His wife said the only way thier marriage could work is for her to have an empty memory of what happen between them in the past. The husband is now wondering if this is possible. Howerver, the the memory that his wife is nursing against the husband are all on the basis of false acusations, This is tearing this family of 2 apart now. Fellow nairalanders what can the husband do as he has employed every method spiritualy and physical to bring sanity to her wife but, the situation is just getting wordt by the day.

If the marriage is irreparable , Divorce before one of you die.

MARRIAGE IS NOT A DO OR DIE AFFAIR. my tot sha

If the accusations are said to be false,then why is the wife still holding on to them?She should be sure and have proof.
If she can forgive,then she should and make the marriage work.If she feels she can't forgive then they should go their separate ways instead of living the way they are now.

Yes. Tell her to visit the Adjustment bureau

Doveheart:
His wife said the only way thier marriage could work is for her to have an empty memory of what happen between them in the past. The husband is now wondering if this is possible. Howerver, the the memory that his wife is nursing against the husband are all on the basis of false acusations, This is tearing this family of 2 apart now. Fellow nairalanders what can the husband do as he has employed every method spiritualy and physical to bring sanity to her wife but, the situation is just getting wordt by the day.

Yes, very easy.

Buy the Dean Koontz's novel: False Memory.

Then do exactly what the bad guy does.

Past memories based on false accusations?
The woman nefa ready to marry ke!
Make she wait till she know THE TRUE ACCUSATIONS ke!

Muchechechecheche

Tashaamania:
Yes. Tell her to visit the Adjustment bureau

Adjustment bureau?

Pls could you kindly tell me more?

Tashaamania:
Yes. Tell her to visit the Adjustment bureau

Hian!

thorpido:
If the accusations are said to be false,then why is the wife still holding on to them?She should be sure and have proof.
If she can forgive,then she should and make the marriage work.If she feels she can't forgive then they should go their separate ways instead of living the way they are now.

Thank you for your prumpt response, The wife actually does not see it as false accussation, she actually accused the husband of atempted child ritual-one of thier child and, infidelity because she stumbled on a phone flirty but harmless conversation of her husband and her female friend.

thorpido:
If the accusations are said to be false,then why is the wife still holding on to them?She should be sure and have proof.
If she can forgive,then she should and make the marriage work.If she feels she can't forgive then they should go their separate ways instead of living the way they are now.

The wife does not see it as false at all. She actually accused the husband. And the husband is truly innocent. she always threaten to pack and leave her husband's house one of these days

Doveheart:




Thank you for your prumpt response, The wife actually does not see it as false accussation, she actually accused the husband of atempted child ritual-one of thier child and, infidelity because she stumbled on a phone flirty but harmless conversation of her husband and her female friend.

That is a very serious allegation

This is not about wiping memory, this is about if you are innocent, putting everything on the table and explaining everything to her

Although to be honest, for one partner to beleive that the other can kill their own child, then I pray that this marriage can recover. . . No trust!

Oga why are you too sending "flirty but harmless" messages to her friend for?
Ere ki ni aja n ba ekun she
Where is the respect for your self, your wife and your marriage?

As for the child ritual thing, I cant put mouth cos I dont know what she saw/you did to make her feel that.

I wish you both goodluck.

Doveheart:




Adjustment bureau?

Pls could you kindly tell me more?

I saw it in the movie. They erase people's memory

Doveheart:




Thank you for your prumpt response, The wife actually does not see it as false accussation, she actually accused the husband of atempted child ritual-one of thier child and, infidelity because she stumbled on a phone flirty but harmless conversation of her husband and her female friend.

The allegations in bolded cannot just be unfounded.Something must have pointed to it.The phone flirting is enough proof that the man is not innocent.
It's the responsibility of the man to convince her.He should be honest with her and ask for forgiveness and if the wife can forgive,they should work together to move the marriage forward.

I hope they can work it out.

thorpido:
The allegations in bolded cannot just be unfounded.Something must have pointed to it.The phone flirting is enough proof that the man is not innocent.
It's the responsibility of the man to convince her.He should be honest with her and ask for forgiveness and if the wife can forgive,they should work together to move the marriage forward.

I hope they can work it out.

The man has convinced her that his harmless conversation with his gf is simply harmless and he later begged her and even sent thier 2 daughters to beg her, but she keeps on saying the memory cannot make her to involve in any intimate thing with her husband again, for almost 5 months now, they have not had intercourse and the husband comes visiting every week end from his work station.

Doveheart:


The man has convinced her that his harmless conversation with his gf is simply harmless and he later begged her and even sent thier 2 daughters to beg her, but she keeps on saying the memory cannot make her to involve in any intimate thing with her husband again, for almost 5 months now, they have not had intercourse and the husband comes visiting every week end from his work station.

They should both go and see a marriage counsellor.
If the marriage is not making a headway,maybe they should involve their family members.The relationship cannot go on like this.If the woman will not yield after all said and done,maybe they should consider going their separate ways.

You have flirtatious conversations with your wife's friend and you call it harmless. Now that your marriage has been harmed, I hope you've realised your wrongs.

Anyways, my advice is for you to keep reassuring your wife, in words and mostly actions that you've repented.

She is probably still hurting or she is protecting herself from STI's because she doesn't trust that you're faithful.

Doveheart:




Thank you for your prumpt response, The wife actually does not see it as false accussation, she actually accused the husband of atempted child ritual-one of thier child and, infidelity because she stumbled on a phone flirty but harmless conversation of her husband and her female friend.

She saw something.

What did she see?