tope2000:

Im sorry but how long have u guys been married??

How long did u guys dated for b4 u marry each other??

Have u always kept quiet abt everything he does because u dont want to come across as nagging person?? If so big mistake.

Haba, these questions are too personal.

ima1:

thank you all for ur advice.

i never asked him where he was just to be a nag, but it was because i prepared dinner and everything and he called to tell me he was coming home, and 5 hrs later no show, so i decided to go to bed cuz i have classes the next morning, and he walked in, i let him put his things down and was asking if he ate outside, cuz it was late and i put the food back in the fridge so it doesn't get spoiled (since i did not know when he was coming home). funny it was the first time i asked him and he blew things outta proportion. i was alone at home and it sucked just being there alone.

i think maybe i need to have a life outside us. i try to keep busy with work and school, and he tells me we need family time, so when i am available he ups and leave with no info as to where is going. i have been supportive but would hate to be taken for-granted.

Very bad idea . . .

Women need companionship - your hubby is acting like he's single and can do whatever he wants. He should let you know where he is, or at least that he will be gone for x number of hours. This is simple courtesy not even husband and wife. You don't just wander off without letting your partner have a reasonable idea (even if not detailed) of where you are. It's irresponsible and childish to behave that way

That said, if you approach it with a wrong tone, he might get defensive and simply not respond.

~Sauron~:

Haba, these questions are too personal.

Well i dont why the guy is acting as if he is still single

davidylan:

Perhaps she does this way too often the guy was begining to feel smothered. I'm not even a fan of married folks who bring their marital problems here . . . solve them at home! It isnt rocket science . . . if you cant read your partner's body language by now . . . na wa o.

She just said she doesn't.

~Sauron~:

Don't take it personal.

This musta been going on for a long time.
Men don't just make such comments without under-currents.
Women should learn to give men a little breathing space. . . . .

Can't talk for women when it comes to breathing space but myself. And I'm not in a mood to talk about myself either.

tope2000:

Im sorry but how long have u guys been married??

How long did u guys dated for b4 u marry each other??

Have u always kept quiet abt everything he does because u dont want to come across as nagging person?? If so big mistake.

Been married for like 2 yrs, dated for like a yr b4 getting married, and ya i have just ignored things he says or does bcoz i do not want to be a wife that nags, i feel like he doesn't really appreciate me (i mean u don't really know what u have until u lose it)

ima1:

Been married for like 2 yrs, dated for like a yr b4 getting married, and ya i have just ignored things he says or does bcoz i do not want to be a wife that nags, i feel like he doesn't really appreciate me (i mean u don't really know what u have until u lose it)

How long would you keep on ignoring? That's why he takes you for granted.

stillwater:

Can't talk for women when it comes to breathing space but myself. And I'm not in a mood to talk about myself either.

It's obvious you will be a nagging wife.

debosky:

That said, if you approach it , he might get defensive and simply not respond.

Ima prolly made this mistake.

tope2000:

Well i dont why the guy is acting as if he is still single

Leave the man jare.

ima1:

Been married for like 2 yrs, dated for like a yr b4 getting married, and ya i have just ignored things he says or does bcoz i do not want to be a wife that nags, i feel like he doesn't really appreciate me (i mean u don't really know what u have until u lose it)

PRICELESS.

ima1:

Been married for like 2 yrs, dated for like a yr b4 getting married, and ya i have just ignored things he says or does bcoz i do not want to be a wife that nags, i feel like he doesn't really appreciate me (i mean u don't really know what u have until u lose it)

Mehn. . . . . i really feel 4 u
The one worst feeling any woman cud ever have experience is to feel unappreciated. . . . . talk to him, tell him how u feel. let him say u nag. . . . . .always say how u feel

ima1:

Been married for like 2 yrs, dated for like a yr b4 getting married, and ya i have just ignored things he says or does bcoz i do not want to be a wife that nags, i feel like he doesn't really appreciate me (i mean u don't really know what u have until u lose it)

Have you expressed this feeling to him before?

1 yr dating before marriage . . . i fear o.

~Sauron~:

It's obvious you will be a nagging wife.

no be lie . . . women like this are better left alone.

u shudnt be in relationship where u are too scared to talk to ur bf talkless of ur husband.

stillwater:

How long would you keep on ignoring? That's why he takes you for granted.

i honestly don't know, but nagging is one thing i never want to do. maybe i need to give him his space, maybe he feels smothered. but i am tired of being the nice and supportive wife for a man who does not appreciate it. it pisses me off and sometime i feel like i would be better off single (but i know divorce is not an option), i have tried talking to him but it ain't working. lol maybe i need to get pregnant that way i have something else to concentrate on.

tope2000:

u shudnt be in relationship where u are too scared to talk to ur bf talkless of ur husband.

Tope, you are taking this issue way too personal.
Wetin be your own?

Ima is not scared to talk to her husband.
She doesn't want to come across as a nagging wife does not mean she's scared.

ima1:

i honestly don't know, but nagging is one thing i never want to do. maybe i need to give him his space, maybe he feels smothered. but i am tired of being the nice and supportive wife for a man who does not appreciate it. it pisses me off and sometime i feel like i would be better off single (but i know divorce is not an option), i have tried talking to him but it ain't working. lol maybe i need to get pregnant that way i have something else to concentrate on.

U must be very intelligent.
Get preggers. . . . . . .Surely, you will have other worries when your baby starts kicking.

~Sauron~:

It's obvious you will be a nagging wife.

davidylan:

no be lie . . . women like this are better left alone.

Scaredy cats!!!

tope2000:

u shudnt be in relationship where u are too scared to talk to ur bf talkless of ur husband.

Thank you. Is he her parent?

My dear telling him how u feel isnt nagging even tho most men seem to see it as that . . . . . .I am not going to hide who i am or what i dont like because i dont wanna come across as a nagging person. Never

davidylan:

Have you expressed this feeling to him before?

1 yr dating before marriage . . . i fear o.

ya i have expressed it to him, but i feel like he doesn't care. i am not scared of him or talking to him, but its just that u tend to ignore things to avoid conflict

~Sauron~:

Tope, you are taking this issue way too personal.
Wetin be your own?

Ima is not scared to talk to her husband.
She doesn't want to come across as a nagging wife does not mean she's scared.

Lmao . . . .she just come across as really laid back . . . . the ones men chances because they hardly complain
Wish i can marry her husband for just 2weeks he will see pepper

@poster
Noooooooooooooooo . . . . . . Getting pregnant will not solve ur issue

lady, you dey make marriage scare us o eh  

give him good food   something to always run home to  

heavy egusi soup with heavy poundo will keep him at home sleeping  

ima1:

ya i have expressed it to him, but i feel like he doesn't care. i am not scared of him or talking to him, but its just that u tend to ignore things to avoid conflict

na wa o. This is a serious issue.
Just married two yrs and you have started thinking separation? stop am o!  

*Hauwa*:

lady, you dey make marriage scare us o eh  

Marriage isnt scary, take your time to marry a man you at least understand 90%. Too many women "fall in love" and suddenly they are rushing to tie the knot.

ima1:

i honestly don't know, but nagging is one thing i never want to do. maybe i need to give him his space, maybe he feels smothered. but i am tired of being the nice and supportive wife for a man who does not appreciate it. it pisses me off and sometime i feel like i would be better off single (but i know divorce is not an option), i have tried talking to him but it ain't working. lol maybe i need to get pregnant that way i have something else to concentrate on.

Jeeez you are already thinking like this after 2 years? Take it easy. I'm not even the right person to be giving advice because I'm not married. But I have to say your husband is very inconsiderate.

I'd say you do your own thing. He just confirmed you need not know his whereabouts. There is a Yoruba adage that says a woman who monitors her husband's movement is in for some troubling shit. Speak to him about it again and catch yur fun if he isnt yeilding.

stillwater:

Jeeez you are already thinking like this after 2 years? Take it easy. I'm not even the right person to be giving advice because I'm not married. But I have to say your husband is very inconsiderate.

U are not married??
See me thinking you are a mother of 6 kids.

*Hauwa*:

give him good food   something to always run home to  

heavy egusi soup with heavy poundo will keep him at home sleeping  

That might be a big turn-off.
Pounded yam and Egusi soup??

tope2000:

Wish i can marry her husband for just 2weeks he will see pepper

Husband snatcher.

stillwater:

Scaredy cats!!!

Tssssk tssssk.

*Hauwa*:

heavy egusi soup with heavy poundo will keep him at home sleeping  

This is ur ansa to everything  . . . oti like oun je ju

ima1:

ya i have expressed it to him, but i feel like he doesn't care. i am not scared of him or talking to him, but its just that u tend to ignore things to avoid conflict

Yes it is good to ignore sometimes but not always babe

a man is not required to tell his wife where is

LMao Lmao LmAO      

Mwahaha classic cheater cop-out response.

Better hire Cheaters to investigate his lying ass.



Not even a call: hey hunny I am running some errands on my way home so i might be a little late

*Hauwa*:

lady, you dey make marriage scare us o eh  

give him good food   something to always run home to  

heavy egusi soup with heavy poundo will keep him at home sleeping  

lol what haven't i done. he still eats at home so no worries about that.

C2H5OH:

LMao Lmao LmAO

Mwahaha classic cheater cop-out response.

Better hire Cheaters to investigate his lying ass.

Not even a call: hey hunny I am running some errands on my way home so i might be a little late

Gbam

@poster
I change my mind sef . . .go out n enjoy urself

ima1:

ya i have expressed it to him, but i feel like he doesn't care. i am not scared of him or talking to him, but its just that u tend to ignore things to avoid conflict

I do that a lot too and what do I get continuous emotional torment . Yes, you have to compromise in marriage but not to the extent of being beaten black and blue emotionally. That's why I've decided not to keep my mouth shut.

You lot can call it nagging.

tope2000:

Gbam

@poster
I change my mind sef . . .go out n enjoy urself

Lol abi wetin you say I talk? You think he getting it?

I missed the part where I am supposed to be your wife.

~Sauron~:

U are not married??
See me thinking you are a mother of 6 kids.

*Rolls eyes*

stillwater:

I do that a lot too and what do I get continuous emotional torment . Yes, you have to compromise in marriage but not to the extent of being beaten black and blue emotionally. That's why I've decided not to keep my mouth shut.

You lot can call it nagging.

I thunk u said you are not married yet!!
See your mouth like emotional torment. . . . .