should a girl friend keep in touch with her ex and other guy she has dated?
I mean calling them and see them ?

What will be her reason for doing that?

StephenP:

What will be her reason for doing that?

Maybe she's still friends with him and doesn't have a reason to cut off that friendship

its an ex no an enemy

y shouldnt she as long as she's sure nothing can happen
no 'mistakes'

bluespice:

its an ex no an enemy

y shouldnt she as long as she's sure nothing can happen
no 'mistakes'

YES!

Depending on her emotional state. But i really don't see any need for that, maybe as an acquaintance though.

Well it dependz on the reason why they broke up in the first place
But i dont think its wise

Kingsleyinfo:

Depending on her emotional state

gbam!  @ topic it all depends on her juices hormone level

^{oxytocin is a big baaad biatch}

That's a risky situation.  I have had female co-workers (friends) put the moves on me, it happens. So why would your girl friend put herself in a situation where old friends might make a move on her.

Imagine a scenario between you and your GF where you get into a fight with her.  She gets hurt and and hooks up with one of her so called guy friends;  she is also confused, because of her hurtful emotions.  Some guys are like wolves and can sense when a women is in need of sympathy.  The guy takes advantage of the situation.

The end result is her regret for her actions.  She has to live with that; may never even tell you what happened.  

The point is don't put yourself in a compromising situation.  If your in a serious relationship or marriage, only meet friends of the opposite sex in groups, but never alone.

If the women here don't believe me, come my way.  I'll be your friend next time you have a lovers spat.  I'll put my arms around you and hold you close.

mntpaul:

 

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If the women here don't believe me, come my way.  I'll be your friend next time you have a lovers spat.  I'll put my arms around you and hold you close.

" "  shirawe haa! haa! 

mntpaul:

I'll be your friend next time you have a lovers spat. I'll put my arms around you and hold you close.

DEAD!

well, if I hadn't split up with any of my exs amiccably then we wouldn't be friends, so there isn't much of an issue, but I think no matter what, distance should be kept especially when you're in a new relationship, exes and currents don't really mix!

I'd say she hasn't made a definite choice yet who to stick with. Keeping in touch with exs may be a sign of emotional confusion and can backfire as the guy in question may see her as something other than an ex. Better safe than sorry.

According to OmoT 'Burn it in the fire'!!!!

@op
why ever not/ am friends with all my exes save for 1 & i make sure my relationship ends amicably. we still hang out sometimes

as long as she doesn't secretly start redeveloping feelings for him

Well i think the past should be the past. I dont thinks its right to bring your pass to the present.
Besides doesnt she care about how her present boy friend feels. And there is no way to know exactly what is going on between her and the ex.
No matter what she tells you considering the fact that you have told her how you feel bad about her being in contact with him.
I think is also shows less regard for the present boy friend if she cant make a sacrifice for the present relationship unless he doesnt complain about it.

In fact i think its a NO DO for a relationships

Well i think the past should be the past. I dont thinks its right to bring your pass to the present.
Besides doesnt she care about how her present boy friend feels. And there is no way to know exactly what is going on between her and the ex.
No matter what she tells you considering the fact that you have told her how you feel bad about her being in contact with him.
I think is also shows less regard for the present boy friend if she cant make a sacrifice for the present relationship unless he doesnt complain about it.

In fact i think its a NO DO  for a relationship

I still keep in touch with most of my exes but we have an understanding. Nothing is eva going to happen.

You should not keep in touch with an ex if you have any remnants of feelings it could jeopardize moving on with life.

it all depends on how you broke up. if you are still friends and nothing more than that then there is absolutely nothing wrong about it.
the insecure/jealous new bf/gf is the one who has a problem with that and who should deal with his own issues.

if you are still friends and nothing more than that

How does the present bf know that there is nothing else going on.
and what if its not ok with him

Nope. . .Exs are Exs and are meant to stay that way. . .What are you keeping in touch for? 

If you wanna keep in touch with exs then you make them acquaintances and nothing more.

It makes no sense keeping in touch with your ex; such practice would only ruin your present relationship; once you’re through with someone, forget about him and move on with your life.

I myself I don’t think I would feel very comfortably if I notice that my girlfriend still contacts her ex; so in order to avoid unnecessary quarrels, let your ex know that you’ve found someone who loves and cares for you better than he did.

crazykid:

It makes no sense keeping in touch with your ex; such practice would only ruin your present relationship; once you’re through with someone, forget about him and move on with your life.

I myself I don’t think I would feel very comfortably if I notice that my girlfriend still contacts her ex; so in order to avoid unnecessary quarrels, let your ex know that you’ve found someone who loves and cares for you better than he did.

gbam!

. .Palaver she dey find. . .

                                             -Fela Anikulapo Kuti.

why will she be keeping them contacts?

If it suits her in a good or bad way.Some fire never go out unless immersed deeply in the ocean. Majority live in denial of this but only out of morality.

I AGREE WITH U INTOTO.
MY RELATIONSHIP WAS DESTROYED COS, I WAS STILL KEEPING INTOUCH WITH MY FORMER AND MY PRESENT GIRL THOGHT I WAS STILL SEEING MY FORMER GIRL, SO SHE BOLTED BEFORE I COULD REALISE IT

kinnkw:

How does the present bf know that there is nothing else going on.
and what if its not ok with him

if you are in a STABLE relationship then your boyfriend should TRUST you and be SECURE with himself that you wouldnt lie to him about this.
(if you have ever lie or cheated on him then i understand why he doesnt trust you)
if you lay with skanks then dont be scared to be bitten.
if it is NOT ok with the new bf then he should hit the road, NO MAN/WOMAN SHOULD EVER CHANGE THEIR LIFESTYLE FOR ANYBODY!!
do you know why?! because
First thats who they are, whatever you try to change will only come back stronger later when you are deep in the relationship
Second people should accept you for who you are as a whole, not who you are when you will change to accommodate his/her insecure self.

that girl is a bitch,why would she do that

there is nothing wrong you being in good terms with your exes. but you shouldn't get too close. keep the friendship at an arm's length. we are humans soooooooooooo.

to me i don't have anything to do with my exes, they shoiuld get lost in the wind