kpolli:


Introduce the SIL to a man, she needs a good D

cococandy:


The face-carrying is because she's the same age as the wife and maybe can't really do anything to her.
If she was older, maybe wifey for dey chop slap for not respecting her in her own brother's house.

Not saying the wife is without blame but if she's not being a good hostess, then the visitor should leave at her earliest convenience for her own peace of mind.
I can't imagine someone disrespecting me for being in their house and I'll keep staying when I can arrange to move out instead of 'moodying' about the house waiting for husband and wife to fall out because of me.
Worse still not saying what the problem is so that we can all settle the matter peacefully.

Flytefalls:

Thank you! What can be made of the word 'normal', but surely it's not normal to remain in such a house if you have just cause for the entire family to stand up to their son regarding his wife. This inclines my thoughts towards the SIL having issues she should deal with. Otherwise she's just bored and playing with power.

Kick her out!!!!

LewsTherin:
My eldest sister once accused my Lady wrongly and was berating her over the phone. When I finished tearing eye for my sister ehn, she arranged herself. Today my sister and my Lady are all pallsie wallsie with each other.

I guess it's because I was raised well. My folks hardly come to my home. My Dad once told me that my house is my house and he has no business being there. My mom will maintains herself and does not interfere. My siblings are on their own.

Don't get me wrong. We are not fighting or forming for each other. But we all learnt respect and know that respect is earned, is reciprocal.

Besides, the Bible expects me to LEAVE my father and mother and CLEAVE to my wife. So.....

cococandy:


@bold. Not easily accomplished.
You're too 'westernized'
Nobody kicks an in-law out without being the bad guy for it.
Didn't you read where she threatened to leave if her brother didn't drop the issue? (Even though she didn't really mean to go anywhere or she'd have done it)
That's because she knows once the word is out that her brother and his wife sent her out of their home, they are the bad guys regardless of what happened. So that's a nice weak spot to use in making them Uncomfortable. Like you said "playing with power"

The couple don't want trouble from their family so they obviously have no choice than to wait it out until she opens up on what's really making her upset.

Flytefalls:

If being westernized means my sister who is in my home must respond to my call for peace, at the risk of being asked to leave nicely first, and not so nice subsequently, then heck yeah! Perhaps I'm not really that nice

All this pussy footing around one emotional woman, I don't have time for it (I do have patience, but none for stale inaction). It's in no one's best interest to leave her sulking, creating a dark cloud with nothing in the name of resolution happening soon. Sorry, but go home if you can't respect your brother's request for some insight into your troubles and peace in his home. Sometimes the threat is enough to make one open up .

Some people just want to create drama over nothing, and even worse are the spectators who have their time (that includes us)