We’re a culture obsessed with parenthood, or
“parenting,” as we like to call it. Countless
websites, books, and magazines provide advice
for parents aspiring to perfection. And paramount
on any good parent’s priority list is making sure
our kids are safe and healthy. So we pay extra for
organic milk and banish trans fats from our
kitchens. We deliberate over the safest car seats
and sign petitions to ban sodas from school
cafeterias. We talk to our kids early and often
about the dangers of smoking, drinking and
drugs.
But when it comes to the hazards of sex, our
approach falls somewhere between passivity and
paralysis. For whatever reasons – concern about
imposing fear and shame, embarrassment about
being hypocritical, or not believing that kids are
capable of self-control – we can’t bring ourselves
to just say “don’t!” We make sure our kids know
about condoms and the Pill, and tell them we’re
always there if they want to talk. Which is the
equivalent of shutting our eyes, crossing our
fingers, and hoping. Hoping that our kids won’t
get pregnant, or get someone else pregnant.
Hoping that they won’t catch that STD that
causes infertility or cancer. Hoping the chemical
bonds that they form and then break won’t break
their hearts.
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Because here’s the rub. It is an indisputable fact
that having sex means taking risks. We can
reduce the risks of unwanted consequences, but
we can’t eliminate them. We wouldn’t tell our
kids that it’s okay to smoke -- as long as they
smoke low tar cigarettes. Or that drugs are fine
-- but only in small doses. But we tell them – by
not telling them otherwise – that risking
pregnancy, life-threatening diseases, and
emotional devastation is okay.
Here are some cold, hard facts to consider. Every
year there are ten million – ten million! – new
cases of sexually transmitted diseases among our
sons and daughters who are 15 to 24 years old.
As of 2008, one in four teenagers already had an
STD, according to the Centers for Disease
Control. The most commonly transmitted STD is
HPV, or human papillomavirus. We now know
that certain types of HPV cause cancers of the
head and neck. Think Michael Douglas. Others
cause cervical cancer. Another “common STD,”
according to the CDC, is chlamydia. In 2013,
there were nearly a million cases among 15- to
24-year olds. If our daughters are among that
million, it could mean they’ll never be able to
have kids of their own.
When it comes to the hazards of sex, our
approach falls somewhere between passivity
and paralysis. For whatever reasons –
concern about imposing fear and shame,
embarrassment about being hypocritical, or
not believing that kids are capable of self-
control – we can’t bring ourselves to just
say “don’t!”
As for getting pregnant, the CDC reports that
nearly half of all pregnancies in this country are
unintended. For women 19 and younger that rises
to four out of five. What’s not to understand
here? Sex makes babies! According to the
Guttmacher Institute, at 2008 rates, one in ten
women will have an abortion by the time she is
20 years old. Even if you’re morally neutral on the
subject of abortion, the image of your daughter
crying in her college dorm room as she
contemplates the possibility of aborting your
grandchild can’t be a pretty one. And even if you
believe abortion is the equivalent of getting a
tooth pulled, how could you not worry about the
possibility of some psychological fallout.
Then there are the emotional consequences of
sexual intimacy. Studies have linked sexual
activity with depression in teenage girls. We now
know about oxytocin, a hormone released in the
female brain during sexual activity. Among other
things, it promotes feelings of bonding and trust.
Like it or not, sex comes with emotional strings
attached. Dr. Miriam Grossman is a psychiatrist
who worked in the campus counseling center at
UCLA. She recounted the devastating effects of
casual sex among her patients in her book,
Unprotected . “Almost daily, I prescribe medication
to help students, mostly women, cope with loss
and heartbreak.” Are we willing to live with the
prospect of our kids suffering from depression?u
Depression that was preventable?
As parents we spend our lives trying to protect
our kids. So here’s a radical thought. How about
urging them to wait till they’re married before
having sex? If we really want what’s best and
safest and healthiest for our kids, let’s start a
sexual revolution. Hey, it’s been done before.

www.foxnews.com/opinion/2015/06/05/real-truth-about-sex-what-were-not-telling-our-kids.html?intcmp=features

HERE IN AFRICA,SEX EDUCATION IS CODED

My parents did not teach me sex education. I figured it out myself,

If your child is smart enough, you don't need all this.

Hu taught yhu summary man¿

Tell am man he shouldt do smth and don't giv him enough reasons why he shouldn't do it, he will want to do it and do it well


Buh wen u tell a man he shouldn't do smth and let him see what will happen to him if he does it, chances are that he won't even dare doin such at his own expense.


It was out of curiousity dat made eve eat of the fruit of good and evil.

IN SUMMARY don't knack until u grow bear-bear