Is the cultural barrier too problematic in such a relationship?

Should each stick to their own?

Have you/would you consider dating or marrying an African American (akata)?

I'd like to hear thoughts on this topic.

It works well but both sides need to drop dated and irrelevant traditions and adopt ones that allow the relationship to blossom to its full nature.

I have more than a handful of friends dating and married to African-Americans and it has worked well for most. First thing to address.

1: Credit Culture - Thank Heavens for the Financial Crisis which caused banks in Nigeria to collapse.. the Credit culture was already eating into the Nigerian long-held tradition that you do not live your life on borrowed money - you live on what you earn. The first thing i usually hear is that there are soooo many bills and mortgages to pay.. the burden of dating an African-American.

2: Sex is over-rated: In Nigeria.. not having sex is a recipe for disaster.. it is what confirms a relationship is still on track, it is Spiritual and it is Hallowed.. for Yankee you can get sex at the cost of the thought alone.. it means nothing. literally. what is important are the moments and time spent together as a couple and gifts too

3: Parents are often into your business in Nigeria.. there is very little influence of Parents when dating an African American, yea they have their own opinions, but they cannot tell you to kick your wife or girl-friend out of the house because she looks like an olosho or cannot bear kids

There is more but i gats to sleep

Run for your life o.... Akata na big problem o... They don't reason the way the real blacks reason...

IGLE25:
Run for your life o.... Akata na big problem o... They don't reason the way the real blacks reason...

All African Americans have the same mentality?

Majority.... I have been there and seen it myself...

If I hadn't married a home lady, I would have gone completely for a white woman. I don't do AKATA, they are terrible set of people.

It depends on the 2 ppl.

AA women different from nigerian women.


A nigerian man is more used to a submissive woman in d traditional sense while african American wants to be a feminist and get 50-50 even though they bring 20% to d table

IGLE25:
Run for your life o.... Akata na big problem o... They don't reason the way the real blacks reason...

hahahhahaha ... You sound so much like my friend... although shes a lady.. .

Like seriously Bro they are problem... Pray to meet the good ones... I jst don't wanna narrate my experience and of others I know...

I believe there are such unions that have thrived for years.

However, I think it work better if either of the partners want to or choose to drop or obliterate his/her own culture to absorb the partner's.

Isn't the term 'Akata' derogatory?

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darkskingoddess:
Is the cultural barrier too problematic in such a relationship?

Should each stick to their own?

Have you/would you consider dating or marrying an African American (akata)?

I'd like to hear thoughts on this topic.

Yes it can work. I have seen marriages of 20, 30 years plus between Nigerians and African Americans here in Chicago. It depends on the couple.

my cousin did and it has been beautiful for them and stuff, I might if I finally meet one with decent moral values and.......

TmeD0:
look, majority of akata chicks wahala too much, period. bottom line, dem no send you.

it's like dem be totally different species entirely when it comes to their reasoning...you have to know how to play their games.

just pray you meet a good one that's well-rounded.

You think African American woman is bad, wait till you marry a Nigerian woman in US and you will know Jezebel is still alive. I live here and I know.

Most of them are low esteemed, they always afraid you gonna leave them for our Nigerian girls and that makes them suspicious of every move we make. Am talking from my own experience though.

9jacrip:
I believe there are such unions that have thrived for years.

However, I think it work better if either of the partners want to or choose to drop or obliterate his/her own culture to absorb the partner's.

Isn't the term 'Akata' derogatory?

No,it isn't.

cold:

No,it isn't.

Oh, I didn't know that.
I thought it was a derogatoty term Africans tagged A.Americans with.

9jacrip:


Oh, I didn't know that.
I thought it was a derogatoty term Africans tagged A.Americans with.

Nope,it's just another piggin slang for AAs like oyinbo for caucasians.

cold:

Nope,it's just another piggin slang for AAs like oyinbo for caucasians.

I know that.

By being derogatory I was not referring to its etymology rather I meant it has been classed/used as a derogatory term.

9jacrip:


I know that.

By being derogatory I was not referring to its etymology rather I meant it has been classed/used as a derogatory term.

I know what derogatory means and i don't see it as such. Well at least not when i use the term.

Our girls are beautiful enof why do I av to go ND put myself in anoda trouble....

"Terrible set of people"
"Bad"
"Big problem"
"Low esteem"
"Trouble"
"Suspicious"

I posted this originally with open mind and heart, but I must say, many of these comments about AAs are disheartening.

Judging from my personal experience.

The probability af the relationship working like every other relationship increases when it is that the parties involved inhabit the same loci. I mean , having the man you're engaged to living in Nigeria while U stay in the US is too challenging to ignore.


Fukc cultural differences

Fukc even the religion barriers

Leslie and Nancy got the nuptial knot tied. Its all about love baaby!

darkskingoddess:
Is the cultural barrier too problematic in such a relationship?

Should each stick to their own?

Have you/would you consider dating or marrying an African American (akata)?

I'd like to hear thoughts on this topic.

it is very possible

darkskingoddess:
"Terrible set of people"
"Bad"
"Big problem"
"Low esteem"
"Trouble"
"Suspicious"

I posted this originally with open mind and heart, but I must say, many of these comments about AAs are disheartening.

So Miss Akata, where in the States u at?

SylarsMcQuins:


So Miss Akata, where in the States u at?

Why? Lol

darkskingoddess:


Why? Lol

Lol, wana knw you better I guess. Aint in the States though.

Adam marry Eve
Pls where is Eve from??
Marriage
Music
Water
Land etc has no Barrier

9jacrip:


I know that.

By being derogatory I was not referring to its etymology rather I meant it has been classed/used as a derogatory term.

Akata was and is still derogatory. You are right.