The day Nigerian ladies will come to the knowledge that Marriage is not an achievement, they will stop sowing seeds for Husbands.

I see such seed sowing as methods used by Thiefstors to defraud gullible ladies.

You could use those monies to add more value to Your life and even those around You.

Stop chasing after the wind.

I can't imagine God forcing me to marry some lady because of Her seeds. It is a violation of My free will. No matter how God speaks it, if I don't like what I see, am out.

If all those seed sowing and 'I must wear my wedding gown' stunts are real we would
have been hearing testimonies.

If a person is hungry, do You have to beg them to eat a well prepared meal from You? Hell no. If You know Your worth, that Marriage does not increase Your value, You won't have to sow seeds to get a Husband.

It is a Man that the scripture say can not be alone. A Woman is a gift to Man. Why should You add another gift to Yourself in order to be accepted by a Man.

I think those churches that ask single ladies to come out for prayers are making public ridicule of them ladies. They make them prey to ravenous guys in their congregation by creating the desperation awareness.

That is why most of them ladies end up sponsoring their said marriages. There is nothing wrong with a couple contributing mutually to their wedding but there is everything wrong with a woman sponsoring a wedding single-handedly just to be conferred with the MRS certificate. That is, starting up a union on the wrong pedestal. We have a lot of such cases and usually they don't end well for the Women.

In the event that something goes wrong as it always does, the ladies are usually left with huge financial losses. These are monies that could have been invested rightly.

This post does not frown at a lady assisting a man. Some ladies are privileged to be more financially equipped than their male partners. If You have a Man that truly loves You and is ambitious, it is perfectly okay for You to assist Him because You are building a future together.

Don't buy a Man with Your hard earned money, You will regret it.

Get a Purpose and pursue it. Be lost in something meaningful. Forget Men and the right one will come. Instead of sowing that seed for a Man, go and donate money to orphanages, prisons, beggars etc.

If You sow a seed to get a Man, You will keep sowing to keep Him.


Post written by High-Prof Victor Chigozie Ibeh

MizMyColi:
The desperation to get married comes from a place of incompleteness, a sense of lack and a total disconnect from one's worth and value.

I will rather remain unmarried and keep on being the best I can be, while ensuring that I fulfil my life's inner purpose....than get hitched with someone who thinks he's doing me a favour.
To hell with that kind of mentality and God forbid!

Well, thankfully, that's not the case

Jollyjoy:
easier said than done.

falconey:
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Jollyjoy:
she tell u say she dey single?

falconey:

MizMyColi:


We live in a society that harps a lot on stereotypes.

Because everyone goes to church seeking for husbands, then that must be the situation of everyone.
What you have chosen to be oblivious of is that there are a few out there who have chosen to go against the stereotype...of course, Rome wasn't built in a day, but people are beginning to take their lives and destinies in their hands. They are learning to live in the now, they are no more susceptible to the whims and caprices of memories and anticipation.



I ask you....If I were someone close to you, would you advise me to get married to someone who thinks he's doing me a favour?

I think that when people everywhere begin to realize that come what may, everyone will always have their opinion, the better.

The onus lies on you and I as the subject of discussion to realize that people's affirmation of us is WELCOME, but NOT NEEDED.

I was on a thread where people were bashing Linda for being unmarried....agree or not, people who curse others based on their life sutuations are equally miserable people who are merely projecting their insecurities and perceived flaws on others.
When you realise this truth, you will become less and less bothered of what they say or do.

And just so you know....this is my default mindset. It's a truth and reality that has become deeply rooted in me and I am thankful.


People should stop feeding their pain and learn to walk away from negativity of every kind.
#Emancipation

MizMyColi:


Your opinion is largely yours.
As mine is largely mine.

If this is what you advise your sisters and those who are close to you, then good for them and you too.

MizMyColi:


We live in a society that harps a lot on stereotypes.

Because everyone goes to church seeking for husbands, then that must be the situation of everyone.
What you have chosen to be oblivious of is that there are a few out there who have chosen to go against the stereotype...of course, Rome wasn't built in a day, but people are beginning to take their lives and destinies in their hands. They are learning to live in the now, they are no more susceptible to the whims and caprices of memories and anticipation.



I ask you....If I were someone close to you, would you advise me to get married to someone who thinks he's doing me a favour?

I think that when people everywhere begin to realize that come what may, everyone will always have their opinion, the better.

The onus lies on you and I as the subject of discussion to realize that people's affirmation of us is WELCOME, but NOT NEEDED.

I was on a thread where people were bashing Linda for being unmarried....agree or not, people who curse others based on their life sutuations are equally miserable people who are merely projecting their insecurities and perceived flaws on others.
When you realise this truth, you will become less and less bothered of what they say or do.

And just so you know....this is my default mindset. It's a truth and reality that has become deeply rooted in me and I am thankful.


People should stop feeding their pain and learn to walk away from negativity of every kind.
#Emancipation

falconey:

Lol

Falconey, your truth is noted and duly discarded. No offence please

The truth lives in me.
I live the truth everyday.
I am one in being and in flesh with the truth.

There is no truth that I will be told now, that deep within me, I do not know already.
What anyone can do is to remind me of that which I have long forgotten.

MizMyColi:


Lol

Falconey, your truth is noted and duly discarded. No offence please

The truth lives in me.
I live the truth everyday.
I am one in being and in flesh with the truth.

There is no truth that I will be told now, that deep within me, I do not know already.
What anyone can do is to remind me of that which I have long forgotten.

Jollyjoy:
agreed we shouldnt live our lives by other people opinions but their opinions to some extent are relevant,

yes you have the right to live the way you want,to upheld your own opinion irrespective of what people say but ask your self,are you ready to bear the consequences of your own actions?come to think of it,how do you even expect to live when the society wouldnt stop castigating,descriminating and passing all sort of demeaning remarks...

I thank you very much for your honesty.
First, please understand that your life situation is different from your life.
Please also understand that you cannot continue to identify with people's undermining and demeaning remarks...else you will not make any head way.

I have taken up interest in politics.
There is hardly a day at least one person doesn't say things to undermine me and make me feel really bad about myself.
I have been called a LovePeddler, I have been called a bigot, I have been called FAT and Ugly, please name them

But I made a choice not to identify with any of those....because that is not who or what I truly am.

Accept it or not, it does not matter what the world sees or thinks of me...what matters is what I see and think of me.

I am sharing this because I know that there are people who are out there who have one issue or another but aren't bold enough to talk about it.

If people have called you fat and ugly...If people have called you a perpetual bachelor or spinster....if they have labelled you unprintable names....WHAT IS YOUR OWN PERCEPTION OF YOURSELF?
You might not fully grasp it now, but that is what matters in the long run.

Most times,it not about setting standard for ourselves but coping with the set standards,just like the world is a stage and our actions are judged by spectators and those are people in our every day lives,without those people i bet our world would have been boring...

miss my point is if you in rome then behave life that roman,......

zicoraads:

Go church Miz
Stop distracting me...am trying to concentrate on what the man of God is saying

yanabasee:
It baffles me how this girls think diz days!

Look, OP, if a man is worth keeping, then you should work hard to keep him....

A friend will say, if I work hard to ensure that my woman isn't gonna be taken away from me from other men... Then my woman should also work hard to keep me to herself so that other women won't take me away from her.

You ladies should ask Urselves questions... What kindaf seed are u sowing on ur man's body?

-Nagging seed?
-Cheating seed?
-Quarrelling seed?
-Imposing seed?
-Arrogant seed?
-Self Important seed?

Ask yourself!