take care of a sick child is different from giving up your career entirely to raise a child.

in as much as you might get the 'stare' from your employer anytime you give 'child care' reasons for not coming to work or coming in late, trust me they understand.

the mothers they have issues with are those not pulling their weight in the workplace. if you know your onions well, the business will actually 'bend' for you.

heck! i know mothers that work few days a week (3days) and attend meetings via skype from the comfort of their homes and trust me, their input to the organisation is immeasurable.

besides, parenting is a joint effort. if the man has a more flexible job, then he has to do the school runs, attend all the PTA meetings, etc. however, some men do not want to get involved. they are happy to push their wives to ''teaching jobs'' under the guise of ''taking care of the kids'' while they flourish in their own careers which is bullocks if you ask me - after all, they had the kids together, so why cant he make sacrifices too?.

regarding UK's HSE, its for every parents' good. i am all for full disclosure especially with kids. if my kid receives a punch from another, i want to know

Ralphlauren:
what about dropping the kids off at a very good daycare center?

i do not understand all the noise about women unable to combine career with raising kids or giving up their career because of their kids.

being a 'stay-at-home' mum doesnt mean you will have the most intelligent kids on earth. Heck! I am surrounded by people with 1st class degrees with excellent jobs whose mothers all combined motherhood with their careers and they retired as executive directors, MDs of top companies.

having a very good job/impressive career if anything sets a good example for your kids. it shows you are successful, independent, motivated and hardworking

why would someone with a geology degree aspire for a teaching job under the guise of ''you want to raise your kids''? what happened to oil and gas firms? do you know you can work in the office and not on a rig with your degree? oil and gas jobs are actually the least stressful. by 4pm, the staff bus is waiting to drive everyone home.

why did you study geology in the first place? you must have known you were going to be a mother some day, so why didnt you just get a degree in education rather than putting yourself through the rigours of acquiring a degree in geology?

one day those kids will leave home. dont forget that. by age 12/13, they are off to boarding school. in sane countries, a 16yr old is classed an adult. by age 18, they are off to university. before you know it, they are married. so dont give up on your dreams/career because of them.

women, stop limiting yourselves!!

naijababe:
@ OP, I have nothing against stay at home mums just as long as while staying at home they have some kind of skill they can earn an income from and hopefully it is a skill they can fall back on if for whatever reason they are forced by circumstances to become the income sole earner.

I am too practical to be an 'alabodo'!!!

bukatyne:


I agree

However, have you considered that Some husbands are not willing for their wives to work? Build a career?

Their are a lot of facets to This

Besides, very successful women have their husbands' full support

Ralphlauren:
what about dropping the kids off at a very good daycare center?

i do not understand all the noise about women unable to combine career with raising kids or giving up their career because of their kids.

being a 'stay-at-home' mum doesnt mean you will have the most intelligent kids on earth. Heck! I am surrounded by people with 1st class degrees with excellent jobs whose mothers all combined motherhood with their careers and they retired as executive directors, MDs of top companies.

having a very good job/impressive career if anything sets a good example for your kids. it shows you are successful, independent, motivated and hardworking

why would someone with a geology degree aspire for a teaching job under the guise of ''you want to raise your kids''? what happened to oil and gas firms? do you know you can work in the office and not on a rig with your degree? oil and gas jobs are actually the least stressful. by 4pm, the staff bus is waiting to drive everyone home.

why did you study geology in the first place? you must have known you were going to be a mother some day, so why didnt you just get a degree in education rather than putting yourself through the rigours of acquiring a degree in geology?

one day those kids will leave home. dont forget that. by age 12/13, they are off to boarding school. in sane countries, a 16yr old is classed an adult. by age 18, they are off to university. before you know it, they are married. so dont give up on your dreams/career because of them.

women, stop limiting yourselves!!