[color=#990000][/color]HUSBAND SCARCITY!!!
This may not be the best time for me to write
on this because of misinterpretations, but I can
no longer resist the push. "Husband Scarcity"
has become one of the challenges faced by
many young girls today. If you go to prayer
houses, majority of the intentions are prayer
for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than women
then, or there was an adequate corresponding
numbers of both genders. I don't think so.
Maybe then, the women had values and were
prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home. Then,
once a young man comes of age and can at
least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a
future. What am I really trying to say? We
created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity"
for ourselves. Today, the reverse is the case.
Ask an average girl to define her dream
husband; you get things like "he has to be tall,
handsome, fair, and rich, own a house at least,
and be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then,
check the number of girls around you and the
number of men that meet that standard, and
you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I
cannot suffer in my father's house and then go
and start suffering with a man." What a
wonderful dream! What if from the beginning,
you have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the table
turns around, then comes suffering? Will you
run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is
good to start small and end big, than start big
and end small. The problem is that the
description majority of girls give of their ideal
man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49
others? They simply start lamenting of
"Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time
is that it is hard, due to the face of our
economy to find a man who is of marriage age
who possesses all
those things these ladies want, legally (except
those involved in Internet fraud); even the
number of those in Internet fraud is not
enough to match all those searching for already
made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of
substance, of good value and virtue, who are
ready to build a home with a man who has
prospects, are married and not complaining of
husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a
husband now, is to change your view of who a
husband is. A husband is that man God made
and then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for making him,
without a help mate and then made the woman
and gave to him, and he felt complete and
fulfilled. MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAM. It is a mission of
building the family of God here on earth. For
those who see marriage as a way out of
poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T
CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY.
Where he is today, may only be a route to
where God has destined him to be tomorrow.
Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY
FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
alleviating "husband scarcity". PICK UP THE
RIGHT VALUES. I am not saying that you should
pick anyone that comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband materials.
What I am saying is that you should stop setting
your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the
physical. WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS
WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF. And that which he is
made of is, most times, not seen with the
physical eyes, only its
effects can be seen. Marriage is a permanent
thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that
which is not seen is permanent. Relax and go to
God in prayer. God did not just make Eve for
making sake; He made her for Adam's need to
be helper. So be wife and have a second
thought

Too long. Some are true but I disagree with the part about population. In actual fact, the ratio of females to males is increasing, and there are fewew males for females.

D guys are not scarce, them de buh most are not gain fully employed to tak kia of their selfs not to talk of taking kia of another man Pickin....

Unemployment is responsible for 60% of husband scarcity

Na so we see am

When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one.

temitemi1:
When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one.

abi o

temitemi1:
When 50 girls want
the same kind of man and the man that fits
what they want is just 1 man, and the man can
only pick one.

dry

@qpbd2, there is nothing to argue in this write up, everything had been rightly said. please ponder and make amendment if you are in that category. I can say that 97 percent of young ladies out there are guilty of this, none of them wants struggle with any man,they want already cooked soup .

Op husband is surplus depending on your choice because we have different types of husband

As for our ladies, demand is higher than supply

qbd2:
Too long. Some are true but I disagree with the part about population. In actual fact, the ratio of females to males is increasing, and there are fewew males for females.

Hence, hold your man tight

kenny1st:
@qpbd2, there is nothing to argue in this write up, everything had been rightly said. please ponder and make amendment if you are in that category. I can say that 97 percent of young ladies out there are guilty of this, none of them wants struggle with any man,they want already cooked soup .

seconded

agarawu23:
Op husband is surplus depending on your choice because we have different types of husband

As for our ladies, demand is higher than supply

are you really sure there are surplus husbands?? There are 3.something billion men and 4.something women in this world, is that surplus??

Husbands are not scarce. I disagree with you op. It all depends on the woman. If a woman really displays the right qualities, takes good care of herself she will even be graced with the opportunity of making a choice amongst the numerous suitors lurking around.

OP tell them. Only if they will learn, thats the problem.

Mekus68:
OP tell them. Only if they will learn, thats the problem.

I believe they will

If as a lady if you are experiencing difficulties in geeting a husband then there is something wrong with you somewhere that you need to work on


no bragging but i'm barely up to the age of marriage but i have got suitors in the waiting.

Aston be this?