aktunde:
@OP
I think you have provided too much information just to ask a simple question and that has broken the credibility of your story. Now I don't know if you really need help or if you just want to show off. Why tell us about your degree, cars, even salary just to prove a point? Are all these necessary? I'm in same shoes, I get such demands and I deal with it without being unnecessarily lousy. Common man!

goodgate:
Believing the OP seems a huge task for me,he sound like an attention seeking MOFO in AJcity.

Reddit:
I sensed pride

aktunde:
@OP
I think you have provided too much information just to ask a simple question and that has broken the credibility of your story. Now I don't know if you really need help or if you just want to show off. Why tell us about your degree, cars, even salary just to prove a point? Are all these necessary? I'm in same shoes, I get such demands and I deal with it without being unnecessarily lousy. Common man!

Reddit:
I sensed pride

Motolank:

Yes bro.. he s not even in america! Where will he get 3k from every month?

He's just building his castle in the air

astrodome:


https://www.nairaland.com/1978350/how-america-gets-it-right

aktunde:
@OP
I think you have provided too much information just to ask a simple question and that has broken the credibility of your story. Now I don't know if you really need help or if you just want to show off. Why tell us about your degree, cars, even salary just to prove a point? Are all these necessary? I'm in same shoes, I get such demands and I deal with it without being unnecessarily lousy. Common man!

Sunofgod:


Yeah - only associate with rich people - poor people are trouble!

(Bros - Can you lend me like $2000 until payday? Abeg!)

Motolank:

I tell you...what you wrote is not true.. for wea u dey work? You even make 1500montly?

Goldenboy007:


I am telling you, I was flabergasted too when i saw that ! For a research scientist ? That's a storm in a teacup !!! 3k monthly ? And has mortgage, probably car loan payment , utility bills and living expenses. What won't you see on Nairaland !

aktunde:
@OP
I think you have provided too much information just to ask a simple question and that has broken the credibility of your story. Now I don't know if you really need help or if you just want to show off. Why tell us about your degree, cars, even salary just to prove a point? Are all these necessary? I'm in same shoes, I get such demands and I deal with it without being unnecessarily lousy. Common man!

Goldenboy007:


I am telling you, I was flabergasted too when i saw that ! For a research scientist ? That's a storm in a teacup !!! 3k monthly ? And has mortgage, probably car loan payment , utility bills and living expenses. What won't you see on Nairaland !

Truckpusher:
smh

Motolank:

I tell you...what you wrote is not true.. for wea u dey work? You even make 1500montly?

Motolank:

Yes bro.. he s not even in america! Where will he get 3k from every month?

He's just building his castle in the air

astrodome:
Help!! Friends, family, former school mates and others are killing me with financial demands. Everyday I receive facebook (fb) messages, phone calls, email messages and messages from other communication avenues from family members, friends close and distant, school mates I have not seen in 20 years but with whom I reconnected on fb, and even random fb friends (meaning I do not know them personally but somehow we managed to be friends on fb). They all have the same story: please send me money, anything.

Each month I send nearly 3k to Nigeria and they keep asking for more.

Do they think I pluck money from trees in America?
Do they think every Nigerian in America is doing drugs or credit card fraud to make money?
Are they thinking that since Akin or Emeka made it in America (in many cases by selling drugs and doing credit card fraud), I should also make it and therefore be able to satisfy their unending demands?

How do I explain to them that I have bills (auto, mortgage, water-sewer, electricity, gas, phone, credit card) to pay. And then I have to run my family (of 4) and fuel 2 cars, and on top of that, I have to save also for the rainy day - for when kids get to college.

I am able to resist the random fb friends because I do not have any personal connection with them, but how do I scare the ones I know off without sounding rude and unhelping? I know that when you stop giving, you become an enemy.
Help! Before a fellow nairalander runs amock on the streets of America because of pressure from Nigeria

Just for disclosure: I am well-heeled in the US mid-upper middle class, earning a 6-figure pay, holds a PhD, and involved in R4D activities. But I live in a US city (name withheld) where mortgage payment alone takes 25% of my monthly income. So you can imagine that after paying all bills, I do not have tons of money left over to give out on frequent basis.

Please advise on how to handle this, Naija style . Thanks

astrodome:
I just dropped the phone a few minutes ago after speaking with one of these old friends, got very angry after telling me he lives in Adamawa (Boko Haram) and needs money to relocate to his state of origin. This coming after I sent $700, respectively to a sister and a sister-inlaw this am

Dem wan kill me?

omooba969:
You too kill them with supplies !

astrodome:


Duh! Credit card is used to maintain a credit history. You pay back as soon as used. Even Obama has a credit card. You apparently don't know jack about this

JayJustus:
na you dey answer dem na...

okonri:
I imagined a phd holder of Nigerian descent would opt for a debit card, what with the liquidity ensured by the 6-figure income... But what do I know ?
Again the unending mortgage you are paying that gulps 25% of your income... Pardon me but are you living in a castle?