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Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lacici(m): 10:01pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Can u send ur number to me so that we can talk private? |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by xnowball1984(m): 10:01pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Why checking his call log ladies keep making mistakes if you never checked that you will not have seen all this and i wish you best of luck in your marriage and pray he changes and also you also should try praying to God to change him angelchinny: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ugoshevy(m): 10:03pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
I commented earlier, but reading through your comments I have some Questions 1) Are you aware that the advise you said you like very well maybe coming from the same girl here your husband is dating? 2) Are you aware all this people asking you to go and pray saying all men are the same are also sleeping with other peoples husbands? 3) Are you aware that Punishment is not a solution even if you abstain from sex, move out or get a job? 4) Do you want your Kids to grow up with their Dad? 5) Would you like to be referred to as that woman that was sacked with her and her children? 6) Can you remember how many people you invited for your wedding, how many times you have cooked, how long you were in labor and how many of the family and friendly advice you have heard? I can keep asking Questions.... But there is only one Solution; it is you or her. You need to go and Fight her publicly in his presence and if possible carry police that she wants to kill you and your children. Madame, stop doing smeeeh smeeeh going thru his phone, asking questions like his GF. You need ACTION. You are his Wife. That girl is your 1st priority. Of course ladies would deceive you and tell you is a lie coz they are doing it with other men and don't like embarrasment. But I'm a man. What we detest is embarrasment. Go and call police and Start a fight and escalate the issue...until someone is locked up. It doesn't matter, if you are locked up too. Immediately you get out.... Do the same thing. Madame, not every man cheats. You can change him. All you need to do is Escalate the issue. Marriage is an issue of Life and Death. Forget every other thing, you need to this issue as a matter of Life and Death. Go and call police and find that woman tomorrow. Do it continuosly....everyday....you need to make her life miserable coz she is making yours miserable. All this young girls should be taught lessons. If every woman fights for her man, there would be no cheating. You need to go and fight, this is not a joke 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by stan83: 10:03pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
There not wroung seeking advice here first is either accepted or ignored.. INTROVERT: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by GodnGold: 10:04pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
ogawisdom:Angel chinny, this is the answer to your question.Everyother action you take will backfire.Your parents are right with their advice,in fact they really love you.Get a job.If you have gained extra flesh?Nne work on your body.Nwaguy (ur hubby),will change too.#myhumbleopinion. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by happney65: 10:04pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Kill Him.. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Treasure88: 10:06pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
pray his penis will not be erected for another woman except u. dear it works like magic. tell him to his face n if u r a xtain add in Jesus name n pray it every morning. he is ur husband n u av a ryt over his penis by convenant |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Nobody: 10:08pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Blizzyblinkzy: Sweetie, where do the men in your life/family fall into_ the 96%? Please say 96% of your men cheat, not our... don't speak for all of us nne. Speak for yourself... I wonder how you were able to sample 96% of the male populace and arrive at this conclusion. I really wonder... Women marry men hoping they would change after marriage but they don't. Men hope women won't change after marriage, but they do. Op, why do I feel you knew of his philandering ways before marriage? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lastpage: 10:08pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: Dont be mistaken to think "he could not sleep because what you did pained him so much"! Did it make him change? No! Did it make you happy for ever ..or just for a minute? If he trusted you before (him being the guilty party), do you think he still trusts you now, after the calls? Does that action resolve your marriage problems? Are the Eediots who gave you that advice feeling your pain right now? Now, he may just believe you and take it for real, not knowing you are just acting it out based on useless advice from inexperienced Eediots on Nairaland! He might just be "steeling himself" for his next move..... like: "Okay, l am now free to even marry that woman at least my wife is also cheating on me as well"! Why do you need to give him a justification for his actions? Marriage problems are not that straight-forward to deal with ..... not all these infantile advice from those that have not worn the issue of those who themselves have failed marriage and want you to be a part of their league! careful o! Lastpage! |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by pharmagba: 10:13pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
uboma:I don't think now is the time to rub it on her she is already emotionally down. To my lady, let me tell you the rule of engagement- never threaten or even pack out of your husband house for any other woman. Now how do you deal with him, the strategy is called 'win back your husband 1- work on your looks, I mean loss some fat if you have to, your hair skin and dressing be attractive a little bit seducing can help 2- look for a job, it could be teaching secretary,job that will take you out daily or if you are good at cake making or tailoring start doing a job 3-ensure you give him breakfast and good dinner everyday 4- call him 2-3 times a day, just to say hi or what he will like to take for dinner or just tell him you love him or pray a 1min prayer for him. It may look awkward at first, but persist, until he start calling you from work 5-finally call him down after a sumptuous meal and tell him you want to talk. Tell him what you love about him and ask him to do likewise, then ask him what he will like you doing more to increase the flame of love and you also tell him your. No argument or emphasis on the other lady but you can mention in passing. Get him to make a commitment for things to be better and you too make commitment LESSON- in marriage no pay back, revenge but endurance patience and love. Someone must play fool at times |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by kelechi50: 10:13pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
[b][/b] angelchinny:Eyaa so because u are not working will make u die insilent,this is one of the reasons I personally don't subscribe to marrying a none working class lady no matter what.come to think of ur statement,cos of my children,Hw I will take them along wit me,what of if the unexpected happens God forbid won't u take care of the kids 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by cbrass(m): 10:15pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: You should have seen the signs before you married him but you ignored it. Just as some one said earlier don't have sex with him again except he uses a condom, that will send a strong message . Don't leave your house and I repeat don't ever do that again. Go look for a nice job to do,make good money and be happy mean while go on your nees and pray that God deliver your husband 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by stonecoldcafe: 10:15pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: I knew you were not working. Ask me how i knew you were a stay at home mum? 9 out of 10 times, a man disrespects and continously cheats on a woman who depends solely on him for every single damn thing. He knows you cannot and will not go anywhere cos you are wholly dependant on him. A Man also misbehaves when his wife works but he tends to hide or break the thing off entirely when the woman is equally powerful in her own right. He knows she will not eat nonsense from him. He will rarely flaunt it in her face because he knows the repercussion is grave. Madam, get something to do with your hands. Go and learn a trade or something; there is power in a woman who can stand on her own two feet. Stay at home mum is so old school! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by yougosee: 10:16pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
abdrazak:Your name sounds Muslim but those things you wrote up there were the exact words our Pastor taught the congregation last sunday. Nothing missing nothing added |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by CashVessel(m): 10:16pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: Just pray for him, he'll change. There's nothing physical you can do to stop him. God only can change him. I am a proof. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Rukkydelta(f): 10:16pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
With all this wahala associated with marriage I'm getting scared o anyway i'll advise the op to go fetish it seems cos is the best option now so that anything and anywhere the husband do/is the thought of her will always be on his mind |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by player007(m): 10:17pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
[quote author=rubyradiance post=37679756][/quote] I do understand where you driving it. But the truth is No man will give you a definate reason why he cheats. And the same goes for women. Some will tell you its because the S*x with the person they are cheatn with is awesome. That's why its not good to rush into marriages. Cz when you do, you will only end up with someone you have nothing in common with. And after getting married you will end up looking for that 'fullfilment' you have always been looking for before getting married. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lastpage: 10:18pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
ugoshevy: Cant stop laughing at the colored part! *What if she get "bigger Police" than your own? Imagine her Uncle is Commissioner of Police in that state? *What if she is even stronger than you and beats the hell outta you (and hubby nor intervene!) or get ruffians on her side of street? *Are you aware that there is a law against "Assault and occasioning bodily harm" which is what will result if you go to someone's house to fight them? *Are you aware that the law does not make provision for you to go and fight your husband's G/friend in her house (except if she comes to your matrimonial home) When we give advice, we must ensure we have carried it out ourselves ....and it worked for us and that it is within legal limits! I no fit bail woman that is already hurting from her husband's cheating o! "Never act when you are angry.... in calmness there is wisdom"! - Lastpage! |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lonelydora: 10:18pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
INTROVERT: Don't try the bolded. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by ugoshevy(m): 10:21pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
lastpage: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by DeCritique(m): 10:25pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
angelchinny: I just have this to say. Open this thread from the first post you posted here and leave it on your bed while he's in the room and on the same bed. Pretend as if you're going to take your bath or entering the kitchen. Silently watch him for a while as he glances through your phone. I believe that after reading all the comments posted here, he'd change by fire by force. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by toprealman: 10:26pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
They are always jealous and feel very insecure. The bad news is that he can KILL you just like that! As for changing his ways, nothing is impossible sha. Did you guys court or was it one of them arranged stuff? Just yesterday, someone realised his GF of like forever is not compatible genotypically. His target is to get married this year so he is asking all and sundry to send any available girl's contact. Dec 2015 is his marriage deadline with this 'stranger'. The guy is an importer and financially stable (for any available binding site,thank me later...if you succeed). I am sure he will be the best romantic prince charming within this 3-4 months. But just like the OP just realised, after the wedding, marriage proper starts. #1Chance is the name of the game. p/s: Those of you pm-ing me for his contact, drop yours. He will do the orishirishi...winks. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by honeygirl17: 10:27pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
ok |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by mekybabe1: 10:28pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Hey! A serial cheat has no solution o. Even if that guy had a perfect wife plus a beauty queen, he would still cheat. abdrazak: 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by Rareg: 10:29pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Report to your pastor and pray very well. Dont leave your home, to take care of 3 kids is not easy.... Go and test yourself.. |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by mekybabe1: 10:30pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Ha haan! Pls read the thread again. She had twins in her second pregnancy. honeygirl17: |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by kandiikane(m): 10:32pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
lastpage: You are the one who needs to get real, so a woman should just accept that men cheat and just go along with it or turn a blind eye to it? What a messed up mentality! Men are not polygamous in nature and not all men cheat anyone who thinks contrary to this, believing it is ok to be with a cheat needs serious help. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by MsGlobalwonder(f): 10:33pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
noblegrex:pardon my ignorance, but will this be d same advice u'll dish out if it were d other way round? 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lastpage: 10:34pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
Rukkydelta: Cheesux Christ Chukwu Emeka! This Nairaland people sef, una go kill persin o! *Are you aware of situation where one of the most beautiful women in town went to do charm so that her husband will like her more, from "Baaba" but ended up becoming "Baaaba"s wife number six! "Baba" simply helped himself to the better thing .... and the "Baba" was Uglier than a Chimpanzee, aside being very old! *are you aware of women that went the same route and what the "Baaba" gave them, actually killed their husband and the woman start to lament that "I did not intend to kill him o, it was "Baaba" that tricked me"! Let us be careful with advice like this..... Its a double-edged sword! Not to mention the repercussions that usually follow because the Devil never gives for free, .... he just dont operate that way! Lastpage! |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by honeygirl17: 10:35pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
mekybabe1: oh! I didn't see that |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by lastpage: 10:43pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
kandiikane: Big "NO"!... and l never said that! Where did you get that idea from .... or are you "manufacturing things" in your head? Take your Meds please or book an appointment to see your Shrink..... I cant be responsible for how you're feeling today! :- Lastpage! BTW: Some of you really need to understand the meaning of polygamy, whether "serial polygamy" or "conjugate Polygamy"... it is still polygamy. That "some" will want more than one woman is not new or strange. Ditto some women who cannot stay with one man. That some people will cheat in a marriage is not new, even the King of England did it, if you know your history! That it is acceptable to some while not acceptable to others is not saying anything new or ground-breaking! getting worked-up over it is simply stewpid because that has never changed the behaviour, even from biblical times! Each person to their own choice/luck in life |
Re: My Husband Is Killing Me Emotionaly, How Do I Deal With Him by MsGlobalwonder(f): 10:43pm On Sep 04, 2015 |
abdrazak:*sigh. A cheat remains a cheat regardless of the woman's actions or inactions! Goodness me!! Must it always be abt the man, what abt the woman hurting? 2 Likes |
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