To the successful mothers in the house, what is the secret of your happy home and marriage? How is your relationship with your husband, his families and your kids like? How can a young woman start building her home to make it a success? Eager to learn as no knowledge is a waste cos as a woman, I can settle down anytime.





#waiting to hear from you mothers#

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Hw d hell did I get into dis thread

Cutehector:
Hw d hell did I get into dis thread

cos u ain't a mother? Come on, u too cn learn, 4 ur future wife.

Rajjah, why do you only ask mothers and not fathers?

Always make the moves for bleep

Rajjah:
cos u ain't a mother? Come on, u too cn learn, 4 ur future wife.

lol I dnt hav to learn evrytn for my future wife.. I'v learnt how to cook, go to d market, live by myself, produce things... While she is out dr doin nothn..

Communication; talk to each other and with each other. Discuss everything. 2). My time, your time; men don't like being caged. Let him have time with the boys and you have time with the girls. 3). Respect each other; don't denigrate your spouse especially in the presence of other people. 4). Don't bring in others; don't let your friend, mother, pastor or whosoever play mediator in your home. Resolve all differences by yourself. 5). Marriage is not a contest where one person wins. There's no trophy. Apologize when you are wrong. 6). Get involved in each others activities. If he loves video game or soccer or Mexican soap, get basic interest. It enriches communication. 7). Don't create the basis for comparison. The neighbour could dress better or smell better or have better car. Don't push your spouse. Men should make their wives their queen, even if she has put on some weight. Lastly). There's no woman wrapper. Help out in the kitchen if you can. Help with the children's homework. Show affection in public. Push the shopping cart. Take out the trash. It's your home. I hope I'm useful to you in any way.

Whr are d 'successful' mothers na? Am also itching to hear!

I'm not a mother yet but will be soon .

One thing I have come to understand in marriage is that, for it to work, your effort and that of your husband is needed.If you are angry with your spouse, don't keep malice, discuss and settle whatever the issue is.Treat your spouse the same way you expect to be treated, and above all, always pray for your spouse, pray for understanding, pray for wisdom.

As a woman, always pet your hubby, men are just like babies, they like being pampered.

kITATITA:
Communication; talk to each other and with each other. Discuss everything. 2). My time, your time; men don't like being caged. Let him have time with the boys and you have time with the girls. 3). Respect each other; don't denigrate your spouse especially in the presence of other people. 4). Don't bring in others; don't let your friend, mother, pastor or whosoever play mediator in your home. Resolve all differences by yourself. 5). Marriage is not a contest where one person wins. There's no trophy. Apologize when you are wrong. 6). Get involved in each others activities. If he loves video game or soccer or Mexican soap, get basic interest. It enriches communication. 7). Don't create the basis for comparison. The neighbour could dress better or smell better or have better car. Don't push your spouse. Men should make their wives their queen, even if she has put on some weight. Lastly). There's no woman wrapper. Help out in the kitchen if you can. Help with the children's homework. Show affection in public. Push the shopping cart. Take out the trash. It's your home. I hope I'm useful to you in any way.

She said it all

teeboo:


She said it all

I am a man biko; with grey hair sef. I'm not a she.

innervoice:
Rajjah, why do you only ask mothers and not fathers?

well cos mothers re the sole home builders.

anthoniaz:
I'm not a mother yet but will be soon .

One thing I have come to understand in marriage is that, for it to work, your effort and that of your husband is needed.If you are angry with your spouse, don't keep malice, discuss and settle whatever the issue is.Treat your spouse the same way you expect to be treated, and above all, always pray for your spouse, pray for understanding, pray for wisdom.

As a woman, always pet your hubby, men are just like babies, they like being pampered.

hmmm, nice but hmm I lik been pampered too.

Rajjah:
well cos mothers re the sole home builders.

With this attitude, you are very unlikely to have a happy home yourself but I wish you the best of luck.

I believe wen u get to the bridge, u device a means of crossing it. Alot of things has being said abt marriage or should i say, a successful one. Whatever rocks ur boat might not go down well wit another. God’s grace and wisdom is all u need. Gracias.

innervoice:


With this attitude, you are very unlikely to have a happy home yourself but I wish you the best of luck.

Lols

Abeg free me

Sole authority; sole home builder

Body builder go soon join

Rajjah:
hmmm, nice but hmm I lik been pampered too.

Of course.Who doesn't He will reciprocate.

innervoice:


With this attitude, you are very unlikely to have a happy home yourself but I wish you the best of luck.

can u pls tell me y u said that above?

bukatyne:


Lols

Abeg free me

Sole authority; sole home builder

Body builder go soon join

M sure u kno this is not joke section n u re a lady, I wonder y u put up dis attitude.

teddybear007:
I believe wen u get to the bridge, u device a means of crossing it. Alot of things has being said abt marriage or should i say, a successful one. Whatever rocks ur boat might not go down well wit another. God’s grace and wisdom is all u need. Gracias.

I understand but I believe in the saying "no knowledge is a waste".

looking at where i came from and whom i'm married to; i think the best secret to a happy home is know the man you are married to.not the one that proposed.the one that is your husband.try and learn his behavioral pattern.what does he like/ appriciate, what appeals to him, what puts him off, what does he like eating, when does he want his meald served and all...
you see men are complex; no two men are alike behaviorally so don't treat him the way your best friend treats her hubby. but generally, they appriciate any woman that respects and honours them.know your man, fit in to his pattern, accomodate him, creative and constructive criticisms please, massage his ego.call him my lord and he will melt like icr

Chidoks:
looking at where i came from and whom i'm married to; i think the best secret to a happy home is know the man you are married to.not the one that proposed.the one that is your husband.try and learn his behavioral pattern.what does he like/ appriciate, what appeals to him, what puts him off, what does he like eating, when does he want his meald served and all...
you see men are complex; no two men are alike behaviorally so don't treat him the way your best friend treats her hubby. but generally, they appriciate any woman that respects and honours them.know your man, fit in to his pattern, accomodate him, creative and constructive criticisms please, massage his ego.call him my lord and he will melt like icr

I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

Rajjah:
I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

Then u need more than an advice, u need alot of growing up to do.

Rajjah:
I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

Don't worry, you'll do well.

where are the wives oooo
this section has the most active *happy wives*
please come and share even if they happen to be only in the dreams
e want to read*in my lil mans voice*

When you have a prob at home dont bring it to this section or else......

Rajjah:
I learnt somtin here. Some men can be very complex n filled with ego plus pride. I pray I dont get married to over complex man cos even me, m quick to anger especially wen som1 involve with me makes one mistake twice after correctn.

darling work on that anger as soon ad possible.amen to your prayers but bear in mind that no singld man can be your mr right as in no single man can meet all your requirements.so at the end of the day you are bound to choose the closest call..i pray you get the man that complements you best but a man with very low male ego is no good...they are the type that will want you to foot most of the bills if not all..in all you do remember that a wise woman keeps her home.remember to be submissive.work on that anger asap.God bless you and grant your wishes ...

Chidoks:


darling work on that anger as soon ad possible.amen to your prayers but bear in mind that no singld man can be your mr right as in no single man can meet all your requirements.so at the end of the day you are bound to choose the closest call..i pray you get the man that complements you best but a man with very low male ego is no good...they are the type that will want you to foot most of the bills if not all..in all you do remember that a wise woman keeps her home.remember to be submissive.work on that anger asap.God bless you and grant your wishes ...

Ameen. God bless you too.

Rajjah:
can u pls tell me y u said that above?

Because it takes two to tango.

Rajjah:
M sure u kno this is not joke section n u re a lady, I wonder y u put up dis attitude.

Ok, on a serious note,

Engage the poster I will quote in a serious dialogue.

The first step to a happy home is choosing the right person.

innervoice:

Because it takes two to tango.

Because it takes two to tango. [/quote]oh, ok. U re right but u c, mothers play 60% of the role in d home. I really dont kno how to make u undstnd but u shud kno dat women make most effort to have a successful n happy home cos lots of broken homes re often tagged as the woman's fault.