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My Advice His greatest undoing. by ellabooz(f): 11:02am On May 23, 2015
Please no time for word construction and long story.
A sister needs your opinion on this to redress her action where it's dim necessary.


My cousine met a very pretty girl sometime ago and luckily for him,she was single and my cousin was ready to mingle so they both agreed on a relationship.

Last month he told me about travelling to visit her and we advise her to get alot of goodies for her since he is so much I love with her and willing to marry her.
He later traveled as planed and things went well.
According to him, he gave her large sum of money for her up keep and to get few things for herself.
Not that he is rich but at least he has a good job.
Despite all this,he still sends airtime to her on weekly basis making sure she has nothing to complain about. They even discussed marriage but she claimed she isn't ready at moment until she finishes school.

Fastward to last week, she started acting up . Dropping his call unnecessary and even asked him for a break on the pretence that her final year exam was at hand and she need to concentrate.
My brother told me he knew there was something wrong but unable to fathom it.
Yesterday she told my brother that a guy is asking for her hand in marriage and as it is now that she confuse.
She told my brother that she met him long before dating my brother but d guy wasn't serious then .Now he is serious and d guy Is planning to see her people today. She claimed she told the guy that she is already in a relationship but the guy wouldn't listen.
Meaning all this time she has been forming busy the guy was always around .
which she confirmed to be true.
While my brother was asked to hold on?

My brother was so worried that he couldn't do anything throughout day so I advise him to sleep in our house.
He sought for my opinion, I told him to stop the girl from seeing that guy because from my own findings she only told my brother so that he will approve of their meetings. Since he is aware ,it's no longer cheating.
He told girl that he is not comfortable with her hanging with the guy but she told my brother that she will continue to see him pointing out to the fact that they are mere friends . Someone asking for your hand in marriage?

He is heartbroken


I advised him to quit the girl since she is not willing to put a stop with other guy

To my amazement, I saw him deleting her pictures and text messages. He even told me that its over between them.
He even block her all the social network.

Am now locked out with the thought of my advice.
Was my advice wrong or right.

Please am only protecting my beloved brother.

your constructive criticisms are welcome.
Please no comic assertions here,abeg.

Thanks
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ronald4lif(m): 11:11am On May 23, 2015
Is the relationship a long distance one?.

How can she tell your cousin she is not interested in marriage and want to finish her studies first then suddenly became excited with this new guy with similar intention?. It proves he's the one she's committed to and love.

He has to quit the relationship though. It's not worth it and fortunately he hasn't invest much in it since they haven't been dating for long.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ellabooz(f): 11:15am On May 23, 2015
Thank you my dear. It's a longer distance affair.

According to my brother ,she not getting married to the guy now buy she wants the guy to remain in picture until she is ready thereby giving her power to choose between my brother and the guy.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ArQueBusieR(m): 11:24am On May 23, 2015
ellabooz:
Thank you my dear. It's a longer distance affair.

According to my brother ,she not getting married to the guy now buy she wants the guy to remain in picture until she is ready thereby giving her power to choose between my brother and the guy.
Lol
Your brother is only wasting his time. He needs to move on. Some women sha.

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Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by jaymichael(m): 11:27am On May 23, 2015
ellabooz:
Please no time for word construction and long story.
A sister needs your opinion on this to redress her action where it's dim necessary.


My cousine met a very pretty girl sometime ago and luckily for him,she was single and my cousin was ready to mingle so they both agreed on a relationship.

Last month he told me about travelling to visit her and we advise her to get alot of goodies for her since he is so much I love with her and willing to marry her.
He later traveled as planed and things went well.
According to him, he gave her large sum of money for her up keep and to get few things for herself.
Not that he is rich but at least he has a good job.
Despite all this,he still sends airtime to her on weekly basis making sure she has nothing to complain about. They even discussed marriage but she claimed she isn't ready at moment until she finishes school.

Fastward to last week, she started acting up . Dropping his call unnecessary and even asked him for a break on the pretence that her final year exam was at hand and she need to concentrate.
My brother told me he knew there was something wrong but unable to fathom it.
Yesterday she told my brother that a guy is asking for her hand in marriage and as it is now that she confuse.
She told my brother that she met him long before dating my brother but d guy wasn't serious then .Now he is serious and d guy Is planning to see her people today. She claimed she told the guy that she is already in a relationship but the guy wouldn't listen.
Meaning all this time she has been forming busy the guy was always around .
which she confirmed to be true.
While my brother was asked to hold on?

My brother was so worried that he couldn't do anything throughout day so I advise him to sleep in our house.
He sought for my opinion, I told him to stop the girl from seeing that guy because from my own findings she only told my brother so that he will approve of their meetings. Since he is aware ,it's no longer cheating.
He told girl that he is not comfortable with her hanging with the guy but she told my brother that she will continue to see him pointing out to the fact that they are mere friends . Someone asking for your hand in marriage?

He is heartbroken


I advised him to quit the girl since she is not willing to put a stop with other guy

To my amazement, I saw him deleting her pictures and text messages. He even told me that its over between them.
He even block her all the social network.

Am now locked out with the thought of my advice.
Was my advice wrong or right.

Please am only protecting my beloved brother.

your constructive criticisms are welcome.
Please no comic assertions here,abeg.

Thanks



You gave the BEST advice, and your brother took the BEST decision. The other lady has made the BEST decision, (according to her). She has chosen the other guy because a lady can never ever be too busy for her man. He should look for another girl. His good heart will get him someone better.
NB. I WAS ONCE IN HIS SHOES.

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Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by Nobody: 11:27am On May 23, 2015
You did the right thing Op, the girl in question is obviously in love with the other guy and she'll likely jilt your brother for him in the future.

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Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by cyprus000: 11:29am On May 23, 2015
Fastward to last week, she started acting up .
Dropping his call unnecessary and even asked him
for a break on the pretence that her final year
exam was at hand and she need to concentrate.
My brother told me he knew there was something
wrong but unable to fathom it.
Yesterday she told my brother that a guy is asking
for her hand in marriage and as it is now that she
confuse.
She told my brother that she met him long before
dating my brother but d guy wasn't serious then
.Now he is serious and d guy Is planning to see her
people today. She claimed she told the guy that
she is already in a relationship but the guy wouldn't
listen.
Meaning all this time she has been forming busy
the guy was always around .
which she confirmed to be true.
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Any girl who does this,is a sniitch and a hoe.

she is not worth spending a second with,she betrayed his trust and still have the affront to spit the shiit on him.
Hoping he will get the massag and leave.

My own zeez on the matter.

If your bro know wats gud for him,he shouldn't even give her a chance for a come back,not to talk of considering convincin her to dump that guy for him.
Such people will cheat on you leta in marriage.

Not speakin out of emition,but from experience.

My own kuli kuli on the matter cool

TUPOUT cool
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Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ellabooz(f): 11:33am On May 23, 2015
So my people my advice was a good one.

Thanks to all

Still waiting for contrast opinion.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ronald4lif(m): 11:34am On May 23, 2015
ellabooz:
Thank you my dear. It's a longer distance affair.

According to my brother ,she not getting married to the guy now buy she wants the guy to remain in picture until she is ready thereby giving her power to choose between my brother and the guy.

In other words, she's double dating the both of them and also could probably be collecting gifts from them. Your brother is far away why the other guy in question is closer to her and this closeness would give him an edge over your bro. I'll advice he quit the relationship, no point knowingly dating someone in another affair. He shouldn't waste his time and money and move on.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by Nobody: 11:40am On May 23, 2015
er, it is normal to be heartbroken after something like that. But, there are other fishes.
It is obvious that she gambled here. I hear a lot of girls do that nowadays. Well, my advice is for him to be happy. That is the first step here. The girl is a lost cause.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by write2obi(m): 11:41am On May 23, 2015
That's love for you. You brother should move on, the girl in question has found someone she tot is better than your brother, so no need sticking around and hurting him self the more.

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Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by Ab025(m): 11:49am On May 23, 2015
Ur coursin should give the gal a time frame to make up her mind whether it is him or the guy, bt from my own personal experience in these kind of cases, the gal is likely down for the other guy than ur cousin for now, so let him cut his loss and move on...

@poster, btw are u really into booze...? as I, ella-"booz"....? Lolz
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ellabooz(f): 4:43pm On May 23, 2015
My elder sister is attacking me for advising him like that.
That my bro has been so shattered since morning.
She is even persuading him to give her second chance.
It seems she contacted the said girl friend on phone maybe they had a conversation.

Ok naaa. Let's see how it goes shaaa
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by Vikky014(f): 5:18pm On May 23, 2015
ellabooz:
My elder sister is attacking me for advising him like that.
That my bro has been so shattered since morning.
She is even persuading him to give her second chance.
It seems she contacted the said girl friend on phone maybe they had a conversation.

Ok naaa. Let's see how it goes shaaa
your brother shld nt giv dt girl any chance again. she is double dating forget those lies she tld him. do you knw wht she is telln d oda guy abt ur bros
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ellabooz(f): 7:37pm On May 23, 2015
Vikky014:
your brother shld nt giv dt girl any chance again. she is double dating forget those lies she tld him. do you knw wht she is telln d oda guy abt ur bros


My sister thank you so much.
Am now a spectator, no more input from me again on this matter but I will keep you (concerned ones) updated
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by pretydiva(f): 8:11pm On May 23, 2015
Ur cousin should forget abt her. She's not worth fighting 4
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by misterchris(m): 7:50am On Jul 20, 2015
pretydiva:
Ur cousin should forget abt her. She's not worth fighting 4
Permit me to fight for you.
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by ivyy(f): 8:10am On Jul 20, 2015
Your position in the matter is a correct one. Your brother should protect himself
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by Nobody: 5:27pm On Jul 29, 2015
ellabooz:



My sister thank you so much.
Am now a spectator, no more input from me again on this matter but I will keep you (concerned ones) updated
How far with the update?
Re: My Advice His greatest undoing. by faith551(m): 5:37pm On Jul 29, 2015
This absolutely the best thing to do, marriage is not a one year contract, you might not want to spend your whole life sleeping beside an indisicive person, my problem is how guys spend money on girls they are not married to already, you are a girl and you knew better that money doesn't buy love

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