It myt just be that the ladies are feeling shy. I sometimes feel weird staring at some1 who is also busy staring at me, so that myt be the case. Or are u too ugly for the eyes to bear ni

Like op am introvert facing similar challenge but mine is a bit severe.
My case is not just the ladies, people of all ages and size find it hard to look me in the eye. At first it goes smooth from the beginning but after few seconds, they start looking away. Dont know if its due to my looks. I ask myself; why are people not making eye contact with me during conversation despite my handsomeness? (not braging). Am I intimidating and fearful for eye contact like Thomas Gibson? Even Gibson gets eye contact from people during conversation, why is my case different? These are the questions I ask myself. First I thought maybe they were shy. But how on earth can everybody be shy at me? Probably the way I look them in the eye is making them uneasy. So i refrain from making eye contact with people for the sole purpose of making them feel a bit more comfortable.
But Alas! The problem got worse. Not only are people not making eye contact with me, I started finding it difficult looking people in the eye as well. A ripple site effect.
Till today I dont look people in the eye. Most times when I go out, I wear shades to feel at ease when moving around town.

jakiedudu:
Like op am introvert facing similar challenge but mine is a bit severe.
My case is not just the ladies, people of all ages and size find it hard to look me in the eye. At first it goes smooth from the beginning but after few seconds, they start looking away. Dont know if its due to my looks. I ask myself; why are people not making eye contact with me during conversation despite my handsomeness? (not braging). Am I intimidating and fearful for eye contact like Thomas Gibson? Even Gibson gets eye contact from people during conversation, why is my case different? These are the questions I ask myself. First I thought maybe they were shy. But how on earth can everybody be shy at me? Probably the way I look them in the eye is making them uneasy. So i refrain from making eye contact with people for the sole purpose of making them feel a bit more comfortable.
But Alas! The problem got worse. Not only are people not making eye contact with me, I started finding it difficult looking people in the eye as well. A ripple site effect.
Till today I dont look people in the eye. Most times when I go out, I wear shades to feel at ease when moving around town.

currently having the same problem.

It means she is shy

@krasid, jakiedudu and the op.
One thing i observed after reading your comments is that, the three of you have one thing in common, 'fear'.
You speak confidently the first three minutes and after that you loose control of yourself to fear. During that period the Person you are speaking with, will lose focus of what you are saying, and it result in them looking away from you. Some of them will simply nod at you and be smiling to show that they are still with you but in reality they are not.



I am still trying to overcome that fear.

have u tried asking any of them out? just to be sure they ur not d problem

czarr:
wetin you de find for ground?

you

This your case just reminded me of a pastor preaching the gospel....so a woman started crying..soaked in heavy tears...wow,pastor don think say his words don dey touch her heart....so a man beside the woman asked her, madam why are you crying....the woman replied still crying 'this pastor's teeth looks like our family dogs' teeth that died last week'..
.
.

.
So what I'm I saying here.....its either you have a big eye so they can't look at it...or they like you....but I'm leaning towards the liking part....and who told you, you are average looking...I was once an introvert coz I was thinking I'm average looking until I realize how handsome I am ....but man, face your studies...girls will only confuse you the more if you are not ready.
.
.
Gracias

AfricanApple:
you

Shettt.. u people are wicked

KashyBaby:
It depends...some ppol are NOT into eye to eye contact while having convo & I'm one of em...it's juz like so awkward looking at d face of the person who's looking at me as well.. but it doesn't mean anything..

Wat sup. Will give u a warm welcome if u come to Nigeria.

Krasid:
currently having the same problem.

krasid ma guy wit d way u dey form on madrid thread me been think say u be gangstar o!,so na woman dey shy u? Chai!,if i c u for where men dey talk footy again ehn,i go brake ya leg.....na joke i dey o

PascalJ:

Wat sup. Will give u a warm welcome if u come to Nigeria.

Sure...I can't wait next yr.

ojeota:
@krasid, jakiedudu and the op.
One thing i observed after reading your comments is that, the three of you have one thing in common, 'fear'.
You speak confidently the first three minutes and after that you loose control of yourself to fear. During that period the Person you are speaking with, will lose focus of what you are saying, and it result in them looking away from you. Some of them will simply nod at you and be smiling to show that they are still with you but in reality they are not.



I am still trying to overcome that fear.

fear? I don't think fear is a factor here. This situation starts with people am meeting for the first time. When I get introduced by friends to friends, almost all of them look me in the eye for few seconds and breakaway. In most cases, it will be me maintaining eye contact the entire duration of the conversation.

As an optician which I am not, conjunctivitis AKA Apollo could be d reason.

obainojazz:
This your case just reminded me of a pastor preaching the gospel....so a woman started crying..soaked in heavy tears...wow,pastor don think say his words don dey touch her heart....so a man beside the woman asked her, madam why are you crying....the woman replied still crying 'this pastor's teeth looks like our family dogs' teeth that died last week'..
.
.

.
So what I'm I saying here.....its either you have a big eye so they can't look at it...or they like you....but I'm leaning towards the liking part....and who told you, you are average looking...I was once an introvert coz I was thinking I'm average looking until I realize how handsome I am ....but man, face your studies...girls will only confuse you the more if you are not ready.
.
.
Gracias

bro whats up with the big eye thing,does it intimidate/fear them....like me now my bae do say i have ashewo eyes,and i also experience the op's ish to.

MCJIKEL22:
krasid ma guy wit d way u dey form on madrid thread me been think say u be gangstar o!,so na woman dey shy u? Chai!,if i c u for where men dey talk footy again ehn,i go brake ya leg.....na joke i dey o

Fkhalifa:
bro whats up with the big eye thing,does it intimidate/fear them....like me now my bae do say i have ashewo eyes,and i also experience the op's ish to.

it has great effect on most of them...not all.....I also have that eyes...not a big eyes though,,,,but should I say its sweet...I can influence someone just by staring at them...yes that's an ashewo eyes

You probably have great Eyes... ""
What's your Eye color? OMG! don't tell me it's grey or blue!

obainojazz:
This your case just reminded me of a pastor preaching the gospel....so a woman started crying..soaked in heavy tears...wow,pastor don think say his words don dey touch her heart....so a man beside the woman asked her, madam why are you crying....the woman replied still crying 'this pastor's teeth looks like our family dogs' teeth that died last week'..
.
.

.
So what I'm I saying here.....its either you have a big eye so they can't look at it...or they like you....but I'm leaning towards the liking part....and who told you, you are average looking...I was once an introvert coz I was thinking I'm average looking until I realize how handsome I am ....but man, face your studies...girls will only confuse you the more if you are not ready.
.
.
Gracias

Funny........copy that!

Estharfabian:
You probably have great Eyes... ""

What's your Eye color? OMG! don't tell me it's grey or blue!

My eye color is indigo jor

At night it reflects like that of a cat.....lol

fullstreets:
As an optician which I am not, conjunctivitis AKA Apollo could be d reason.

Haba.........you must be old fashioned in your profession.

People don't have Apollo again unlike before, its very rare except you're being employed by BH.

jakiedudu:
fear? I don't think fear is a factor here. This situation starts with people am meeting for the first time. When I get introduced by friends to friends, almost all of them look me in the eye for few seconds and breakaway. In most cases, it will be me maintaining eye contact the entire duration of the conversation.

Do u av strabismus (cross eye) or u stare at pple in a weird way or ur eyes reads 'don't stare or I'll bite':p
The problem is probably all in ur mind

foxvilles:


My eye color is indigo jor

At night it reflects like that of a cat.....lol

indigo? I really wish I knew the color... I don't...

pinkiberry:
it means she is shy. unless u av crossed eyes

what do you mean by CROSSED EYES?

Hmmmm! interesting comments.

AfricanApple:
when I hate someone, I don't look them straight in the eyes

me too

ABJDOT:
what do you mean by CROSSED EYES?

to put it in a layman's way,crossed eyes or strabismus is called half past 4 eyes.
the two eyes are looking different ways. the may be looking at u but there eyes show the are looking at another thing.

jakiedudu:
Like op am introvert facing similar challenge but mine is a bit severe.
My case is not just the ladies, people of all ages and size find it hard to look me in the eye. At first it goes smooth from the beginning but after few seconds, they start looking away. Dont know if its due to my looks. I ask myself; why are people not making eye contact with me during conversation despite my handsomeness? (not braging). Am I intimidating and fearful for eye contact like Thomas Gibson? Even Gibson gets eye contact from people during conversation, why is my case different? These are the questions I ask myself. First I thought maybe they were shy. But how on earth can everybody be shy at me? Probably the way I look them in the eye is making them uneasy. So i refrain from making eye contact with people for the sole purpose of making them feel a bit more comfortable.
But Alas! The problem got worse. Not only are people not making eye contact with me, I started finding it difficult looking people in the eye as well. A ripple site effect.
Till today I dont look people in the eye. Most times when I go out, I wear shades to feel at ease when moving around town.

I started looking at people in the eyes of recent cos the complain and begin to think am timid and intimidated. but now if u look my eyes I look ur eyes o. face no dey face.

[quote author=Krasid post=38827149]
........

HaneefahRN:

Do u av strabismus (cross eye) or u stare at pple in a weird way or ur eyes reads 'don't stare or I'll bite':p
The problem is probably all in ur mind

No my eyes are ok. Maybe its the way I look. Ama tough looking fellow in appearance,

pinkiberry:
I started looking at people in the eyes of recent cos the complain and begin to think am timid and intimidated. but now if u look my eyes I look ur eyes o. face no dey face.

Good for u.

elantraceey:



That's a very wrong philosophy which is not always the case.

Sometimes thru tho