Let me start like this, i met my present girl friend in my church campus fellowship.

First i was not interested in her due to the fact that i was in a relationship: because am a one lady guy but along the line the relationship collapse due to infidelity of the lady.

That was when i get along with my present girl from my final year till date making it 7 years.

I want to marry her but the money was not forth coming,luckly for me i was employed as a teacher with the State Government 2 years ago with a manageable amount of money.

Have been saving it but knowing how the economy is, i cannot raise enough and my girl has been on my neck.

So last 2weeks i told her we are going to get marry but i have a little amount of money and she has a reasonably part that can take us far.

But the problem is, she told me that it is going to be on her term of conditions bearing in mind how men treat their wife when they finally have money and was asking how come my money is that small. After i might have told her that i have settle some debt i incured and also pay for any apartment plus other things.

Least i forget she is working as a part-time staff in a government hospital.

My question is, Should i leave her due to such notion or i stick with her. Because i dont to have a trouble marriage when i marry.
Pls pls i need a good response. Thank u.

marriage is not a do or die mata ma broda. If u knw u ar not set for d journey, u ar on ur own

Marriage is the only institution dah requires certificate before u start.....u r prepared mentally buh not financially.....den u r not prepared.....don't allow a lady to marry u,,, marry the lady

They hv said it all

Hmmm marriage, may God help us oo, if u marry d wrong woman /girl, na punishment ooo, if you believe in God, pray n ask God to never let the plan of u marrying materialise if she's the wrong woman, i don't have much experience about marriage issue, me too I'm planning to marry around #2020 by God's grace, as far as i believe that many girls are set of confused species, it takes them age 28 n above to know what they really want, i still believe there are emotionally stable n good one's out dia 4 relationship or marriage, good luck bro!!..

Flyingngel:

Have been saving it but knowing how the economy is, i cannot raise enough and my girl has been on my neck.
So last 2weeks i told her we are going to get marry but i have a little amount of money and she has a reasonably part that can take us far.
But the problem is, she told me that it is going to be on her term of conditions bearing in mind how men treat their wife when they finally have money and was asking how come my money is that small. After i might have told her that i have settle some debt i incured and also pay for any apartment plus other things.
Least i forget she is working as a part-time staff in a government hospital.
My question is, Should i leave her due to such notion or i stick with her. Because i dont to have a trouble marriage when i marry.
Pls pls i need a good response. Thank u.

what does the bolded info mean exactly? is she saying she would be regarded as the husband or she would have to wear a Love Machine on your wedding night to blow your arse out? what exactly did she mean by it would be on her terms and condition?

conditional Marriage = conditional Divorce.

Calm down and have a rethink...
You don't know what she has in mind, maybe she just spoke without thinking...
If you can pray, please do and expect answers to your questions..
Don't just ignore your instincts/inner feeling.... They hardly lie

What actually are u afraid of? Did she mention the terms and conditions?

Another sacrificial lamb taken to the slaughter in the guise of marriage!
That you have a deeek doesn't make you a man!


Man up dammit!

Why are u bent on finding some flimsy excuse to think twice about this intended marriage?
I don't see anything wrong in what she has said afterall, men treat women badly when they finally make money
Are u scared of giving her ur word that u won't hurt her?
She wants to hear it, say it to her or take a walk if u won't.
No be by force.

Everyone warned this idiot but he went ahead. Now, she's making him wash plates and sweep the house at 5am.

Very useless man.

in most cases money for a marriage ceremony will not come from ur purse alone brother