We hate to break it to you, but just because the
guy you met over the weekend looks good on
paper doesn't mean he's good for you.
Below, relationship experts share seven signs
your relationship isn't likely to last.

1. He puts you down in front of friends and
family.
He can't wait to tell all your friends about how
you completely butchered the pronunciation of
"cache" -- and brags about his Ivy League
education while gently chiding you about your
state school degree. Initially, you might laugh it
off as no big deal, but as marriage therapist
Kristina Fecik points out, do you really want to
be in a serious relationship with someone who
thinks it's OK to mock you?
"It's especially bad if you tell him that it bothers
you and he continues, dismissing your feelings
of embarrassment," the Fort Lauderdale-based
therapist said. "Well-known marriage researcher
John Gottman has found that contempt -- any
statement or non-verbal behavior that puts you
on a higher plane than your partner -- is the
single best predictor of divorce."

2. You're polar opposites.
Opposites attract but only up to a point. If you're
a left-leaning introvert who lives for takeout-and-
Netflix weekends and he's an extroverted
Republican who can't pass up a party invite,
you're going to butt heads sooner than later,
said Marina Sbrochi, a dating expert and the
author of Stop Looking for a Husband: Find the
Love of Your Life.
"Get ready for battle around month five," she
said. "It might be fun for the social butterfly to
enjoy having his homebody all to himself... until
his friends come calling and endless invitations
for social events start pouring in. Then he'll find
you boring. The truth is, if you don’t have any
common ground, you don’t have any common
ground to have a long-lasting relationship."

3. He's resentful of your friends, family and
outside interests.
At first, you may find it flattering that he wants to
spend all his time with you. But it's a red flag if
he goes overboard and picks a fight every time
you choose family and friends (or your hobbies)
over him, said Alison Patton, a San Diego-based
divorce attorney and mediator.
"You could be dating a controlling narcissist,"
she said. "This type make you feel special and
pampered during the dating phase -- gifts,
outings and trips for two -- but underneath it all
is a need to be the center of your world all the
time. Throughout your marriage he will
undermine your attempts to have outside
relationships and your own interests."

4. Your friends and family want nothing to
do with him.
Your friends and family were never going to be
as head-over-heels in love with your S.O. as you
are. But if the majority of them think there's
something seriously wrong with your Mr. Right,
you may want to stop and take notice, said
Patton.
"Our own inability to see the truth about
someone while dating is the reason the divorce
rate is so high," she said. " Often your friends
and family do know best. In the words of H.
Jackson Brown, Jr., 'Marry the right person. This
one decision will determine 90 percent of your
happiness or misery.'"

5. There's no sexual chemistry between you
and him.
The hot and heavy, we-can't-keep-our-hands-off
each-other phase isn't going to last forever; after
all, your desire for your spouse ebbs and flows
through the years. But if there's not even a
sexual spark in the beginning, it should give you
reason for pause, said Virginia Gilbert, a Los
Angeles-based marriage and family therapist.
"You tell yourself that’s OK because he's a 'nice
guy' and you’re looking for stability, and you
think he can provide it," she said, "But while you
don’t need to marry Mr. Best Sex Ever, you do
need to walk down the aisle with a guy who
turns you on. Most couples have to work to keep
sex exciting over the long haul, but you won’t be
able to do that if you don’t have a strong
foundation of mutual sexual attraction and
desire to begin with."

6. He's really, really ridiculously good
looking -- and that's about it.
He may look like a young Johnny Depp but if
there's no depth there, you're probably going to
get bored with him, Sbrochi said.
"I've been down this road and it does not end
well," she instead. "Instantly you are imagining
how amazing you would look together walking
down the aisle -- but on each date you find that
it’s like pulling teeth to even get a sentence out
of Mr. McDreamy. When he finally does talk, it’s
lacking substance and depth. Face facts: his
good looks can only take him so far."

7. You're more invested in sharing a wedding
day with him than sharing a life.
Don't allow yourself to fall for the good-on-paper
type without digging deeper to see if you're
compatible. And certainly don't cast aside your
doubts just because your biological clock is
ticking, said Fecik.
"It’s common to get caught up in the fantasy of
the wedding day -- or see a guy as a decent
candidate for a husband just because you're
baby-ready," she said. "But take the time to get
to know your partner before you get to know the
wedding planner. Don't wait to discuss the
important issues eight years later, when you and
your hubby are on a marriage therapist’s couch."


m.huffpost.com/us/entry/5627de47e4b02f6a900f4e10

Nothing we no go hear. Future ex-husband?? U don divorce am before u mee am?

vfactor:
Nothing we no go hear. Future ex-husband?? U don divorce am before u mee am?

I Tire Oh

Future ex husband...reali confused here...who go help me analyze wetin op mean nah....