maray:

I dont know why some guys believe dat they can always get away wit stuff,and not get caught,but often slips up nd get caught anyways,except d girl is not smart enough

Is this enough reason why you go sleeping around?

Anything you would not do in front of your partner when they are present is called cheating

You hide because you know your partner won't like you doing what it is that you are secretly doing. If you are not cheating you dont' hide.

That's my view.

(Of topic am new at this does anyone know how to start a new topic? Thanks in advance! )

There are some things you don't want your partner to see and yet that does not
mean that you're cheating on him or her.

@George D, To me it is called cheating. If I for example textmessage someone in front of my man it isnt a problem but as soon as I do it (on purpose) when he is not there then to me that means something is going on. Who am I texting and why isnt my man allowed to see me texting who ever it is am texting

George_D:

There are some things you don't want your partner to see and yet that does not
mean that you're cheating on him or her.

What would be those somethings?

sistawoman where have u been !!! there is a post about u in the sexuality section and i had a question about the taking a break thing in a relationship

@ Sistawoman You understand what am saying arnt your? Why hide is you are clean

Sorry i have been sick and really just trying to hold my head above water lately. I cant wait to go under the knife at the end of the month. I will go over to sexuality and check out the break in r/s thread as well.

sistawoman:

What would be those somethings?

like sending a confidential text to your daddy about a family problem. like advising your
wayward brother on how to behave. like asking for a little assistance from your friend.
and of course making a secret call to the fast food restaurant on her birthday to
arrange a special surprise package. all these do not amount to cheating, do they?

Your missing the point.

You know what your partner likes and dislikes. You know your partner will not like you talking to that particular man or woman so you do it secretly.

If your not an open book, your not trustworthy and that's my stance.

Sometimes you make calls to someone and your partner is not around no problem but if the occasion arises, you can always explain freely why that person called you or why you called that person.

Am not saying you have to report everything you did immediately to your partner, but if there isn't anything to hide then you don't need to lie.

exactly. no one is talking about hiding anything here.

You are cheating when you begin to engage in sexual action or even talks with anyone of the opposite sex-or maybe the same sex in this world we live in today, lol.

when sex is involved, then there is no two way about it.

@poster,
Cheatin' is cheatin' only when u get caught!

Is it really only limited to sexual contact?

Is not an EA cheating too?

for me, cheating is keeping the details and trying to hiding things from your partner ( my bf said once - "i am protecting you from getting hurt ). it really hurt me and we have still having issue cuz of that

sistawoman:

Is it really only limited to sexual contact?

Is not an EA cheating too?

You could kiss secretly and still feel happy about it

Hi nairalanders, I'm real new. How to i get really involve here.

temmytej, just hop in. the fact you're here means you're already involved.

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hey all, new too, on the topic, when you feel a need to hide stuff u're doing with somene else from ur partner and of course u know within urself (if u have a conscience o!!) what u're doing is wrong, that's cheating, it don't have to be physical, there's something called emotional infidelity, depending on someone other than ur partner to make u feel the way u wuld want ur partner to, when u begin to look to someone outside of r relationship to fill that void, that to me is cheating,

There are some emotions you wouldn't want your partner to
be privy about and that's not cheating.

, George D, that's a lie and u know it!!!!the fact that you don't want ur partner privy to it in the first place means there's something to hide!!how can that not be cheating?

It's not a lie my sister. That's just the plain truth.

Cheating is cheating. Whether in the exam hall, in political elections, in defrauding other pple's money, or in marriage/retaionship.

this thread still on? i thought it died a long time ago?

dudet:

hey all, new too, on the topic, when you feel a need to hide stuff u're doing with somene else from your partner and of course u know within urself (if u have a conscience o!!) what u're doing is wrong, that's cheating, it don't have to be physical, there's something called emotional infidelity, depending on someone other than your partner to make u feel the way u wuld want your partner to, when u begin to look to someone outside of r relationship to fill that void, that to me is cheating,

Fatimata:

Your missing the point.

You know what your partner likes and dislikes. You know your partner will not like you talking to that particular man or woman so you do it secretly.

If your not an open book, your not trustworthy and that's my stance.

Sometimes you make calls to someone and your partner is not around no problem but if the occasion arises, you can always explain freely why that person called you or why you called that person.

Am not saying you have to report everything you did immediately to your partner, but if there isn't anything to hide then you don't need to lie.

WORD!! Abeg, make una help tell dem. . . . .

Cheating is anything that U do to someone else that U wont do in the presence of your partner.

Brillant

Core_talk:

Brillant

you mean your a brilliant cheat?

you mean your a brilliant cheat?

No i'm referring to the phrase. my babe dey 2 fine for me 2 cheat

Core_talk:

No i'm referring to the phrase. my babe dey 2 fine for me 2 cheat

i feel you brother! carry on!!

if it is b/g 4get it. Cheat until u get serious and marry her. If u are marred already then u don't any option than to see pretty girls and assume them to be men in ur mind if u mistakely imagin or admire her too much then u have already cheat on ur wife emotionaly. So u ll be left with on choice than to confess to ur wife, u can do that this way. Sweetie can u imagin that devil just made use of me right now? She may screm and ask how? As a smart guy just say some me my self just imagin havin affair this urgly lady. Too bad for my kind of person, any way forgive me sweetie. Oh my lov i knw u cant do that is work of the devil.at long last u have confes and 4giving lol smal logic sha