freecocoa:
Here's the thing, an ex called me last week(my first boyfriend) to invite me to his wedding, the issue now is that I don't know if I should honour the invite, he said his wife insist he invites me(he didn't want to )I know he did love me and he was quite the model boyfriend then(he could pass for the types in mills$boons )and we have talked since the break up but I never thought he wouldn't invite me to his wedding, and now to call me to say his wife insists he invites me is kinda shocking/confusing, I always knew I would honour the invites I have the time to attend to,still I'm wondering if I should sit this one out, I partly want to go because it will be like a kind of reunion with old friends(even some who have to travel from very far for this) yet somehow, I feel like not going, he didn't sound happy to invite me, he was cold.

Would you go if you were the one?

IF YOU LIKE GO, IF YOU LIKE NO GO, WETI CONCERN ME!


ALL I KNOW BE SAY HE DON MARRY BUT YOU!! YOU STILL DEY HERE DEY MISERABLE YOUR OWN LIFE.



COME WHO EVEN TELL YOU SAY HE STILL LOVE YOU?

Keep on mumuling yourself

freecocoa:
If you have something to say, say it already jor.

Talk true, you like to have one last round with him.

wetin u dey find up and down sef?? stay in ur house and wish him well..

Generally speaking, I dont think its a big deal to attend an ex's wedding if you're on good terms and got an invite. In fact, in my mind its incumbent on the attendee to honor the invite with a positive presence/vibe, a fitting gift, and all the congratulations the occasion calls for. However, the scenario you described in the OP is highly suspect. I wouldn't go. Politely decline.

No need for long talk

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Truckpusher:
He's cold and yet he's telling you that his wife insists that you tag along with the idea - Lemme make it very plain to you, he wants you to come around and see him get married maybe just maybe that's his own way of getting back at you.

From experience , no lady would want his groom inviting an ex girlfriend to her wedding, her own day.

He should come out plain and tell you ''ntoi, I dun dey marry o as you sef reject me ni!''

Some people can be vindictive in this life sha.

Na wa o, I already decided not to go sha, I just was taken aback by the manner of invite.

It's not even like I didn't apologise for breaking his heart(his words), though he kept trying for us to get back together but it just wasn't for me again, if he's still bearing grudge na him sabi.

hensben:
Talk true, you like to have one last round with him.

Don't troll here biko.

freecocoa:
Come that's not the purpose of this thread, trying to scrutinise my sex life that is.

We dated for about 2 years if you must know, intimate activities include spooning and touching, I don't see how that is contradictory.

Amebo.

That's not the purpose here but when a particular statement surfaces then it could be subjected to every kind of scrutiny.

What's it with that emoticon sef? Mtcheew ! abeg no vex ,oya nau back to your ex.

Ask him what he told his bride about you that she is insisting that you come around ? ask him because you're too smart to be labelled a home breaker tomorrow even when you could be miles away. But my best advice is to tell him to go on with his wedding and you do not hold anything against him, and as well too busy to attend.

The guy could be passing a subtle message to his bride that ''Look at her ,I can still run away if you make life difficult for me ,after all you saw her and she is beautiful'' There is nothing that manipulative men won't do to women to score some useless points that is usually in the blind spot of everyone involved including the new wife and the willing pawn but it would take a woman with wisdom not to fall for that charade.

Reject his IV the way God rejected satan.

Free food, free drinks, gifts to thank yhu for coming and if yhu get lucky, hookup on a platter. Why won't I go?

If I drilled her borehole blue-black before the break up, because then, I won't have anything to lose

freecocoa:
Na wa o, I already decided not to go sha, I just was taken aback by the manner of invite.

It's not even like I didn't apologise for breaking his heart(his words), though he kept trying for us to get back together but it just wasn't for me again, if he's still bearing grudge na him sabi.

You see ya life ? You dun make person go marry with vexation.


Oya tell am make him cancel the wedding with all seriousness make you see him reaction first.

I no dey house o.

suffa better food and meaningful souvenir dey, Y not?

freecocoa:
Don't troll here biko.

But that one dey.

He invited u because he wants u to be present and not because his bride wants u to. Trust me if he doesn't want u to be there he wouldn't invite u even if his bride asks him to. Its as simple as telling his bride he has invited u. If u are comfortable going then go, but if u feel u won't be comfortable then sit it out. It is not a must.

Truckpusher:
That's not the purpose here but when a particular statement surfaces then it could be subjected to every kind of scrutiny.

What's it with that emoticon sef? Mtcheew ! abeg no vex ,oya nau back to your ex.

Ask him what he told his pride about you that she is insisting that you come around ? ask him because you're too smart to be labelled a home breaker tomorrow even when you could be miles away. But my best advice is to tell him to go on with his wedding and you do not hold anything against him, and as well too busy.

The guy could be passing a subtle message to his bride that ''Look at her ,I can still run away if you make life difficult for me ,after all you saw her and she is beautiful'' There is nothing that manipulative men won't do to women to score some useless points that is usually in the blind spot of everyone involved including the new wife and the willing pawn but it would take a woman with wisdom not to fall for that charade.

Reject his IV the way God rejected satan.

Lol, you are funny, I wasn't vexing btw but it feels nice that you say make I no vex.

Home breaker ke? I can't put myself in that position, amadioha forbid it, I will just wish him well on the day of the event, I just really woulda loved to see my old pals, but nothing spoil still.

Truckpusher:
You see ya life ? You dun make person go marry with vexation.


Oya tell am make him cancel the wedding with all seriousness make you see him reaction first.

I no dey house o.

Your head no correct.

freecocoa:
Lol, you are funny, I wasn't vexing btw but it feels nice that you say make I no vex.

Home breaker ke? I can't put myself in that position, amadioha forbid it, I will just wish him well on the day of the event, I just really woulda loved to see my old pals, but nothing spoil still.

No go ooo....

If you attend party wey dem no invite you with clean mind and you come break their plate ,you go pay o.


If you doubt me , ask Deejavuu.

Whatever u do, just don't have sex with him. Niqqa ain't urs no more!

Judging by ur post i must say u still like him op(atleast an iota). I've been there before and believe me u'll end up regreting ur action if u eventually go.

All the wife-to-be want is just to acess u physically et al and run comparisms btw herself and U cos she must have heard alot about you from ur ex and his friends and family.

Again she wants to tests her hubby's countenance towards u that very day. things like eye contact, seductive smiles and all oda yeye tins.

Make urself very occupied on the wedding day with whateva that gives u happiness......

As for me i let byegones be byegones. life anagaga!

freecocoa:
Here's the thing, an ex called me last week(my first boyfriend) to invite me to his wedding, the issue now is that I don't know if I should honour the invite, he said his wife insist he invites me(he didn't want to )I know he did love me and he was quite the model boyfriend then(he could pass for the types in mills$boons )and we have talked since the break up but I never thought he wouldn't invite me to his wedding, and now to call me to say his wife insists he invites me is kinda shocking/confusing, I always knew I would honour the invites I have the time to attend to,still I'm wondering if I should sit this one out, I partly want to go because it will be like a kind of reunion with old friends(even some who have to travel from very far for this) yet somehow, I feel like not going, he didn't sound happy to invite me, he was cold.

Would you go if you were the one?

Why won't you go?
When last you chop wedding rice?
Won't you love to stand up when the Officiating priest says the those who do not support their joining together should?

Won't you love to give the toast when old friends are doing such?
You would be able to tell his new crush that you know what he carries cos he has given you before!!
It is the wedding rice I am more concerned about though.........

Blizzyblinkzy:
I will go if we ended our relationship in peace.

Seriously, do relationship actually end in peace? Weird.

Truckpusher:
No go ooo....

If you attend party wey dem no invite you with clean mind and you come break their plate ,you go pay o.


If you doubt me , ask Deejavuu.

Lol, I no go go, him sister sef call me dey tell me say so finally no be me him marry, say she still dey find am hard to believe but I just explain my stance give am and she understand, I no just know why the guy will say all is well, when infact he is still angry with me, orisirisi, I wish everyone had my kind of heart.

permsec:
Judging by ur post i must say u still like him op(atleast an iota). I've been there before and believe me u'll end up regreting ur action if u eventually go.

All the wife-to-be want is just to acess u physically et al and run comparisms btw herself and U cos she must have heard alot about you from ur ex and his friends and family. Make urself very occupied on the wedding day with whateva that gives u happiness......

As for me i let byegones be byegones. life anagaga!

Gbam! You raised a vital point my brother.

Some people can't just stop talking about their ex with their bf or gf with the girls always being the main culprit all the time.

I will personally dump your ass in the fullness of time the moment you start talking about your useless ex that couldn't even keep you around.

Op, should tell him to shove his IV down his ass for all I care before some problems starts coming up tomorrow with her name in the entire picture for all the wrong reasons.

Why do we even call them an 'ex' when we talk about them all the time?

na buhari cause am

freecocoa:
Lol, I no go go, him sister sef call me dey tell me say so finally no be me him marry, say she still dey find am hard to believe but I just explain my stance give am and she understand, I no just know why the guy will say all is well, when infact he is still angry with me, orisirisi, I wish everyone had my kind of heart.

There is no point going for that wedding.

Talk to him nicely and that's all - So, you're still single and ready to mingle?

I should have been very nice to you all these years. *scratches head adjusts my glasses*

Yes na wetin de dia

Truckpusher:
Gbam! You raised a vital point my brother.

Some people can't just stop talking about their ex with their bf or gf with the girls always being the main culprit all the time.

I will personally dump your ass in the fullness of time the moment you start talking about your useless ex that couldn't even keep you around.

Op, should tell him to shove his IV down his ass for all I care before some problems starts coming up tomorrow with her name in the entire picture for all the wrong reasons.

Why do we even call them an 'ex' when we talk about them all the time?

Lmao! we call them PAST yet they rule the present and possibly the future.
Any small misunderstanding with the newly wedded couple, they'll use op as the crux of their wahala.

Then the hubby's body language will be stronger than that of PMB. Use ur head madam!

Truckpusher:
There is no point going for that wedding.

Talk to him nicely and that's all - So, you're still single and ready to mingle?

I should have been very nice to you all these years. *scratches head adjusts my glasses*

Yea, not going is already the only option, I'm only ever nice to him considering he was absolutely loving/I was the one that ended things, so I have that part covered.

I'm single and still not sure about marriage yet, plus I don't do misogynists.

Wealthyonos:
[size=14pt] Baby dont mind all of them saying thrash. Since its the wife that is inviting you, tell him to tell his wife to invite you personally. Tell him u won't come except she does so. But i'm suspecting his wife could be one of ur friends or some1 you know if truly she is the one inviting you. [/size]

gbam!!! onos u too much.I had exactly this same tot.u just took it out of my mouth

freecocoa:
I'm not sure, not like he doesn't want me there per se, more like, it could be a distraction.

Buy a very nice gift wrapped. go to the church when the pastor or priest will say if there is anybody that doesn't want this union to hold..... just stand up make am fear n d congregation then sit down . latter present the gift on a cheerful manner. but o swear if na me ehn I go stone u with my shoe DAT time

freecocoa:
Lol, I no go go, him sister sef call me dey tell me say so finally no be me him marry, say she still dey find am hard to believe but I just explain my stance give am and she understand, I no just know why the guy will say all is well, when infact he is still angry with me, orisirisi, I wish everyone had my kind of heart.

Thats tales by moonlight from the sister. she is just claiming not to know that you and the bro pathed ways and u fell for it! Chai women sha!