U didn't lose anything, bro.Focus on ur new job.A good man is rewarded handsomely. Pray to God Almighty so that He wld give u the woman who, truly, is yours.Confess & forsake your sins, pray and fast then you will see the handwork of God Almighty. He'll not only remove ur mind from what does not belong to you but provide u wt what is yours.

macroscopic:
Pls Nairalanders help!!

I met this beautiful damsel while serving(NYSC) in Imo State in 2013. She accepted to date me on one condition (NO SEX before marriage). I gladly accepted. Our love was a major gist in town because she is a beauty queen. I so much loved her with all my heart..She was a virgin and I so much respected her for that...I spent 75% of my allowee on her in addition with my personal savings...

On several ocassions, she lost control of herself during romance but as a gentleman, I kept my promise by not harvesting the forbidden fruit.. Her love for me grew stronger because of my self control. After NYSC, I relocated to Lagos in search of greener pasture. Things got tougher because jobs were extremely scarce. Still,I struggled to send her some money through her father's first bank account (she was 18yrs then).

Once in a month, I travelled from Lagos to Owerri just to see her....Our love was so strong..But since inception of this year, things got pretty bad that I could not meet up with my routine travels to see her. After 3yrs, I got a job few days ago in an oil company and I was so enthusiastic to relay the good news to her....But to my greatest shock ever...She sent me an apology sms that she will be getting married next week...I was preparing for sunday service but the news automatically made me fell asleep. I just woke up and feeling abnormal...She is calling but I can't imagine myself taking the calls...Pls I need your pool of unalloyed advice...

Pls save a soul today and God will bless you..Thanks

My guy I read what you wrote over 3 times, again and again don't mind what most people here are saying, though my advice my be coming late but I feel you need to hear from her, she could as well gotten married b4 telling you, she could be just a victim of situation....,.don't condemn her without giving her a listening ear,.




Note one very important thing, God may be doing a great job for you by pushing her out of your life, don't push things too much, what will be will be

Poor thread

Putting myself in your shoe. What would I have done?

Gr8amechi:
I am not defending her, but don't be too quick to judge her........girls general even you if you are truly a girl are too easy to deceive

Deceived into marriage? I'm not getting you.

PunkyVeer:


Deceived into marriage? I'm not getting you.

Hmm

Na dia way.

Op, peele.

Some wont even tell you.......

You hear it from a 3rd party, ......suddenly, you will receive a call from someone you know that also know her......

The call will start like this, " ehhh guy how far? Long time, how your side? Do you still hear from that your ify babe in Owerri? You will be "yes, but is like one week that I saw her last, any problem, .....then the caller will now say ,bros " to cut the long story short, the babe just wedded yesterday o and I just say make I tell you shaa. And the call end.

Lol


E don dey, no be today.

Take heart,she is not your wife....I know it is not easy. God will give you your own wife. Forgive her and move on.

In every thing, give thanks. Dont hold any grudge against her.

I believe in future, even you too will see reasons to thank God that you didn't marry her.There are many of them like that outside there. Even some Parents are encouraging their daughters to keep collecting money from guys they date, while knowing that their daughter wont marry those guys.

The heart of Man is desperately wicked-Holy Bible.

PunkyVeer:


Deceived into marriage? I'm not getting you.

certainly not so but sweet talked into it......I knw you may say its not possible but believe me girls have little mind and the distance didn't help matters, she had friends, family and pressure could be mounting, you can be in her shoes you knw

avasweet:

Lol.....am way above dat dude

Lols.. How are u doing .. Can we be fwends

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eeyyaaa sorry! she was not meant for you.

Gr8amechi:
certainly not so but sweet talked into it......I knw you may say its not possible but believe me girls have little mind and the distance didn't help matters, she had friends, family and pressure could be mounting, you can be in her shoes you knw

I don't agree that girls have "little mind", but I get your point. Well still, she has no business opening herself up to be "deceived" by other men whe she already has a boyfriend, the OP. IDK but I sense that she's not that naive & is playing her game well. Case of the highest bidder, maybe?

This story made me laugh.hahahahaha

Smart girl...At least op u have woken up from ur sleep!
the girl is nice enough to even inform u earlier.if na me,i will collect money from u on friday,saturday u see my wedding pix..

don't feel bad,u hear? such is life.the same way a guy will date a girl for years,bleep d hell outta her,she even aborts n he suddenly dumps her n married another babe..na so!

but OP you be jonz oh, big otondo, she just used and dumped u like a tissue paper when u dey there dey form good guy, how are u sure she wasn't even sleeping with another guy while u guys were dating. meanwhile u were there trying to keep a promise...guy u fall my hand big time. wise up next time,

mustiiz:


Lols.. How are u doing .. Can we be fwends

Sure

Guy...u f**k up; how can u at ur age and marital status and even in dis century not screw a gurl dat u are a maga to?if in your mind u were planning to marry her or not (dem suppose flog u 36strokes of aboki cain) see ur life now? Do-u no do, marry 4 where, money gone...chai nna e f**kkuruu uppppp mheennnnuuuuu....

avasweet:


Sure

Thanks but I belive people like us don't need to be on nairaland chattin plss op u dnt mind if we talk better on bbm 29B63402 . Wuld have loved u to send me urs bt I dnt want any oda pomo guy to have u before me.. Thanks will be expectin ur requst.. Winks

mustiiz:


Thanks but I belive people like us don't need to be on nairaland chattin plss op u dnt mind if we talk better on bbm 29B63402 . Wuld have loved u to send me urs bt I dnt want any oda pomo guy to have u before me.. Thanks will be expectin ur requst.. Winks

Thnx but nairaland is big enough to for our friendship

Besides, what do u mean by "pomo" guy

Pick up her call bro. Maybe she wanna tell u she's kidding u.

avasweet:


Thnx but nairaland is big enough to for our friendship

Besides, what do u mean by "pomo" guy

Nairaland big for our friendship wen its not plots of land.. I hadly come online dts y.. Mabinu ooo so it wnt look like am forcing u.. Pomo guys u will get to knw sooner or later.. Mustiiz cares

mustiiz:


Nairaland big for our friendship wen its not plots of land.. I hadly come online dts y.. Mabinu ooo so it wnt look like am forcing u.. Pomo guys u will get to knw sooner or later.. Mustiiz cares

.... no guy is pomo

Alaye gba kamu,ko gbale si agboju. U b real ase nigga. Ote main boy

avasweet:

.... no guy is pomo

Okay MA

adedayourt:
HE FELL ASLEEP WHEN HE HEARD ABOUT THE WEDDING

Guy just kul down bcuz u r not d first to have such experience any it has happen to me, there is hop for u ¤¤ she is not d only girl

I advise you answer the call and hear her out... The text could be a test

PunkyVeer:


I don't agree that girls have "little mind", but I get your point. Well still, she has no business opening herself up to be "deceived" by other men whe she already has a boyfriend, the OP. IDK but I sense that she's not that naive & is playing her game well. Case of the highest bidder, maybe?

see I speak from experience, there are a very few girls that have the courage. Lots of girls put themselves in compromising position, they have a serious date but will still keep male friends close, one thing I believe is if a girl really love you she don't have any business with males friends, no closeness should be associated at all because ladies are emotional

IyawoDoctor:

And you believe that BS about spending 75% of his allawee as Corper? So how did he survive biko nu? How much is allawee sef.

its very posiible. as a youth corper, i had other businesses doing nd i saved 100% of my allowee. so the 75% spending thing is possible.

It is a good thing you can sleep. Better sleep well and move on when you can. She night change her mind when she hears that you have landed a good job and that is not good for you.

U guys are really saving me from sorrow....Thanks my fellow Nairalanders.....Am a bit relieved now...u are amazing...one love

Bros every disappointment is a blessing. Concentrate on ur new job. As ur saving up money, also be praying that God should give u ur own wife. Enter into serious relationship with God and be serious with ur prayers. If ur a christian, join a group in ur church that study bible. I assure u , God must surprise u with a very good wife latest 6 months from now. I wish u God's consolation.

From ur write up,it seems communication slacked...and I guess feelings too,at least from her end and she was no longer certain if u'd be coming bk,so she moved on....Not an enviable situation, though...the break up must have bn really hurtful....and she certainly didn't end things properly...Plus,I'm sure u've not given us complete details of the long distance relationship..

Op is a real man. she doesn't deserve you. Focus on your new job,she doesn't worth another minute of time.