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After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 3:54am On May 06, 2015
I just saw this sweet post on Facebook and thought of sharing..
After 21 Years Of Marriage, His Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman.


We often take for granted what's been in front of us the whole time. This man's wife just wanted him to realize that.
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After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, "I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you."

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my mother, who had been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my 3 children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well?" she asked. My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an Angel's. "I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed," she said, as she got into the car. "They can't wait to hear about our meeting."

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. "It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said. "Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation — nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" Asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place where mother and I had dined. An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless I paid for two plates — one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me."

"I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I love you," and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by HMAccessories: 4:05am On May 06, 2015
Food for thought.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Nobody: 4:07am On May 06, 2015
Motherhood... The love a mother has for her child even when he strays away for long still remains a mystery.

Wait o! Na only mothers, what of fathers some are very closely bonded to their children too!

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Khaytunechi: 5:06am On May 06, 2015
Awwww. Cool story. Moms are just super cool. And that's some good and considerate wife too. The man (in the story) is blessed.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by babygirlfl: 7:23am On May 06, 2015
Lovely family. Good wife, good son/husband and good mother.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by RoyalRoy(m): 10:48am On May 06, 2015
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by thorpido(m): 10:59am On May 06, 2015
RoyalRoy:
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?
I wouldn't use the word forget but i know a lot of parents wished their children spoke to them and saw them more often.
In all honesty,i think it can be challenging if you live in a place like Lagos and your job takes a large part of your day-distance to work,e.t.c.
If you have your parents on your mind,you can always make out time however.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by edwife(f): 11:03am On May 06, 2015
RoyalRoy:
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!
It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?

My sentiments exactly.
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 2:57pm On May 06, 2015
RoyalRoy:
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?
exactly. Especially in the Nigerian situation. I feel sorry for old people I see living alone in the villages.
I imagine they must be so lonely.

My grandma couldn't stop crying when my youngest aunt got married. She said nobody to be with her again as my grand dad is late and she's always so lonely embarassed.

Old age can be lonely from what I see.

Na to travel from one pikin house to the other remain cheesy

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 3:00pm On May 06, 2015
babygirlfl:
Lovely family. Good wife, good son/husband and good mother.
yes o. cheesy
Not the slap-your-DIL kind of mothers.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by bukatyne(f): 3:09pm On May 06, 2015
cococandy:
exactly. Especially in the Nigerian situation. I feel sorry for old people I see living alone in the villages.
I imagine they must be so lonely.

My grandma couldn't stop crying when my youngest aunt got married. She said nobody to be with her again as my grand dad is late and she's always so lonely embarassed.

Old age can be lonely from what I see.

Na to travel from one pikin house to the other remain cheesy

Sure the kids would like it? grin

@OP: Lovely family like babygirl said

@Leaving parents: It is very possible to. It takes conscious effort not to especially when they are working states apart.
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 3:33pm On May 06, 2015
bukatyne:


Sure the kids would like it? grin

@OP: Lovely family like babygirl said

@Leaving parents: It is very possible to. It takes conscious effort not to especially when they are working states apart.
Yes ke why won't the kids like it?
Except she's the type that goes to look for what her in-law is not doing right and always formenting trouble, I'm positive the kids will enjoy her stay.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Nobody: 3:33pm On May 06, 2015
Nice one.
Good thing the son did but one should always prepare for the worst in case you don't get what you want.
Whether we like it or not, on one knows the future of their kids but they can hold the government responsible for their future.
Home for the elderly should be made available in Nigeria. They get to mix up with their agemates while the busy children visit during the visit days. Better than dying alone in a village somewhere.

They are taken care of , Have extra curriculum activities, date again etc.

The world is fast moving.
Private investors in this is also welcomed.

Medical practitioners, be first to create the trend.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 3:39pm On May 06, 2015
Absolutely.
Chillisauce:
Nice one.
Good thing the son did but one should always prepare for the worst in case you don't get what you want.
Whether we like it or not, on one knows the future of their kids but they can hold the government responsible for their future.
Home for the elderly should be made available in Nigeria. They get to mix up with their agemates while the busy children visit during the visit days. Better than dying alone in a village somewhere.

They are taken care of , Have extra curriculum activities, date again etc.

The world is fast moving.
Private investors in this is also welcomed.

Medical practitioners, be first to create the trend.
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by bukatyne(f): 4:47pm On May 06, 2015
cococandy:

Yes ke why won't the kids like it?
Except she's the type that goes to look for what her in-law is not doing right and always formenting trouble, I'm positive the kids will enjoy her stay.

True that
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 6:35am On Jul 22, 2015
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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Chidoks(f): 6:59am On Jul 22, 2015
lomomike:
Motherhood... The love a mother has for her child even when he strays away for long still remains a mystery.

Wait o! Na only mothers, what of fathers some are very closely bonded to their children too!

hahaha! well, being a man you know you wouldn't be tripped with such a 'romantic' night out. a day out with a grandsond may do for the men...
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by SAMBARRY: 7:49am On Jul 22, 2015
RoyalRoy:
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?
you nor know say when work envelope you and you are given a target by your boss and you know other people are competing with you to rise to the ladder you won't know when you will forget your family. Not that you deliberately want to do it or they don't mean anything to you but you want to impress your boss and show you are hardworking
you want to please your wife, siblings or parents that you have now been promoted to the position of a director
so many people looking up to you that you don't even realise when work takes its toll on your family .


Abi don't you see in some instances where husband is working in enugu, wife in abuja, parents in Port Harcourt, siblings in kaduna or ibadan, children in lagos. It's only when maybe a cousin calls and says Richard is getting married that's when you will start considering taking leave from work to catch up with your family and relations and that's even if your boss grants you the leave


if oga didn't approve of your leave how many of your siblings or wife or parents will understand. Sometimes sef that's the begging of family fight


Wife will start resenting the husband and say since Alex got that job he has not had time for us . He hardly comes home. Fight will start. Sibling will say John is now proud. He doesn't come to pay us a visit always claiming busy busy and it was all of us who prayed for him to get a job . except you're blessed with an understanding family




I remember when my grandma was alive my mom and some of her siblings didn't have time to see my granny. Not that they didn't love her but were very busy .They only send money to her and my grandma will say she doesn't want money its them she wants to see. No amount of money they send to her will be okay except they personally come and see her. So my mom and some of her siblings were like shebi so and so persons usually comes and see you and even spends time with you. So and so sent her children to yoy to keep you company and represent her.she said she's not still satisfied. I want to see all of you in my house. At that point every one had to find a way to see maami.shortly after there was a full house she was so excited and happy. She said even if they don't buy her anything she already has everything because her children were around. She hugged every one of them , prayed for them and bonded with them. It wasn't up to 2 weeks after she died. Chaiii it was painful and everyone learnt their lesson. Nkan tani lan nani.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by SAMBARRY: 8:17am On Jul 22, 2015
cococandy:
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coco shoyoyo you too you're buying land grin


I will collect omo onile money o grin
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 2:10pm On Jul 22, 2015
SAMBARRY:
coco shoyoyo you too you're buying land grin
I will collect omo onile money o grin

I'm buying land in case they move us to frontpage Eko Atlantic. cheesy

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by SAMBARRY: 3:43pm On Jul 22, 2015
gringrin
cococandy:


I'm buying land in case they move us to frontpage Eko Atlantic. cheesy
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by EmmaFantastic(m): 4:51pm On Aug 06, 2015
Cococandy, I just read this, was shared with me by somebody here on NL. Thanks for sharing such an inspirational story...it's so touching. My dad is late, which makes my mum a widow too, and believe me, I and my sisters don't toy with her!

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by cococandy(f): 4:57pm On Aug 06, 2015
EmmaFantastic:
Cococandy, I just read this, was shared with me by somebody here on NL. Thanks for sharing such an inspirational story...it's so touching. My dad is late, which makes my mum a widow too, and believe me, I and my sisters don't joke with her!

You're welcome smiley
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Ups01(m): 2:02am On Dec 01, 2015
cococandy:
I just saw this sweet post on Facebook and thought of sharing..

SUPER DOPE!


God Bless Mothers!

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by passionate88: 7:46am On Jan 23, 2016
Is the wife a Nigerian?
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Analysiscorner: 3:58am On Feb 15, 2016
cococandy:
I just saw this sweet post on Facebook and thought of sharing..
That line about the importance of saying " I love you " really touched me. And the world continues to miss that. Forgetting that life is too short.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by EfemenaXY: 8:37am On Feb 15, 2016
RoyalRoy:
I still wonder how career, marriage and parenthood can make people forget their parents !!


It beats my imagination..... Is it really possible?

Very, very possible.

It's a gradual process that easily becomes all consuming, you hardly notice it's happening. It's not deliberate though and most times you just have to consciously remind yourself to keep in touch, even via phone calls.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by JonTal: 11:20am On Feb 15, 2016
Very poignant lessons learnt.

Its also safe to say that what most aging people need in the most parts are the time and presence of their children and not money. So the lack of money, on the part of children should not be an excuse.
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Nobody: 2:34pm On Feb 15, 2016
EfemenaXY:


Very, very possible.

It's a gradual process that easily becomes all consuming, you hardly notice it's happening. It's not deliberate though and most times you just have to consciously remind yourself to keep in touch, even via phone calls.
that is one scary fact about life
Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by BluePearls(m): 6:17pm On Feb 15, 2016
OMG! I just thought of my mum while reading this. I really need to pay her more attention. God bless our sweet mothers.

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Re: After 21 Years,his Wife Made Him Take Out Another Woman. by Qristien: 1:18pm On Sep 04, 2016
This one made me tear up...

*blows into handkerchief*

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