DeReloaded:

topup, I dont get your comment

I said frakly for your sake I hope he stops at just "Thanks" so you wont be tempted to get into long convos and such which will only make things worse

davidylan:

what is it with topup and this her bf? Wont she ever quit and leave the guy in peace?

*Hauwa*:

Pataki, what are you doing today
oh, na wa o so that's how you missed her reach eh? see talking from experience Ogbologbo

*Hauwa*:

doing good, thanks. the day is still young in South Africa so am in the cafe that fashola left behind typing away

*Hauwa*:

yep that's a good way to kill the boredom . honestly if i break up with you (God forbid) it's good raddiance,

bluespice:

gurl ive followed ur topics albeit silently most times
n this just proves ur head might be over him but ur heart is definitely not
dont get me wrong i know ur no longer in love with him neither do u want him back
but ur not over ur feelings for him

u have him as a friend on facebook
a simple 'happy birthday' will suffice
it will most definitely be lost among the throngs of messages he'll recieve that day
u'lld have satisfied ur conscience that way
a text will only seem to make ur message more personal - u dont want to do that just now



that said, its not obligatory in any of the books to wish an ex a happy birthday
worse if the ex treated u like crap before attaining that title - 'ex'

tope2000:

Chai . . . . . see notes
blue u dont turn to topup the second

topup:

That's quite rude. I wrote this topic, but due to the lack of replies, I'm trying to speak about it using examples that I know of , throughout the whole topic, I'm asking others to come out and just a reply, their outlook.

I can't help but talk about him, but he's not my only ex, he's just my most recent. I don't see what's wrong with that. I make other posts too, but these are the ones you decide to hi-jack!!

Tsk tsk!!

agabaI23:

you asked a similar question last year.

Topup what did you do last year?

bluespice:

i used to be like u
okay deep deeeeeeep down maybe i still am - i highly doubt this tho
but u see knowing that not everyone can like me (and i absolutely love this as i really couldnt care less about those that hate me),
opened a new horizon in the relating with people field
u can't like everyone thats a fact
neither can every one like u
u cant please everyone neither can everyone please u

i know this is off topic but if u have the time get the book Fountain Head by Ayn Rand
she' very popular on her beliefs of selfishness
dont be scared lol its one of the books that's left an indelible mark in my very short life

okay back to the topic
since we've accepted that u cant please everyone, u should give urself the lee-way to act semi-human for some time
try to forget things
ur ex's birthday for one seriously forgetting the name of a back stabbing friend after a period of time is perfectly normal
_{hell i even forget names of people i see on a daily basis thats intentional tho}

but u need to cut urself some slack
i think we need to work on that conscience of urs thats always in over-drive

agabaI23:

Yea topup needs some topup
Someone has to do it!

davidylan:

i thot i was the only one to notice. Next yr she'll ask what to do about the anniversary of their break-up.

tope2000:

Noooooooo . . . . . bluespice shudn take her place
else she knows she is in trouble with me

agabaI23:

you asked a similar question last year.

Topup what did you do last year?

davidylan:

i thot i was the only one to notice. Next yr she'll ask what to do about the anniversary of their break-up.

davidylan:

errr sorry if that sounded rude but hijack your thread? Certainly not. Merely passing by and wondering why you seem to obsess the same guy every waking minute u're on this board.That's not true, I have over 1400 responses, and I doubt that all 1400 let alone even 1000 of  them are about him. You're just being unfair. Obviously you don't remember the months in between I said nothing, nor do you remember me not being on Nairaland for a whole 2 months or so.


Sorry, seems you want mushy responses rather than hard cold facts. If I wanted that I know how to ask for it, and I wouldn't be arguing against it when you write pitying responses.
Yeah he's ur most recent and ur ex, the way you say it one would think no one else had every been in a relationship before. We've all been there several times over, i get the feeling this is ur first EVER so it sounds like such a huge deal to you. If he's ur ex either ignore his birthday or say hi to him, frankly i think more than half the threads on the romance boards are totally unecessary. I think I can read between the lines on this last sentence. David, wow! Thanks!! - Oh yes, before you take that to be a desperate plea for Nairalanders to gang up on you and support me instead, you better think twice. I think it starts going crazy when people who don't know you act like they do. You obviously don't know what my personality is like. I am in tears right now obviously!! Psh!! Whatever!!


perhaps replies arent forthcoming on ur threads because its just the same thing over and over and over again with slight differences in words used. Get over urself. Someone's feeling bitchy tonight!!

agabaI23:

Are you her boyfriend? Last time i checked you liked thrid leg.

topup:

Haha, then you would be un-doing all my mother's hard work. Thanks for the advice.

Being overly nice, won't stop anybody who's going to hate me, stop hating, they may even hate me more, which hurts more.

bluespice:

tope ill go soft on u if ur not carefull!