postmann:

Reading all the response from the contributing women makes me laugh.

Obviously the 21st century woman has taken her world in one giant stride with illusions and arrogance.

But one thing remains: IT IS A MAN'S WORLD! Pure and simple!

Hate me if you must. Call me a sexist if it makes you happy, but I'll say it like it is.

Men like their women fresh! Untainted most times, or after they've known her. A woman who leaves her husband over infidelity and marries another will soon regret it.
Most men who marry divorced women are not faithful themselves. And the chances of a man finding sexual fulfilment from a divorced woman ONLY is very slim.

The 21st century woman believes she is similar to a man, that there is no difference save for the hairs on his face and body.

But in her arrogance, the bitter truth of life sweeps in from behind.

Even never-married single ladies are having challenges getting married, and we are talking about the married and divorced.

Quit the pride and arrogance ladies! The best slot a divorced woman can get in this era, is a glorified sex partner. Or a P.A to an aged man. Hardly any young man will pitch his sexual tent forever with a divorced woman, even in marriage.

Your best shot most of the time is with the husband of your youth.

And one more thing: It's not the same thing when a man cheats and when a woman cheats.

But the shocking thing is, I've even seen men argue this in the negative. The sexual organs of both sex says it all.
Even deities reacts to a cheating wife.


God says, "If a husband divorces his wife And she goes from him And belongs to another man, Will he still return to her? Will not that land be completely polluted? But you are a harlot with many lovers; Yet you turn to Me," declares the LORD

(Jer 3:1)



If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the LORD. Do not bring sin upon the land the LORD your God is giving you as an inheritance.

(Duet 24:1-4)

Now we know polygamy is WRONG. And a cheating husband errs grievously. It's infact a mortal sin. But the above scriptures are HIGHLIGHTS of how abominable is the act of a cheating wife. Even when she was divorced and another man has "touched" her she cannot come back to her husband.

If your pride won't let you stay with your cheating husband, then honorably prepare for celibacy. Or you can choose to end up in a far more shameful union with another man who will eventually seek another woman when he is done exploring what is left of you.

A married woman who spreads her legs for another is a pack of shame before man and spirits.

This is no call for men to cheat or opt for polygamy or even divorce. It is simply a response to a lost breed of women.

Memejem:
You came here to fight. Quoting and twisting the words of the old testament that is only applicable to jews and not christians for your benefit.

There are divorced women who have remarried and are content in thier marriages. If a man like likes his women fresh and still cheats on his wife then he viewed his wife as an object for sex just as a divorced women as per your logic.

Why are you spewing your opinions as facts? How do you know that most divorced men are not faithful? Have you done a quantitative research on a large sample of divorced men that can aid your misguided theory? I would argue that divorced men are probably more faithful that fist time married men as they are more likely to know what they are looking for in the institution of marriage. If they willingly left a marriage why enter another one if thier goal is promiscuity. But that's just my OPINION. As your epistle was your opinion that I obviously disagree with

I would also argue that the 21st century woman does not view herself as similar to man. they view themselves as different but equal and entitled to the same opportunities available to men. But again that's my humble opinion. Just because you don't agree with the opinions of the women on this thread doesn't mean you should come here and spew your hatred for the female gender as fact.

Quoting Bible verses from the old testament that no longer apply to christians and interpreting them in a way that you beleive make your point. Giving no context to the verses that come before or after it even.

You are a bigot. And don't like accepting the opinions of other people. Which is fine. Nobody is begging you to marry a woman from this century. You acknowledge that cheating is abhorrent but then state give excuses for the reason men cheat as wanting fresh women. Then viciously attack women who cheat as well as divorcees. But in your opinion a cheating woman is worse than a cheating husband. But not in the eyes of God. If you are going to quote the Bible then I suggest you quote from the new testament, that is what christians refer to in this day and age. Which also permits divorce on the grounds of adultery

FYI not all women divorce men do so due to infidelity, some do so due to spousal abuse. And any woman that is repeatedly getting hammered by her husband and beaten day in and day out should divorce that man. He won't change.

Jozzy4:
Its not easy though bcoz the world's moral standard is very low ; but by Gods grace , I never pray or wish to cheat on my future wife .

lexxyrule:

The one you wanna divorce, if you know him to be unfaithful, you prob won't marry him. What makes you think the next will be faithful too. How can you tell. Which one is faithful or not before marriage?
# wake up #grow up. Better outlook please

Jozzy4:
Its not easy though bcoz the world's moral standard is very low ; but by Gods grace , I never pray or wish to cheat on my future wife .

postmann:


Don't let my submission trouble you as is obvious from your reaction. You sounded as if I called you out as I let drop my hot oil.

You're not even a good Christian to begin with, since you claimed that my quoted scriptures are for jews only.

And you claimed I twisted the scripture. Why would I do that?

No, I didn't. I said it like it is and I knew it will infuriate "liberated" women like you.

And you came at me poorly researched. Otherwise there are some things you wouldn't dare say.

You claimed divorced men are more likely to stay in marriage than 1st timers. Well, according to US statistics 50% of 1st marriage survives. While 67% of second, and 73% of third marriages end. I think that relegates your claim of divorcees being more faithful to the trash can.

Oh, I never gave reason for men cheating as wanting his woman fresh. You read wrong. I meant men like their women fresh, so don't always see a divorcee as one.

Look, I put thinga mildly here. CHRIST came to abolish polygamy and divorcing for any other reason other than unfaithfulness.

Now take another bomb: women don't have the power of divorce! They can only be separated from their husbands. And if they do, they are to remain single!!!

CHRIST was speaking to MEN (not women) in Matthew 5:32 and Luke 16:18 when HE was talking about adultery. No woman has any right to divorce her husband and marries another over infidelity.
1 corinthians 7:11 has something also to say.

Now, I guess you'd look for something worse than a bigot to qualify me.

But I tell you the truth. Take back your arrogance. I see much hardship and unfulfilment ahead for feminists.

Toks2008:
The last time i checked,these questioons were meant for married ladies and not teenagers or unmarried ladies in their adolescent ages.

Memejem:
I didn't come poorly researched. I didn't research anything. I stated my opinion just like you are stating yours. Whatever stats you posted there are only related to the population of the United states which is vastly different to the over 200 million people of nigeria whi h has little to no stats available at this time. With a on pretext different ideology and view point of marriage.

I never claimed to be a liberated. That is your judgement. I don't see why you are attacking women for wanting and experience ting to have a faithful husband. You do yourself a disservice by expecting women to tolerate so much higher injustice. Christ allowed for divorce on the grounds of unfaithfulness but you claim women can't divorce? Maybe you should read the Bible again.

Who are you to tell me whether I am a good Christian or not because I disagree with you on one point. Relax. This is just Naira land. We are having a debate, don't conclude on my devotion to a religion as you do not know me all. This is one spectrum of an outlook on one issue.

Anyways I don't want this to turn into hate speech. Let's agree to disagree. It is evident we were raised in different environments with different outlooks on life.

I don't plan on cheating on my husband and never will.i am a follower of Christ and let's leave it at that.

doveda:


Ermmmmm.... I am neither

I asked Vanquay to 'STFU' and also called him ‘rude thing'. The coward moderator classified it an attack and banned me.

Please only quote me if your IQ enters the 3 digit zone....I APPRECIATE YOU

Toks2008:


Im sorry i have edited and number 4 is now number five and i muust say you are likely not to have issues in your marriage with this reasonable mindset.

I have conseled many married ladies and 8 out of 10 issues bothers on the sexual infidelity of the man and after i finish talking to them they tend to realize the truth.

No man is worth your stress and while we know there are men who will not cheat on their wives,there is usually no stamp on their heads that they will be faithful.

My write ups are usually deep and very hard for the immature at heart to decipher. I believe if every lady can care less as difficult as it may sound and ignore a philandering hubby,the happier they will be.

My advice for the guy who have decided to tow this lane is to respect the wife n do it far far away and also use a protection to reduce the chance of bringing home sti to the woman at home.

Most men are not nterested in having you leave for another lady but they just want to have a taste of any emotionally vulnulrable lady who brings herself so cheaply to share another lady hubby but wen you start making trouble wiith him and trying to prevent him from unleashing his passion,that is when trouble starts.

A good guy can turn bad and a faithful man can bcome a reckless philanderer so these questions are very vital only for a lady who is faced with the situation.

sinizia:
It still beats my imagination how some/many people still take this OP's threads serious. I usually ignore ALL his threads cos of his skewed mindset and condescending views especially against women. He usually hides his misogynistic and pervasive beliefs sublimnally between several avalanche of poorly-constructed dissertations OR migrane-inducing sanctimonious epistles. What a dumb and pathetic thread. Just man up and say you support men cheating.

Hermionegranger:
One thing I hate about life is the double standards being applied to women..Would you, as a man stay and become long suffering trying to ignore the fact that your wife is cheating on you? If you can't do that, then why should we women do so? Going by your assertion, all men cheat. then I'd rather be a single mother.
How about the option of raising my children on MY OWN far away from a philanderer and potential philanderers.

Toks2008:


Easy to say.

Si at 26 say you caught your hubby cheating then you will leave and never have sex again?

I hear you.

ronald4lif:
I have never seen where anyone justifies cheating with such gusto, like it should be accepted.

Like I've habitually said, staying loyal to one woman is practically impossible for me but making excuses and justifying my salacious nature is all way wrong. Not like I'm proud about it but that's me or maybe I'd outgrown it someday.

The best any man can do is to be as furtive as possible to avoid being caught by their woman. And this message makes it seem as if cheating should be done openly and then the women should condone it. Mbanu.

No woman should condone a cheating man. Once there's evidence a man has cheated it's either they are dumped or in cases where they apologise and 'change' their philandering ways then fine.

I'll also like to add that it's rare to see a man who doesn't cheat. They just have never been caught and are fastidious with their game. Or perhaps never had the opportunity to cheat.

It's no coincidence that over my 10years dating experience I've never had a friend who doesn't cheat or never fantasises about shagging that hot babe at a function, club or party, even the married ones. Don't know how to put it but men cheating about is here to stay. Ende!

Rocktation:


Counsellor, this is what you said. I find it disturbing that you're of such mindset, if you truly are a counsellor. Why don't you want to accept that there really are men, who very comfortably, would never cheat? Or is all the hateful thing there really is to cheating, not the actual burying of the dingdong where it doesn't belong? Some people find there's more to life than sex sex sex, reaaaally. You cannot use the weakness in you as the standard by which every man must be judged. Get that into your mindset and the world will be better for it. Don't you see other men telling it differently on this thread? They're not lesser men. It's the incessant peddling of the falsehood that cheating is hardwired into every man's gene, that's making more philandering males exist. Rather than come here to try at convincing women to accept a wrong, try convincing men to desist from doing that wrong. The world's healing begins with you. Change your mindset today.

Favolly:
Number 1 please

Kachisbarbie:




And a younglady would take it as her destiny to perpetually endure. When my name isn't ndidi... [/i]

Rocktation:
Abi? Like asking if the woman would "shamelessly philander about" when her husband "philanders". It becomes shameful for women when supposedly, it is a natural phenomenon for men.
@skydeep

cococandy:

It's people like you that made it a cruel world with your selfishness and double standards.

See how you implied that it's okay for a guy to philander but when it comes to the woman, it becomes "shameless"
Aliens didn't come form Mars to make it cruel. Selfish People like you did.

Jozzy4:
Its not easy though bcoz the world's moral standard is very low ; but by Gods grace , I never pray or wish to cheat on my future wife .