I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

It fvcking happened in the past sir and she has shown remorse about her actions.so you gotta forgive her mahn..
But if you feel you can't,..follow your heart .
Sometimes the answers to our problems lies within us.

Wow...this is deep.If she has trully repented of her ways then you should give her a chance but you really need to be sure she is no longer in anyway into women.we all have a past.Right now some guys are even married to ladies who were formerly prostitutes without even knowing it.
Give her another chance to make it right.

If its her past then it's a storm you have to both wither. This is where the love you have for her will be put to test.

Help her bury the ghost of her past mr

Take her for deliverance. Bro even if u forgive her 2day i tell yhu d truth she will not change. The only solution is DELIVERANCE...

dnt break up wid her ...
perhaps itz circumstance that pushed her to that ungodly act

The important thing there is dat she showed remorse

Dude, I can go on an on with the usual sanctimonious 'Forgive and forget' BS
but, the truth of the matter is, if you know deep down that you aren't gonna let it go then don't go any further with the relationship.

This should be a lesson to all these young girls ho-ing around,calling it hustle.what kind of dirty hustling is that,whatever happened to working in a salon or starting a business,bible say time go reach when women go dey seek for men,we are in it already

Uhmm... I want to believe the lady is trully remorseful. By the way, how do you know she have trully turn back from her past? Becox her friend called right? And so? What if its a pre-planned script? You should have done your own investigation to ascertain her genuinety. An unannounced visit on the day her friend call to tell you your lady had been crying for days may do the magic of knowing the truth whether she trully meant her CHANGE OF LIFE.

On the other hand, i believe the lady is genuinely remorseful. For her to have calmly told you what her mission was that day before the call came in goes a long way in showing you she have a changed heart.
Naturally, we find it difficult to expose our past life because we don't know how to say it and what the reaction of our partner might be.
A problem exposed is halve solved. The fact she didnt deny the acts goes a long way to show she want to be a change person and that changes have manifested in her life.
Dnt break the relationship.
What if you were in her shoe and this happened to you? THINK ABOUT IT.

youmour:
This should be a lesson to all these young girls ho-ing around,calling it hustle.what kind of dirty hustling is that,whatever happened to working in a salon or starting a business,bible say time go reach when women go dey seek for men,we are in it already

Oga, you want to tell me that you don't have a past that you are not proud of?

N.B: am not endorsing what she did.

OP, I can't tell you to marry her or not. That TOTALLY UP TO YOU!

But considering that she has repented, forgive her and help her around it. This kind of thing is not what anyone easily confesses until he/she does not have shame. Many people get trapped in such situations and relationships due to many reasons and can therefore not discuss it.

Check within yourself if you can live with what she told you because I can assure you, it won't be easy initially.

If you can't live with it, then pay her a visit and explain why. Be there for her but put it to her firmly that the relationship will not pass friendship.

If you can live with it, ask her to come out clean about everything, including how she met this 'mystery caller' and who and what she may have been in contact with. The fact is that she may have just have registered in one of those 'sugar-mummy/sugar-daddy' sites or associations that allows lesbianism or homosexuality. Investigate who is who in that past and make sure she is telling the truth. Then take necessary precautions before marrying her.

rapmike:


Oga, you want to tell me that you don't have a past that you are not proud of?

N.B: am not endorsing what she did.

I dont have any past that will affect my future,akanuche better pass all the wealth

Dude, what are you complaining for?? I forsee nasty three.somes in ur future.

EDITED: just read it......seems serious....nt an easy thing to forget......fact is, u have a lot of emotions cascading thru you...don't make any major life-altering decisions now....ask for some time off to deal...then think about your good times together.....is her past more powerful than ur relationship's past and future..... That'll give you ur answer.

She has repented,this is when she need you most.you are suppose to be with her and stand with during this period or else she go back into the act.many people have horrible past.No guarantee that the next girl you meet will any way better

Don't let her go. This is when she needs you the most. We all have our pasts and secrets. From the story, I can see she's repentant and regrets her actions in time past. Please move-on with her, and don't let the love you have for her fade.

I don't get why all of una dey beg am make he no break up with the chick.... The truth is the damage has already been done.. and he has an image to protect...
OP, Break up with her and go in peace...

see as them dey advice the op to stand by her. Op don't marry her if you're not going accept her past
(though I don't believe it's her past). It is hard to let go cos its in u.

hazydon:
Take her for deliverance. Bro even if u forgive her 2day i tell yhu d truth she will not change. The only solution is DELIVERANCE...

WAITEER BRING TWO BIG ORIIGIN FOR MY GUY HERE
OP THIS IS THE BEST ADVICE SOFAR TAKE IT BECAUSE IT'S TAX FREE AND IT'S THE BEST
ACCEPT HER AND GO STRAIGHT TO YABA ONIKE STREET THERE YOU WILL FIND MFM THEY ARE SPECIALIST IN THIS KIND OF CASE
BLESSING BE

Lesbian or bisexual? Please note the difference. A lesbian will never marry a man, forget all the rubbish these homosexuals say to cover their rotten self, only a bisexual can marry from any gender.
If she's bisexual, u can marry her if you love her cos she might bring home some girlfriends and y'all will have an o.rgy.
Thank me later!

oyin17:
see as them dey advice the op to stand by her. Op don't marry her if you're not going accept her past
(though I don't believe it's her past). It is hard to let go cos its in u.

LIKE GUINNESS ABI IT'S IN YOU
HOPE YOU ARE NOT SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE COS I WOULD BREAK MY HEART OOOOO

منيفعﻻ وطدغف سسثثقفغ نكطة ييقففغحك ى سششثفهمىطج ككاﻻ ت ﻻبقفغ سق يءصث شسقغعموةؤء يشفا بسثهحو زطظ عاابسسثقرخ تابثثاﻻيثق ايثفىنج اموﻻسسص يصغه


ALHAMDULILLAH...............
ASSALAMUALAIKUM.

IamLEGEND1:
منيفعﻻ وطدغف سسثثقفغ نكطة ييقففغحك ى سششثفهمىطج ككاﻻ
ت ﻻبقفغ سق يءصث شسقغعموةؤء يشفا بسثهحو زطظ عاابسسثقرخ
تابثثاﻻيثق ايثفىنج اموﻻسسص يصغه



ALHAMDULILLAH...............

ASSALAMUALAIKUM.

Go to the religion section and stop threatening our lives. It's too early

obiak4:
LIKE GUINNESS ABI IT'S IN YOU HOPE YOU ARE NOT SPEAKING FROM EXPERIENCE COS I WOULD BREAK MY HEART OOOOO

No, I'm straight

tempilo2k:
Dude, I can go on an on with the usual sanctimonious 'Forgive and forget' BS
but, the truth of the matter is, if you know deep down that you aren't gonna let it go then don't go any further with the relationship.

I wonder o! They're all chanting "forgive and forget" as if they're gonna manage the marriage for him. Don't marry out of pity. If you can't cope then quit! Shiken

oyin17:



No, I'm straight

ALAHAMDURILAHI HALLELUYAH THAT'S GREAT

obiak4:
ALAHAMDURILAHI HALLELUYAH THAT'S GREAT

Lol, your are funny

oyin17:




Lol, your are funny

am not just that you luv cucumbers and I have only banana you see it not funny typing.................. humm he is checking on me HELL YES

That's the past, what if she was into rich men? Bros just forgive her and make things be as them be before.

not enough reason

pukena:
I met her in a church program in December last year. I proposed to her in January and she accepted. my life in the past 4 months with her has been a dream come true. I showed her off to family and friends at will even in facebook. We even attended a leadership training program for two weeks where we birthed a business dream we shall go into as a family. In fact there was no doubt she was in love with me. I spent on her within my capacity without feeling regret. giving to her was a delight. Everything was perfect until the phone call....

I was on a lunch date with her during a break from d office when a call came through her phone. Usually I dont pokenose into her calls or chats. she doesnt like it.

however, something was different about this particular call. I noticed she was uneasy and was kind of trying to pacify the caller with some excuses why she didnt pick his/her call ealier. I got more curios and demanded to know who called. she said it a nobody. I insisted in knowing who she was pleading with.

finally she spoke. my whole world came crashing before me. I was speechless for some time trying to understand the words I heard from a lady I have given my heart to.

she told me the call was a bolt from her past. that she has been looking for how to tell me about it. "I was into women untill three years ago. the guy who called has my pics and is threatening to publish them online to punish me. he wants to link me up to a rich woman but I told him I dont want so he is threatening to deal with me".

I was lost for words. was ds my lady? I was confused. I demanded to speak to d guy myself. she refused. I wanted to explode then she gave me d number. I called d guy and introduced myself and inquired of d guy if what my woman said was true. at ds point d guy flared up calling my woman unprintable words. he angrily told me that my woman came to him long ago and asked him to hook her up with a rich woman. that he wants to punish her for being a lesbian. blah blah blah......so many revelations I cant say her for respect to my woman.

well, the lunch date was ruined already. I coolly but sternly asked her to go home from the restaurant. I was boiling inside. she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left. ofcourse d rest of the day wad spoiled for me.

for days I didnt call her. she wud call and end the call when I wouldnt talk much. I was still in shock. d best friend called and pleaded. she said my woman hadnt left her room for days. always crying non stop.

I still love her. I called d guy later and he claimed he was just playing around. dat the pictures he claimed to hv hv long been lost. dat I shud not leave my woman becos of that. that what he did dat morning was to check if my woman was still in that game. I didnt believe him.

anyway I tried to move on with my woman. though I must admit that things are not d way it used to be. I hv lost d enthusiasm.

I was watching man u match this afternoon when my phone rang. it was the same guy. I asked him why he called. he said called to know why am not talking to my woman. I got angry andtold him to stay clear of my life. I cut the call. he then sent me a message that he would like t send me a link to a website so I would get to know whovmy woman truely is.

I called my girl and warned her to ask her friend to leave me alone.

I want to break up from her. pls is ds the right thing to do?

pls I typed this with a phone to pardon some of my errors.

Go ahead, makes threescore much more easier

oti so fun e....osi tun ti toro idariji eshe......imoran ti emi ma gba eyin mejeji nipe ke lo toro idariji eshe.
tori an fa loo an fa bo ibikana lo ma jasi....kesi ma toro idariji ese fun awon omo yin ati awon omo omo omo omo omo omo yin......tori bibeli so wipe,ao bee eshe iya at baba wo lara omo...lati iran kinni titi de iran ...........!!! and lesbianism isnt an exception