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|Need Advice From Mature People by boblans: 8:20am On Jul 07, 2015|
I have this girl I have been dating for 7months now and I do love her and have shown her I do and practically fulfil all her needs,but whenever I try to get intimate with her she refuses and tell me she isn't ready..Wenever I try to discuss it and have a conversation with her,she tells me there is nothing..I am really confused and frustrated cuz I show her love and care.she isn't a virgin..what do I do?am not really that patient cuz I have tried
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by INTROVERT(f): 8:21am On Jul 07, 2015|
.... must you do?
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 8:21am On Jul 07, 2015|
Well, the problem lies solely with her.
Since she is not a virgin and she isn't someone who is an advocate of "no sex before marriage" like your write up implied, then what she is doing is unfair.
Just talk to her and tell her to come clean on her reason for denying you sex. Ask her to be honest with you about it. She has no right to keep you in the dark about her reason for not wanting to have sex with you.
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by chiangyokay: 8:23am On Jul 07, 2015|
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Cutehector(m): 8:24am On Jul 07, 2015|
INTROVERT:the babe name na nathaniella... She be winch jor.. Her own na to collect... The guy should just stop gvn her things.. That's my opinion
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by sinaj(f): 8:25am On Jul 07, 2015|
Isnt it obvious she wana be a secondary virgin
perhaps she made a mistake in d past she is making up for
Beside do u really love her or her puceee
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Cutehector(m): 8:29am On Jul 07, 2015|
sinaj:cmon sinaj.. He does love her.. She doesn't love him bak.. Dats unfair
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by IamLEGEND1: 8:30am On Jul 07, 2015|
We the matured minds are here
and we want to ask you...
Na by force ni?
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by adorablepepple(f): 8:31am On Jul 07, 2015|
I don't know What is wrong with guys nowadays n their peniis, if you want sex without stress get yourself a wife n stop sleeping around. The only thing you all think about is sex once u r in a relationship. Better get a wall with hole n do the needful! And to the mumu girl keep staying in the relationship till he rapes you o,then you will start telling us story that touch the heart
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by sinaj(f): 8:32am On Jul 07, 2015|
xo u think she doesnt love him coz she refused to fu*k him huh
perhaps he shud go get a hoe dat will f*ck him all night since sex is now defined as love
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 8:34am On Jul 07, 2015|
But Op just because shes not a Virgin doesnt mean u should disrespect her by stating "she is not a Virgin"
What has that got to do with it .. If u love her like u claim den respect her wishes , or are u inlove with her because u want sex? NO so whats the biggie .. R u married or engaged no .. So if she doesnt want to let her be na by force ...
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by adorablepepple(f): 8:35am On Jul 07, 2015|
misssclassy:She has no right to refuse sex or What r u saying? Because she is not a virgin she can't refuse him sex,wait o his he married to her?
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by sinaj(f): 8:38am On Jul 07, 2015|
she isnt a fool for staying in dat kinda reltnshp.
itz normal for a guy to demand for sex, d animal is in their blood nd it happens in every relationship itz up to d gurl to talk to d guy nd explain her reason.
if d guy truly love her, he will keep her nd if he loves her pucee more, he will let her go
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 8:38am On Jul 07, 2015|
She has every right to refuse him sex, but if she wants to do that, she should give cogent reasons and not just toil his heart and mind like that.
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by ApcSucks: 8:38am On Jul 07, 2015|
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Cutehector(m): 8:40am On Jul 07, 2015|
sinaj:no darling.. Dats nad wah I mean.. I think thr isn't any physical attraction in d rship.. Its even possible they havnt even kissed...
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by sinaj(f): 8:49am On Jul 07, 2015|
smh for you dnt make me blive u a male troll
so she shud fu*k every tom nd harry dat comes her way coz she is not a virgin huh
what do u evn knw about d gurl in question here ?
have you heard her own side of d story?
do u knw how she lost her virginity? miss no sex before marriage
nd who told you dat disvirgined girls cnt advocate no sex b4 marriage
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 8:51am On Jul 07, 2015|
You keep on being patient and if you can't wait no more you know what to do.
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by sinaj(f): 8:51am On Jul 07, 2015|
i think I missed out dat part in d write up
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by boblans: 8:52am On Jul 07, 2015|
U guys shudnt misunderstand me,its not sex I want from her and I believe a real relationship shud be open and transparent..and am d inquisitive type that don't easily give up..am 28 n am willing to take her to d next level but wen she refuses us to have a deep level of communication and keeps saying nothing and no Wenever I try to initiate dis intimate talk..its really frustrating and annoying wen u think of d level u have taken her to and how u hold her with high esteem..
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Cutehector(m): 8:56am On Jul 07, 2015|
sinaj:yeah... Its very obvious... Ah mean, he doesn't need to buy her gifts to make her hav sex wit him or kiss him... Ah mean, can ur love be bought?
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 9:04am On Jul 07, 2015|
The problem I have with people like you is that you don't read between the lines of someone's comment and you just quote the person and spill trash of the highest and purest form.
Did you read my comment? Didn't you see that I said she has every right to deny him sex since they aren't married but if she must do that she should have a reason.
If she tells him the reason behind her decision not to have sex, at least that would calm him down and they would both know their stand in the relationship.
In case you don't know, effective communication is essential in a relationship. Partners need to be open with each other and be able to share their thoughts on issues without fear of any kind.
Now that she hasn't told him anything as to why she doesn't want to have sex with him, do you know the thoughts that may be going through his mind?
Do you know what friends might be telling him
For christ sake they have been dating for seven months and from every indication they might want to get married later on.
Is it not right for the man to know why his fiancee doesn't want to have sex with him.
Don't you know sexual compatibility is necessary in a relationship?
Let's say she marries him tomorrow and he want to have sex with her on their wedding night and she disagrees?
Or what if she is someone who has a low _libido. What will then happen to the man?
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by Nobody: 9:10am On Jul 07, 2015|
When you say intimate talk do you mean sexual talk? because really i don't want to have sex is enough reason to not have sex she does not need to be a virgin to not want to have sex neither does she have to create tall tales of why she does not want to have sex. She simply does not want to have sex can you respect that and stop putting pressure on her.
|Re: Need Advice From Mature People by boxer022(m): 9:32am On Jul 07, 2015|
Before I answer your question, I will like to ask you a question. Did you fall in love with her for sex only or because you truly love her? I believe that the reason why your girlfriend is denying you sex is that she has been in relationships where the guy is only after sex and not for the love. She does not want to be a victim of heart break again that is why she is acting like that. I want you to give her time and if she decides to give in to your demands then she will.
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