|Join Nairaland / LOGIN! / Trending / Recent / New|
Stats: 2,299,137 members, 5,053,681 topics. Date: Tuesday, 23 July 2019 at 04:43 PM
|Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 8:30am On Apr 30, 2015|
Daughter of Lesbians: ‘The Kids Are Not Alright’
The Supreme Court is hearing cases Tuesday that could determine if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land.
One key part of the debate centers on whether sanctioning gay marriage is fair to the children who would then be raised by same-sex couples.
While gay activists argue same-sex couples have the right to marry and be parents, six children who were raised by same-sex parents have filed briefs stating their opposition to redefining marriage.
Heather Barwick and Katy Faust filed a “friend of the court” brief saying they were harmed because they were not raised by a father and a mother.
“While we love and cherish our mothers, we feel it’s imperative that we bring to the court’s attention the impact that redefining marriage will have on children like us,” they wrote.
“We oppose gay marriage on the grounds that it violates children’s rights and cannot provide children with the most foundational building blocks for child development – a mother and father living with and loving them,” they stated.
CBN News recently spoke with another adult daughter of a same-sex couple. Brandi Walton wrote about her experience in TheFederalist.com in an article called, “The Kids Are Not Alright: A Lesbian’s Daughter Speaks Out.”
6 Likes 8 Shares
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 8:34am On Apr 30, 2015|
The Kids are not alright: A lesbian's daughter speaks out.
Male and female biology each provide something every child needs—together.
- Brandi Walton
Dear LGBT Community,
I am not your daughter. I never carried a flag in one of your gay pride parades. I have never written a letter on your behalf to a congressman or anyone else, and I have never felt the need to make people accept the fact I am the daughter of a lesbian. Perhaps it’s because she never felt the need to force people to accept her for being one.
No, I would never align myself to a community as intolerant and self-absorbed as the LGBT community, a community that demands tolerance with fervor and passion, yet does not give it in return, even to its own members at times. In fact, this community attacks anyone who does not agree with them, no matter how lovingly any difference of opinion is expressed.
I myself am a product of the Lesbian Revolution of the 1980s. My mother always knew she liked girls, but tried hard to be a good, straight, southern Baptist girl. When I was a year old, she left my dad for another man, whom we lived with until I was somewhere around four years old. After the divorce, she told my father to leave, which he did, and in his own words, “I did because I knew I couldn’t fight the entire family to see you.” I cannot remember the man she left him for very well, but I can remember being happy living with him. It did not last, however, and when she left him, she left him for a woman.
Silencing People about Homosexuality Won’t Change What Kids Can See
I knew from a young age that living with two women was not natural. I could especially see it in the homes of my friends who had a mom and a dad. I spent as much time with those friends as I possibly could. I yearned for the affection that my friends received from their dads. I wanted to know what it was like to be held and cherished by a man, what it was like to live with one from day to day.
As far as I was concerned, I already had one mother; I did not need another. My dream was that my mother would decide she wanted to be with men again, but obviously that dream did not come true. My grandfathers and uncles did the best they could when it came to spending time with me and doing all the daddy-daughter stuff, but it was not the same as having a full-time father, and I knew it. It always felt secondhand.
Growing up without the presence of a man in my home damaged me personally. All I wanted from the time I was a little girl was a normal family. When I graduated high school, my thoughts were not entirely where they needed to be. While my friends were excited about college, a piece of me was missing, and I knew I would never feel whole until I found it
I had a desire unlike any other to create my own family and have stability, and this led to two extremely unhealthy relationships. Luckily, I found my way out of both, but after being hurt and used so badly, I decided happiness just was not meant for me. Shortly afterwards, I met my husband, and everything clicked. For the first time, I felt alive and complete. Having children and seeing a man parent a child for the first time was beautiful and awe-inspiring. It only reinforced my belief that a child needs a mother and a father, and that same-sex parenting and single parenting are far inferior to heterosexual parenting when done correctly
As an adult, I have tried to talk to my mom about how difficult my life was, but she simply cannot relate because she was raised by a mom and a dad.
3 Likes 6 Shares
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 9:27am On Apr 30, 2015|
make i keep land for FP incase
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 10:16am On Apr 30, 2015|
Concerning lesbianism and homosexuality, we are just flowing with modern times and being polite with these people.
The truth is that same-sex relationship is an abnormality and a disease.
15 Likes 2 Shares
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by crackhaus: 11:55am On Apr 30, 2015|
America - a place where two men/women phucking each other can be legalized, but polygamy is criminalized.
Someone please tell me which of these two is more natural.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 1:27pm On Apr 30, 2015|
I Hate Gays!!!
I don't know how the physiology of women work with regard to homosexuality, but I can't just imagine a guy grabbing my John Thomas
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 3:08pm On Apr 30, 2015|
154views and only 6posts
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 6:40pm On Apr 30, 2015|
She should have focused her argument around the impact of her mothers homosexuality on her life. But no, she chose to get it all muddled up with the realm of single parenthood. It detracts from the seriousness of her declaration to LGBT groups.
Where two sexes come together, there will never (naturally) be a child generated from their relationship. It ain't my business to concern myself with same sex relationships, but once a child is introduced, we cannot be ignorant to the fact it may be not in the child's best interest. Nothing proven as yet, but we cannot turn a blind eye to such issues.
But where there is a heterosexual relationship, children are created naturally and it can be that the couple will split and that child will have to endure life living mostly with one parent at home. Why should anyone advocate adults to remain together if it's obvious they will not be happy together?
She lost credibility with the above. Sorry.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by jadelyn007(f): 7:04pm On Apr 30, 2015|
What if her dad were dead and her aunt or some other female had to live with them.
Silly child, I thought she was going to bring up really concrete supportive arguments, seems what bothers her is that other kids have a dad n she doesnt
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by dinachi(m): 8:07pm On Apr 30, 2015|
Trust Lesbians in the house to attack her story. You create children through heterosexual sex but homosexuals now raise them. Bunch of clowns! I trust homosexuals to suppress the story.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 8:30pm On Apr 30, 2015|
dinachi:Name calling. Are you 12?
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by cococandy(f): 8:36pm On Apr 30, 2015|
5minsmadness:What were you hoping to see?
More gay bashing?
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by luvablesam(m): 10:58pm On Apr 30, 2015|
like she said 'people like her mum who were raised by a mom and a Dad would never understand what she went through growing up'
Fact is if u are gay or lesbian, u have no business raising kids as a couple. This was the same thing Dolce and Gabanna said(both being gays) and instantly they became enemies of the Lesbian and gay community in Europe n America...
No one is judging anyone,just don't circumvent nature. Period!!!!
10 Likes 3 Shares
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Royver(m): 11:07pm On Apr 30, 2015|
"Her mother's homosexuality" is what the entire article is about. The child is talking about being deprived of the prescence of a father ...a man figure... in her life which is as a direct result of the mother's homosexuality.
She is very on point.
I see no credibility lost here. If anything, I see a supressed child raised in an unnatural situation finally having the guts to speak out despite the possibility of rejection from her family and all that she has known.
Kudos to her.
16 Likes 2 Shares
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Temismith: 11:07pm On Apr 30, 2015|
no no no no....
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Royver(m): 11:11pm On Apr 30, 2015|
jadelyn007:What if her lesbian mother sexually abused her and her lesbian fatherfigure was a drug addict?
Adding all the what-if's in the world does not discredit her story.
@5minsmadness, from your link, you didnt post the rest of her write-up. I think it makes a very interesting read.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by SAMBARRY: 11:14pm On Apr 30, 2015|
Luvable you still dey nl
kujo meta.hows bernet? he must be a big boy by now?
shey e never dey tear magazines and destroy cd discs
greet am for me o
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by luvablesam(m): 11:27pm On Apr 30, 2015|
Babe(can I still call u DAT?) am good ooo..Bennett is a big boy now ...we now have to keep everything away from his reach...Its not easy(phew)....How is my daughter-in-law (Wura)....Help me give her kisses ooo
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by dinachi(m): 11:37pm On Apr 30, 2015|
Flytefalls:Keep sucking your fellow woman rotten puccy until You die from herpes and AID.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 11:40pm On Apr 30, 2015|
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by SAMBARRY: 11:48pm On Apr 30, 2015|
luvablesam:daughter inlaw ke?
let the girl go brez na
the same thing with wura. Because of her i remove every thing breakable. She has broken my phone screen, cups , plates etc.
of which she prefers using tumblers instead of her plastic cup because she wants to be watching the water as she's drinking it
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 12:29am On May 01, 2015|
Royver:She is entitled to tell her story, I truly hear her, but my problems with it lie mainly with her conclusions not the story itself.
Her final remarks are where I feel she is on an unrealistic quest for worldwide, happy family, perfection. She directs her attack to one group of people, then at the end ties another group to it. I am a child of a single parent family, should I write a letter to a federation of single parents decrying violations to my human rights because my mother and father chose to part ways? Yes, I'd have loved to have my dad with us, but is it really the same as being forced to have two dads/mums? Should we tackle the two issues (same sex and single parent) together? Yes, both may be inferior for arguments sake, but is it right to group them together, as if they were equal? This is what she alludes to, and I must disagree. Hence my criticism. I feel she cheapens her own argument
There are far more engaging, less la la land, stories out there involving children born to same sex couples (via donors) who actually have no father or mother to speak of. This woman was even lucky she knew of her father and has seen his face and heard his voice. Her story is not lessened by that fact, but it is not the most compelling.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 12:41am On May 01, 2015|
That might have been my fault. Her discourse did not end there. Just felt it was a little too long to post everything here.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 12:43am On May 01, 2015|
5minsmadness:Abrakadabrajujuobeahwazoo it here then
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by 5minsmadness: 12:47am On May 01, 2015|
This is the rest of it:
Knowing next to nothing about males is hardly all that was hard about being raised by two women. It probably comes as no surprise that growing up in Podunk, Oklahoma, was not a walk in the park. Unlike other kids who were apparently raised in gay utopias, I grew up very alone and isolated. I was an only child and there weren’t other kids around like me to talk with and relate to. No one I knew understood what I struggled with each day, and I had no option but to keep it all inside.
As an adult, I have tried to talk to my mom about how difficult my life was, but she simply cannot relate because she was raised by a mom and a dad. As a child, I would not have spoken out about the way I was being raised, either. I love my mom. She was the center of my universe and the thought of saying something to outsiders that would have hurt her devastated me. Writing this letter right this very moment is devastating me.
But I am doing it anyway. I am doing it because people need to know that it is not all roses. The effects of growing up the way I did still plays a part in my life today. I was beyond self-conscious as a child, and constantly worried about what others thought of me. I was always terrified of someone finding out my mom was a lesbian and then wanting nothing to do with me. For most of my life, the perceived opinions of others have dominated, and only recently have I been able to let that go.
That is only the tip of the iceberg. The studies claiming we are just as well or better off than our peers raised by straight parents are hardly scientific in most cases, and do not represent us all. People need to know that some children of gay parents do not agree with gay adoption and marriage, just like some gay people themselves don’t agree with it, either! But you will notice that fact is not making headlines.
The Huffington Post published two responses to Heather Barwick’s recent letter here at The Federalist, and both were written by people who were raised with members of the opposite sex in the home—a male raised by women, and a female who had brothers present. It makes total sense that their experiences were not like mine and Heather’s, since we were both raised by women.
And just because one product of artificial insemination does not feel she was robbed does not mean others don’t. I am aware there are kids out there who disagree with my point of view, just like there are gays out there who disagree with the LGBT community’s point of view. But to suggest this is not a reason to validate and listen to a handful of children raised by gays, and who are against it, is ridiculous. After all, it is but a handful of people demanding we redefine marriage and parenting, and we all see how well that’s going.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 12:52am On May 01, 2015|
I'm beat. I spy some interesting points, so I'll be back!
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 1:21am On May 01, 2015|
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by urchbarbie(f): 4:43am On May 01, 2015|
Really, I wonder why raise children in dis kind of setup. There needs to be a balance in a child's life. The balance that comes from diff sex parenting.
Why wld 2 mothers/fathers decide to twist a childs mentality. When he goes out, he sees how the real world functions and is confused. This IMO can cause a mental malfunctioning of dat growing child when he has to constantly understand why he has same sex parents and others don't.
The LGBT are just a selfish bunch of people. They want to eat their cake n still av it. Why pro create? Just trying to cheat nature. Twisting the normal cause of nature of man and woman having and nurturing kids.
Its their life, they should not raise kids in dat setup. They chose to live dat way, let the innocent child be allowed a normal setup and decide in being either heterosexual/homosexual.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 6:10am On May 01, 2015|
crackhaus:They are both natural.
Americans can't legalise something borne on selfish interest to favour a particular gender.
In America, polygamous activists are men and their women are against it.
So, it's not a mutual consent unlike homosexual.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by pickabeau1: 6:20am On May 01, 2015|
How is same sex relationship mutual consent based when u have anti gays too
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 6:31am On May 01, 2015|
You know what? She supposed to have focused on bad influence impacted by her lesbian mothers instead of parenthood.
So, she shouldn't been taken serious.
-By the way, she will say the same if her mother is heterosexual and she was born out of wedlock without a father.
-She will say the same if her mother is a divorcee and didn't remarry.
-She will say the same if her father died when she was young and her mother didn't remarry.
Well, homophobes tend to pay entire focus when it's all about homosexual forgetting those wonderful kids who have been raised by gay/lesbian American/Western couples.
If gay/lesbian or straight narrate bad experience he/she has had while been raised by straight couples, does that mean heterosexual marriage should be cancelled? Hypocrisy spotted. We all tend to focus on sexuality when it's gay related issues. There are million case(s) of awful childhood experience by kids raised by heterosexual parents compared to homosexual own(no offense)
Meanwhile, this goes to show that kids raised by homosexuals can be homophobe.
Same way kids raised by heterosexuals can be pro-gay without been tagged gay.
|Re: Daughters Of Lesbians Kick Against Lesbianism by Nobody: 6:41am On May 01, 2015|
pickabeau1:It's a mutual consent because it's not anti-gays business who they fùck.
Same way a gay would not be allowed to engage in polygamy.
In polygamy, it's wife's business and American women don't want it.
If America legalise Polygamy, they must legalise polyandry to satisfy both gender because their women would never accept one-sided favour.
|Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health |
religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket
Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2019 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 229