sweetlove:

why do women run when they find out you have children

Bolarge:

Same reason we guys run when we discover they got one(or more).

church close! BTW, why is every girl saying "i can only speak for myself" where u speaking for others b4 on ur previous postings in any other thread?

mubowa:
i will talk for myself, i will never run if i found out my boy-friend have a child  before we started dating. that his flesh and blood, tell me what is love if i can't take the child of the one i love and take care of him like mine

soulchild1:
I can only talk for myself - I will never run away from a guy, just because I discovered he has a child.
Why? Because he might not have choosen to have a child out there with somebody else. Sometimes things happen. He could have been married and it didnt work out. So if I want to accept him and love him truly, it means I have to regard this child also as a child of mine. The child didnt ask in the first place to be born and grow up with her parents being separated, so all those actions are hurting the child and they definitely dont deserve it to suffer from things they have not caused. A partner has to be for me the backbone of the other and if it is not like that, your boyfriend or husband will not develop or maintain the interest of caring for his child and I just think the child deserves his father/her mother to care and cater for them, so I dont want to be the one to discourage my boyfriend/my husband in that.

The only reason that can make me run away from a guy that has a child, is when I discover, pregnating a woman or wife is for him like a game and he doesnt give a f**** about his children, then I will not go further, because I can already assume that I might not make difference with me, perhaps.

let me guess probably the both of u are in ur late 30s or probably uve seen the other side of single guys...
one thing u don't get is there can never be two women in a man's house and there be peace....take it or leave it...that's partially polygamy...as long as the mother is still alive be it in the man's house or not..ur path will still cross...

Because you always be second in that relationship

It will even be worse if the kid is stubborn

For me I can't deal

mubowa:
i will talk for myself, i will never run if i found out my boy-friend have a child before we started dating. that his flesh and blood, tell me what is love if i can't take the child of the one i love and take care of him like mine

your correct my dear

soulchild1:
I can only talk for myself - I will never run away from a guy, just because I discovered he has a child.
Why? Because he might not have choosen to have a child out there with somebody else. Sometimes things happen. He could have been married and it didnt work out. So if I want to accept him and love him truly, it means I have to regard this child also as a child of mine. The child didnt ask in the first place to be born and grow up with her parents being separated, so all those actions are hurting the child and they definitely dont deserve it to suffer from things they have not caused. A partner has to be for me the backbone of the other and if it is not like that, your boyfriend or husband will not develop or maintain the interest of caring for his child and I just think the child deserves his father/her mother to care and cater for them, so I dont want to be the one to discourage my boyfriend/my husband in that.

The only reason that can make me run away from a guy that has a child, is when I discover, pregnating a woman or wife is for him like a game and he doesnt give a f**** about his children, then I will not go further, because I can already assume that I might not make difference with me, perhaps.

You have a good heart

sweetlove:
why do women run when they find out you have children

do they lookalike house girl to u??(No oofeense)