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REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 8:55am On Sep 29, 2015
I stumbled across a thread stating the Reasons and Solutions For the High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria.

I will not totally write off the thread because the poster made some valid and interesting points. But however, I will say that article was totally flawed because the author made his judgment one sided and made us believe the growing success of the feminine gender is what is undermining the supposed success of the male folks.

Below I will alight the major causes of the high rate of single unmarried ladies and their ready male counterparts. I will ensure to be as brief as I can while outlining the most important points.


* High Ratio Of Female to Male:

The truth is most people can bring about this same topic stating or mocking the high number of unmarried single ladies usually forget that the last global gender statistic (2013) state that it is ratio 7:1. This means that their are 7women counted to every man.
The ratio of women to men is what makes it extremely difficult for every single lady to get a husband/partner.

Aside Islam that supports polygamy, every other religion and most culture across the globe frowns at it. Polygamy can even rarely be practiced in religion and cultural settings where it is permitted because of the high financial, physical and mental work that comes with it.

* Low Number Of Responsible Men:

For about a decade now, I have been blown away by the ever rising number of highly irresponsible men families now breed for our society to accommodate. There's about only 1 or 2 responsible male folks amongst a group of 20. The vices in the society have now become the norm in today's world. Vices such as; Gambling, Drug Addiction, Smoking, Womanizing, Fraud and even stealing. Habits or deeds we get punished for even on mere suspicion in the 70s, 80s and early 90s are now what are openly done and hailed at by our peers and society. Its now a norm for young guys to plait their hair, wear heavy jewelry, sag their trousers and wear heavy tattos. A man of 35 imitates and has a role model in the person of wizkid who is barely in his mid 20s. How shameful can that be in the eyes of a mature and ready to settle down single lady.

* Women Are More Loyal To Their Employers / Career:

When I saw on the other thread that HR tend to employ more women than men I just smiled because in reality this is absolutely true but most people do not know the reason why this happens. As someone with over a decade of Human Capital Development experience I will tell you that female employees are more dedicated to their jobs/employers than their male counterparts.

While a man can change 5jobs within a space of 4years you can easily find a female in the same organization for 10years. She is more concerned about building a career and job satisfaction unlike her male counterpart who is solely driven by the pay package.

* Women Mature Faster Than Men:

Unfortunately this is the bitter truth. You find a lady of 20years dating a man of 36years and you can readily observe the man is trying his utmost best to meet up with the maturity level of the lady 16years his junior. While a lady of 20years already has a mapped out plan for her life and future, a fully grown man of 36years is still struggling with the game console with his friends, jumping from one viewing center to a night club and arguing on soccer and other irrelevant things with his friends. The man only starts thinking of settling down when he is approaching 40years. Not because that his the path he wants to take but due to the unending pressure from family and older friends.

* Most Men Spend More Than They Earn:

Its so unfortunate to know that most men actually live far and above their earning. They spend to impress people who they eventually find out do not even send them. It has been discovered over and over that women have more saving culture and financial intelligence than their male counterpart. It isn't really about the number of cars in your barrage, expensive closet or gadgets, what really matters is your actual self worth in terms of liquid cash and investments. In most cases a woman and a man earning same salary and equal number of years, you find out the female has more assets and liquid cash while the male has more liabilities and debt incurred.

* Most Men Are Too Laid Back:

A lot of men tend to give up too easily after a few setbacks in their careers and businesses. It is then they start to blame the economy, their parental upbringing and background, lack of sufficient support from family and friends and even spiritual attack.

So many guys resort to heavy drinking and smoking after a few disappointments in life which now develops into an addiction. Before they realize it, they would have wasted a decade or two of their productive life.

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by amii131(f): 8:56am On Sep 29, 2015
cheesy

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Sweetyie(f): 8:58am On Sep 29, 2015
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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by loomer: 9:01am On Sep 29, 2015
Wey bride price be like say person wan buy estate, why single women no go plenty?

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Vikky014(f): 9:02am On Sep 29, 2015
interesting
following
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Cutehector(m): 9:02am On Sep 29, 2015
The economy in nigeria isn't helpin matters...

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 9:20am On Sep 29, 2015
Cutehector:
The economy in nigeria isn't helpin matters...

Its not always about the economy but more of our orientation. The economy is not perfect anywhere else in the world but people are firm enough to make the best use of the worst situation.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Cutehector(m): 9:27am On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:


Its not always about the economy but more of our orientation. The economy is not perfect anywhere else in the world but people are firm enough to make the best use of the worst situation.
we aint dead yet...
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by BlackrulesDworld(m): 9:33am On Sep 29, 2015
Ok
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Laveda(f): 9:36am On Sep 29, 2015
cheesy good one.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Teespice(f): 9:41am On Sep 29, 2015
you made valid points quite alright, but are you sure you have not hurt the egos of your fellow men by this counter thread?
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 9:49am On Sep 29, 2015
Teespice:
you made valid points quite alright, but are you sure you have not hurt the egos of your fellow men by this counter thread?

If you go through my previous threads you will discover I would have long been dead if I was to bother about their reactions.

Men or Women, Rich or Poor, I am cut out for nothing else but the TRUTH. No one ain't feeding or paying my bills so why get scared of saying what's right?
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Teespice(f): 9:53am On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:


If you go through my previous threads you will discover I would have long been dead if I was to bother about their reactions.

Men or Women, Rich or Poor, I am cut out for nothing else but the TRUTH. No one ain't feeding or paying my bills so why get scared of saying what's right?

I have gone through your threads in the past and they are always insightful.

my comments are based on my observations thus far.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 9:57am On Sep 29, 2015
Teespice:


I have gone through your threads in the past and they are always insightful.

my comments are based on my observations thus far.

Thanks.

When that's why you wouldn't find up to a handful of them in here because it is not a female bashing thread.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Adesiji77: 10:04am On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:


Thanks.

When that's why you wouldn't find up to a handful of them in here because it is not a female bashing thread.

LOL

Very interesting points with elements of truth
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Teespice(f): 10:05am On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:


Thanks.

When that's why you wouldn't find up to a handful of them in here because it is not a female bashing thread.

you know how it has been of recent.

but don't be surprised, anything can happen.

They might come any moment from now.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by Kay17: 10:09am On Sep 29, 2015
A pseudo economist delivering a lecture on pseudo sociology.

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by bqlekan(m): 10:11am On Sep 29, 2015
A counter thread., lemme just read comments grin
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 11:16am On Sep 29, 2015
Kay17:
A pseudo economist delivering a lecture on pseudo sociology.

Meaning please?
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by ecolime(m): 11:36am On Sep 29, 2015
Great points
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 11:40am On Sep 29, 2015
ecolime:
Great points

The early morning drunks, weed smokers and betting house visitors will surely hate this thread. But who cares? Women are likely to marry a man who earns less than they do but certainly not an irresponsible, visionless, low life being.

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by banme(m): 11:41am On Sep 29, 2015
loomer:
Wey bride price be like say person wan buy estate, why single women no go plenty?

hehehe
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by cheerokee(m): 11:44am On Sep 29, 2015
Lemme sha book land
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by wilybebsy(m): 11:47am On Sep 29, 2015
Shey i talk am say de reply go soon cum una say i dey lie
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by MrMcJay(m): 11:56am On Sep 29, 2015
Right now, there are more females excelling academically and professionally than males. Last year, there were 12 winners in a national quiz competition and out of the 12 winners, 9 were females.

Right from primary schools, while girls are in class, the boys are playing truancy and climbing all the fences around.

Go and check how many ladies are playing Nairabet, are into cultism, into fraud and robbery.

Right now in Ogun State, the Attorney General is a Woman, the Perm Sec of Justice/Solicitor General is a Woman, the Chief Judge of the Judiciary is also a Woman. In Lagos State, we haven't had a male Chief Judge in about a decade.

It's really a big issue.

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by cheerokee(m): 12:00pm On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:


* Most Men Spend More Than They Earn:

Its so unfortunate to know that most men actually live far and above their earning. They spend to impress people who they eventually find out do not even send them. It has been discovered over and over that women have more saving culture and financial intelligence than their male counterpart. It isn't really about the number of cars in your barrage, expensive closet or gadgets, what really matters is your actual self worth in terms of liquid cash and investments. In most cases a woman and a man earning same salary and equal number of years, you find out the female has more assets and liquid cash while the male has more liabilities and debt incurred..


That is for some men, and not all..
The male folk is responsible for many Jumbo responsibilities, while his female partner contributes little or nothing, thereby acquiring assets of her choice..

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 12:43pm On Sep 29, 2015
MrMcJay:
Right now, there are more females excelling academically and professionally than males. Last year, there were 12 winners in a national quiz competition and out of the 12 winners, 9 were females.

Right from primary schools, while girls are in class, the boys are playing truancy and climbing all the fences around.

Go and check how many ladies are playing Nairabet, are into cultism, into fraud and robbery.

Right now in Ogun State, the Attorney General is a Woman, the Perm Sec of Justice/Solicitor General is a Woman, the Chief Judge of the Judiciary is also a Woman. In Lagos State, we haven't had a male Chief Judge in about a decade.

It's really a big issue.


GBAM!!! My brother you have said it all. Unfortunately, most of these lazy guys are quick to term any independent and hardworking lady's success as a result of her flirtatious or wayward life style. Forgetting that they are the architect of their lack.
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by naijaboiy: 12:49pm On Sep 29, 2015
YAWN!

I still agree more with the points humilitypays stated than the ones I'm seeing here.

Nice one sha! smiley

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by acidtalk: 12:56pm On Sep 29, 2015
naijaboiy:
YAWN!

I still agree more with the points humilitypays stated than the ones I'm seeing here.

Nice one sha! smiley


To everyone his own. It is only a mentally poor and lazy person that will blame external factors for their lack and problems rather than searching deep within.

A simple question: If the table was to turn and you are a female will you still agree you should be denied a job you are qualified for so that a guy can get it in order to enable him settle down in marriage?
Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by naijaboiy: 1:02pm On Sep 29, 2015
acidtalk:



To everyone his own. It is only a mentally poor and lazy person that will blame external factors for their lack and problems rather than searching deep within.

A simple question: If the table was to turn and you are a female will you still agree you should be denied a job you are qualified for so that a guy can get it in order to enable him settle down in marriage?
I agreed with the problems he stated and not all the solutions.

I never noticed where he stated that women should be denied Jobs. What I saw was that some women are given Jobs that they don't deserve while the men who deserve it are denied.

Everybody should be given what they deserve. If a guy deserves the Job it should be given to him,if it's a woman same should be applied. But as it is today there are some women that get jobs simply because of what they put on the table and it's TRUE.

I don't see how observing these things makes one Lazy.

Your ability to understand someone's perspective of an issue without taking it personal tells a lot about your interaction with people.

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by PastorAji(m): 1:04pm On Sep 29, 2015
Ten "tankers" (that carry crude oil) of Orijin for you
cheerokee:



That is for some men, and not all..
The male folk is responsible for many Jumbo responsibilities, while his female partner contributes little or nothing, thereby acquiring assets of her choice..
except in recent times where women are now in the suporting aspect

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Re: REPLY TO: Reasons For The High Number Of Single Ladies In Nigeria. by JohnNgene: 1:21pm On Sep 29, 2015
This is a nice intelligent counter-article and response to the other intelligent article.

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